What's the Big Secret? : Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys

  Author:    Laurie Krasny Brown
  ISBN:    0316101834
  Sales Rank:    10084
  Published:    2000-04-01
  Publisher:    Marc Brown
  # Pages:    32
  Binding:    Paperback
  Avg. Rating:    4.0 based on 25 reviews
  Used Offers:    15 from $2.86
  Amazon Price:    $6.99
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What's the Big Secret? : Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys
  
"If you're having trouble talking to your children about sex--knowing what to say and when to say it--then here is the book for you.The talented team who created the acclaimed Dino Life Guides for Families is ready to help. With characteristic sensitivity, they present answers to tough questions.Here is an introduction to sex along with the ways girls and boys differ...and are the same.What's the Big Secret is the beginning of one of the most important conversations you and your child will have."
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08-14-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Birds + Bees + Kids Pick!
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A great book for kids 5 and under, it covers the basic information kids need to know about how babies are made, okay/not okay touches and families. Its fun cartoon illustrations make it an engaging read for the preschool set.

I love the drawings of naked boys and girls that show how we are alike and different. At this age, kids are very curious about body parts, both public and private, and this book gives them a safe place to check out the opposite sex.

Remember to read it yourself before you read it to your kids - maybe even out loud. Saying "penis enters the vagina" gets easier the more times you say it!

(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-11-30 11:26:32 EST)
06-20-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Great Book!
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We purchased this book to read with our 10 1/2 year old. It's a very age appropriate book and a great introduction to the "birds and the bees". It gives just enough information without being overwhelming for little minds and it helps to open the door to communication with your kids abut sex. We highly recommend this book.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-21 07:37:10 EST)
05-21-08 1 0\1
(Hide Review...)  to much info
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I bought this book to explain sex to my 10 year old daughter. I read it first then hide it fast! I didn't let my daughter read it. The book was good until it talked about masturbation. It says, "Touching and rubbing your genitals to feel good is called masturbation." This is not something I want her to know about yet. It also says 'sexual intercourse feels wonderful.' Well, I don't want her to know that either. (I don't want to lie to the girl!) So the hunt is back on for the perfect sex book.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-06-21 08:47:36 EST)
04-14-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Great for explaining body changes to younger children
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This is a keeper and will be on our shelf for a long time. It's wonderful to see Marc Brown's familiar illustration style and Laurie Krasny's clear explanations of the mysteries of growing up. Great job and thank you!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-05-22 06:39:53 EST)
03-11-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Great Book- gave to my 8 year old son
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I had my son to read this book- I read thru it first, and then I gave it to him to read on his own. When he was finished, I asked if he had any questions, and opened the room for discussion. I feel this book was very helpful in answering everything he was curious about- it was just the right amount of straight forward, yet age appropriate information.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-04-14 20:10:16 EST)
03-07-08 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Nicely done
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WtBS handles a sensitive subject, well, sensitively. The book provides just enough detail about the mechanism of making a baby without being overwhelming for young ones. Your child will learn the actual physical acts involved.

Both my 6 and 4 year olds loved the book, though with varying degrees of comprehension. They request it as bedtime reading from time to time. This was the perfect book to use to answer my six year old's "How are babies made?"
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-03-13 13:26:51 EST)
12-11-07 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Not a secret any more
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We have 2 kids (girl and boy), ages 8 and 10. The book was good for both of them. Some laughs and giggles but the message got across to them both. Lots of appropriate pictures to help the message.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-03-06 23:38:08 EST)
07-23-07 5 4\4
(Hide Review...)  Just Right
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Just the right amount of information, without overwhelming parents or kids with too many medical terms, etc. I am a registered nurse with two boys, ages 7 and 9, and this book was a great starting point to our conversation about the birds and bees.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-11-02 07:48:13 EST)
06-27-07 5 1\1
(Hide Review...)  Perfect for reading with your tweeners!
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I love this book! I appreciate its matter-of-fact tone and the friendly, comfortable pictures, instantly recognizable as being drawn by Marc Brown, the author and illustrator of the Arthur series (very popular in our house). (The author of this book is Laurie Krasny Brown, his wife). I read it with my 8- and 10-year olds at the same time. There were some giggles, but also lots of interest, and good questions asked. My ten-year-old took it and read it again by himself when we finished. I was grateful to come across a book that so exactly suited my purposes, and would highly recommend this for helping with the "talk" with your tweeners. (Best for ages 7-12).

(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-07-23 02:52:18 EST)
05-14-07 5 2\2
(Hide Review...)  great intro to the facts of life
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I bought this book for my 5 yo who is starting to ask about the facts of life. We will read it together as the topics come up. It was helpful for me to just get some phrasing with which I was comfortable answering her. It does have one sentence that is a clear description of intercourse - since I think she's too young for that knowlege, we will just skip that sentence when reading to her (and she can read it herself when she is older).

Fun, friendly but sensible pictures and illustrations from Marc Brown (Arthur books).
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-07-08 08:00:32 EST)
01-03-07 4 3\3
(Hide Review...)  Cute book
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The book is quite cute, and very easy for my 7 year old to grasp. Make sure you preview the book first before you share it with your child. This way you can discuss it's content in your terms rather than reading word for word. If there is any part that your child is not ready for you can sort of skip over it and move on to the next part (if your child is very young).
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-07-08 08:00:32 EST)
11-10-06 4 1\1
(Hide Review...)  Great introductory book...
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Very cute book...my six year old little girl came to me with questions about sex and I was COMPLETELY caught off guard. I didn't expect these questions until MUCH later. I researched available books to help me introduce "the talk" to her and came across this book. When it arrived we sat and read the book together and I think I was more uncomfortable than she was! She took to it right away and was definitely more interested about learning about the inside of HER body than anything else. This book touches pretty much everything (maybe a little too much...[...])and keeps the language and the concepts very simple. I think this is a great introductory book for young children.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-06-23 13:44:28 EST)
11-10-06 5 2\3
(Hide Review...)  very good teaching tool
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i purchased this book to help guide and facilitate our discussion on sex and all the things related to the topic. as a parent i felt that it was very tactful and purposeful in it's discussion. it bridged somethings that were important but maybe not in the forefront in our thought processes. i also feel this is more a book for family use and not as appropriate for institutional use due to the depth of the subject matter.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-07-08 08:00:32 EST)
11-09-06 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Great introductory book...
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Very cute book...my six year old little girl came to me with questions about sex and I was COMPLETELY caught off guard. I didn't expect these questions until MUCH later. I researched available books to help me introduce "the talk" to her and came across this book. When it arrived we sat and read the book together and I think I was more uncomfortable than she was! She took to it right away and was definitely more interested about learning about the inside of HER body than anything else. This book touches pretty much everything (maybe a little too much...[...])and keeps the language and the concepts very simple. I think this is a great introductory book for young children.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-01-04 22:14:13 EST)
03-21-06 4 10\10
(Hide Review...)  Good book for 4 year olds
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My daughter has been asking more and more questions about the differences between boys and girls and about how babies grow (due in part to the number of family members who are currently pregnant). We answer her very frankly, and she seems satisfied with our responses; however, we thought it might be a good idea to read her a book that could perhaps show her some illustrations and present some information we might not have addressed fully, to clarify a little more.

This book is a pretty good attempt. While, I would have liked to have seen some more illustrations (sperm fertizing egg, the various stages of baby), and more detailed information on such issues as how twins are made, birth defects, c-sections, and more info about what occurs during a period; overall, I think this book is the best out there for her age. "Amazing You: Getting Smart About Your Private Parts" by Gail Saltz seemed too vague, and geared to younger children, and "It's So Amazing! A Book About Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families" by Robie H. Harris seemed a bit too in depth for my daughter.

I think "What's the Big Secret" works well for the preschool group. The illustrations are whimiscal, and it's written in a way that appeals to young kids. My daughter really seemed to like it.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-07-08 08:00:32 EST)
03-20-06 4 6\6
(Hide Review...)  Good book for 4 year olds
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My daughter has been asking more and more questions about the differences between boys and girls and about how babies grow (due in part to the number of family members who are currently pregnant). We answer her very frankly, and she seems satisfied with our responses; however, we thought it might be a good idea to read her a book that could perhaps show her some illustrations and present some information we might not have addressed fully, to clarify a little more.

This book is a pretty good attempt. While, I would have liked to have seen some more illustrations (sperm fertizing egg, the various stages of baby), and more detailed information on such issues as how twins are made, birth defects, c-sections, and more info about what occurs during a period; overall, I think this book is the best out there for her age. "Amazing You: Getting Smart About Your Private Parts" by Gail Saltz seemed too vague, and geared to younger children, and "It's So Amazing! A Book About Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families" by Robie H. Harris seemed a bit too in depth for my daughter.

I think "What's the Big Secret" works well for the preschool group. The illustrations are whimiscal, and it's written in a way that appeals to young kids. My daughter really seemed to like it.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-11-09 19:23:26 EST)
02-26-06 5 2\2
(Hide Review...)  Great introductory book for 4-9 year olds
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I read this book to each of my 3 kids when they were about 5 years old. All of them had lots of questions and the book was written just at their level; not too much information but enough so that they understood. I think it's a great book to start with!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-02 18:31:02 EST)
12-13-05 5 13\13
(Hide Review...)  Great!
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This is a wonderfully illustrated, easy to understand, easy to read, unintimidating book. It's intended audience is Pre-School thru Grade 3 which I feel is critical information for anyone looking into buying this book. It is a wonderful book for those parents who want their children to learn at an early age the correct names of body parts and the basics of where babies come from. This book has been on my children's (ages 4-9) book shelf since the oldest one was two years old! It sits on the shelf right along-side all the other 100's of bedtime books. They go back to it time and time again either to read to themselves or to be read to. From the start they learned the accurate words for body parts, understand the basics, and take in more and more information/digest the information as they grow older. As the oldest (9) has questions she openly asks them. I either go over it again from the book or we talk openly. Parents who wait to discuss the topics until age 9 will find this book to be an untimidating first book -- very good. As the children grow older (puberty thru teens) I intend to add more detailed (less cartoonish illustrations) books to our discussions.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-06-23 13:44:28 EST)
12-12-05 5 8\8
(Hide Review...)  Great!
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This is a wonderfully illustrated, easy to understand, easy to read, unintimidating book. It's intended audience is Pre-School thru Grade 3 which I feel is critical information for anyone looking into buying this book. It is a wonderful book for those parents who want their children to learn at an early age the correct names of body parts and the basics of where babies come from. This book has been on my children's (ages 4-9) book shelf since the oldest one was two years old! It sits on the shelf right along-side all the other 100's of bedtime books. They go back to it time and time again either to read to themselves or to be read to. From the start they learned the accurate words for body parts, understand the basics, and take in more and more information/digest the information as they grow older. As the oldest (9) has questions she openly asks them. I either go over it again from the book or we talk openly. Parents who wait to discuss the topics until age 9 will find this book to be an untimidating first book -- very good. As the children grow older (puberty thru teens) I intend to add more detailed (less cartoonish illustrations) books to our discussions.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-02 18:31:02 EST)
04-10-04 1 28\144
(Hide Review...)  Not for attachment parents!
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While this book is colorful and covers many common questions, it is not for attachment parents - or any parent who wants to teach her child a more natural parenting approach.

It does have one breastfeeding picture, but it also includes pictures of baby bottles and a baby bottle-feeding, newborns in a hospital nursery, a hospital birth with the mom lying on her back (which is very difficult and can lead to unnecessary Caesareans), and a newborn crying (which is not really natural, and rarely happens in a waterbirth), and a bit of rudeness (a child calling another child "silly").

The book also states that puberty can start at "ten or twelve or fourteen" but many children are starting earlier these days (possibly from the growth hormones in cow's milk, a good reason to switch to organic milk), and they may feel worried if they read that statement.

Two better books are Welcome With Love by Jenni Overend and A Child Is Born by Lennart Nilsson.

(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-02 18:31:02 EST)
01-15-04 5 22\22
(Hide Review...)  GREAT for my young step-daughter
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I bought this book for my 6 year old step-daughter. She's started asking questions about what a boy looks like and why I won't be having a baby with her daddy (she thinks it just happens because you get married). The pictures in this book are just right for a 6 year old, and there isn't too much information. It certainly settled her "need to know" crisis, and The "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" incident on the playground that I had a nightmare about.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-02 18:31:02 EST)
09-03-03 5 30\31
(Hide Review...)  Very good
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I read this with my 8 year old daughter. She loved the book, and understood the information without being embarrassed. I really liked how it explained the differences between good, loving touches; and bad, uncomfortable touches. I would say this book is best for children over the age of 6. It may be too advanced for the younger ones.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-02 18:31:02 EST)
06-18-03 5 38\40
(Hide Review...)  Great book but not really for kids under 7....
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Last summer I read this book to my then just turned 7 & just turned 4 yr old and the youngest was completely clueless as to what I trying to get across. The oldest understood somewhat, wasn't all that interested, but still managed to let a few giggles out. She took the book and read it herself. When I later asked her if she had any questions for me, she had none but commented that it was "embarrassing". The book was put away to age a little longer....
Earlier this week I re-read the book to both of them, now almost 5 and almost 8. The 5 yr old is still clueless and bored with all of it. The 8 yr old seemed a bit more interested and less embarrassed. She took the book and again read it to herself and asked a few "why" questions but nothing I couldn't handle.
In my opinion, this book is great for 7 - 10 yr olds (1st - 3rd grade), not the pre-school - grade 3 that it is catagorized. Enough for 7 - 10 yr olds to comprehend and enough for this age to know. Not overwhelming in technical terms or detail nor is it written in baby terms. I agree with a previous reviewer. When the teen years arrive, more information, terms & detail will need to be divulged but for this pre-teen age. For pre-teens, this book is perfect.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-02 18:31:02 EST)
03-29-03 4 16\16
(Hide Review...)  Very helpful book for younger kids already asking questions
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I bought this book for my eight year old son who was already posing questions like, "What is sex ?". I found the book informative enough to answer his innocent questions, yet delicate enough to address when talking about sex is appropriate and who to talk to if you have more questions than the book answers. We gave our son a week to look over the book and read it several times. At the end of the week, both his father and I sat down with him to answer any questions he might still have. To our delight, the only question remaining in his mind was how to pronounce the word...
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-02 18:31:02 EST)
01-04-02 4 8\8
(Hide Review...)  Good balance
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I read this book to 2 10-year olds who were pretty naive. They "got it", without being too embarrassed. It handles all topics appropriately, and gives both reader and listener a few moments for laughter to break up the big news.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-02 18:31:02 EST)
05-16-01 4 15\15
(Hide Review...)  Great for Kids Under 10
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I felt this book was excellent for kids not yet the age of puberty. It gives enough information, without overwhelming them. I like the fact that it describes "the facts of life" without being to explicit for this tender age. You want to inform your curious kids in a humorous and not too technical way, and this book fits the bill. When puberty hits, then another book would be better suited to explain their bodily changes and provide more detail at the age they can best handle it.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-02 18:31:02 EST)
05-17-00 4 22\22
(Hide Review...)  My 7 year old son loved it!
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I read this to my seven year old son who enjoyed the pictures and the humor and the facts. It was a comfortable book to read and it sparked a lot of questions and conversation. I would definitely recommend it to the 5-7 year old age group.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-03-19 12:56:59 EST)
  
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