Insightful and full of good ideas for either spouse.Thoughtfully written, well-researched and supported, and the author is his usual hilarious self.
I also recommend my favorite book in this matter: I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

A great Christian perspective on how great marital sex could/should be!! Written in such a way to put the reader at ease but to also get you to thinking about what you can do to "help things."

The book came super fast, within a few days! Book was in the condition promised, no complaints!

This was the best book. I have never blushed and giggled so much before. This book helped me realize that it is okay to have fun in bed with your husband. The fire is there like it has never been before. My husband even made the comment that He wished he could personally thank Dr. Leman
Every newelywed couple should read this. Dr. Leman thank you for your wisdom. YOu have made my marriage come alive.

Dr. Kevin Lehman is a prolific author, who has appeared on a number of well-known television and radio programs. In 'Sheet Music' Dr. Leman spends a fair number of pages on the mechanics of sex, including a few anatomical diagrams. But with 'Sheet Music' I would offer several caveats for Christians to keep in mind about this book:

'Sheet Music' does not reflect an understanding of the primary authority that Scripture is intended to have for believers. Secular perspectives are commonly seen as having equal or even primary authority in comparison to Scripture.

'Sheet Music' fails to present or even assume a full biblical context for Christian life and marriage. The book assumes that Christian marriage is monogamous, but provides little to nothing more in the way of biblical support - even failing to present or make reference to biblical passages would powerfully and dramatically support the author's point! The substantially secular viewpoint reflected in this book includes:

· Recommendations that draw from a secular viewpoint, omitting biblical insights
· Directing Christians specifically to resources outside the local church that have a claim to expertise that lies substantially in secular qualifications, but not spiritual qualifications.

'Sheet Music' falls short of presenting or assuming the full set of biblical passages, such as:

· Biblical passages that contain critical revelations from God, Who created marriage and designed sexual intimacy (including Ephesians 5:21-33; 1 Peter 3:1-7, etc.).
· Biblical passages on the believer's position and condition, identification, walking in the Spirit, recognizing and dealing with the sin nature, and even basic biblical principles on topics like `anxiety' (Philippians 4:6; 1 Peter 5:7).
· The difference between Law and Grace, and the huge difference it makes in all areas of life (sexual intimacy included) and even into eternity (Romans 5; 7:1-6).
· By pointing believers to resources outside of the local church (counseling professionals, sexual therapy clinics, etc.) believers are then setting aside true biblical counsel within the body of Christ, much of the authority and primacy of God's word, and are telling believers to go to resources that are not grace-based, but are charging for their services (contrary to 2 Corinthians 2:17 & chapters 8, 9).
· Believers are directed to the resources of this world (Galatians 6:14; Ephesians 2:1-3) and of the sin nature. With the best of intentions, believers are thereby instructed to walk according to this world's best understanding and in reliance upon the sin nature.

With the understanding that I do not recommend this book overall, here are some of the better quotes from this book:

A couple's sex life is usually a microcosm of the marriage. Every now and then a couple has a great sex life with a poor marriage, but this is the rarity, something you see only every couple of years. Page 10

You need to know that every day a woman internally asks her husband, Do you really love me? Do you really care? Page 10

What warms a woman up is when her husband helps around the house, picks up after himself, helps with the children, makes arrangements for dates, and overall cares for her. If a husband consistently and graciously does this without acting like a martyr, he's going to find, six times out of ten, that his wife is ready and eager to enjoy an active and fulfilling love life. It will be a natural response to a lifestyle of sincere affection. Page 11

Most of us men want to be our wives' heroes. Page 11

Wow! Dr. Leman spares no details in this one! And even after 10 years of marriage, he helped me see marriage in general and intimacy in particular in a new way. Be prepared for what society would probably deem an "old fashioned" approach to love relationships, but don't knock it till you try it... cuz it works!
If it did nothing more than remind me of how different my husband is from me (and how different our needs are) - it was worth it! It made me want to stop taking my man for granted. And who knows...it just might ignite "creativity" in the bedroom again. Thanks Dr. Leman!

I am getting married in a few weeks and bought this book for my fiance and I to read. I found this book to have numerous strengths: it is straightforward and detailed. I don't imagine that many readers will be confused or have more questions. Dr. Leman celebrates the sexual relationship of the married couple and paints a very healthy, though possibly counter-cultural, view of sex between a husband and a wife. And, along with this he does realistically acknowledge and thoroughly address the challenges of the sexual relationship (tiredness, kids in the next room, husbands generally wanting sex more than wives, orgasm issues, differences between men and women, the role of an emotional connection in the sexual relationship, etc.) This book was written by a Christian psychologist, so there are numerous references to Scripture, which as a Christian, I appreciated.

Despite what I see as many strengths of this book, I rarely read more than a few pages without feeling a little aggravated with Dr. Leman and what I perceive as his bent towards elevating the importance of the husband's sexual needs. First a caveat, I do believe that marriage is about sacrifice. I realize there will be many times when I may not want to have sex and I will sacrificially engage to please and love my husband well. Having said that, Dr. Leman goes a bit further than this, in my opinion. He repeatedly admonishes women to do everything they can, every time they can to please their men (unless it is degrading or morally objectionable to the woman). At one point, Dr. Leman points out that men may feel embarrassed to go buy KY jelly for the wedding night, so he recommends that women do that. It's small, but it is a perfect example of his bent. As an unmarried woman, I am not particularly at ease with the idea of buying KY jelly and condoms--why must I be the one to sacrifice at all times? At multiple places in the book, Dr. Leman suggests rather directly that if a man is having an affair, it is because his wife has not fulfilled his sexual needs. While this may be true, I feel that Dr. Leman paints an incomplete picture with this.

My final critique is that Dr. Leman advocates that both men and women masturbate both in preparation for their first sexual encounter and as a means to address various potential problems (e.g., premature ejaculation and the woman having a hard time reaching orgasm, among others). Many reading this book may not have a problem with this, but as a Christian, I think many will wonder at Dr. Leman's suggestion that we can masturbate while keeping our thoughts pure and will wonder at the seeming contradiction to his simultaneous encouragement for the husband and wife to explore and learn sexually together.

All in all, if you have no sexual experience this book is a good read. It will give you helpful and clear information. Just be aware that you will likely be offended or not agree with Dr. Leman at various points in the text.

Brilliant book. I recommend it to all those who wish to have a happy sex life in marriage. If engaged, only read through chapter four. When married, read away!

EVERY YOUNG ADULT should read this book before marriage ~
EVERY married couple celebating 1-5 yrs of marriage SHOULD read this book !!
EVERY MARRIED COUPLE celebrating5-80 yrs of married should read this book !!!!

I am so grateful this author was bold and blunt !! HE answered many questions for me !!!!

EVERY MOTHER should give this book to her daughter during the engagement!
EVERY FATHER should give this book to his son during the engagement!

The book's okay, but if you're already married be prepared to skip over the first 6 chapters because it goes into detailed information for engaged couples that those of us who have already been there don't need to be lectured about. Other than that, it's pretty enjoyable.

As a pastor who has officiated close to 75 weddings and has performed pre-marital for most of those couples, I require a few books for each couple to read prior to their wedding day. After reading Sheet Music, that list grew by one more book. This book describes physical intimacy in terms that all couples can understand and benefit from regardless of their years of marriage. My wife and I could have used this prior to our marriage because we've certainly benefited from it at our current stage of marriage. The chapters concentrating exclusively on men's and women's needs are critical for spouses understanding what often eludes men and women about the other sex!

Wow. I really wish we had this book 35 years ago. It could have made things even better and more comfortable. This book is about marital sexuality, for sure, but at a whole different level, it is about finding, renewing and keeping the sweetness, companionship and sense of "couple" in a marriage.

We picked up this, and a couple other books at a one day Marriage Booster Mini-Retreat. At home, I opened it up to see if it looked as good as the cover promo. Again, wow. I read the book in a couple evenings. My wife wanted to know what I was laughing about. She has started the book now, and I am getting a second copy so we can read it simultaneously and hopefully have some fun discussions along the way, I also want to re-read the book at a more leisurely pace and reconsider some of the details.

From the reviews here, it seems the opinions fall into two groups; the book is wonderful and helpful, or it is terrible and un-Godly. I am firmly in the first camp. I'm sure there are people who will be put off by this book and the Song of Solomon like descriptions in it. If you think you will be offended, then pass. If, like most married couples you long for ways to renew and enrich your marriage relationship at all levels, I think this book can be for you.

This book has jump started my marriage. As newlyweds, there was so many issues going into a sexual relationship and this book has helped my husband and I TREMENDOUSLY! We are comfortable and it got us talking about a lot of things that we thought we had handled but really needed to address more. Anyone who has remained pure in any fashion until marriage has to read this book in order to unveil what God has in store for your intimate relationship in marriage.

Wonderful suggestions. My wife loves me more each time I pick it up. We share some wonderful interests in the points this book makes. If you're already marrried, this could save you from a future of counseling.

Everyone woman should read this book a couple of weeks before her wedding and every man should read it the week before the wedding. It is an incredible book of helpful information regarding sex in marriage. It gives information for newlyweds that is absolutely invaluable, as well as what to expect for the completely clueless. It is one of the best books I've read regarding the sexual relationship in marriage. My husband and I are reading it together, which also gives great opportunities for discussion.

This book makes a great gift for an engaged couple! The first chapters are geared toward couples who are virgins going into their marriage; however I think the information works for every newlywed couple. Also a good read for couples married 5,10, or 20+ years. I did feel that the book put too much responsibility put on the wife to keep things going sexually within a marriage, and not much information on what could cause intimacy problems within a marriage. Those two points are what prevented me from giving the book 5 stars. But as a gift for an engaged couple - WONDERFUL!!!

i had this book tagged for over a year under my favorites after seeing Dr Leman on James Robison. I have his Birth-Order book and three of the children's books "There's No One Like You" which my kids LOVE. They love for me to read their books to them and even have a special place to keep them. I love his writing style. So one day, I clicked on my favorites list and was reminded of it and I ordered it. It is straight to the point. I could not believe some of the stuff I was reading, and more than that, it was written by a "christian"!!!! Answered so many questions that I had, gave me more information that I could have asked for. One night, I told my husband...."My book says that men like *****" He grinned and said, "Mmmhmm". I replied, "We have been married for 15 years and you've never told me that." He simply said, "You've never asked". I've since given the book to my mother and my best friend. My daughters are only 8 & 9 years old, but as soon as they are old enough, they WILL be reading the first 3 chapters and will have a copy to take on their honeymoon. When you read this book, you will laugh and blush and your head will spin. And if you question whether he is right or wrong....just ask your spouse. Now my hubby's Mr. Happy is also happy alot more too! He will tell you it was well worth my $10 investment.

This book is a wonderful resource for married couples who want to have a more fulfilling sex life, and the first half is an EXCELLENT resource for engaged couples who hope to have a wonderful sex life once they're married. Dr. Leman is honest and forthright without being crude. This book has helped me, and I know it's going to help my husband, too!

This is a great book! Funny and to the point. It really helped me understand how my husband ticks and how to be a better lover. Dr. Leman is very blunt, but if that doesn't bother you, than you'll love this book!

I've only been married 1 year and 3 months, but I've only read 3 chapters from this book and wish I had it 6 months BEFORE I got married. The information, suggestions and advice are FABULOUS. But, even as a married person, my oulook on many things have changed, or improved, from this book. IT IS A MUST READ!!!

It's a really great book for an engaged couple to read before (and during) the honeymoon. I would highly recommend it to anybody preparing for a very exciting but challenging new area of your relationship (sexual love).

I bought this book and first read it before I got married, and am re-reading it a year later. Every time I read it, I pull out new insights. It's easy to find books about techniques and positions, but what I love about this book is its discussion on the emotional and relationship issues that underlie everything. It has really helped me see my marriage from a different perspective, and whenever I pick it up, it inspires me to try to be the best wife and person I can be. I was also extremely relieved to find that, although Leman is a Christian, he is not preachy at all. Many people growing up in a religious household learn to think of sex as something that you shouldn't talk about, but this book helped me to see sex as an awesome and important part of marriage. In short, I love this book and I think couples at any stage can really benefit from it.

I think every married couple needs this book. I think it would save a lot of marriages if we could understand the importance of the intimate relationship with your spouse. It is learning to give and to receive from each other. From my own experience when you have a awesome relationship with your spouse then when the storms of life hit, it is so much easier to go through them together. I highly recommend this book for every couple young and old.
We have been married for 29yrs and it has help us find the excitment again.
Sheet Music

My husband and I found this to be a great tool to open up conversation about intimacy. After a 15 year relationship, we were reminded of not only the importance of this part of our lives, but also of the freedom we enjoy. Not stoggy, or judgemental... a real blessing.

Our pastor recommended this book (from the pulpit) to every married couple in our church! It is a frank, accurate, informative book on the importance and the execution of a healthy sex life within a marriage. The author doesn't sugar-coat anything or tip-toe around the matters of sex. It's helped my husband and I improve our sex life and our communication about it! I strongly recommend it to anyone -- newlyweds and oldlyweds -- seeking to improve their marriage or their sex life!

We give this book as wedding gifts and to other couples we think would read it. It is a very personal book, with lots of details. But if you will read it, your marriage will benefit.

Let the truth set you free. Enjoy a sweeter marriage than you thought possible. Read this book together and renew the spark of intimicy. I am so thankful for this book.

This book provided excellent sex 101 info for what sex is intended for...intimacy between a man and woman. This book also enriched my marriage by inviting my husband and me into a greater level of intimacy after 10 years of marriage. It reminded us that God blesses and loves us to enjoy our intimacy. This book is for the to-be couple to get them thinking and planning for their marriage, as well as the newly and committed married couples.

Definitely a worthwhile read whether your marriage is a couple years old, or going on your 50th anniv. Thoughtfully written, well-researched and supported, and Kevin Leman is his usual hilarious self. Insightful and full of good ideas for either spouse.

Great book if you are a husband who is having issues with his wife.
For myself I kept saying.. humm tried that, and he was too tired, tried that and he picked a fight, tried that and.. you get the point.

So this book is Eetremely frustrating if you the reader is in a Sex-Starved Marriage--becasue he has issues- which he won't discuss.

In a recent article in the WSJ it was stated Women aren't the only ones refusing sex, either. In a study of 75 married people in sexually inactive marriages, Dr. Donnelly found that in 60% of the cases, it was the man who had stopped the sex. This intelligent and personable author needs to do some homework and move his perspective into the 21st century and give us another chapter.

Dr. Leman tells it like it is and gives a refreshing perspective on the subject of sexual intimacy within the boundaries of marriage. A must have for newlyweds! Adds a little spice to seasoned marriages!

This book is AWESOME!!!!! I recommend this book to newlyweds AND those couples who have been married for awhile, but need a new outlook on their relationship. This book offers straight-forward, practical insight on the marriage relationship according to God and the Bible. This book answers questions that people may be afraid to discuss with anyone else. The fresh outlooks shared in this book changed my way of thinking both in my relationship with my husband and my relationship with everyone around me. I am going to give this book as a bridal shower/wedding gift to all my friends.

My finance and I have recently started reading this book and it is great! I am looking forward to our wedding, so that we can put this excelent advise to use. We have only read the first few chapters and we will read the others after we are married (as instructed by the author). If the remaining chapters are half as good as the first few, we will be in for a treat! I can't thank my friend who recommended this enough. I would recommend this book to all couples, engaged, newlyweds, or married for 30 years. This guy really knows what he is talking about. I will be reading more of his books as well.

I don't want to sound like I'm pitching this book or anything, but the information in it did open up doors to help us strengthen our marriage and our friendship. The author makes some very strong points and shares a lot of his experiences with people from his psychiatric practice. He backs up some of his strongest points with quotes from the Bible that make you think, "huh?" Even if you don't think you need any help with your marriage, I would recommend this book to every couple. You might just learn something surprising.

I don't want to sound like I'm pitching this book or anything, but the information in it did open up doors to help us strengthen our marriage and our friendship. The author makes some very strong points and shares a lot of his experiences with people from his psychiatric practice. He backs up some of his strongest points with quotes from the Bible that make you think, "huh?" Even if you don't think you need any help with your marriage, I would recommend this book to every couple. You might just learn something surprising.

This book has covered everything from singleness, to dating, to the honey moon, to lifelong marriage. It helped me see where I was failing in my marriage to my wife of over 8 years. It goes into very minute detail of the marriage bed, etc. Speaks on in-laws, promiscuity and why it hinders a couple. It goes into the give and take of a marriage. It was a very helpful book to me. I do recommend it to anyone married or who plans to one day be married. The author uses God's Word to back up his conclusions for the marriage bed, therefore it is very enlightening and freeing to the conscience of believers to read this book if we are married.

Great book! Dr. Leman combines good common sense with a biblical view of psychology. Sheet Music was recommended to me by a friend, and now I gladly recommend it to other couples who want to get the most and best out of their marriage.

This is a must have for all couples planning to marry or already married. My husband and I have a wonderful marriage however, now that we've read this book, it's going to be even BETTER. Buy it as a wedding shower gift! They will thank you. We read this book as a book club selection for our MOPS (Mothers Of Pre-schoolers) group. It was the largest turn out to date with 14 women in attendance. Conversation was lively & everyone was beaming with new found excitement in their marriages. Thank you Dr. Leman for such a great book!

This book was hilarious and informative. Kevin Lehman handled a "touchy" subject with grace and humor. He made so much sense! It totally changed my attitude toward my husband and our intimate relationship.

I was amazed by some of the topics covered in this book. He speks very candidly about topics that many people have avopided for years. Even though this is a book about sex in marriage, it hits pretty hard at basic marital issues. If only people could get past the title and not view it as just a sex book, it dives into many important topics for marriages that in order to have a great sex life, need to be healthy. I would recommend this book all the time!

My husband and I both read this book, and it truly helped us to gain a better perspective on just how important sex is in a marriage to the opposite sex. Men and women truly are wired differently--this book helps to explain some of the ways we are different and how we can understand each other better. If your mate is able to understand what your needs are and why they are that way, then that goes a long way toward getting those needs met in a loving way. Even though the author is a man, he did seem to understand sex from the female point of view in a way that many others do not. The writing style is light and easy to read without any psychobabble, ladies' magazine sex survey overtones, or christianese. My husband does not like to read books, but this one captivated him! This book is written for every married couple, christian or not.

As a newlywed, I found this book to be particulary helpful (all the things I wanted to know and never asked, and things I never even thought to ask!). It took a lot of the mystery out of sex, particulary helping me to see things from my husband's perspective. I subtracted one star because the book does not view masturbation as sinful--otherwise, it's an informative book with a Godly perspective. Note: it is somewhat more graphic than some books I've seen on sex, but I appreciated the author's ability to be candid and tell me what I needed to know.

This is a book that I wish I could have read BEFORE I got married--at least at the very beginning of marriage. It would have saved alot of days and nights of frustration and potential bitterness. The book basically helps lay everyone's expectations out in the open and allows each person in the relationship to understand the other's wants, needs and desires.
An excellent gift for anyone getting married...or celebrating their 25th anniversary!
Enjoy!

Real honest. Not at all distasteful. A great book to inspire greater intimacy. I would have loved to have this book before I married.

WOW! I was already a fan of Dr. Leman's, and this just added to it.

If we are willing to put what we learn from this book into practice, we will see marriages changed! We will see couples that are truly loving and caring for each other. Changed marriages means changed families!

What a blessing! Thanks Dr. Leman!

Again, Dr. Leman excells at what he does best in conveying God's Truth in a concise and humerous way!! My husband and I are a part of a Marriage Mentor's team with our local church and we have strongly endorsed this book to other couples and also as a wedding gift to those getting married!! I wish these types of resourches would have been available to us when we were married back in the '60's!!!

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A masterful piece of work for any marriage. Benefical to newlyweds but also marriages of 30+ years!! I recommend both partners read it. It will bring a new joy to your marriage, the way God intended it to be.

I highly recommend this book for all couples - soon-to-be married, just married, married forever - no matter your stage, this book is sure to be enjoyable and valuable!

Couples in a rut can dig their way out with Dr. Leman's unique way of sharing the husband's perspective as well as giving the husband ideas. I am very thankful for the excitement and fun that this book has created in our marriage and so is my husband!! We are very thankful for the Biblical perspective most of all. I now see fulfilling my husband sexually as something that I can do to make our home more peaceful and happy as opposed to a chore; and I am having lots of fun too!

This book does what I wish Christian writers normally did when they talk about sex - speak the common language, and say it in words that everyone is thinking! Sheet music is very 'to the point', almost too making one blush sometimes, but what it is saying needs to be said - Sex is a gift from God and the state of it in your marriage is a reflection of the state of your marriage! Thanks for being willing to say what needs to be said - I now have a new book to give engaged couples who come for premarital counseling.