Slowing Down to the Speed of Life: How To Create A More Peaceful, Simpler Life From the Inside Out
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Feel like you're always rushing but never catching up?Are you doing more, but enjoying it less? The frantic pace and pressure of modern life can take a serious toll on your happiness and your health'but there is one way to step off the treadmill without giving up your career or your activities. The answer lies not in sacrificing your work productivity or your lifestyle but rather in changing your attitudes. By using simple exercises to slow down your mind and focus on the present moment, you can actually achieve greater productivity and creativity-all while maintaining a calmer, healthier state of mind. Slowing Down to the Speed of Life helps you:
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This is the book for you if you've ever had the urge to tell off your boss, quit your job, hurl your Palm Pilot into the trash, and move to a farm. Written by bestselling stress consultant and psychotherapist Dr. Richard Carlson Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, it advocates the cultivation of a personal mindfulness and "thought navigation" to foster a sense of mental calmness and increased creativity and productivity.
With sage tips reminiscent of those in Jon Kabat-Zinn's Wherever You Go, There You Are, Carlson recommends a "Psychology of Mind" approach that involves being fully present in each situation and not letting the attitudes of others ruin your day. This way, your thoughts become more organized--wiser, if you will--and you get more work done without even trying. This time management trick is what he says will improve your life--not a cell phone or an electronic scheduler or a personal assistant. Carlson's advice can be taken to heart, as he's used these techniques to improve his own life. While he was working on his Ph.D., he rose at 4 a.m. and "gulped down ten or fifteen cups of coffee" each day just to get all his work done, and would bristle if family emergencies took him away from his studying. Not only does Carlson promise to help boost one's productivity, but he says that relationships and intimacy will improve as well. He maintains that disagreements--at home or at work--are less likely to blow up into full-fledged arguments if you're being calm and levelheaded. "A mind operating at the speed of life can see things as they really are," he writes. "Slowing down gives you needed perspective during times of transition and stress. When you operate at the speed of life and your child desires privacy, you'll probably remember that almost all teenagers go through phases of wanting space from their parents....Rather than take it personally, you'll be able to see the bigger picture. If your mind is moving too quickly, events as well as your own thoughts about events become much larger than they really are." For anyone fed up with life's chaos, Slowing Down to the Speed of Life should prove to be an immensely helpful mental health manual. --Erica Jorgensen |
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| 05-10-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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Another reviewer was saying that it's repetetive and doesn't give answers. I too was wanting more answers halfway through the book. Then I realized that the one thing not mentioned in the book is how to deal with GUILT. If you practice the concepts taught in the book then dealing with that too will come with time. You come to the realization that you can't get more answers because there aren't any. As others said, it's based on Buddhist concepts. There is no order or closure or answer to your life. That is really the whole point of the book. Trust me, read it if you are having trouble enjoying your life, and then read it again. It comes with time, but it really did start to help me immediately. The authors can't make you change your mind through telepathy, you just have to read the concepts and start to implement them and it makes more sense as you go forward, just like any other thing that you learn. Like others, I appreciated the absence of religious aspects and found it to be incredibly practical, easy to implement, enjoyable and refreshingly helpful.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-25 09:03:07 EST)
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| 03-30-08 | 4 | 1\1 |
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I am typically not a reader of self-help books or publications, but a colleague recommended this book to me after he continually heard me complain about how I can never seem to get ahead in my life with graduate school in the evenings, a stressful work environment with frequent travel, a 2-year old, while trying to maintain a healthy relationship with my wife. I was pleasantly surprised with the book. I always used to make lists, cross off items on the list which only resulted in new lists being made. I guess my (and everyone's) premise of making and completing lists was/is to hopefully realize a good feeling when all the items on the list are completed and crossed-off. Unfortunately, there is always another list to start and finish, so the good feeling, if one exists, will never last long, if you even get a good feeling... The book is an easy read, but to completely grasp the basis of the philosophy presented in the book, as the book authors would say, requires a healthy, free-flowing state of mind to grasp the tools presented to the reader. In fact, the author states in the introduction of the book, to open/clear your mind in preparation for reading the book to allow the concepts to sink in. I am agreeable to the general premise of the book. I believe in the Psychology of the Mind philosophy and in the presentation of said material in Carlson's and Bailey's Slowing down to the Speed of Life. The 2 forms of thinking identified in the book, Analytical and Free-Flowing modes, both seem to me to be realistic to me. I actually found myself recognizing processing thoughts that I was having both at home and work and was able to shift my mode of thinking away from these thoughts which may have prevented further unhealthy states of mind. The book has 8 chapters, with the first 3 dedicated to understanding and learning to the philosophies and tools associated with Psychology of the Mind. The first 3 chapters are: Slowing Down to the Moment, Navigating your Thinking and Getting Back to the Moment. They discuss the 2 modes of thought, how to start recognizing your thoughts and how, after your realize your in a negative thought pattern, you can get back to the moment you are presently in. The final 5 chapters of the book apply the tools to the different facets of your everyday life. These chapters are titled, Stress and Your Innate Mental Health, Being Present in Relationships, Peaceful parenting Working Smarter, and Enjoying Life. Each of these chapters basically cover the same information but in a way relevant to each of these areas of our lives. Working in an engineering capacity with my current employer, it was somewhat challenging to accept the book's view that shifting from an analytical thought mode to a free-flowing thought mode would result in a more efficient and productive use of my time. However, as the book states, there are times when being in the analytical mode are advantages and appropriate and there are times when being in the free-flowing mode is more advantages and appropriate. While working through problems at work, I've now realized that it is ok to step away from the project for an hour, day, or 3 days in hopes that staying in a more healthy state of mind will allow creative or innovative thoughts to replace fearful thoughts or thoughts rooted in an existing solution to a similar problems which may lead me astray or to dead-ends while trying to solve the problem at hand. This can be challenging given the ever increasing demands that the work environments can impose on technical employees, so a paradigm shift in thinking is required to accept the philosophies of the book. In summary, I would recommend the `Slowing Down to the Speed of Life' to anyone willing to accept and practice a new paradigm in thinking. Having said this, I would also recommend the book to anyone who currently feels that they are always struggling to stay positive or feel they never get ahead in their personal or professional life. This book might be particularily helpful to persons with type A personalities or persons who are viewed as perfectionists, because it is typically these people that start the next to-do list just after completing their last to-do list or those people who tend to be perfectionists when completing tasks that would otherwise only require a minimal investment of time. (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-05-21 10:34:52 EST)
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| 03-09-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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As CEO Coach, Poet and author of a leadership book that helps leaders unleash their genius, the genius of teams and the genius of corporations, I have learned to slow down my thoughts and live a more peaceful life. My mentor told me once that slower is faster. This book helped me realize the truth of that statement. I now help CEO's find a slower, peaceful place to lead from and their businesses seem to move faster. Read this one now. Paul David Walker Unleashing Genius: Leading Yourself, Teams and Corporations
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| 02-05-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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Many of the reviews say that the principles are taken from Buddism and Zen. As I read it I kept thinking that's exactly what the bible teaches.
With different names for free thinking and thought attacks etc. I thought it was excellent and explained in clinical terms what the bible describes in spiritual terms. The ideas are ones that I have found to be true as a christian and was delighted to find that science had discovered the truth about mental health. focusing on thoughts will lead to anxiety, frustration and a host of other mental illnesses. Trusting in Truth is the road to peace, happiness and love. (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-03-13 01:54:00 EST)
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| 12-04-07 | 3 | (NA) |
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Not a bad idea--one should not stress out about things you can't fix right away, or without all the info you need--but this book is rather hollow on specifics.
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| 08-20-07 | 4 | (NA) |
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A very good book with THE solution to most stress- and bad life quality problems: get out of analytical thinking mode and in to free flowing mode. The book makes sense 100%. However, how DO you get into the free flowing mode? This is only arbitrarily described, even though it is the very essential thing! A great pity.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-15 10:52:40 EST)
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| 01-30-07 | 4 | (NA) |
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An easy to read book that I found to be very down to earth and true to life. Good for anyne who has lost focus on what life is all about.
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| 01-29-07 | 4 | (NA) |
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An easy to read book that I found to be very down to earth and true to life. Good for anyne who has lost focus on what life is all about.
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| 01-09-07 | 5 | 1\1 |
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The book came into my life at a perfect time. It has helped me liberate my mind to focus on the real important things in life. Before the book I was considering going on blood pressure medicine- NOT ANYMORE! Enjoy.
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| 09-21-06 | 5 | 1\1 |
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In this fast pace world we live in we tend to forget to stop and smell the roses. We live our lives planning our next days activities without truly sitting back and gazing at awe of the world around us at the only moment we know. Despite our best efforts to manage our time we ultimately fail.
The book is about simplifying ones life. Live for the here and now and be happy. Enjoy the moment, change your thinking, reduce stress, better your relationships and work smarter. We get caught up in the worldly things, isn't time to concentrate on what's most important. I highly recommend this book. "Don't sweat the small stuff, and it's all small stuff"----------a book by the same author (Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-15 10:52:40 EST)
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| 09-20-06 | 5 | (NA) |
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In this fast pace world we live in we tend to forget to stop and smell the roses. We live our lives planning our next days activities without truly sitting back and gazing at awe of the world around us at the only moment we know. Despite our best efforts to manage our time we ultimately fail.
The book is about simplifying ones life. Live for the here and now and be happy. Enjoy the moment, change your thinking, reduce stress, better your relationships and work smarter. We get caught up in the worldly things, isn't time to concentrate on what's most important. I highly recommend this book. "Don't sweat the small stuff, and it's all small stuff"----------a book by the same author (Review Data Last Updated: 2007-01-10 07:55:19 EST)
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| 07-10-06 | 5 | 1\2 |
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Excellent content. easy to read and understand allows me to understand how destructive our thoughts can be, leaving us with emotions that result entirely from our thoughts raise an awareness of our thought process allowing us to contain our emotions hence our behaviour
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| 06-03-05 | 5 | 2\2 |
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This book teaches readers how to change their mindsets to become more calm and more content. Downplaying technology and material items, the authors suggest controlling your life through your thoughts and actions. The book discusses the mental aspects of simplicity, not specific actions that you can take. It stresses the importance of being autonomous and not using material items as crutches; the book does not address the need for exercise or awareness of your surroundings.
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| 06-02-05 | 5 | 1\1 |
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This book teaches readers how to change their mindsets to become more calm and more content. Downplaying technology and material items, the authors suggest controlling your life through your thoughts and actions. The book discusses the mental aspects of simplicity, not specific actions that you can take. It stresses the importance of being autonomous and not using material items as crutches; the book does not address the need for exercise or awareness of your surroundings.
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| 01-21-03 | 5 | 3\4 |
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I see so many parallels in this book with Zen quotes that I can't help but think this is what Zen is all about. Basically, the authors teach, "Your thoughts are not you!" They say that your sense of being is usually made up of the thoughts you have, and that your feelings and emotions are preceded and created by your thoughts, so nip all your destructive thoughts, and there you have your true self, which they call "the healthy psychological functioning." This "healthy psychological functioning" must be what Zen master Rinzai called "true man" in one of his sermons, where he proclaimed, "On your lump of red flesh is a true man without rank who is always going in and out of the face of every one of you. Those who have not yet experienced him-look! look!" The authors not only provide great analysis on the workings of the mind but also teach a simple but practical way of seeing for yourself the difference between "analytical, past-bound mode" and "non-analytical, free-flowing, present mode." It's interesting the authors seem to be conveying without religious connotations what Buddha taught more than two millenia ago.
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| 04-11-01 | 5 | 9\9 |
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This book just plain made sense. I know, I know, the concepts in it borrow from Buddhism, and yet it was refreshing to read a book which did not have any religious connotations. It is the 'normal' thing to do to analyze everything that comes into our minds, but if we want to have inner peace in our lives and to have a sense of flow, we must not force our thoughts. I spent a long time reading this book because I enjoyed it so much. It is worth the effort to adopt this way of life in order to enjoy life to the fullest.
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| 07-18-00 | 3 | 25\27 |
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Do not be mislead by the title. If you are looking for tactics you can use to simplfy your live, you will not find these here. This book talks more to what is happening in you mind. The author contends that we think about things in one of two ways. We either analyze a situation or thought to death or we let the thought come and go. It is when we allow free flow thinking to guide us that we feel less rushed and more in control thus living a simpler life. The ideas in this book make a great deal of sense. However, after reading about three-quarters of the way through, you want solutions to the situations. You want to know what you can do to get into the free flow. There is a lot of theoretical stuff here that gets repeatred time and again, but very little practical advice about how to get to the desired place.
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| 02-07-00 | 4 | 8\8 |
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This book talks about living in the present. To do that, don't focus on planning your life away, and let go of the things in the past. It tells you that all stress in your life is a result of thoughts, and that sometimes you need to relax and let the "free flowing" mode of thinking take over. Nothing new, but it certainly shows you how to spot things and make the necessary adjustments. Overall, worth reading.
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| 01-26-99 | 2 | 3\10 |
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It seems like large chunks of the text are paraphrases of Buddhist belief with serial numbers filed off (so to speak). The similarities aren't acknowledged at all, which I find a bit annoying. The authors give all the credit to the 'Psychology of Mind' organization.
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| 01-26-99 | 2 | 3\3 |
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It seems like large chunks of the text are paraphrases of Buddhist belief with serial numbers filed off (so to speak). The similarities aren't acknowledged at all, which I find a bit annoying. The authors give all the credit to the 'Psychology of Mind' organization.
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| 11-04-98 | 5 | 13\13 |
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After months of therapy, Prozac, and reading self-help books, I read this one. WOW. I finally understood what the other books were about. This book made it all clear to me at last- how to quiet my mind and be present in the moment! My life was transformed by this incredible book! For the first time in my adult life I know HOW to relax.I do not exagerate when I say that if everyone read this book, the world would be a very different place.
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| 07-09-98 | 5 | 9\9 |
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As a single parent with a demanding career and three active (athletic & academic) teen children I've taken stress to an art form. This is the first "how to de-stress" book that provides the solution to stress without suggesting that you move to the mountains of West Virginia and live on roots and berries. This book has truly allowed me to continue to live life at the 150% level and love every minute of it. The secret: live in the moment not the past or the future. Sound simple? The amazing secret is that it is simple -- and it works. It's really true that this very moment is called "the present" because it truly is a gift. So ENJOY!.
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| 05-26-98 | 5 | 3\3 |
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Everyone should read this book. This will help everyone to live a better life. It is easy to understand as his explanation is quite thorough. The title could be a lot better, although you will be experiencing a certain calmness and peace when you become "aware" of the message given here. It will certainly be a blessing in your life.
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| 05-12-98 | 5 | 5\5 |
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This book is a must-read for all! The authors provide clear, easy to understand examples and processes for "slowing down to the speed of life" - reducing stress, experiencing more enjoyment, eliminating procrastination - simply getting more out of every moment! This is a book you will be tempted to pass around to the people in your life you really care about!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-25 09:10:23 EST)
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| 04-23-98 | 5 | 6\6 |
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This book should be read by every person. The world would be a better and happier place to live. Happines is now the rule, not the exception in my life since I read this book. They make it very easy to understand and put into practice the power of thought. I actually had stress withdraw for 2 weeks I was so stressed before I read this book and adopted their philosophy. I am discussing this book with as many small groups as possible. I am looking for a study guide. Please let me know if one is available. I would also like to contact Richard Carlson to thank him. Read This Book!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2006-06-25 09:10:23 EST)
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| 02-16-98 | 5 | 8\8 |
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An excellent book with very practical resources for taking charge of your own life. The title is a bit misleading in that the principles discussed can be applied to many problem areas, e.g., depression, anger, communication, relationships, not just stress or anxiety as the title implies. Another odd thing about the book is that the principles described are, for the most part, lifted straight out of Buddhist teachings, but the words Buddha or Buddhism are never mentioned, nor is much other specific information as to the "school" or "philosophy" of the book's ideas. So, if you'd like to learn about the psychology/philosophy of Buddhism without wading through the dogma, rituals, and other religious trappings, this book is a wonderful and practical place to start!
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| 07-31-97 | 5 | 2\2 |
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The age of self-improvement promises to bring us happiness if we......this book reminds us that we already posssess what we are searching for and that our busy lives are really a reflection of our busy minds. "Slowing Down" is a clearly written, non-mumbo jumbo explanation of how we create our reality of life via our thinking..the implication being that peace of mind is just a thought away. It contains concrete strategies for living in the moment and ways to reclaim what is ours at birth a built in capacity for health, wisdom, commonsense, and the enjoyment of life.
"You cannot solve a problem with the same thinking that created it" Einstein
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