Lopsided: How Having Breast Cancer Can Be Really Distracting
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| 11-25-08 | 1 | (NA) |
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I feel I have read a completely different book than the other reviewers. While I sincerely hope she has beaten cancer for good, I found Meredith Norton to portray herself as a self-centered, ADD meanie. The one thing I, also a breast cancer survivor, fully agreed with was her assessment that "breast cancer just sucks," and there is not necessarily some profound life lesson to be learned.
Bouncing from one wacky lifestyle to another after college (and I inferred that her wealthy parents subsidized this), Norton moves to Paris, marries a handsome Frenchman, has a child, and is still dissatisfied with her life. She is diagnosed with a rare and virulent form of breast cancer on a trip home to California and stays there to be treated. Her devastated husband struggles to keep supporting his family between France and America. I felt sorry for Norton's husband. While I understand that it is normal to be cranky and irritable while undergoing the aggressive treatment that Norton endured, she seems to have no remorse for her nasty and dismissive treatment of the father of her child. She also struck me as completely uncommitted to her marriage. Bottom line: I did not find this book to be "wickedly funny" or filled with humor. Norton does have some amusing lines: "Now I was ready to join the Amazon archers," but the edges of that humor, especially her commentary about other people, are a bit too sharp. Norton should be very grateful to her family and friends for loving her anyway. (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-11-30 01:21:03 EST)
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| 10-29-08 | 4 | (NA) |
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A very funny book about a very serious subject. It shows that there can be humor in almost any situation. But it's informative, and comforting to those going through the same experience, knowing that they are not alone, and that it's possible to look at a lighter side. It's a great read; full also of vignettes about the author's family and friends which add a truly human touch. It's a good book for several reasons.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-11-26 00:32:32 EST)
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| 10-20-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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I was lucky enough to come across this book at a book festival. Although this book is about how the author deals with breast cancer, it is about so much more. Ms. Norton has had an interesting life so far, and I hope that she continues to write many more books so we can see the direction that her life takes.
It's a really entertaining book, which feels a little weird for me to say...since it's about a topic as serious as cancer. But, the authors approach is very funny and this would be an enjoyable read for anyone who's looking for a unique perspective and a fresh voice. (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-10-29 00:14:04 EST)
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| 08-22-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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Meredith is incredibly insightful and witty. She provides a unique take on a very serious subject. I read the book in one day- it was so engrossing I couldn't put it down. After all the jobs she describes in her book, it seems as though Meredith has found her calling as a writer.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-10-21 00:13:27 EST)
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| 08-15-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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I had such a good time reading this book. Not something you would expect about a book from a cancer survivor. Perhaps it's because I share Meredith's atypical journey through life that involves multiple careers and dark sense of humor that I found it such a refreshing read, regardless of the subject matter.
If you can't handle the fact that cancer is painful, the way it's treated in Western medicine is laughable (if not scary), or if you expect to have some golden halo rain down upon you giving you a new perspective on life so you can walk away from it thinking that, oh, a black woman with a sense of humor who has cancer can't possibly be feeling any kind of pain, then go find another book. It is a humor that is funny, I think, if you find David Sedaris holding up a cadaver when the car full of French people accidentally show up in his driveway, funny. Don't get this book if you're looking for some magical panacea that will make you forget that people who go through traditional chemo don't have all the pain and unnaturalness that is Western medicine shoved into their bodies. But if you understand that life and death can be painful and beautifully hilarious whether dodging dog poop in Paris, "Christian" school groups in college, or navigating cancer, well then, read on...Also, if you're some literary snob who has spent more years at university than talking to regular people on the street (i.e. having a normal, healthy social life), then go re-read one of the classics and don't try to superimpose critical theory or comparative analysis onto a memoir that is clearly not meant to speak to you. (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-22 00:13:54 EST)
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| 08-06-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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What an amazing book from a first-time author! From the very first page, I was completely hooked. Meredith Norton gives us a view of her battle with breast cancer that is witty and humorous, yet candid and unflinching (this is probably not a book I'd give to someone who has just been diagnosed--although I'd highly suggest it for those who have been in treatment for a while and know what to expect, and I'd definately suggest it for everyone else!)
The book is filled with entertaining details and digressions about Norton's childhood antics, as well as her life with her French husband, Thibault. I laughed out loud as she describes her experiences as an American with a limited French vocabulary struggling to raise a son in Paris. (Her conclusion: if you have the vocabulary of a French six year-old, you are treated like a six year-old.) She describes meeting with a French nursery school administrator, who tells her what she must do in order to assure that her son, Lucas, gets enrolled: "If you really, truly want little Loo-KAH to learn with our school," she said, "you must call me every day and remind me who you are. Say, 'This is the black American with the garish, orange jacket. My son is still interested.'" She ponders the fact that her diagnosis--the worst, most important news of her life--was given to her (and her reaction was witnessed by) two doctors who were complete strangers. "Bad news should be delivered privately. You should sit in a soundproof room with a mirror and a box of tissues. When you're ready, a piece of paper slips through the door. You turn it over and read: 'Sterile' or 'Nobody likes you' or 'Herpes Simplex II.' When you are ready, you emerge and fall into the embraces (maybe reluctant, depending on your diagnosis) of strangers." Norton's cancer battle isn't a shining superhuman Lance Armstrong tale of courageous strength. Her tale doesn't give cancer patients a figure on a pedestal that they can strive to live up to; she shows that despite the struggles and the odds, it is possible just to live. She is an everyday woman and mother (with a wonderfully skewed sense of humor) who is doing the best she can. She actually describes her frustration at reading one of Armstrong's books: "Every day of my chemo that I ate a Krispy Kreme doughnut or took a nap instead of doing yoga I cursed Lance Armstrong and his toned abs, tiny butt, and three kinds of cancer. [...] Give me some fat slob on welfare who never graduated from junior high and can't ride around the block without choking on his cigarette, and yet manages to pull himself together, go macrobiotic, and beat cancer, and I will show you one inspired Meredith Norton." Norton has said that it was her battle with cancer (and the constant insistence of family members) that pushed her into finally writing a book. It is unfortunate that such a horrific experience was the catalyst for this book, but fortunate that her talent has been revealed. Norton possesses an insanely hilarious wit and amazing way with words. I truly hope she writes more! (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-15 00:13:51 EST)
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| 07-30-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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Not only was this book an enjoyable, smooth read, but it was hilarious. Norton has a way of bringing together seemingly disparate stories/experiences without ever sounding trite; in fact, many times her conclusions are powerful. Her vulnerability through a harrowing experience makes her easy to relate to and sympathetic, and she never asks for or tolerates pity.
It's an engaging story, whether you're a survivor, a patient, a loved one of either, or someone who simply likes to read good books!! (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-07 00:13:06 EST)
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| 07-28-08 | 1 | 0\2 |
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I picked up Meredith Norton's 'Lopsided' expecting more humor, more quick wit and a more enlightening world view on the whole 'zen' of cancer.
What I got was a disjointed read, written in a jerky, schizoid style that was much more about the inanities of Ms.Norton's life and family quirks than it was about her illness and recovery. A better choice for those interested in the genre is Gerilyn Lucas' 'Why I Wore Lipstick to My Mastectomy', which will make you laugh and cry and laugh more. (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-05 01:49:20 EST)
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| 07-25-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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Lopsided is not about cancer or medicine. It's not politically correct or sugar coated. It's about the reactions of one amazing woman to a major speed bump of life. And it's not a downer. Without this kick a brilliant first-time author might never have written, and isn't that short hair cute! My only complaint is I finished two hours into a twelve hour flight. What comes next? When?
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-05 01:49:20 EST)
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| 07-24-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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I loved this book. I haven't read many cancer memoirs, but this one is certainly a breath of fresh air. Hilarious, joyful, touching, and occasionally irreverent: anyone can read it. You'll be entertained and you'll also come away with an understanding of what it might be like to have breast cancer.
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| 07-21-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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I bought this for a friend who was scheduled for surgery. Advised her to read it first so she would have some snappy answers for the idiotic things people say when you have cancer. She enjoyed it and has been ready for the remarks!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-05 01:49:20 EST)
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| 07-21-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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I picked up this book because I had heard it was hilarious. In addition, as a retired M.D. and former practicing radiologist, I was particularly interested in a patient's story of her ordeal with cancer. Though I have read thousands of mammograms in my day and have diagnosed thousands of cancers of various types, I have rarely viewed cancer through a patient's perspective. Radiologists, as you may know, have limited patient contact.
This book is light summer reading. Despite the fact that it is nonfiction and deals with a rather gruesome topic, the author has written a page-turner. The main reasons, it seems to me, is that she is an extremely funny and very talented writer, and an unusually pithy observer of human nature. I had recommended the book to my wife, who said she had no interest in a cancer memoir. But once a number of our friends had also started raving about the book and she stumbled across a great review of it, she bowed to the pressure and started reading it. Now she's interrupting my writing with gales of laughter and exceptionally positive commentary. So that's my bottom-line recommendation to you--if you're not interested in cancer, fine. Forget this book is about cancer. It's really about the human condition and will keep you in stitches from the moment you pick it up until it allows you to put it down, which won't be until you've finished it. (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-05 01:49:20 EST)
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| 07-18-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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There is light at the end of the tunnel... even if it means laughing, crying and struggling along the way. Lopsided was an opportunity to hear from someone just like me (although I am not nearly as funny)a 30 something, wife, mother and lover of life. When the author describes what she goes through, from strong denial to acceptance to treatment-- while constantly thinking about her son, who would raise him and how she would deal with his French/American upbringing-- that hit home. Thanks to Meredith Norton for allowing us to peek into her life, her memories and all of her thoughts as she figured out how to deal with a sharp turn in her life that came without a manual or a clear logical answer.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-22 01:55:50 EST)
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| 07-17-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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I thoroughly recommend this book. Meredith Norton is an incredible writer, and her story is inspirational and also very funny. A great read, highly recommended.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-22 01:55:50 EST)
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| 07-16-08 | 3 | (NA) |
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I was drawn to this book because it says "wickedly funny in the style of Augusten Burroughs and David Sedaris." I did find the book to be funny and entertaining, but I also found it harrowing and definitely not a pretty picture of what one goes through in the course of cancer treatment. At the end of the book, Meredith says that her experience with cancer was pretty normal or that it wasn't as bad as she expected. However, reading the book from the viewpoint of someone who has never had cancer or chemotherapy, I thought what she went through was gut-wrenching and certainly not something that I would think of as no big deal. And while I did find a significant amount of humor in her stories of her family and friends, the parts that were about her disease and treatment were not fun to read or funny or even entertaining. They made me very sad for her and for all of those around her during that horrible period of time. I originally bought the book to give to a fried of mine who is currently battling cancer, but I don't think she would find one bit of solace in the story, with the exception of the fact that Meredith is still alive to tell the tale.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-18 12:09:58 EST)
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| 07-11-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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This book is like a pint of haagen daaz mocha chip, a bag of lay's, a rubix cube, or a crack pipe (from what I've heard)...but without the diabetes, high blood pressure, cellulite, and hallucinations! It's hilarious, it's engaging, it's refreshing, it's the story of an experience lived as it is rather than as what anyone else thinks it should be. Lopsided makes symmetry look way overrated.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-15 23:04:13 EST)
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| 07-09-08 | 5 | 1\1 |
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This is not a self help book or a traditional book to console the ill. Unless you consider laughter to be good medicine, that is. When a vivacious young woman is blindsided by a rare and deadly form of breast cancer, she finds herself suddenly plunged into exhausting medical treatments. All around her, friends and well meaning acquaintances offer "inspirational" advice, oh yes, and wigs. Through her ordeal Meredith retains her unique sense of humor. The book switches between her struggle against cancer, and memories of the previous chapters of her life. I was literally laughing out loud at some parts and brought to tears by others. It's unfortunate it took such drastic measures to bring Ms. Norton's voice into publication, but we are the luckier for it. A story you won't soon forget.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-12 00:18:47 EST)
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| 07-09-08 | 5 | 1\1 |
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Move over Lance Armstrong - I predict this funny and bittersweet book about cancer will become the new go-to gift book for newly diagnosed cancer patients. This book is refreshingly BS-free, offering a clear-eyed, witty, and brutally honest portrait of lives touched by cancer.
What a life too: Norton has piles of ridiculous personal stories that spice up the tale, such as her stories about her hardboiled mom and Cosby-style dad, plus enough crazy friends to fill up a football stadium. Norton's deft avoidance of saccharine-sweet cheese keeps this book true, clearing room for her humorous meditations to strike. (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-12 00:18:47 EST)
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| 07-09-08 | 4 | 2\2 |
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I read "Lopsided" in less than a day -- couldn't put it down. Meredith Norton is a fabulous storyteller with a wicked sense of humor. What I find most appealing about her writing is her ability to poke fun of family and friends while simultaneously treating them with great affection. The book humanizes (and "humorizes") the process of living with a devastating form of cancer, a gift to many.
The book is not for everyone. The occasionally coarse language is one reason, and another is that it's not intended to be an "inspirational" memoir, which some desire or need. (I thought of giving it to one friend with terminal cancer, and decided against it.) But to those who can handle it, you will be left wanting more in-depth versions of each salacious anecdote! I think it's a great companion to Adam Gopnik's "Paris to the Moon" -- both offer hilarious inside looks at the French-American tete-a-tete in our modern world. (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-12 00:18:47 EST)
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| 07-09-08 | 5 | 1\1 |
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What a compelling book - I read it in one day - dare I call it a good beach read. It is amazing to see someone tackle cancer with such humor. While I certainly see the need for inspirational/advice books, I really appreciate the idea of just telling a story that happens to center on cancer. I think the author should be lauded for her fresh take on a topic in need of some levity. And I hope she gets to write more books on other topics.
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| 07-09-08 | 5 | 2\2 |
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"Lopsided" is a jolt of reality and hilarity for those of us that have, tragically but understandably, almost become used to the idea of breast cancer. So many women are being diagnosed each year that unless it strikes someone you love, the shock of cancer doesn't seem to reach inside and grab you. Until now... Meredith Norton makes absolutely certain that readers become part of not only her breast cancer story, but of her life. A cancer diagnosis affects real, live, original people and their families. We must never forget that each diagnosis is personal, unique and frightening. What a gift and a bonus that we can be reminded with such an absolutely hysterical, irreverant and fabulous story.
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| 07-09-08 | 5 | 2\2 |
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This book is a blast of fresh air for anyone who has battled cancer directly or by the side of a loved one. It is written almost completely without self-pity: frank, intensely aware, perhaps afraid inside -- but brash and full of life outside. I'm not sure how much direct application it will have for most people -- the author seems to have lived a pretty unique life -- but it certainly gives one an unexpected, helpful, and ultimately very wise perspective on life with this awful disease.
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| 07-09-08 | 5 | 3\3 |
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Meredith Norton's memoir is unexpectedly funny about a very serious subject. I found myself reading the novel,not wanting to put it down, eager to find out how she brings the story to an end. The comparison to Sedaris is appropriate as Meredith maintains the humor throughout yet pauses at times to allow us to understand the severity of cancer she faced. Memoirs are supposed to be self-reflections of personal experience, not self-help books that offer advice to others who may be suffering from the same disease; I disagree with the reviewer who suggests caution. Meredith brings us into her world and experiences, so we understand her confusion, frustration, anger, and humor. A great read from a woman who has a wonderful spirit and drive to survive against all odds. And she can write.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-12 00:18:47 EST)
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| 07-08-08 | 2 | 1\8 |
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Caution to the well-intentioned gift giver who may choose this for a loved one newly diagnosed or currently receiving treatment. I just completed chemo and radiation and affectionately refer to myself as "lopsided" so this title caught my attention immediately. I was especially attracted to the story because it was real-life and reviews underscored its funny factor. I found it to be an interesting story and yes, there were moments where it was funny but I was frustrated when I finished. I find it curious that she makes a case against self-pity and "milking it" -- so often it seems this is exactly what a memoir accomplishes. I'm sure it was cathartic to write, but I walked away from this book feeling cheated. I just didn't gain any practical, hopeful advice. Maybe I am still too close to my own diagnosis to appreciate her perspective. To the well-intentioned gift giver who may be reading this, I would highly recommend Any Day with Hair Is a Good Hair Day: How to Get Through CANCER and Get On with Your Life (Trust Me, I've Been There) by Michelle Rapkin. It is filled with practical advice and humor from hundreds of cancer survivors. Save "Lopsided" for another time.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-12 00:18:47 EST)
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| 07-08-08 | 5 | 3\3 |
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I picked up this book even though I had never heard of it because a) I'm interested in memoir and b) my sister-in-law is battling cancer. I never expected to be this enthralled. I simply could not put it down. Several times I found myself sneaking away from work just to read another page or two. I was riveted.
You can't help but fall in love with Meredith, this quirky character who doesn't take herself seriously and seems like just the kind of person I'd love (or be) in real life. Her battles are real but her wit is what moved me. I laughed out loud several times. I know, how is cancer funny? But you just have to read it for yourself. Really. You have to! Don't miss this great read! (Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-12 00:18:47 EST)
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| 07-04-08 | 5 | (NA) |
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I've read a lot of the breast cancer literature for the woman diagnosed since I was diagnosed 8 years ago - doing fine, thanks. This is the first one I think I've seen by a woman of color. A good combo read with Cancer Vixen.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-08 00:12:43 EST)
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| 06-29-08 | 5 | 1\1 |
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If you're looking for easy consolations and wishful thinking, don't look here. Meredith Norton pulls no punches and tells simple but hard truths: as her dad puts it, "No one gets out of here alive." But this isn't a depressing book; it's a story of (temporary) survival, and it's wickedly funny. Norton has a great eye for the ridiculous and outrageous in others and in herself. Recommended to anyone who may die.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-07 08:54:50 EST)
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