This book really is all it says it is. The author hits it on the head and really captures what I've been thinking all these years I've been struggling with this issue. I have been to a few therapists over the years and gave up because I thought I was alone in my problem, so I am releived to find out I'm not alone and not crazy, either! The advice in this book is not only for sex, either, it works for regular relationship issues, too. Highly recommended.

This book really gave me a boost. It also helped me see that I don't always handle this situation the best way. I am going to re-read it and ask my husband to read it too. It really is a guide for couples, just like the title suggests.
I also recommend my favorite book I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

This book really gave me a boost. It also helped me see that I don't always handle this situation the best way. I am going to re-read it and ask my husband to read it too. It really is a guide for couples, just like the title suggests.
I also recommend my favorite book I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

This is a good book, if you are having trouble in the bedroom. My husband and I like to try different things, read books & even taking enhancement products to spice up our sex life. These are some of the products that we have tried vicerex, viapro + maxoderm Vivaxa, Zencore Plus, maxidus. They are very good product. But By far,Double V - Vazogel & Virectin Sex Enhancement COMBO is edible, orgasm-inducing, all-natural, ionized water-based gel for him and her, and 12 pills bottle that works very instantly as well. It is very powerful combination compare just pills itself alone. This is the best we have ever used. Awsome! You got to try it out for yourself.

This book can be a little redundant at times but still delivers great information. There are so many examples of things that are probably happening in your relationship right now (if you've been married as long as I have) that you'll find yourself saying, "That's me"! My wife and I are very different from each other regarding physical needs and this book helped open our eyes to the negative issues preventing intimacy. Nobody's perfect and there's still lots of work to do but at least this book got the dialog going in a positive direction.

This writer takes a practical view toward sex in marriage. It is ridiculous to expect people who have been married to experience fireworks everytime they make love. It is not only ridiculous, but unrealistic. That's why I appreciated the information in this book. Sex (or desire) is, like love, a choice that we make. If we choose to make love to our husband or wife, the desire will follow. What a marvelous concept! Finally, some usuable information about marital sex. If you want to become even more intimate with your spouse, I would also recommend Was that an earthquake? The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex. It will make a huge difference in your marital sexual satisfaction.

Excellent book. This book hit my relationship dead-on!!! I just hope my husband really takes the time to read it....yeah right! lol. Either way, quick delivery, excellent service, oustanding book. Thanks a bunch!

Great book. She gives suggestions on how to improve your marriage and also lets you know that you are not alone. As a woman, it was reassuring to me to know that I am normal to want sex in my marriage.

My husband and I went to through a dry patch. He was stressed by our financial situations and kind of put our love life in the back seat. The stories taught me that the higher sexed individual just wanted to get things back to what it used to be but didn't really listen to the spouse. I figured that if I let my husband rest and show him how much I cared, he would come around and we'd be together. It took a while but it worked. Now we're great, relationships are stressful sometimes and just because you're a couple doesn't mean you're the same person. We feel and react to things differently. We should put ourselves in the other person's shoes and be understanding.

This is the best relationship book I have ever read. My wife and I have argued about sex for years. I read about this book in an article somewhere, then I found the author's website and read more about it. It sounded good so I went and bought it. I read it cover to cover in a few hours. I couldn't believe how the author nailed our situation completely. I have been wanting more sex than my wife and she has been totally insensitive to me and my needs. She also hasn't had a clue as to why sex is so important to me. I want to feel closer to her and I want her to want me. She's been clueless. I really wanted her to read this book but I was sure she wouldn't. This isn't a problem for her...it's my problem. But for some reason, she was willing to read this book, at least parts of it and she totally understood where I was coming from. Although I don't expect miracles, she has been a lot more receptive to being physical. It's pretty hard to believe this could happen from reading a book, but it has. I hope it lasts. But in the mean time, I am so grateful I found this book. I highly recommend it to any couple whose sex drives don't match.

This is mostly a "Just do it" book. Its a quick read that flows well and gives you the information you need. The only thing it didn't get right for me was taking into consideration that some people have had a lot of sex before the start of a long term relationship... then it pitters out in the long haul. However the information given on how many people feel during the lack of desire times was great.
Focuses on both the low desire partner and the higher desire partner well.

I was very frustrated and hopeless about my marriage but after reading this book I started looking at it differently, started changing myself and now I am very optimistic that it will be fine. Greatest self-help book I ever read.

Marina Kushner
Author
The Truth About Caffeine: How Companies That Promote It Deceive Us and What We Can Do about It

Let me start off as saying this book contains a lot of common sense philosophies of weight loss and overall good health. Drink lots of water, eat real foods, as opposed to processed junk foods. Always go for fresh vegetables instead of canned, etc. I agree with that wholeheartedly. The book's idea is very pure and simple, and it brings up some very valid points of other causes for weight gain or other common maladities that might besides overeating or lack of exercise, such as thyroid problems, hormonal imbalances, lack of sleep, undiagnosed allergies, etc. So for those reasons, I would recommend the book.

Even if you don't take all of the advice to heart, I think its an educational book and I am altering some of my habits based on the advice in the book. Some negatives of the book are, I found he could be a little redundant in his writing (I skimmed over parts that were getting repetitive) and the more I read, the more it became apparent that to follow his program to the letter would require a big committment - the books says everything from teflon in cookware to pesticides in foods can cause toxic reactions that can cause weight gain.

While I don't disagree with that, it got to be a little depressing reading that so many things in our enviroment could be poisoning us and causing various health problems, including weight gain. That said, just because it can be a little depressing, does not mean it shouldn't be something of which we are blissfuly ignorant. But I find that this would be a program that requires a big commitment and it would require some sacrifice. I think if you are overweight, the one thing that you should check out in this book are some tests Dr. Hyman recommends you request your doctor to perform to make sure there are not some hidden health problems which could be causing weight gain.

Marina Kushner
Author
The Truth About Caffeine: How Companies That Promote It Deceive Us and What We Can Do about It

Weiner's non-nonsense approach to marriage and sex was utterly refreshing. For those who are turned off by the title, this book isn't just about sex starvation-- it's about high libido and low libido, and how happiness in marriage takes effort.

Weiner states that while some couples are happy enough to be sexually matched, in most marriages there is a high libidio partner and a low libido partner. The best part about this book is that it doesn't assume men always want sex and women are always shoving them away-- there are some marriages where women are always initiating and men would rather have sex once in a blue moon.

That said, Weiner doesn't blame either partner for their sexual differences. She gives realistic help for both sides and emphasizes that marriage is WORK. Sexual attraction, even if you have it from the beginning, may change with age, stress, or other factors. It isn't up to you to blame your partner-- it's up to you to learn your spouse's love language.

I highly recommend this to every couple, especially newlyweds. You don't need a sex-starved marriage to pick out the pearls from this book.

brings to light issues that don't point fingers at someone but rather points out negative conditions that may be existing without the respective parties being aware of the influences at work!

brings to light issues that don't point fingers at someone but rather points out negative conditions that may be existing without the respective parties being aware of the influences at work!

This is one of the better low-sex-drive books out on the market. It helps the whole couple, not just focusing on the woman. Anyone having trouble in these areas, should read this book. It won't hurt. I read it along with "Reclaiming Your Sexual Self" and "Good Sex--a woman's guide".

This book was wonderful! Not only helpful for the intimate part of the marriage but for having a fantastic, caring marriage overall!! I would highly recommend it for either spouse.

This book was wonderful! Not only helpful for the intimate part of the marriage but for having a fantastic, caring marriage overall!! I would highly recommend it for either spouse.

I found this book so easy to read and it was as if they were speaking to me and knew exactly what the problem was.
If I could only get my boyfriend to read it...

Michele Weiner Davis' seventh marriage and relationship counseling book offers an honest, direct, and encouraging approach for couples who find themselves experiencing a low marriage libido. As an experienced marriage counselor, Davis utilizes The Sex-Starved Marriage to provide you with a straight-forward guide that confronts the issue of high-desire spouses, low-desire spouses, and how couples can work together to make certain that both partners have their needs fulfilled in a comfortable and satisfying way.

The Sex-Starved Marriage doesn't lump everybody into the same category. Davis recognized that every couple has its own physical and psychological issues which may cause sexual disruptions within the relationship.

She effectively allows you to relate with the lessons and techniques she describes, by using valuable quotes and anecdotes from her own counseling cases. This allows you to more realistically apply troubles with intimacy and relationship to your own situation.

It's Davis' claim that the heart of a relationship that is not functioning sexually can be the result of the evolution of many different problems such as:

* Low self-awareness
* Abuse
* Selfishness
* Fears of being seen as weird or peculiar
* Concerns about seeming unmanly
* Worries of being viewed as cold, unlovable, or unapproachable
* Feelings of unworthiness

This book faces these issues head on and shows couples how to establish expectations and goals that are more realistic, as well as how to develop more reasonable behavior signals so that the couple can work together to create positive signs and relationship progress.

Also examined are issues in a couple's communication patterns and strategies that can often leave one or both partners with feelings such as:

* Frustration
* Rejection
* Controlling
* Isolation
* Arguing behaviors
* Blaming

For couples experiencing such deficiencies in communication, Davis provides alternative methods of expression about sex. These methods include touching, kissing, foreplay, and other expressions of both emotional and physical closeness and originality.

The final chapter falls short of the overall strength and inspiration of the rest of the guide. However, the book is written in a fashion that is extremely clear and concise. The author gets to the meat of the issue and shows how to introduce a solution that will work for couples even when the partners have different sex drives. As you read this book, you will feel as though the author is truly empathizing with your situation and is providing workable answers for both partners in the "sex-starved" relationship. With such a perceptive guide, most couples should have the skills and motivation to add some fire to their own relationship.

You can get all the same advice in this book from women's magazines. No new insights.

This book has really helped me understand my husband.
I highly recommend it!

Deeper issues are at hand in a "sex-starved" marriage than Michele Weiner-Davis deals with in this book. In the vast majority of cases other than those dealing with physical problems (although it can occur here too), the root of a "sex-starved" marriage or relationship is a very real and very prominent disease called "Sexual Anorexia." Sexual Anorexia is the active withholding of emotions, feelings, affection, and sex. It is a form of control. Much like a Food Anorexic with eating, a Sexual Anorexic will starve a marriage and relationship of sex and physical affection for deeper emotional reasons and avoidance. (See below for the sources of these definitions.) Sexual Anorexia is not even mentioned in Weiner-Davis' book. For such a "comprehensive" book, this is a significant oversight and deletion.

Weiner-Davis devotes most of her pages to painting and describing various "sex-starved" scenarios, but offers minimal practical help and only cursory "scratch the surface" behavioral approaches to the problem. Reading these descriptions does offer a person a feeling of not being so alone. (Just look here at other reviews indicating a feeling of hope at the revelation that others are dealing with such difficulty.) The descriptions alone, though, do not leave one feeling hopeful about getting help. The book is so broad in its scope and soupy in its application that one comes away recognizing the problem but not really knowing how to get targeted help for it.

There is hope, and there are more in-depth, well-researched, targeted, and practical books. I would recommend any of the books by Dr. Douglas Weiss and Dr. Patrick Carnes found here on Amazon. Both men are forerunners in the research, study, and counseling of Sexual Anorexia. Their respective websites are www.sexaddict.com www.winningatmarriage.com and www.sexhelp.com You will find excellent information, explanation, definitions, resources, links, and contact numbers for help.

If you want a cursory explanation of what a marriage without sex looks like, purchase Weiner-Davis' book. If you want to go beyond that picture and get practical help, check out the doctors and resources above.

I have not read the entire book--only bits and pieces while at different book-stores. And I know why I am hesitating in purchasing it just yet: a. The marriage of the friends for whom I want to buy the book is at a very early stage, and maybe they dont need this book just yet.
b. But the bigger reason is the title of the book. Using the word 'starved' has made it appear as a one-sided book---a book only for those whose libido is high----whereas typically the low-libido person needs to read this book also, since s/he needs to u.stand how her/his insensitivity to the sexual needs of her/his partner, can be ruining an otherwise happy marriage.
The 'starved' seems to spell only the 'deprived' partner's state, whereas in as much as it takes 2 to tango (and make love), both people need to be addressed. Infact, inside the covers, the book does precisely that----its a very well written book, with equal sections for both the people. Thus it should be definitely a very useful book for both partners.
Maybe a title like: 'SEX-DEVOID MARRIAGE' sounds more neutral in its approach.

My husband begged me to read this after we had a baby. He was right that we weren't really at the same place just then. The writer doesn't use a lot of psychobabble and the gist is easy to understand and follow. Things won't magically get better overnight, but just recognizing our different needs has made it much better already.

I teared up as soon as I read into the first paragraph of the book (and then many times throughout), because it could not have been written any better. I felt the book was speaking for me, and it gave me a relief of knowing that I am not alone, and that somebody understands me.

I think that people who try to apply the advice from this book, and they immediately see positive results, are lucky. I am only hoping that my partner would read the book, and undertand how deeply I have been hurt over the years by being continuously rejected.

Thank you Ms. Davis for this true book!

P.S. The earlier one-star review is totally off the mark. I think it referred to some other book. This book has no discussion of sex techniques whatsoever.

Thanks for writing this book. I saw a lot of our relationship in the things you have written and over the past six months our sex life has improved dramatically thanks to the knowledge you have shared and the other book we bought, 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets which really made it a lot more fun and interesting for us.

FINALLY!!! I'm not alone!! After being married for 18 years...18 very lonely years, I found this book that describes my life. I finally realize that that there is nothing wrong with me...and I now better understand that my husband's complete lack of interest, is not intentional. What a wonderful book! It took me packing a bag and getting ready to leave to get my husband's attention enough to make him read the book as well. The next morning..he was a different man. I firmly believe that this book may be the tool that will save my marriage. This is a must read for all couples!!

"Show me a couple who has a mutually satisfying sexual relationship and I'll show you a couple I can pick out of a crowd. There's an almost visible bond between them-the gentle touches, knowing glances, laughter and warmth when their eyes meet. You can feel the connection between them." (Davis, p. 32)
How many couples miss this with their partner? Sex becomes a chronic source of tension in too many relationships. One partner has a high drive; the other one has a "leave me alone" attitude. Michele Davis offers excellent advice for those wanting to rekindle their sexual relationship and strengthen their marriage. She makes astute observations, such as noting the assumption many woman have that their husbands want sex because "having sex is like scratching an itch; it's a purely physical need." She continues,"I am convinced that one of the grossest misunderstandings about sex is the belief many women have that men desire sex because they just want, or better yet, need a physical release. It's true that men (and some women) love an occasional quickie without much emotional hoopla. However I've been privileged to hear men describe the way they really feel when their wives aren't' interested. And if you've assumed that your husband wants sex just to "get off," what I've heard will undoubtedly surprise you." (David, p. 56-7)
This book is an easy read, with plenty of relatable examples and excellent tips, i.e., sexy solutions. Davis has an excellent understanding of both partner's dilemmas and she bridges the understanding and communication gap that so often leads couples to divorce or to suffer unhappy marriages. She helps you recapture that mutually satisfying sexual relationship, and more broadly, that soulmate relationship, you may have lost with your partner.

I thought the problems were all my husband's because he was the one who was un-interested in sex. I thought everything was fine in our relationship except for our sex life. But when I read this book, I realized it was MY behaviors that caused our problems. I related to so many passages, and was frequently enlightened. I was so quick to blame him, but it was really myself who was to blame. I had never attributed the problems in our reltionship to the problems in the bedroom. Since reading this book, I have made many changes in my behavior and in my actions. My husband has commented several times about the changes I've made, and I can feel all the love and attraction coming back. We made love recently for the first time in months! I truly belive this book has been a vital step in saving my marriage and rekindling the love. THANK YOU Ms. Weiner Davis! I definintely recommend this book to others, and I will also shop for other books by this author.

I wouldn't recommend this book if you and your spouse are in a good relationship but want to improve your sex life. It is meant for distressed couples, or at least couples where one member is distressed. Neither my husband nor I could relate to the marriages/people described in the book. Weiner-Davis gives a nod to couples like us and suggests that it will be good for us too, but we didn't find much that applied to us. Given that most of the information from couples comes from her counseling experience, the direction is going to be skewed toward what is going on in the homes of unhappy couples. I'd like to hear from couples who are weathering this challenge, looking for and finding solutions without experiencing the high level of distress which shows up in this book. It's probably a pretty good book for the couples it is really intended for. So I gave it 3 stars.

This book will help any couple faced with different levels of sexual desires. No matter which side you are on there is relevant and useful information that will help put your life back in perspective. You will both stop playing the blame game and work together at a solution. I'm not going to say that this is an easy read, there are some things that will be like bitter medicine to swallow. But like any medicine it will help you in the end.

It's nice to have a book that addresses BOTH sides of the issue. So many other books I've consulted speak only to the partner with the lower desire. It may not be a perfect book, but it gives a more balanced approach than much of the other books that attempt to speak to the disparities in sexual desire.

This is a good starting place for a discussion between the partners in a relationship struggling with differences in their needs for physical intimacy.

I am a 38 year-old, attractive woman whose husband could care less about touching, caressing or making love to me. Until I read this book, I thought I had the only marriage in America that was a pretty much platonic. It's not that we have no sex, it's just that it is so infrequent (and always me that has to initiate) - that this makes me feel less than womanly. I don't want to spend the rest of my life in this kind of a marriage.

Now, after reading this book, I've learned that I am not alone and I am forever grateful for that. Even though other men still seem to be attracted to me, I had convinced myself that there must be something wrong with me. Now I don't think so anymore. I also learned that I've probably been doing all the wrong things to change the situation. I plan on changing my approach immediately. I get very angry and critical and I can now see how that turns my husband away. I feel much better already knowing that I have a plan. I highly recommend that anyone dealing with this issue in their marriage read this book. It's well-written and it will make you feel that the author has been hanging around your bedroom. For me, this book is a Godsend.

If you and your spouse have been fighting about sex, don't go another day without reading this book! It gets at the heart of why couples find themselves saying and doing the same old things and never resolving the differences they feel about sex and emotional intimacy. What a relief it is to finally understand our never-ending battle about sex. My wife and I, married for fourteen years, have spent the last seven debating about our sexual relationship. It's been incredibly frustrating. I plan on following the advice in the book immediately and I will keep my fingers crossed that I can get my wife to read it when I'm done.

In regards to the reviewer who said this book was about sexual techniques- WHAT???? I'm not sure what book he was reading, but it definitely wasn't this one. This book is NOT about sexual technique at all. It is primarily about the deep relationship and emotional issues that drive couples apart and what they can do to change things. It would be great if this book were distributed when couples apply for their marriage licenses. It could cut back on the divorce rate.

i am a 28 year old, reasonably attractive, successful woman. i've been married for less than a year. but for the past three years, my husband has been uninterested in sex with me. i assumed that once we got married and things settled down, he would feel enough trust to be intimate. i was wrong. because i've been thinking about this more and more, i bought this book in the hopes it might actually help out. i don't want to give up my marriage.

while i think the book provides excellent insight into the low sex drive female, advertisements to the contrary, it really does not provide enough helpful information to those of us women who are "over-sexed". i have already tried many of the suggestions given. they have not worked. i will say that this book did help me identity several unhelpful behaviors, which i will stop. but i realize my husband, who will not go to counseling and doesn't want to talk about it, will not change.

all in all, well-written, friendly, easy to read. also, great info for the higher sex drive man in terms of how to deal with a wife who is not so inclined. some of these points are transferable to the higher sexed woman. some are not. my sense from the book is that if you are a higher sex drive woman (or man really), your best bet is to try not to think about, find some hobbies and forget the sex stuff... even this book essentially argues that it is up to the lower sex partner to change. good luck.

I read both this book and its carbon copy, Rekindling Desire by Barry McCarthy, hoping to find some help for my own low-/no-sex marriage, and found absolutely none at all. They did not even begin to address my situation. They deal strictly with sexual techniques and completely avoid the deeper relational and emotional issues that drive couples, like me and my wife, apart. I would not recommend these books to anyone.

I am a skeptical, "glass half empty" kind of guy who has absolutely no use for self-help psychobabble written by "experts" for people who can't think or feel for themselves, or who don't have friends to talk to. These books are for people who call psychic hotlines. So could I really have had tears in my eyes as I read this book? Nah, must have been the allergies.

My marriage has been floundering for a while, and I have tried everything to fix it. I am not one of those people who thinks that problems in a relationship are the other person's fault, nor am I emotionally bottled up and unable to (more or less articulately) express my feelings. Yet my efforts, and my issues with my marriage, have consistently been ignored, dismissed and minimized. I was at the point of giving up and accepting that my marriage was just a loveless partnership for raising kids. Ever more distant from my wife, she finally started to recognise that there was a serious problem, but she thought that it was mostly with me. Then I found out about this book.

I don't know whether it will save my marriage, but it has definitely saved my sanity. If you are a person who needs way more sex than your spouse, or are the low desire spouse frustrated with constant badgering from your favorite sex maniac, this book will be like waking up from a bad dream. It will ring so true to you that it will feel like you've been spied on. You will hear your exact thoughts, as well as those of your spouse, precisely articulated. This book prescribes hard work and behavior changes for both spouses, and getting there requires commitment and persistence, but even if it doesn't save your marriage, it will make you feel so much better just knowing that someone understands.

Congratulations to Weiner-Davis for providing the best book on the market for couples where one feels strongly about needing sex and the other partner has a low sex drive. Extremely reassuring for women who have the stonger sex drive. Weiner-Davis provides the wisdom of an experience sex therapist without pages and pages of theory. Just straight talk on the realities of the disappointment, yet with options for creating a more satisfying relationship.

This book is a good-enough startin point for anyone suffering with a spouse who is disinterested in sex. But in my own case the overly intellectual approach was not enough to make the change I needed in my wife or in our sex-life together. After so many years of being married to a person, and with two kids, you think you know everything there is to know about sex and how to turn on the one you love. But that was naive of me. And when my younger brother suggested that I look into some sex-instruction materials as a way of heating things up between me and Agnes, at first I was insulted. But he gave me a dvd called "New Free Sex" which was totally different than I expected, not pornographic at all (but very informative), and then I followed up with a book by the same author "9 Free Secrets of New Sensual Power" -- and I learnd that I had been so wrong in my thinking. Sex is not a natural skill that one has and then that's it. Sexual excellence can be learned. And by improving my level of sexual excellence I experienced a definite unthawing in Agnes. We are actually making love a couple times a week, and breaking a sweat! But be forewarned -- a little knowledge is a dangerous thing, in that it kills apathy. Overall, I think there's value to be had in this Sex-Starved book, but it's not a cure-all or even encompassing enough to use without additional materials.

The Sex-Starved Marriage does an excellent job of explaining each partner's position in a sexually mis-matched marriage. The book was a real eye-opener and provided insight from each partner's perspective. As a low-desire partner, it helped me gain an understanding of how my rejections over the years have affected my spouse. It made me see that as the low-desire partner, I am always setting the pace. How fair is that? I disagree with the Editorial Review which stated that Michelle got too personal in the last chapter disclosing information about her own marriage. Her disclosure made her words have more meaning because she is not only speaking from experience of dealing with couples who faced this issue, but from her experience in her own marriage. I recommend this book for any couple interested in improving their relationship, both in bed and out. Don't wait till you have a problem to read it. If you are engaged to be married, read this book now to help you prevent problems later.

Finally! Someone is speaking the truth about men who just aren't interested. All you ever hear is that women aren't in the mood for sex. In my marriage of 28 years, it's always been my husband who has no interest in our sex life. This has been very painful and made even more painful by the fact that I have felt so alone. Because no one else talks about men not craving sex, I've spent that last 28 years wondering what's wrong with me! Now I know I'm not alone. This book really gave me a boost. It also helped me see that I don't always handle this situation the best way. I am going to re-read it and ask my husband to read it too. It really is a guide for couples, just like the title suggests. What a relief!

This is a fantastic guide for both partners, regardless of who is seen to have the "problem." The language is clear and forthright and she doesnt get bogged down in the technicalities like so many in her field do.

An excellent companion would be The Romantic's Guide by Michael Webb. I've found his tips and ideas really helpful in my marriage.

I purchased "The Sex-Starved Marriage" to use as a resource for a fictional book I'm writing which deals with this very issue. I recommend this book to any couple who is mismatched in the sexual desire arena. Not your typical how-to book, thank goodness, but a book that offers help for both partners. I'm passing it on to friends who are faced with the same situation.

Michele,

I just finished reading THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE. It's great and I will find it a helpful tool in my work as Director of Employee Assistance for AutoNation, Republic Services, Inc., Miami Dolphins and ProPlayer Stadium. I have already recommended it to many people. I have great response from people who are reading THE DIVORCE REMEDY. I detected what I think is a typographical error on page 198 in the first
paragraph of Afterglow in THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE. "In fact, research tells us that 69 percent of what couple in healthy marriages argue about is RESOLVABLE". I believe I heard you say UNRESOLVABLE in one of your presentations.

Keep up your good work!

This book is worth both the money spent and your time if you are facing difficulties with your relationship.
This is not the typical "how-to-book" so many of us spend our money on trying to come up with some type of plan to put our lives back together. This book is reality from both points of view.
What a wake-up call to be reading the pages and suddenly feel that someone has been seeing what is in your heart and in your thoughts.
This is a book I plan on reading several times just to learn and see more each time.

Where was this book ten years ago? My wife and I have been fighting about sex for over ten years. When we first got married, sex was great with each passing year, she wanted less and less. Our fights have gotten uglier because I've been so frustrated. I've suggested that she go to her doctor but her only response is that "its my problem." That's how our fights always end.

When I saw this book- great title, by the way- I bought it and read it in two days. The author describes what I've been feeling to a tee. I couldn't believe it. I asked my wife if she would read it too and she shocked me and said yes. I'm not sure what happened to her, but I can tell by her actions that the book is making an impression. She's been more affectionate and she even agreed to talk to a counselor. We're not out of the woods yet, but for the first time in a very, very long time, I have hope that things can get better and that I don't have to spend the rest of my life celibate.