The is an excellent book for every woman who wonders why her relationships with men are not working out. It's easy to understand and put to use. I'd also recommend to help your marriage I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

I picked this book up at random and boy! am I glad I did. I have recommended it to All my girlfriends both married and single. In our late 30's and early 40's we thought we knew it all, seen it all and bought the T shirts, but this book was so enlightening and totally worth every penny.

It is down to earth, not overly moralistic and impractical. You will certainly see yourself in some of the pages and examples cited. Everybody and I am talking of well educated women agree that it is a well researched and highly informative book. We all must own a copy in our library and pass it on to our daughters. It isn't about Male bashing either. I also recommend another book that is a must read for every woman How to Snag a Guy and Keep Him Hooked: 99 Ways to Make Him Ache for You

I really enjoyed this book. After reading it, I've passed it through my other single girlfriends. It's insightful and the humor style makes it digestible instead of offensive. It makes sense.

I just finished reading this book and the last two pages gave me goose bumps!! I get it now. I realize that truly loving someone is not being the nice girl and giving them what you think they need, but giving them what they actually need and getting what you need in the process. I found this book to be funny, insightful, empowering and honest. I can't wait to read her next book!!!

What you need comes from YOU everything else is just a bonus.

I definitely recommend this book to anyone who has ever had a broken heart or feels like they have been taken for granted.

I was first introduced to this book over a year ago, but was reluctant to follow its advice. Sure enough, my guy situation soon tanked, and then I started reading this book in earnest. Wow! What a valuable, valuable book. It almost feels a little unfair to me- like cheating- it works so well. I'd say I'm decent-looking and relatively put-together and intelligent, but by no means a superstar, and I have had more guys go crazy about me in the meantime than in the past five years.

I think the people who review this book negatively are in denial about how men really feel. But you know what? Fine, let them be in denial. That just means the women who recognize this book for its insight (and their lucky partners) will have even more power. To the "Cro-Magnon" commentator... maybe it's not pretty, but you know what? Men (and women) ARE still driven by certain primitive instincts and certain urges. We have not evolved past many very old-fashioned, traditional mating desires. Perhaps we've developed certain societal rules to deal with it, but that doesn't change our first gut reaction. As Sherry mentioned, it ISN'T fair that men are supposed to do the chasing, or that they often think the opposite when you perform a nice gesture too soon, or that they tell you one thing and mean another. But it isn't a fair world, and I'd rather learn to work it, and win, rather than complain about it endlessly but lose.

The book definitely changed my life for better. It not only IMPROVED my relationship with my partner but also it made me feel so confident and independent, or rather, it made me brave to feel that way. I was always afraid to say my opinion or protect my point of view. This vulnerability made me look weak and helpless. It was a turn off for my boyfriend and I didn't understand why. Someone said in their review that this book is for cave women, call me that, the book itself actually calls me one of those "nice girls" who are satisfied by satisfying someone else, it's true, that's who I always was, a nice girl. I had to buy a book to learn how to be a bitch. Please don't let the word "Bitch" scare you away or be judgmental. This word is too strong and at the same time it teaches you to be strong. I needed that. I was taken for granted and couldn't stand up for myself, not because I'm dumb or naive, but because I didn't know it's the right thing to do when it comes to men. I thought I need to be very agreeable. Now I changed so much. It's been a month since I read the book and every single day I made sure to follow the book's advices. It was hard at first and I had to reread page by page again and again. I felt like I was changing day by day and the change was for better. My relationship with my boyfriend became perfect, I swear! He shows his respect towards me now and I only appreciate it not more, I don't let him offend me. I found out one thing, that the same person can be very nice to one and very disrespectful to another and it all is up to you how you let people treat you. I recommend this book to all girls (guys, please, don't read this book ever, it's none of your business, save your time and read "how to be a perfect gentlemen" or "how to treat woman right"). Best book, better than "The rules" (sorry "The Rules", I used to like you best before I read this book).

This is a terrible book! It is boring and redundant! The author could say what she wanted in two pages and we could skip the book. Geez. Read book in 1/2 a day because it was so WEAK! Torturous! The book goes on and on about how to remain independent and not act like a doormat, great. How many way can one person say the same thing? Apparently 225 pages worth. Would rather take bath in ICE cubes than read anything else by this author. Save your money! SKIP this book!

A few girlfriends recommended this book to me. A lot of what the author writes does make sense; however, a woman shouldn't have to play a game just to "snag" a good man. It's OK to be a babe in total control of herself, but if you're not REALLY a babe in total control of yourself, what do you think is going to happen when the guy finds out you're a hoax? That you're an insecure mess?

Loved the book, really gives you some insight as to how men operate in relationships.

I think Sherry brought out the realistic facts that some women tend to forget. It's a good and enjoyable book that I would highly recommend women to read.

I think that any woman who appreciates love and life, both together!, should read the book. Especially those who were taught to be nice, and after time you even become TOO nice. Thanks to Sherry Argov, for putting together what I call the Bible to become not only a good woman, but the BEST woman, and avoid doing the wrong things that will prevent from taking you to THE BEST.

I haven't purchased this book and I don't intend to, but after reading some excerpts, the table of contents and a few reviews, I just want to give you my sincere opinion on this book's subject:

"The quality of a person's relationship with another is directly proportional to the quality of a person's relationship with her/himself."

i.e. You'll always attract someone who loves him/herself just as much as you love yourself, nothing else is needed, but it has to be real not an act.

Pretending to want, believe or be someone you're really not, trying to manipulate others to provide you with what you "think you need" even if you act like you don't really need it, may get you the marriage you so desperately want, but it won't make you happy in the long run.

Improve your self love and everything else will follow...Pretend to love yourself to get someone else to love you and you'll end up with nothing.

Love to all. Paul

3 Stars.

Although there is lots of good advice to women in this book, it didn't take me more than about 10 minutes of reading this book to discover the logical flaw in a substantial portion of the author's conclusions and advice to women.

The flaw is that the author interviewed hundreds of men for her source material. Hundreds of men mean that the underlying source data (how men think or feel about a particular subject or situation) is based upon a normal distribution (bell curve, if you will). This is also the reason why there is a lot of good advice, as well.

Now if 70% of the men responded similarly to a question posed by the author, that's what's stated as gospel. The problem with that, is that it leaves out the guys in the tails---particularly the right hand tail where the true guy Gems are to be found. So what women are left with is sound advice on how to deal with the Average Joe.

Let me cite some examples from the chapter "The Sun Rises and Sets on His Boxer Shorts."

Page 66. The author is spot on. Ginger is a dangerous acquisition for a long term relationship. Case in point. I just saw one of these the other night in a upscale restaurant. She was with her husband and another couple. Everything about this woman's physical appearance was flawless. Early forties, a very full and whispy blond hairdo, spandex sprayons, perfect features, posture, legs, butt, breasts, etc. The whole package was absolutely perfect. Except for one thing. She looked like a $1,000 a night whore. I wanted to take a picture of this woman so that I could always remind myself of what I'm not looking for in a woman. The whore look is for the bedroom, not for the public.

Relationship Principles ("RPs") 29-30 are solid advice for women. Parts of RP 31 are questionable. The Gems are not interested in bedding down just any woman. They are looking eventually to bed down the woman that they feel is LTR material. I have hit the "Next" button more than a few times before we have ever gotten to the bedroom.

RP 32 is very good advice. The LaTour-de-Virgin section is very accurate.

The After Party, starting on page 91. Here's where the author's wheels start to come off her bus. The average guy or player is not going to take you out 5 times before he gets any sex. It just won't happen. (If it does, he's a loser.) The Gem on the other hand will...as long as he sees you as a LTR candidate, and as long as he feels that progress is being made toward sexual intimacy. This guy sees the sexual act as a bonding force, a/k/a a commitment to you. He will behave differently toward you. You will see more boyfriend behavior from him right away. So if you follow the author's advice with this kind of a guy, i.e., act absolutely no differently than before, what do you think is going to be going through his mind? He assumed that sex with you meant as much to you as it did to him. He's was rapidly moving into commitment mode...until you acted as though nothing had changed between you and him. Had you changed your behavior to be more girlfriend-like right after sex, you would have had an excellent chance of hooking this Gem. Gems by definition and their very nature are seeking committed relationships. You make sure that he is a Gem by taking your time with him, but allowing him to advance downfield as is appropriate. He does not want to back away after having sex with you for the first time. He wants to be closer to you. He is now thinking of you as a prospective very long term partner. (Remember, this man does not bed down anything with a skirt. He is highly selective because he is goal driven, and does not want to waste his time nor his emotions with someone who will not be part of his long term future.)

Post-Sex Play by Play. The Gem doesn't think like this at all. This whole section is applicable to Joe Average, not the Gems. Follow this advice at your peril, unless of course, you are looking for Joe Average. Why doesn't this lead to commitment with Gems? It's simple. He's crazy about you, but he's going to think that the feelings are not reciprocal, and that you are really not all that interested in having a LTR with him. In most cases, the Gem is going to feel crushed and angry at himself for giving himself to someone who is going to treat him as another Joe. He cannot be in love with someone whom he feels doesn't respect him, and care for him the way he cares for her. How do you think he would feel the next day if he sent you a dozen roses and you acted like nothing had changed in the relationship? He'd feel like a chump, especially if you don't answer all his calls (even though he answers all of yours). (And by the way, the Average Joe, as a general rule, does not send the woman a dozen roses the next day.) So follow the author's advice on this one and your Gem will soon start looking around for the Next button.

RP 33. The Gem wants a woman to be more available after having sex for the first time, not less available. The notion that a woman should now be playing hide and seek with this type of guy is just nonsensical.

RP 34. Sorry, but Kate is very, very rude. She's just been intimate with the guy. Emotional bonding should be taking place, but no, Auntie from South America has moved to the head of the line. Michael obviously has little self esteem. A Gem would have removed himself from the premises immediately without speaking a word...and let Kate initiate the next communication, at which time he could have told her that given the context of the situation, it was a very rude gesture on her part to "dismiss" him the way she did. Now, on the other hand, had Kate been talking on the phone to auntie, before Michael arrived for a casual evening, then Michael should have amused himself until Kate got off the phone. It's all about the context.

RP 35. Rarely is a man in complete control of anything. And guess what? Some of us don't care to be in complete control of everything. If being in control of something is important to me, and I can't be in control of it, one of two things will happen: I can linger about and become extremely frustrated, or I can lose interest and walk away. But again, a Gem rarely puts himself in such a position to begin with.

RP 36. This is very good advice.

RP 37. Mostly true, but if he needs or wants to have sex more than twice a week and the woman doesn't, this will obviously impact the relationship adversely and may even lead to its termination. Follow the bank's advice before establishing the relationship: Know Your Customer.

RP 38. Truer words were never spoken.

Obviously, I could go on and on, chapter after chapter. But that's not really necessary. I think that what is important for a woman to take away from this book is that all of the author's advice does not apply equally across the board to all the men out there. If you're looking for a Gem and not the Average Joe, think about the second and third order consequences of following all the advice in this book, that is aimed at how you should deal with an Average Joe, in the hopes of turning him into a Gem. Gems do not want to be treated as Average Joes. They want you to be that very special woman and hopefully a permanent part of their lives. Don't chase them away inadvertently by following advice inappropriate for the specific man with whom you are dealing.

3 Stars.

Although there is lots of good advice to women in this book, it didn't take me more than about 10 minutes of reading this book to discover the logical flaw in a substantial portion of the author's conclusions and advice to women.

The flaw is that the author interviewed hundreds of men for her source material. Hundreds of men mean that the underlying source data (how men think or feel about a particular subject or situation) is based upon a normal distribution (bell curve, if you will). This is also the reason why there is a lot of good advice, as well.

Now if 70% of the men responded similarly to a question posed by the author, that's what's stated as gospel. The problem with that, is that it leaves out the guys in the tails---particularly the right hand tail where the true guy Gems are to be found. So what women are left with is sound advice on how to deal with the Average Joe.

Let me cite some examples from the chapter "The Sun Rises and Sets on His Boxer Shorts."

Page 66. The author is spot on. Ginger is a dangerous acquisition for a long term relationship. Case in point. I just saw one of these the other night in a upscale restaurant. She was with her husband and another couple. Everything about this woman's physical appearance was flawless. Early forties, a very full and whispy blond hairdo, spandex sprayons, perfect features, posture, legs, butt, breasts, etc. The whole package was absolutely perfect. Except for one thing. She looked like a $1,000 a night whore. I wanted to take a picture of this woman so that I could always remind myself of what I'm not looking for in a woman. The whore look is for the bedroom, not for the public.

Relationship Principles ("RPs") 29-30 are solid advice for women. Parts of RP 31 are questionable. The Gems are not interested in bedding down just any woman. They are looking eventually to bed down the woman that they feel is LTR material. I have hit the "Next" button more than a few times before we have ever gotten to the bedroom.

RP 32 is very good advice. The LaTour-de-Virgin section is very accurate.

The After Party, starting on page 91. Here's where the author's wheels start to come off her bus. The average guy or player is not going to take you out 5 times before he gets any sex. It just won't happen. (If it does, he's a loser.) The Gem on the other hand will...as long as he sees you as a LTR candidate, and as long as he feels that progress is being made toward sexual intimacy. This guy sees the sexual act as a bonding force, a/k/a a commitment to you. He will behave differently toward you. You will see more boyfriend behavior from him right away. So if you follow the author's advice with this kind of a guy, i.e., act absolutely no differently than before, what do you think is going to be going through his mind? He assumed that sex with you meant as much to you as it did to him. He's was rapidly moving into commitment mode...until you acted as though nothing had changed between you and him. Had you changed your behavior to be more girlfriend-like right after sex, you would have had an excellent chance of hooking this Gem. Gems by definition and their very nature are seeking committed relationships. You make sure that he is a Gem by taking your time with him, but allowing him to advance downfield as is appropriate. He does not want to back away after having sex with you for the first time. He wants to be closer to you. He is now thinking of you as a prospective very long term partner. (Remember, this man does not bed down anything with a skirt. He is highly selective because he is goal driven, and does not want to waste his time nor his emotions with someone who will not be part of his long term future.)

Post-Sex Play by Play. The Gem doesn't think like this at all. This whole section is applicable to Joe Average, not the Gems. Follow this advice at your peril, unless of course, you are looking for Joe Average. Why doesn't this lead to commitment with Gems? It's simple. He's crazy about you, but he's going to think that the feelings are not reciprocal, and that you are really not all that interested in having a LTR with him. In most cases, the Gem is going to feel crushed and angry at himself for giving himself to someone who is going to treat him as another Joe. He cannot be in love with someone whom he feels doesn't respect him, and care for him the way he cares for her. How do you think he would feel the next day if he sent you a dozen roses and you acted like nothing had changed in the relationship? He'd feel like a chump, especially if you don't answer all his calls (even though he answers all of yours). (And by the way, the Average Joe, as a general rule, does not send the woman a dozen roses the next day.) So follow the author's advice on this one and your Gem will soon start looking around for the Next button.

RP 33. The Gem wants a woman to be more available after having sex for the first time, not less available. The notion that a woman should now be playing hide and seek with this type of guy is just nonsensical.

RP 34. Sorry, but Kate is very, very rude. She's just been intimate with the guy. Emotional bonding should be taking place, but no, Auntie from South America has moved to the head of the line. Michael obviously has little self esteem. A Gem would have removed himself from the premises immediately without speaking a word...and let Kate initiate the next communication, at which time he could have told her that given the context of the situation, it was a very rude gesture on her part to "dismiss" him the way she did.

RP 35. Rarely is a man in complete control of anything. And guess what? Some of us don't care to be in complete control of everything. If being in control of something is important to me, and I can't be in control of it, one of two things will happen: I can linger about and become extremely frustrated, or I can lose interest and walk away. But again, a Gem rarely puts himself in such a position to begin with.

RP 36. This is very good advice.

RP 37. Mostly true, but if he needs or wants to have sex more than twice a week and the woman doesn't, this will obviously impact the relationship adversely and may even lead to its termination. Follow the bank's advice before establishing the relationship: Know Your Customer.

RP 38. Truer words were never spoken.

Obviously, I could go on and on, chapter after chapter. But that's not really necessary. I think that what is important for a woman to take away from this book is that all of the author's advice does not apply equally across the board to all the men out there. If you're looking for a Gem and not the Average Joe, think about the second and third order consequences of following all the advice in this book, that is aimed at how you should deal with an Average Joe, in the hopes of turning him into a Gem. Gems do not want to be treated as Average Joes. They want you to be that very special woman and hopefully a permanent part of their lives. Don't chase them away inadvertently by following advice inappropriate for the specific man with whom you are dealing.

3 Stars.

Although there is lots of good advice to women in this book, it didn't take me more than about 10 minutes of reading this book to discover the logical flaw in a substantial portion of the author's conclusions and advice to women.

The flaw is that the author interviewed hundreds of men for her source material. Hundreds of men mean that the underlying source data (how men think or feel about a particular subject or situation) is based upon a normal distribution (bell curve, if you will). This is also the reason why there is a lot of good advice, as well.

Now if 70% of the men responded similarly to a question posed by the author, that's what's stated as gospel. The problem with that, is that it leaves out the guys in the tails---particularly the right hand tail where the true guy Gems are to be found. So what women are left with is sound advice on how to deal with the Average Joe.

Let me cite some examples from the chapter "The Sun Rises and Sets on His Boxer Shorts."

Page 66. The author is spot on. Ginger is a dangerous acquisition for a long term relationship. Case in point. I just saw one of these the other night in a upscale restaurant. She was with her husband and another couple. Everything about this woman's physical appearance was flawless. Early forties, a very full and whispy blond hairdo, spandex sprayons, perfect features, posture, legs, butt, breasts, etc. The whole package was absolutely perfect. Except for one thing. She looked like a $1,000 a night whore. I wanted to take a picture of this woman so that I could always remind myself of what I'm not looking for in a woman. The whore look is for the bedroom, not for the public.

Relationship Principles ("RPs") 29-30 are solid advice for women. Parts of RP 31 are questionable. The Gems are not interested in bedding down just any woman. They are looking eventually to bed down the woman that they feel is LTR material. I have hit the "Next" button more than a few times before we have ever gotten to the bedroom.

RP 32 is very good advice. The LaTour-de-Virgin section is very accurate.

The After Party, starting on page 91. Here's where the author's wheels start to come off her bus. The average guy or player is not going to take you out 5 times before he gets any sex. It just won't happen. (If it does, he's a loser.) The Gem on the other hand will...as long as he sees you as a LTR candidate, and as long as he feels that progress is being made toward sexual intimacy. This guy sees the sexual act as a bonding force, a/k/a a commitment to you. He will behave differently toward you. You will see more boyfriend behavior from him right away. So if you follow the author's advice with this kind of a guy, i.e., act absolutely no differently than before, what do you think is going to be going through his mind? He assumed that sex with you meant as much to you as it did to him. He's was rapidly moving into commitment mode...until you acted as though nothing had changed between you and him. Had you changed your behavior to be more girlfriend-like right after sex, you would have had an excellent chance of hooking this Gem. Gems by definition and their very nature are seeking committed relationships. You make sure that he is a Gem by taking your time with him, but allowing him to advance downfield as is appropriate. He does not want to back away after having sex with you for the first time. He wants to be closer to you. He is now thinking of you as a prospective very long term partner. (Remember, this man does not bed down anything with a skirt. He is highly selective because he is goal driven, and does not want to waste his time nor his emotions with someone who will not be part of his long term future.)

Post-Sex Play by Play. The Gem doesn't think like this at all. This whole section is applicable to Joe Average, not the Gems. Follow this advice at your peril, unless of course, you are looking for Joe Average. Why doesn't this lead to commitment with Gems? It's simple. He crazy about you, but he's going to think that the feelings are not reciprocal, and that you are really not all that interested in having a LTR with him. In most cases, the Gem is going to be angry at himself for giving himself to someone who is going to treat him as another Joe. He cannot be in love with someone whom he feels doesn't respect him, and care for him the way he cares for her. How do you think he would feel the next day if he sent you a dozen roses and you acted like nothing had changed in the relationship? He'd feel like a chump, especially if you don't answer all his calls (even though he answers all of yours). (And by the way, the Average Joe, as a general rule, does not send the woman a dozen roses the next day.) So follow the author's advice on this one and your Gem will soon start looking around for the Next button.

RP 33. The Gem wants a woman to be more available after having sex for the first time, not less available. The notion that a woman should now be playing hide and seek with this type of guy is just nonsensical.

RP 34. Sorry, but Kate is very, very rude. She's just been intimate with the guy. Emotional bonding should be taking place, but no, Auntie from South America has moved to the head of the line. Michael obviously has little self esteem. A Gem would have removed himself from the premises immediately without speaking a word...and let Kate initiate the next communication, at which time he could have told her that given the context of the situation, it was a very rude gesture on her part to "dismiss" him the way she did.

RP 35. Rarely is a man in complete control of anything. And guess what? Some of us don't care to be in complete control of everything. If being in control of something is important to me, and I can't be in control of it, one of two things will happen: I can linger about and become extremely frustrated, or I can lose interest and walk away. But again, a Gem rarely puts himself in such a position to begin with.

RP 36. This is very good advice.

RP 37. Mostly true, but if he needs or wants to have sex more than twice a week and the woman doesn't, this will obviously impact the relationship adversely and may even lead to its termination. Follow the bank's advice before establishing the relationship, and that is Know Your Customer.

RP 38. Truer words were never spoken.

Obviously, I could go on and on, chapter after chapter. But that's not really necessary. I think that what is important for a woman to take away from this book is that all of the author's advice does not apply equally across the board to all the men out there. If you're looking for a Gem and not the Average Joe, think about the second and third order consequences of following all the advice in this book, that is aimed at how you should deal with an Average Joe, in the hopes of turning him into a Gem. Gems do not want to be treated as Average Joes. They want you to be that very special woman and hopefully a permanent part of their lives. Don't chase them away inadvertently by following advice inappropriate for the specific man with whom you are dealing.

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This book provided a fun easy to understand text about how to break the "nice girl" co-dependent needy attitude! This book was so much fun and not about games at all!!! Its about treating yourself with respect and expecting him to treat you with respect as well! After reading this book I met the man of my dreams and when he said "Mama Its all about you!" I knew he would adore me and treat me like a queen! And he does because I treat me like a Queen!!! Thanks Sherry!

As I read this book, I kept saying "Yep, yep, that's true, that's true. Hun, yep, true that". Strongly recommend this book to any woman. It will make your dating/marriage life a better experience full with loving moments.
Dr. Israel King,Ph.D. Author of How To Keep A Man

This book should be required reading for every single woman out there. The best part of this book is that it reminds a woman that above all, having self love is the most important quality a Babe In Total Control of Herself (BITCH) can have. By not being desperate and accepting whatever a man decides to "dish out" you make your self more attractive because you don't NEED a man. I read this book in about a day and a half and I have already begun to RE-READ certain parts of it again. This book not only breaks down the art of keeping your self respect while dating, it also teaches a woman how to spot the "wrong" kind of men and easily weed them out. I have read many other dating self-help books but none made me feel as empowered as this book has. If you are interested in regaining control of your own love life, then this book is DEFINITELY for you! HIGHLY RECOMMENDED.

A refreshing point of view when the roles of men and women have been confused...This writing is based on reality ...Moreso than a "tell him how you feel" approach


Author Of Black Women Deserve Better

This book is a fantastic resource filled with encouragement and help for any woman who gets walked all over. I DON'T and therefore found the book a little demeaning - like it was talking to a lower intelligence level.

Nonetheless, I really did learn a lot about men that I never knew before. I would recommend it as a read even if you think you know everything about men.

It's a very funny book and it definitely makes you think twice about getting married (in a good way!) I gave this book to my friend who was about to get married and it definitely helped her to relax. Cute "chick" book if you don't mind some light reading.

I can't really rate the product, because I ordered it and never received it. I suggest that you donot order from Zeitgeist Press. They emailed me with a confirmation twice, but never shipped the book. This was my 1st time dealing with a sour business on Amazon, and I was very disappointed.

What I like about both of Sherry's books is that she reminds you that you are a person, someone to be treated with respect and love. That starts within yourself and can only continue when you choose not to let a relationship take over your life. Many times, I believe that people (women especially) give themselves to a relationship and begin neglecting themselves and their former "single" life. What you will glean from this book is the idea that you need to be an individual before you are a couple, all from a saucy feminist writier. There is no man bashing, but some insight why a man loves an opinionated woman versus a woman who goes along with everything. In work, career, or in relationships, the advice to speak up for yourself is at the heart of the book.

I have this and SA's first book and I love 'em! I felt that the strong, assertive me could come out of hiding so-to-speak. When being tired of shaking my head in disbelief that the bitchiest women (not necessarily the good kind of bitch that SA writes about) were in steady relationships or married and, not being completely true to myself had taken a heavy toll on me, I knew I needed to be in integrity. Once I did that, I no longer experienced resentment in relationships. It was never about the guy; I was annoyed with myself. Sherry's books echoed what I knew already within, but because I was reading about it, I didn't feel alone or crazy in my feelings and ideas about what I needed to do. (After all, being a "bitch" could alienate me!)

Interestingly, on two separate occasions, I saw men in their early 40s buying these books. One of which bought three and I heard him say that two were for his sisters and one for a friend. He described them as great and super-nice women who deserved but weren't finding great relationships. So, I'm thinking, if guys think women need to toughen up and get healthfully selfish, then it must be true. That is, the good kind of bitch -- not the mean kind.

I highly recommend this book and the first. I'd also love to read reviews by men who agree with the ideas in these books. (Note: Regarding some of those men who don't like these books, I'm of the opinion that 1) their experiences with bitches were with the mean kind and 2) many guys aren't aware that they're drawn to them. Most men that I've witnessed say they want women to be nice to them but then they get involved with and attached to women who are, as these books describe, bitches. Some of these guys have been friends of mine and great guys. Yet, they walked all over the "nice" women, grew bored with them usually very quickly, and they lost respect for them. Don't get mad at me for these comments. They're just my experiences and observations and definitely not sweeping generalizations about all men.)

Peace.

Alright, first off, I'm only 19 and don't plan on snagging a guy and settling down for another 5-10 years. Nevertheless, this book was a perfect read! Almost every scenario described in this book I have been in the guy I've been recently dating the past year. Granted he is 10+ years older than me and knows all the "games" and "trickery", this book put into perspective some of the things he says and does and how he expects me to react (which I have always done in the negative way). Now I have the tools to stand up for myself and not put up with so much BS that guys can throw your way. Even if you are already married, this book would still be great to read and pull some advice from; or even a gift to a daughter, friend, co-worker. This book invites you to be a confidant, empowered woman and not stand for anything. I have been raving to all my friends since I first started reading this book, and I just finished it yesterday :) I can't wait to find another book to read by this author because she is fantastic as well as humorous!

I have enjoyed reading this book. In my previous life, I was a doormat. A great, trusty, reliable, doormat for a guy who really didn't care, and just tried to squeeze more and more from me until I finally gave up. Now that I've read about what normal men really want, it's a miraculous change! It's great to NOT be the one who always does everything, worries about making everything perfect, and getting things just so. I'm just sorry I didn't read her book sooner. What an ego boost!

My name is Stephanie Morales and I am a sophomore Sociology major at Loyola Marymount University. I am writing this review as my final project for my communications class titled, Interpersonal Communication. What we had to do to was choose any book we wanted, involving some sort of interpersonal communication and write a review about it. Therefore what better a book then, "Why Men Marry Bitches." I had previously read "Why Men Love Bitches," and thoroughly enjoyed it and put it into action. After reading that book I was able to find myself a "keeper." So I decided to read, "Why Men Marry Bitches," to learn how to keep him there when the flame starts to go out and things start getting old. What I thoroughly enjoyed about this book is that it speaks nothing but the truth. There is no beating around the bush; it is straightforward and completely blunt about what the do's and don'ts are in a relationship. Not only does it give great advice about relationships but it is almost a self-improvement book. It helps you realize your great attributes and helps you love yourself. In regards to my communication class, it directly coincides with the relationship factor of communication. It shows you what type of language to use and words when in a relationship. The only complaint I would have about this book is that though it is helpful at times it can be impractical. It is very difficult to just change and this book acts as though it isn't. It can give impractical advice, such as being sexy in a snap. I know and I am sure other women know sexiness does not come. However, what I did find the most valuable was on page 13 and the title was, "Don't believe what anyone tells you about yourself." Which for me is very important, because it helped me realize that beauty is what I make. That not only applies to relationships but life in general. So if someone were to ask me, do I recommend this book, I would say of course. Any woman, strong-willed or passive, will gain some sort of knowledge. If any man rolls his eyes while reading the title, I am sure the best and most confident woman he's ever had, has read this book!

I read "Are you the one for me by Barbara Angelis" first and pretty much followed the rules/advice she had given out from the book especially when she said "give the guy an ultimatum" and be upfront and ask the guy on where you stand....WRONG!!!!!...I pushed him away....I shouldn't have done it. I didn't work. No wonder when I first met this guy and told him that I didn't want to be in a relationship...he stayed, everthing was fine, and we ended up being bf and gf. Like Sherry said on her book, "NO PRESSURE! and you gave your guy the power and made him make the decision himself". Guy needs to feel powerful and makes them feel that he won you over". My mistake was when our relationship started to get a little rocky ...I read "Are you the one for me" thinking it might help our relationship but I ended up pushing him away and eventually lost him completely.

I think Sherry Argiv's advice in this book is very straight forward and more realistic. But also this book is more of how to reverse psychology a man. It's true when she says that human nature, people tends to want things that they know they cannot have. And this is true for most people. Analyzing my relationship, all of the author said on this book are true. I wish I could have found this book before, I would have probably saved my relationship and be with the guy I'm really inlove with. Too bad, now it's too late. Hmmm...maybe it's just not meant to be. Things happens for a reason. But hey...I can use all her advice to my future relationship.

This book is HIGHLY RECOMMENDED! TWO THUMBS UP! This is a must read for all the woman out there.

I picked this book up from my female housemate's bookshelf and started reading through it. I was appalled at what I found. The author repeatedly gives anecdotes from men, then proceeds to break the anecdotes down and explain them. Her explanations and extrapolations, however, are utterly wrong. They DO NOT reflect how men think in the least.

I was quite disgusted at the uselessly false impression of men that this book gives. Ultimately, the equivalent would be a book for men which explains that women are simple-minded and obsessed with flowers. Does that reflect you? No? Then probably you don't want to read a book that says the equivalent about men.

This book may have some good advice about women, for women, but take everything it says about the male thought process with a grain of salt.

I was recently dumped for pretty much being the "nice girl" mentioned in this book. This book is awesome. It changed my thinking on how I interact with the opposite sex. I'm really not big on self-help books but I've already read it twice and have sections highlighted.

OK, "He's Just Not That Into You" runs a close second for relationship books that will make you LOL.

Sherry Argov is a witty, wiley sage. Listen and learn.

This book almost backfired on me because I tried the break up with the guy to make him commit to marriage way sooner than appropriate. So be careful of that.

Having said that, I have reaped so many positives from this book. For example: How to talk to a man when there is a problem--calmly and briefly.
How to respond when you're jealous of another woman--laughing it off is good.
What to say when he comes home at 4am drunk--you can't say anything, cause you're not home!

Just again, be careful. This book is a weapon, not a toy, so be kind to your man--if you use these strategies just to have power over him it will backfire. This is an excellent book in order to keep things balanced. Use it for balance of power; wisely, Grasshopper.

I picked this one up because the title was intriguing, even though I suspected, rightly so, that it would be one of those light and fluffy "cosmo girl" how-to-get-a-man type of books. It was, however, worth reading, if only for the retort (on p. 130)to the age-old virginity-inducing question, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" The retort: "Why buy the pig when all you want is a little sausage?"

OMG - this was a fabulously funny, insightful and eye opening book! I definatly would recomend ALL WOMEN TO READ THIS BOOK AND REREAD EVERY YEAR TO STAY ON TRACK!

A must for every woman who is dating and one day plans to get married!! Great insight!!

This is a laugh-out funny, insightful book about men...as well as women. Despite the catchy title, this is NOT a book that tells you to play mind games or teaches you how to land a husband. It actually challenges the notion that anyone needs a relationship to feel complete. In addition, it reaffirms what most of us already know---men are turned off by clingy, needy and insecure women---the same qualities that most women find unattractive in men.

The book lists 75 relationship principles as well as practical advice on every day situations, and they do work! The advice on how to handle a relationship that isn't progressing is outstanding. All my guy friends are crying "foul," now that the secret is out.

Bottom line: Get it, read it and enjoy it. You'll get some good laughs out of it, and also several "ah-ha" moments.

This book is an important book for women who worry allot about getting married. It gives a much-needed push out of the `needy' frame of mind into an independent, in control woman. This not only frees you from obsessing about success with men but it also ends up making you more attractive to men.

One thing I really like about this book is that it is in point form (called principles), with insights into the psychological aspects of men, women and relationships. This is followed by examples which illustrate the points clearly.

To give an idea of the kind of IMPORTANT principles you will learn I have taken a couple of good ones from the book which reveal how different this book is from others on the same topic of `how to get a man'.

Take the following principle as an example, "Men are intrigued by anything they do not completely control". Applying this insight means you maintain your independence including keeping yourself occupied with friends and activities. This will make a man more attracted to you as he has to chase you a bit and you are not too available. This explains the following principle really well, "There's nothing more prized to a man then something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get." It is the challenge that inspires a man. So become a challenge and men will seek you out.

Most important is to SHOW you don't need a man in your life like shown in this principle, "When a man sees you are focused on your own dreams or on elevating yourself, he feels safer marrying you because he doesn't worry about what you'll be trying to take away from him."

Besides these wonderful insights on how to attract the attention of a man there are also insights on how to build your own self-esteem and how to occupy your time without needing a man around. This book helps you from the inside out with tons of tips and advice on how best to date men. This book is definitely worth reading, even if you already have a man in your life.

Her previous book -Why men love bitches is my number one recommended book for women on dealing with men. It keeps us men on our toes, giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and will not take for granted.

Now onto WMMB. Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose, and how you respond dictates the course of the relationship, and whether you will be respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests. They are easy to pass.

WMMB is very amusing, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times to laugh. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women, and they tell it like it is, what made them decide to marry one person and pass on another. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got some great ideas from this book. So, I recommend this book to men too.

For men, marriage is the biggest financial and emotional decision of our life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire.

The right decision, will gain him the benefits of an excellent partner and children and opportunities for adventure and bliss, and will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Imagine how attractive being independent, emotionally secure, confident, and already fulfilled can make you, and how not being needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage.

As you read this book, you will discover the common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's offers solid advice.

What if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can.

The most resourceful advice is starting the conversation which will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even if it is brilliant. You should have a few different approaches to pick from.

I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not offer strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making.

Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question.

Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment,and the 80/20 rule. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at KWML.com.

So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck.

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Her previous book -Why men love bitches is my number one recommended book for women on dealing with men. It keeps us men on our toes, giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and will not take for granted.

Now onto WMMB. Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose, and how you respond dictates the course of the relationship, and whether you will be respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests. They are easy to pass.

WMMB is very amusing, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times to laugh. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women, and they tell it like it is, what made them decide to marry one person and pass on another. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got some great ideas from this book. So, I recommend this book to men too.

For men, marriage is the biggest financial and emotional decision of our life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire.

The right decision, will gain him the benefits of an excellent partner and children and opportunities for adventure and bliss, and will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Imagine how attractive being independent, emotionally secure, confident, and already fulfilled can make you, and how not being needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage.

As you read this book, you will discover the common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's offers solid advice.

What if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can.

The most resourceful advice is starting the conversation which will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even if it is brilliant. You should have a few different approaches to pick from.

I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not offer strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making.

Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question.

Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment,and the 80/20 rule. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at KWML.com.

So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck.

If you were to find this review helpful, please click yes.

Bitch means Babe In Total Control of Herself. Her previous book -Why men love bitches is my number one recommended book for women on dealing with men. It keeps us men on our toes, giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and will not take for granted.

Now onto WMMB. Men will test you. A woman who shows certain traits can be counted on. If you cannot stand up to these little tests, how can you be supportive in a crisis? So we test. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests. Pretty easy really.

WMMB is very amusing, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times, and stop laughing before resuming. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got some great ideas from this book. So, I can recommend this book to men too.

For men, marriage is the biggest financial decision of a man's life and threatens our perceived perceived freedom, and . If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire.

The right decision, will gain him the benefits of an excellent partner and excellent children with good survival skills, who will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Can you see how being independent, emotionally secure, confident, not needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage?

As you read this book, you will discover the many common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's advice is solid.

A caution though is that it won't work if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can.

The most resourceful advice is starting the conversation which will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even though it is brilliant. You should have a few different approaches to pick from.

I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not give female strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making.

Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question.

Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at KWML.com.

So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck.

If you were to find this review helpful, please click yes.

Bitch means Babe In Total Control of Herself. Her previous book -Why men love bitches is my number one recommended book for women on dealing with men. It keeps us men on our toes, giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and will not take for granted.

Now onto WMMB. Men will test you. A woman who shows certain traits can be counted on. If you cannot stand up to these little tests, how can you be supportive in a crisis? So we test. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests. Pretty easy really.

WMMB is very amusing, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times, and stop laughing before resuming. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got some great ideas from this book. So, I can recommend this book to men too.

For men, marriage is the biggest financial decision of a man's life and threatens our perceived perceived freedom, and . If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire.

The right decision, will gain him the benefits of an excellent partner and excellent children with good survival skills, who will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Can you see how being independent, emotionally secure, confident, not needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage?

As you read this book, you will discover the many common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's advice is solid.

A caution though is that it won't work if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can.

The most resourceful advice is starting the conversation which will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even though it is brilliant. You should have a few different approaches to pick from.

I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not give female strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making.

Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question.

Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at KWML.com.

So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck.

If you were to find this review helpful, please click yes.

Bitch means Babe In Total Control of Herself. Her previous book -Why men love bitches is my number one recommended book for women on dealing with men. It keeps us men on our toes, giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and will not take for granted.

Now onto WMMB. Men will test you. A woman who shows certain traits can be counted on. If you cannot stand up to these little tests, how can you be supportive in a crisis? So we test. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests.

Firstly, Wmmb is a very amusing book, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times, and stop laughing before resuming. Sherry is spot on, and most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women. It could not be clearer.

For men, marriage is a big thing, we give up perceived freedom, and marriage is the biggest financial decision of a man's life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire.

The right decision, will gain him the benefits of an excellent partner and excellent children with good survival skills, who will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. So behavior conveys whether you are an asset or a liability.

As you read this book, you will discover the many common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question. Sherry's advice is solid.

A caution though is that it won't work if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can.

The most resourceful advice is starting the conversation which will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even though it is the best one I have probably read. You should have a few different approaches to pick from.

I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not give female strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment.

Here's an idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question.

Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at KWML.com.

So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck.

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I am currently in a very happy, and successful relationship with my fiance. When I read the book, everything it says reminds me of myself, and the nature of my relationship.
The principles are true! My boyfriend has helped me become a stronger and more independent woman. And he loves me more for the person that I have become.

It's definately amazing book! Another besteller which I love and highly recommend - "How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You" by Mandy Simons

These are my favourite books! Awesome books!!!

This book is amazing!!!
It should have been written a very long time ago.
You can read it a million times and still learn something new!

your brand new best friend! a book that lays it all in front of you, says all the things others don't know.

This is one of the best books for women that I have ever read. I would highly recommend it to any woman 20-60 years old!

Shows you how men are attracted to strong minded women that stand up for themselfes