I wonder how many relationships (and self-esteem) I could have saved in my life if I had read this book before...

This book is full of so many good points that it should be a required reading to all women, of any age. We always forget that we should think about ourselves first... making our first and biggest mistake!

This book can REALLY help you to keep the man you love BY YOUR SIDE!

After reading it, I gave this book to my 18 year old daughter, she has passed it on to her friends... and we all have benefited from the advices... regardless of our 26 years age gap!.

I just started reading it again!

A rather misandristic selection of "solutions" and surveys, masquerading as a self-help guide for women.

I've read it twice already and will keep it around for when I need a little reminder. I've recommended it to many friends.

I really liked this book but I think it would have been more helpful if I wasnt in a year long live in relationship. This seems better suited for a single woman starting a relationship or looking to have fun, there wasnt much advice for woman who are in long term relationships or woman who live with their spouse, but overall so far some of the techniques have worked.

The problem with this book is that the author has written it from her own perspective - looking at her photo, she is a reasonably attractive woman, who could afford to play the games she suggests in her book. But to any but the extremely attractive, whose beauty may offset an ugly personality for a while, this advice will guarantee either a permanent state of singleness, or unhappy relationships based on manipulation and exploitation. 40 years of feminist misandry has ensured that the western world is well oversupplied with b**ches, who have ruined the chances of normal relationships for countless normal men and women, and the last thing any responsible person should be doing is encouraging the formation of more.

These tactics will chase away the nice guy you may chance to meet, and will guarantee that you end up with the male equivalent of the b**ch, the jerk, as these men are far more likely to put up with what they see as just a difficult personality for physical gratification. And one can't really blame them - books like these make a woman's personality so unlikeable, that there's nothing to like about her anymore but her body. But when that goes too, the b**ch has nothing...

To all the non-b**ches who are reading this, please don't let this ignorant 'advice' destroy just that feminine spirit which most appeals to the non-jerks. I cannot think of a single man I know in a long-term relationship whose partner would qualify as a b**ch. On the other hand, the b**ches I know are the perennial singles, except for a brief period in their 20s when their bodies compensated for their personalities.

Now when i mean great , i am talking about really great. This book was the best I have ever read in my life. Sherry teaches you the simple things you can do. With every chapter, I tried this and the results were amazing. I lent my friend this and she wants a copy to keep for reference. This book i will definately recommend for single women or even women in a relationship who wants to hold their relationship. Its great. I'll give it 6 stars. Yes thats how great it is. The techniques used are remarkable. It's all about being a bitch. Now being a bitch is not being bad. Its being nice but you are letting them know you have a life, and you are living your life,they have to make time for you not the other way around. Too many times we women change our lives trying to incorporate men into it, we cancel plans just for them. This is a big NO. Do not cancel your plans and abide by their every rules. You cant always be available for them. And thats the trick. Its so simple i never thought that would change mens behaviour but it did. Now i have men calling me and tyring to fit in to my life. How amazing is that! Belive me i think evey woman should have this book.But you wont understand fully what I am telling you until you read this yourself.Go ahead, i encourage you to take the challenge ! and Best of luck!!

Nirmala Bissoon

Why the author keep using the word "Dumb Fox"? It's quite unnecessary. It ruins the whole structure of the book. She can easily say the smart girl. Yack ...

This book is basically a catty manual for women with low self-esteem who don't know how to communicate their wants and needs when in a healthy relationship. It gives advice on how to sneakily manipulate a situation to your advantage, rather than telling you how to best fix it in a manner that both people in a relationship can understand and are okay with.

An example from the book: your boyfriend is too lazy to fix something around the house. The author recommends that you get another man to do it, so that your boyfriend feels threatened enough to do it and jumps to the task. Rather than, say.. telling your boyfriend that you find it disrespectful that he won't help out and asking him again to do it for you, so that way he actually understands why his girlfriend is upset and knows to have more respect in the future.

Yes, the women outlined in this book really are b*tches. They are playing mindgames in order to gain attention from their spouses. Instead of being honest about how they feel, they are being taught that the only way to handle a situation is to pretend you don't care, or to be mean about it, or to ignore it altogether until he crumbles at the knees in confusion, hurt and defeated. That's not okay and it's a recipe for disaster.

Of course, the author makes it look like it's okay to abuse a man's emotions because so what? They're all jerks anyway, right? No. And that's the entire mindset projected in this book. It's practically spilling off the pages.

Men are not mindreaders, and they're not perfect. They need to be told when something is wrong, instead of tricked into fixing it without ever knowing what was wrong or why. Women should not have to be vindictive and passive-aggressive to get their relationships to work/their boyfriends to care about them.

Basically, everything in this book is unhealthy and teaches all the wrong lessons.. a "dreamgirl" is not a b*tch who plays with people's emotions. A "dreamgirl" is a woman who can be honest, peaceful, and open; yet knows how to stand up for herself in the right way - which is with truth and confidence. REAL confidence, not just a display or a fake attempt at "holding their own," whatever that means. Unless you want to end up getting divorced, I'd highly recommend not following any of the "advice" this woman spews.

Sherry Argov freely admits that she uses the word "bitch" as a tongue-in-cheek way to grab your attention. She describes a bitch as a woman who is confident, independent and self-reliant, traits that men find sexy, attractive and intriguing. Argov portrays "good girls" as available, overly nice, accommodating and needy - characteristics men find off-putting and boring. Had this book been written 20 years ago, it would have been cutting edge, but you've probably heard the core of Argov's advice before (much of it is reminiscent of asking why a man would want a cow if he could get milk for free), from your mother and grandmother. She's just wrapped it in new rhetoric with a cute flair. Although her basic premise - men like independent, confident women with an "edge" - rings true enough, it's barely enough to fill an entire book. Argov disguises this sleight of hand with clever writing, witty one-liners, scattered "attraction principles," humorous stories, relatable examples, large type and a lot of repetition. If you don't find the whole idea a little passé, you'll have a good time. getAbstract recommends that you read this book in snippets whenever you need a chuckle or a shot of self-confidence as you play the catch-and-keep-a-man game. Of course, real women don't play games - as Argov would be the first to tell you.

If you have to manipulate someone to get someone then you will have to manipulate him to keep him. If you have to gauge every call you make, every meal you cook and everything you do, you are with the wrong person. I tried some of this person's tips. I dated a man for seven months and never let him know I really liked him and that it bothered me when he played the come closer go away game. Her tactics were very effective. When I blew him off, he came running to me. I should have asked him what he was looking for in a relationship and told him where I was at in the first month. But I didn't because I didn't want to appear "needy." She was correct in that the more unavailable I was the more he wanted me. Turns out he was dating someone else at the same time he was dating me. I ended the relationship as soon as I found out. If I'd have trusted my instincts and asked the questions her book advises women not to, I would have dropped him very early and not wasted so much time and effort. Every man I know who I have shared her advice with has laughed out loud. The women I know who are the most successful with men have also given me some advice. Throw this stinkin' book in the trash.

this book was just wonderful! Really helps with confidence and I have mentioned it to many ladies I know!

I probably wouldn't go out all the way to bash this book, but it doesn't mean I completely agree with everything the author says. If one follows her advice literally, it must be one hell of a tiring mental task you put yourself up with each day. This book might be suitable for the nearly- psychotic or the ultra-obsessive, but then if you are, get yourself proper treatment might be a better option.
Her point of the entire book(as well as many other similar books) is: be strong. It is good. Be strong so in return men will stay and protect. Well it doesn't make sense, does it?

I am surprised to see how many people are blind enough to ruin good relationships while using this book as the scap goat. This book is for you to respect yourself and your relationship. No where in this book does it say to disrespect your partner or take him for granted. I read this book on recommendation from a friend that said I remind her of the author. I agree with many points of Sherry Argov and respect what she has written. Her second book, Why men marry bitches also backs up her first book and is written with many hours of research...Interviewing MEN.

For those of you who are bashing the book because it's "sick" or "stupid" or "ruined your relationship", YOU NEED TO RE-READ THE BOOK. Ms. Argov does not tell you to be stubborn and rude to your significant other. Also, if you're smart enough, you would know that you cannot change anyone else. You can only change yourself. And that is what your man responds to. If you are in a loving relationship and everything is going well, Why would you need to use Ms. Argov's advice anyway? Think about it before blaming anyone else. Please use your brains and love yourself for who you are. Everyone can tell when you are fake and trying too hard (too willing or too stubborn). So just be yourself, and don't take disrespect from anyone, men or women.

I recommend that every single women or dating woman on the face of this earth read this book. It has changed me forever! All mothers who have teenage daughters should give this book to their daughters it will make them think twice b4 they go chasing after some boy.

I totally don't think this book is about being a b***h. It is about respecting yourself, having your own life, and not sacrificing yourself just to make a man happy. I read it, and a girlfriend of mine read it, and no joke...in 7 months we were both engaged. I wish I had this book years ago instead of dealing with heartbreak after heartbreak. This book is more about finding the right guy, and showing him you are an independent, intelligent woman, and not Suzy homemaker that he can walk all over.

I felt I already knew the answer, but I wanted to hear what the author had to say. The book only brushes over the real reason. It's a great book for someone that is totally clueless as why men really love bitches. I felt the book could have gone in more detail. This book only lightly touches the subject. I would not pay more than $5.oo for the book. The title is amazing and catchy. Some may think it's male bashing, but it's not. A good book for the clueless beginner to shed some light why they cant' be a good girl.

This book, along with her "Why Men Marry Bitches" are both must haves! The advice is honest and extremely useful. I had been going through a rough break-up and this booked helped so much! It made me realize what I did wrong and that he WAS NOT the right man anyway! I wish I would have found if a year earlier! Great Advice!

This is a fantastic book and I will keep it for when my daughter gets older and starts dating. I think every women who feels like they are being taken advantage of by a man should get this book and read it. They should then keep it close at hand and use it often. I have experienced many of these situations and wish I would have had this book when I encountered them. The outcome would have been completely different. I would say this is a must have for anyone who has teenage girls who are starting to date. It will remind them that their feelings and self esteem are important and never let a man treat you less than a dreamgirl.
The writer does this in a way that makes you laugh, but also makes you think about each situation from a new point of view.

But it won't help much in relationships....

Author Of Black Women Deserve Better

On the one hand, you don't want to be a doormat; and on the other, you don't want to be abusive...

Information in the book makes great sense! Of course some male readers might feel threatened (hence their negative reviews) but as a women this was a great book not only about holding your own in a relationship but gaining self confidence!

My fiance and I have been having a lot of issues this past week and he was falling for another girl. I was a complete doormat and begged and begged him not to leave me.

My roommate suggested I buy some books to get my mind off of all it. I picked up this book and COULD NOT put it down! It is the single most amazing book I have ever read in my entire life. And I have read just about every relationship book out there.

What she says makes SO much sense! I sit back and think to myself that I have been such a "doormat" through the last year or so of our relationship. Before that, I had broken up with him twice, but he still kept crawling back to me and now I know why. Because I was who I wanted to be and if he was interested in that person, great. if not, great. And over time I became his "mama" and have done everything this book cautions you not to do.

I however do believe that once you're in a long-term relationship, you can't do *everything* this book says. Because otherwise you might loose your man. Just do enough to keep him going "man, what makes her tick?!"

I would *definitely* recommend anyone that is having problems keeping men read this book. I bought it and EVERY thing she said I was like "yes! that's me! omg, no wonder why! Yes! Totally!" I swear she wrote the book for me!

5 stars!!

All you 'nice girls' out there need to read this! This is an amazing book, full of useful, practical information. Easy to read- I couldn't put it down! I wish I would have read this 10 years ago!!!! I have passed this to all my friends and we all agree, regardless of a woman's age, that this works!

I am recommending this book to all my girlfriends!
It's basically about self esteem and holding your own in your relationship. It helped me to see that being 'too nice' in my marriage was one of the factors in it's failure and this is the way we women are conditioned to be! It's all wrong and we get treated badly as a result and our men aren't happy either.
But then you try the bitch rules and your man is suddenly more attentive and interested, he's happier and you're getting treated like a princess.
If you're dating or if you really want your relationship to work, read this book!

refreshes or reminds you of what you have always known and offers some great advice to ease your mind that you are doing it right when dealing with the guys in your life- buy and read atleast two times...

Ok I am a woman who gives to much, trying to be nice. I read the book, But It works, its great and all my girlfriends have it. Pretty much tells you to be yourself and the right guy will pursue you. Its great!

I am a guy, I read this book and I do find this book very helpful. however I would like to share my experience...

my girl and I broke up after 4 years of a relationship... the first three years, we had the most romantic un-conditional love relation... we both was so in love to a point if I call sky is Yellow she would agree to me, and if she call the sky red I would agree the same... both of us used to do everything to make each other happy... she knows what I dont like therefore she never come close doing anything I dont like... yes... I was the same as well by all means for three years... and I like to mention that she was the first girl in my life and so I am for her!

and suddenly (during the last year in our relationship) she started to change... it feels like she read this BOOK! or someone brain-wash her thinking... like someone started to tell her to ignore me or to start being stubborn because they can see how much in love at me she was.... she started to be stubborn and suddenly she started to show me that I am a second in her life... not as important as before... her friends and her work is what important!!!!! I dont mind that, but not to the point that she start to disrespect me!

we both where never ever being exposed to this kind of thinking or behavior in a relationship (at least not me) because if you never had any experience or being exposed to such ideas you will never do it or think about it...

and yes, it worked for her so well that I start chasing her!!!! and she becoming more and more stubborn... not to mention the way she started taking a great use of me...

I started to complain why she changed... but no answer!!! so we started to fight and argue all time to a point she also got sick of me

after one year of suffering, I decided to move on... yes I left her with her new attitude....

did I mention she asked me back (after one month), begging me to give her a new chance???

I asked her why all this happened? she admitted that she started to behave stubborn just to prove her self strong!!!

I did not accept her back and asked her to move on... yes, I am still in love with her, I wanted to live the rest of my life with her because she is the type of person I want to be with... but not to a point I become her slave and keep getting hurt because I love her! I wish we are back together, but she went down from my eyes and I dont see her my dream girl anymore.

WHY ON EARTH SHOULD A RELATIONSHIP GET INTO THIS DARK TUNNEL?

all I can say that I have learned a good lesson.

this is a great book... I recommend it only *IF* you had a bad relationship... this book will put you in the right way for your next relationship.

As mentioned by one of the reviewers... learn from this book to win your partner heart by becoming expensive, valuable and a challenge. and when finally you find your partner is chasing you... ease-up to enjoy the relationship.

I also recommend this book to ALL guys, let them know how to treat girls in a right way without being a JERK!

but an advice to all girls... dont take this book too much far to a point you *destroy* ur relationship...

I am not saying I will use those advices in the book on my next girl to make her run after me... I will always be a gentlemen and i will always treat her right... given she do the same...

I am giving this book 4 stars because, this book will work for both men and women... but you need not to take it that far... A relationship is all about GIVE and TAKE...

I am a guy, I read this book and I do find this book very helpful. however I would like to share my experience... my girl and I broke up after 4 years of a relationship... the first three years, we had the most romantic un-conditional love relation... we both was so in love to a point if I call sky is Yellow she would agree to me, and if she call the sky red I would agree the same... both of us used to do everything to make eachother happy... she knows what I dont like therefore she never come close doing anything I dont like... yes... I was the same as well by all means...

and suddenly (during the last year in our relationship) she started to change... it feels like she read this BOOK! or someone brain-wash her thinking... like someone started to tell her to ignore me or to start being stubborn because they can see how much in love at me she was.... she started to be stubborn and suddenly she started to show me that I am a second in her life... not as important as before... her friends and her work is what important!!!!! I dont mind that, but not to the point that she start to disrespect me!

and yes, it worked for her so well that I start chasing her!!!! and she becoming more and more stubborn... not to mention the way she started taking a great use of me...

I started to complain why she changed... but no answer!!! so we started to fight and argue all time to a point she also got sick of me

after one year of suffering, I decided to move on... yes I left her with her new attitude....

did I mention she asked me back (after one month), begging me to give her a new chance???

I asked her why all this happened? she admitted that she started to behave stubborn just to prove her self strong!!!

I did not accept her back and asked her to move on... yes, I am still in love with her, I wanted to live the rest of my life with her because she is the type of person I want to be with... but not to a point I become her slave and keep getting hurt because I love her! I wish we are back together, but she went down from my eyes and I dont see her my dream girl anymore.

WHY ON EARTH SHOULD A RELATIONSHIP GET INTO THIS DARK TUNNEL?

this is a great book... I read it...

but an advice to all girls... dont take it too much far to a point your *destroy* a relationship... I am not saying I will use those tricks on my next girl to make her run after me... I will always be a gentlemen and i will always treat her right... given she do the same...

I am giving this book 4 stars because, this book will work for both men and women... but you need not to take it that far... A relationship is all about GIVE and TAKE... not becoming a demanding receiver.

It's not about being a bitch, but about looking out for yourself, and NOT being a doormat. Simple theory, but something we women seem to forget. A must-read for women, and a re-read to remind us that we need to have our own lives FIRST and foremost. It's not about playing games. It's about demanding respect.

The alternate titles of this book could be "What men really want," or "Appreciate yourself and he will appreciate you too," But it wouldn't sell.

This is NOT a book about games or manipulation. It's about creating and maintaining chemistry in relationships as new as 10 minutes and as old as 90 years.

This is a very honest book that women need to read. This isn't a bag of tricks. This is old fashioned advice that simply takes into account what men really want and what women need to remember. This is the sage advice your great grandmother gave to your grandmother. Men want a woman to remain interesting and women need to remember to value themselves for who they are. That's the real message in this book. Argov words it in a way that is marketable, and using the word 'bitch' gets your attention. She explains what men find interesting in women and how that goes hand in hand with a woman valuing herself for exactly who she is and not comparing herself to media generated ideals and unrealistic standards.

A man really wants a woman with a spine, according to this book. He wants a woman who is comfortable in her own skin and values herself. This book covers, without explaining, how women are socially conditioned to try to please men in ways that only please them for a few minutes.

The first 8 pages of this book were very off-putting to me. I found them insulting because they describe a kind of profoundly insecure woman I have never been. (I'm the fiercely independent type) I was flipping through the pages of the book at a friends house, wondering if I should read it. But I slammed the book down by page 8, disgusted. After many months and more encouragement from her to read the book, I gave in and bought it. I nearly slammed the book down by page 8 again because I was so insulted. But because I PAID for this book, I read on. By page 10 I was interested. By chapter 2, I was hooked. Argov got my attention because she started to explain how even strong ,secure women who do things right up front, make mistakes and lose men after the relationship gets going because she doesn't understand what the man really needs and the woman becomes too nice and self sacrificing.
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The book states and restates that a woman's value is simply in what she believes is valuable about herself and that is what men really want.

Have you ever noticed that they guys you are not romantically interested in follow you around like lost puppy dogs, but the ones you want run like the wind? You know why? You act very differently toward them. You don't give much thought to the one and other you're all starry eyed over.

This book is funny and right on target. My friends and I have read this book and are now stating a discussion group. If you're interested in joining, feel free to contact me.

Though I've been happily married for 20 years, I was a dum-dum for most of my dating life and did all the "doormat" things that Ms. Argov talks about -- and got dumped over and over and over, never understanding why. Fortunately my husband likes "nice girls" and was happy to have a woman who gave her love freely and didn't play games -- but, alas, I think most men are more like Argov says, wanting the challenge, the chase, etc. and definitely devaluing you if you're too available. I think all hetero girls of dating age should read this! And it's funny to boot. The directions on faking an orgasm made me howl.

I used to work at Barnes & Noble and one day as I was shelving books, I noticed this book on the shelf. My first reaction was how could someone write this??? How could someone conceive that Men loved Bitches, this makes No Sense. However, I couldn't resist opening the book and flipping through some pages. To my amazement, it was filled with a vast amount of good advice and it made alot of sense. I couldn't help but buy the book, despite the funny looks I got from my co-workers at the front desk.

I am glad I bought this book, and I believe the title had to alot to do with it getting my attention. Well, first of all let me explain to you that when the author used the word Bitch, she is not referring to a rude or abrasive woman. She is referring to a woman, who is sweet yet has confidence, goals, dignity, and has a backbone. The author describes the word BITCH as Babe in Total Control of Herself.

This book is filled with alot of advice to women who want have a successful relationship. I love this book and I love the author's style of writing, she has the ability to offer important advice and put a funny spin on it that will make you want to continue reading. This is a book you will read and want to come back and reread. It's worth the money.

And lastly let me state this book is not about playing games with man. This is about women knowing what their worth and not overcompensating. Most importantly it explains how a balance must be established and that a relationship must one in both people(give and take).On the other hand,a relationship where only one person does all the giving,just leads to the build up of resentment, which is always proves problamatic. It about women setting up their standards, and learning that they need to love and value themselves before someone else can do that for them. I hope you take the opportunity to enjoy this book as I have.

I used to work at Barnes & Noble and one day as I was shelving books, I noticed this book on the shelf. My first reaction was how could someone write this??? How could someone conceive that Men loved Bitches, this makes No Sense. However, I couldn't resist opening the book and flipping through some pages. To my amazement, it was filled with a vast amount of good advice and it made alot of sense. I couldn't help but buy despite the funny looks I got from my co-workers at the front desk.

I am glad I bought this book, and I believe the title had to alot with getting my attention. Well, first of all let me explain to you that when she used the word Bitch, she is not referring to a rude or abrasive woman. She is referring to a woman, who is sweet yet has confidence, goals, dignity, and has a backbone. The author describes the word BITCH as Babe in Total Control of Herself.

This book is filled with alot of advice to women who want have a successful relationship. I love this book and I love the author's style of writing, she has the ability to offer important advice and put a funny spin on it that will make want to continue reading. This is a book you will read and want to come back and reread. It's worth money.

And lastly let me state this book is not about playing games with man. This is about women knowing what their worth and not overcompensating. Most importantly it explains how a balance must be established. That a relationship must be (give and take) instead of a relationship where only one person does all the giving and this just leads to the build up of resentment. It about women setting up their standards, and learning that they need to love and value themselves before someone else can do that for them. I hope you take the opportunity to enjoy this book as I have.

Anyone who says this book is about playing games etc needs to re-read it, this is not what it is about. It is about me and a lot of women I know, strong women who attract the men they want and then cant understand when they run a mile a few months/a year down the line. Its about not losing yourself when you enter into a relationship. Its about putting yourself first and only being with a man because he brings something to your life and not giving up your life and friends for a man. Its about being kind and gentle with a man but not being a doormat. I would also highly recommend Women Ain't Bitches (Most of the Time): Smart Moves for Angels Who Want to Succeed in Love and Life

Exactly! He likes you the way you are - don't change, unless you've been constantly changing for him, then SLAP yourself and BE yourself and enjoy YOUR life, not the life you hope to bring to him to make him happy and not yourself. Life is SHORT. Why would you want to live any other way? You aren't his call girl and when's the last time YOU had an O? This is YOUR LIFE TOO. And, as Sherry says, he likes you better when he has to chase you. Even the most beautiful girl will lose a guy if she chases him (by doing everything for him). BORING!

Of course maintain yourself. But be there for yourself first, and do stuff for yourself first so you don't have to keep expecting him to be everything to you. Let him show you who he is, and see if that's what you need.

Sherry's book is awesome because it makes a woman feel GOOD about herself without actually harming a man. She explains things like when you complain on and on, he hears blah blha balsh... and YOU become the PROBLEM that he tries to avoid.

This book is great for keeping things fresh in a marriage too. WE so often forget to keep dating our spouses. NOT GOOD! Keep the fire burning. This book is a great little update.

And if you DON'T have a guy, quit trying so hard and go do things that you enjoy... and who knows... since you'll be enjoying yourself anyways, who cares if there is or isn't a cute eligible man at your next destination... you're having fun anyways! And a happy gal, is a sexy gal!

Be good to yourself and the rest will follow.

I've recommended and purchased this book for several friends. It is funny too!

I loved this book! It absolutely told me what I did wrong in my marriage for 7 years. I am now single and it has helped me stand up for myself and stop catering to everyone else. Not only am I more respected, I am more sought after as well. It's amazing. I feel better about myself and I'm not as worn out doing things for every one else. I reccommend this book to any woman not just for dating but for life in general.!!!

BELIEVE IT OR NOT ... AS SAVVY AS I THOUGHT I WAS ... JEEZ ... I WAS GUILTY OF SO MANY OF THESE DONT'S WHEN I USED TO CARE. THE TRIP OF IT IS ... I GAVE IT TO MY NEPHEWS AND THEY LOVE IT BECAUSE SOMETIMES MEN CAN BE DOORMATS AS WELL. I GUESS WOMEN ARE DOORMATS AND MEN ARE CARPETERIA! XOXOOXOX

If I ever sniff out a chick following a "planned strategy" or seemingly intentionally being disinterested, she gets tossed. No guy with any type of game should accept any drama. For you girls that rock the boat, thats the easiest way to fall out of it or get kicked out of it.

Nice try, but girls need to trust their instincts, not the advice of an author no self respecting guy would even date.

For the most part I liked this book. I love the sarcastic title, I think she's trying to redefine what a bitch is, however to me, a bitch will always be someone that hurts others on purpose. I really loved her message which is what I took with me. Don't be a doormat, have your own life, live your life because life doesn't start when you meet that great guy.

However, I disliked the dumb fox chapter. I don't want to pretend to be a dumb chick for any guy. She gave one example where the girl lied to her husband about getting a maid, the girl told her husband she was getting her once a month, when she was actually getting her once a week. I can relate because I don't like to do housework and I don't like to cook.

Its just not within me, in that case they should have just talked about it. In a relationship, I want to be able to speak my mind freely. I don't want to hide that I have groceries delivered or that I have a maid come in if I choose to do that.

In another chapter she goes on to say that you shouldn't nag. I agree. Nagging is like being a dude's mom. Not interested. I ain't his mama. She does give an example where several women get manipulative to get a guy to move and do whatever she wants to get done. Like asking the single dad across the street to carpool their kids. That's just not cool. Come on.

I also don't want to act like a dumb little girl who knows nothing just to make a guy feel good. No way. I want to be the girlfriend who makes the guy feel good without having to dumb myself down. So yeah I agree with some things that she said though I don't think its anything groundbreaking. Just some common sense stuff that women need to hear now and again.

The rest I'm going to chuck just because it doesn't make sense. You have to do that with anything you come across in life. She's also right about having financial independence. This is something that I had to learn the hard way. It doesn't matter if your parents or guy support you, if they see you buying $200 dollar shoes with their money, they're going to get annoyed.

Its just better to hold down a job even if you don't like it, buy whatever you like, and no one can complain what you did with it. And if you're ever told you are getting divorced or left by your man, then you can be comfortable knowing you can take care of yourself. And you know you can leave too if you become unhappy in your relationship.

Anyone who's interested in this or any other relationship or self-help book, just use your common sense. Don't be manipulative just to get a guy to do something, I'm sure you wouldn't want him to manipulate you.

the title might be a little harsh ....but I found the advice inside refreshing and honest ...I loved the book ! I would highly reccomend for all the single gals out there looking for mr right ....good tips for winning his heart :-)

This was the first of two books that I read regarding this subject. The other was "Why Men Marry Bitches". I was recently dumped for pretty much being the "nice girl" mentioned in this book. This book is awesome. It changed my thinking on how I interact with the opposite sex. I'm really not big on self-help books but I've already read it twice and have sections highlighted.

I was dating a woman who all of the sudden starting acting like she didn't care, that she just wasn't interested. I responded the way book said I would. The problem was that I actually cared about her, so when she seemed upset or uninterested I attempted to correct the situation. I guess this taught her a lesson - Act like a B*itch and get what you want. That didn't last long at all. A week went by and She finally got around to calling me to inquire as to why I hadn't called her. I told her politely and honestly that she seemed uninterested and I didn't enjoy spending time with her anymore, she just seemed to have no respect for me and was acting rather childish. Another week went by and she called to confess this book (which led me here), and to apologize. She was sorry and wanted things to "go back to the way they were". Too little, too late, too bad. She just proved herself to be selfish and manipulative (not to mention stupid for believing this crap). You can learn not to be selfish and manipulative, but you can't cure stupid. I told her it was deceitful behavior on the same level as lying. That if there were a problem with our relationship and she wasn't getting what she wanted, then she should have talked to me about it. We could have tried to work things out and if it was unworkable, we could try again or part ways civilly.

Treating a man like crap as a means of conning him into getting what you want, is exactly what kind of foundation for a serious relationship?

I told her that she succeeded in changing me, that was for sure. I went from someone who cared about her to someone that didn't give a damn.

So in the spirit of making money by destroying relationships, I'll offer some advice.

When the person you're in a relationship with enjoys your company and attempts to spend time with you - Act uninterested or b*tch your way into doing something you know for a fact he isn't going to enjoy. Since he cares about you and wants you to be happy he'll do it, but keep doing this until he realizes that you really aren't interested and really are a B*tch. That way you can buy my self-help book about dealing with loneliness and depression.

That'll be $19.95.

I was dating a woman who all of the sudden starting acting like she didn't care, that she just wasn't interested. I responded the way book said I would. The problem was that I actually cared about her, so when she seemed upset or uninterested I attempted to correct the situation. I guess this taught her a lesson - Act like a B*itch and get what you want. That didn't last long at all. A week went by and She finally got around to calling me to inquire as to why I hadn't called her. I told her politely and honestly that she seemed uninterested and I didn't enjoy spending time with her anymore, she just seemed to have no respect for me and was acting rather childish. Another week went by and she called to confess this book (which led me here), and to apologize. She was sorry and wanted things to "go back to the way they were". Too little, too late, too bad. She just proved herself to be selfish and manipulative (not to mention stupid for believing this crap). You can learn not to be selfish and manipulative, but you can't cure stupid. I told her it was deceitful behavior on the same level as lying. That if there were a problem with our relationship and she wasn't getting what she wanted, then she should have talked to me about it. We could have tried to work things out and if it was unworkable, we could try again or part ways civilly.

Treating a man like crap as a means of conning him into getting what you want, is exactly what kind of foundation for a serious relationship?

I told her that she succeeded in changing me, that was for sure. I went from someone who cared about her to someone that didn't give a damn.

So in the spirit of making money by destroying relationships, I'll offer some advice.

When the person you're in a relationship with enjoys your company and attempts to spend time with you - Act uninterested or b*tch your way into doing something you know for a fact he isn't going to enjoy. Since he cares about you and wants you to be happy he'll do it, but keep doing this until he realizes that you really aren't interested and really are a B*tch. That way you can buy my self-help book about dealing with loneliness and depression.

That'll be $19.95.

The reason I gave this book 4 stars is that it is extremely funny. In the first few pages you read a recipe for making popcorn, even down to using a spatula and potholders to get it out of the microwave because its so hot. After making this delicious dish, your man will not expect you to cook again. It was hillarious. There was also a lot of helpful tips from experience in the reading material. The thing that I didnt like is it made women seem superior. I am a woman myself, and we would like to think we are the most splendid creatures, but I never want to think of myself as better than him because we are equal creatures. I guess I am what she refers to as "nice" and some points of that will change and perhaps my relationship will continue to grow. But there are also points of ignoring him, if you lose him, someone else will come along, remain strong, all that stuff. I wont exactly beg him and plead with him to stay, but at the same time I wont paint my nails as he packs either. It was a great book, I just wouldnt recommend all of the tips it has to offer.

Just got my book a week and a half ago and I admit I was a bit skeptical because I believe in playing mindgames. This is the first book of its kind that I've ever bought and I don't think I'll need to get another. This book is great. The suggestions are practical and simple and I'm already seeing results! This book is a must read for any woman who's too nice and feels as if she's being taken for granted! This is not about being mean - it's about having dignity, a healthy self-concept and self-worth and being feminine without feeling like you're being a maid, mother or a doormat.

I absoulutely loved this book!!! Its relaxed tone and sarcastic sense of humor makes it very easy and entertaining to read. There are several issues that I would like to comment in depth:

1. It's really easy for you to actually learn a lot from it, because the author provides many tips with examples of specific actions that will help you achieve specific results. For example, Argov suggest that a woman who recently started dating a man should remain mysterious and a little unavailable from time to time, without giving the impression of not being interested in him. But the author is really effective in reinforcing her tip by providing very clear examples like the following (this is NOT a direct quote, but a similar idea to the examples in the book): "If you recently started dating someone, and on a given Friday you were hoping to see him at night, but he hasn't called to set a date, then make your on plans for the evening (don't wait until the very last minute to make other plans, hoping he might call) and if he calls at 8:30 pm asking to see you, nicely tell him that you already made plans (do not reschedule in order to see him), do not provide details about what your plans are, and let him know that you are free to see him on Saturday night instead". According to the author, this type of behavior lets a man know that you have your own life, that you are not available 24/7 for him, and you remain mysterious because you don't provide too many details about your life to someone you don't know that well yet. I love her technique because her tips are reinforced by examples of many different situations that occur in most relationships.

2. The book is nothing about playing games (and I respectfully disagree from other reviewers' opinions about this one). From the beginning of the book, the author establishes her general point of view. A woman should not put her life aside in order to spend all her time with a man. She should be herself, love herself and respect herself. But she should be an improved version of herself (because all humans make mistakes and all humans have room for improvement). She explains the areas where many women fail, with examples of certain kinds of conducts that give them unwanted results. Those examples are meant for women to see themselves mirrored in certain behaviors, understand its negative effects, and CHANGE them. She also provides examples of a bitch's typical behavior, which results in a much better response from men. These examples are not meant for women to learn them like a script and portray them in real life situations (THAT would be playing games). These examples are meant for women to compare their unwanted, "too-nice" behavior with a more effective bitch behavior, understand the different effects of each, and then take corrective action. When you are developing a new overall attitude about yourself and about your relationship, you will need to make some adjustments. At the beginning it will be sort of acted, because you are in a process of change (and it's not a change of personality, it's a change of certain behaviors). But when you have finally learned to be more confident and independent, you will start to value your own activities and your friends' companies, you will take more time for yourself (without your partner), and you will start acting like a "bitch" naturally.

Therefore, this book is not about playing games, is about self improvement. Playing games would be lying to your date by saying you cant see him because you have plans. This book doesnt tell you to do that. This book tells you not to wait all day for your date or bf to call, make plans, go out and live your life. If he appears at the last minute, that's his bad. You won't wait all day for a guy if he didn't have the courtesy to call you in advance to make plans. Why? Because you are busy; you have a family, friends, a job, and many hobbies. You value your time enough as not to waste a whole day waiting for a call when you have so many things to do. That's not playing games. That's just being responsible with your duties, and caring enough about your people to also book some time for them in your agenda, instead of saving all your time for your partner.

3. Finally, the term "bitch" is used to set a more relaxed, fun and sarcastic tone for the book. It makes you feel as if you were getting advice from one of your girlfriends. The author is clear about this. The book is not about being rude, treating men badly, or stepping on them. The book is about understanding the typical dating behavior of men and women, according to their nature. Men like to pursue, to compete; it's in their nature. Therefore, they react negatively to a woman who pleases them too much, too fast, from the very beginning of a relationship, because they are being pursued by her. The "bitch" (within the context of the book) is not a cruel, mean woman who treats him like a dog and enjoys watching him follow her around. The "bitch" is a polite, sweet woman, who is very confident of herself, and who values her life very much. That woman is willing to share her much valued time with a man, as long as he has demonstrated that he is respectful and appreciative of her. When a bitch (again, within the context of the book), finds a man like that, she is also grateful and appreciative of all the time and effort he puts in the relationship, and she reciprocates. But a "bitch" stands up for herself, and doesn't accept disrespect from a man. She is more than willing to walk away from a man who tries to treat her like a doormat.

So far, Argov's "bitches" books are the best dating books I have read. In the past, I used to make the very same mistakes of the "nice girl", and got the very same results she describes. When I began dating my current boyfriend, I read it and started applying everything I learned from it, not as a set of rules for playing games, but as a general change of attitude toward my relationships. It worked amazingly well. We have been dating for almost 2 years, and have a great relationship so far. I still have my copy of the book, and go through it from time to time, because some behavior changes are harder than others and require more reinforcement. I would give this book 6 stars if I could.

Every woman should read this book. Ladies, it's back to basics time. This books repeats everything your mother told, or should have told you, when you first started dating. There's a reason for this... the advice is great and it works. If you want to regain control of your dating life, feel good about yourself and stop waiting by the telephone, buy it. Another must have that you should not miss is How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
Both books have great information that will be helpful for every woman!

I found this book by accident and gave it to my girlfriend when she was going through a bad breakup, and it put her right back on her feet! She raved about it so much that I just had to get one for myself and I absolutely LOVED it.

IMPORTANT: No, this book is not about playing games, and if that's the only thing you learn from it, then you should read it more carefully with your brain lamp turned on. It's teaches you to be honest with yourself, to undestand what's important in life, and how to actualy BE happy.

Oh and it's funny as hell!

The first couple of pages actually made me say "holy crap" out loud. Those couple of pages summerized my life!! I can honestly say that this book is a must read for any woman!! I wish I had read this book 10 years ago when I started dating, it would have saved me so much agony!!

I will certainly be giving this book to my daughter, so she will not make the same mistakes I did!!

YOU MUST READ THIS BOOK:o)