Thank you, thank you, thank you! Not only did I NEED this book, but I purchased one for several of my girl friends also. Highly recommended for heartache recovery...it puts you on good footing, with great ideas for starting deep soul repair.

Thank you once more.

Thank you, thank you, thank you! Not only did I NEED this book, but I purchased one for several of my girl friends also. Highly recommended for heartache recovery...it puts you on good footing, with great ideas for starting deep soul repair.

Thank you once more.

I'm a therapist and feminist who knows first-hand the suffering some women voluntarily subject themselves to at the hands of selfish and narcissistic men who have an unhealthy vendetta that they project on kind-hearted women. So when a client of mine brought this book to me, written by two, dare I say it, men, I had my doubts. What do men know about issues of the feminine domain, like the emotional pain of a breakup. The male tendency is to control and subjugate. So with low expectations and admittedly high prejudices, I held my nose and read it. After the third page, I stopped holding my nose and, was mesmerized. I could not believe this was written by men. The sensitivity, effort and imagination is like nothing I've ever experienced in a book. My favorite element of this book was that of 'aha' moments. About half-way through when I was reading about remembrance, I realized that a lot of my own male-bashing issues stemmed from the fact that my father was killed in the Gulf war 17 years ago when I was 13. I was so devastated and broken-hearted, of course but suddenly, I realized I was angry at him as well. A cold chill swept through my body when at 29 years-old, I finally realized that my ultra-feminism/projected anger at men stemmed from the anger at my dad for dying. Seems like a simple case of abandonment..but not to me. I was far too angry at men to see the simple roots of my self-imposed barriers to my own happiness in relationships. I've waited for about a year to mention anything about this book but when I saw a recent very hurtful diatribe against this book, I said to myself. "I made my dad pay for dying in defense of our country and living his ideals. This time I have an opportunity to support a book and the two decent men who wrote it." 'Heart' is an invaluable contribution not just because of the excellent and often instantly liberating content, but because it reveals the best of the loving hearts of men. The dad I never knew, I now know because of these dads.

I'm a therapist and feminist who knows first-hand the suffering some women voluntarily subject themselves to at the hands of selfish and narcissistic men who have an unhealthy vendetta that they project on kind-hearted women. So when a client of mine brought this book to me, written by two, dare I say it, men, I had my doubts. What do men know about issues of the feminine domain, like the emotional pain of a breakup. The male tendency is to control and subjugate. So with low expectations and admittedly high prejudices, I held my nose and read it. After the third page, I stopped holding my nose and, was mesmerized. I could not believe this was written by men. The sensitivity, effort and imagination is like nothing I've ever experienced in a book. My favorite element of this book was that of 'aha' moments. About half-way through when I was reading about remembrance, I realized that a lot of my own male-bashing issues stemmed from the fact that my father was killed in the Gulf war 17 years ago when I was 13. I was so devastated and broken-hearted, of course but suddenly, I realized I was angry at him as well. A cold chill swept through my body when at 29 years-old, I finally realized that my ultra-feminism/projected anger at men stemmed from the anger at my dad for dying. Seems like a simple case of abandonment..but not to me. I was far too angry at men to see the simple roots of my self-imposed barriers to my own happiness in relationships. I've waited for about a year to mention anything about this book but when I saw a recent very hurtful diatribe against this book, I said to myself. "I made my dad pay for dying in defense of our country and living his ideals. This time I have an opportunity to support a book and the two decent men who wrote it." 'Heart' is an invaluable contribution not just because of the excellent and often instantly liberating content, but because it reveals the best of the loving hearts of men. The dad I never knew, I now know because of these dads.

Selling a solution to fix your broken heart (new label, same tired solutions), what could be next?

I had my doubts about the title of the book, it reminded me of other advertising clichés: how to loose 20 pounds in two weeks, how to take 10 years of your age, get a full head of hair in a month, get smarter in three simple steps.........etc. Regretfully, I was still curious about the book and wanted to give it a chance, after all every heart deserves a chance to be healed.

To be fair, 30 days is usually sufficient time to break habits, and as proposed by the authors; it's the time needed to finish most cycles in life, which led me to believe that the authors are targeting female readers (a feeling I had when I first read the title, yeah once you're done with your next period, you will be reborn again, guaranteed). Also, it's a well known psychological approach to perform an act first in order to get to the wanted associated feelings like gaining more self esteem or getting to a better relaxation level, but I wasn't sure if that would apply to healing a broken heart.

Surprisingly, the two authors identified many important points like: avoiding pain will only postpone recovery, family and friends' hurtful attitudes to the broken hearted, the painful results of a broken heart, like rapid weight loss, loss of sleep, loss of trust, low self esteem and depression.
What the reader might expect after identifying a problem is to be offered a way of dealing with it, but I was disappointed in the authors' approach of presenting the affects and solutions to a broken heart:
1- Loss of sleep is dangerous and might lead to deep depression. The solution: try to relax, here are some sleep techniques that every body knows, and some herbs and other products that will help you relax (more advertisement). Do you find in these solutions any practical solution for people, who have been loosing sleep for long months, or just the same tired solutions?
2- Loss of weight might by rapid and acute. The solution: empty words are offered here and there throughout the book. No sound solution is given to stop the weight loss and regain a healthy appetite?
3- Low self esteem exacerbated by the recent hurt. The solution: avoid low self esteem and there is a plethora of techniques to make readers feel better about them selves, including weight loss methods (advertisement directed to the broken hearted female maybe?). How does adopting an attitude of pleasing the other gender boost self esteem of a person who's already losing weight rapidly? How can confiding in total strangers make us feel better? How is touching people randomly is a healing gift? No kidding, the authors are actually suggesting that.
4- Trust issues caused by betrayal: The solution: avoid trust issues or you will return to the same bad situation. Just like other identified problems in the book, solutions are merely empty words or more advertisement, not proven self help steps. How exactly does a wounded person gain trust in others? Am I to assume that every other person in the world has read this book and that they will start acting more humane? Please open the door, I think Pollyanna has arrived.
5- Confronting the pain instead of avoiding it is a proven approach to repairing emotional injuries. The authors' view, which was the worst solution I ever heard; is to force one self to cry for one day then move on, another day for a poor me celebration then move on, a day here and there among the 30 days trip of "chop, chop and get in the market again". How on earth does limiting uncontrollable reactions like crying count as pain confrontation?

Once done with this master piece, I actually stopped questioning the authors' intention especially after finding that their degrees were in ADVERTISMENT.

Contrary to what the authors propose, a broken heart is not caused by losing a lover or ending a relationship, but by the shock to an established personal moral system and finding out that the truth is totally different from the personal image of our relationships and loved ones that we have constructed.

A broken heart can't be fixed unless a moral personal system is rebuilt or healed. Each injury is unique and personal and each heart has a unique healing method and timeline. That's why I propose different books for the broken hearted of all genders:

* Forgiving the unforgivable, by Beverly Flanigan: a book that is based on detailed research, by a practicing psychologist who specialized in forgiveness and heart healing for twenty years. This book doesn't lead necessarily to forgiveness but leads through self exploration and therapy to a closure.
* It's called a breakup because it's broken, by Greg and Amiira Behrendt: which is a humorous collection of stories and healing methods, written by two regular people who don't claim to be experts. The book is based on personal experience with long years of pain; it does identify the difficulty of healing and the possibility of recovery through strong will and objective thinking.

I had my doubts about the title of the book, it reminded me of other advertising clichés: how to loose 20 pounds in two weeks, how to take 10 years of your age, get a full head of hair in a month, get smarter in three simple steps.........etc. Regretfully, I was still curious about the book and wanted to give it a chance, after all every heart deserves a chance to be healed.

To be fair, 30 days is usually sufficient time to break habits, and as proposed by the authors; it's the time needed to finish most cycles in life, which led me to believe that the authors are targeting female readers (a feeling I had when I first read the title, yeah once you're done with your next period, you will be reborn again, guaranteed). Also, it's a well known psychological approach to perform an act first in order to get to the wanted associated feelings like gaining more self esteem or getting to a better relaxation level, but I wasn't sure if that would apply to healing a broken heart.

Surprisingly, the two authors identified many important points like: avoiding pain will only postpone recovery, family and friends' hurtful attitudes to the broken hearted, the painful results of a broken heart, like rapid weight loss, loss of sleep, loss of trust, low self esteem and depression.
What the reader might expect after identifying a problem is to be offered a way of dealing with it, but I was disappointed in the authors' approach of presenting the affects and solutions to a broken heart:
1- Loss of sleep is dangerous and might lead to deep depression. The solution: try to relax, here are some sleep techniques that every body knows, and some herbs and other products that will help you relax (more advertisement). Do you find in these solutions any practical solution for people, who have been loosing sleep for long months, or just the same tired solutions?
2- Loss of weight might by rapid and acute. The solution: empty words are offered here and there throughout the book. No sound solution is given to stop the weight loss and regain a healthy appetite?
3- Low self esteem exacerbated by the recent hurt. The solution: avoid low self esteem and there is a plethora of techniques to make readers feel better about them selves, including weight loss methods (advertisement directed to the broken hearted female maybe?). How does adopting an attitude of pleasing the other gender boost self esteem of a person who's already losing weight rapidly? How can confiding in total strangers make us feel better? How is touching people randomly is a healing gift? No kidding, the authors are actually suggesting that.
4- Trust issues caused by betrayal: The solution: avoid trust issues or you will return to the same bad situation. Just like other identified problems in the book, solutions are merely empty words or more advertisement, not proven self help steps. How exactly does a wounded person gain trust in others? Am I to assume that every other person in the world has read this book and that they will start acting more humane? Please open the door, I think Pollyanna has arrived.
5- Confronting the pain instead of avoiding it is a proven approach to repairing emotional injuries. The authors' view, which was the worst solution I ever heard; is to force one self to cry for one day then move on, another day for a poor me celebration then move on, a day here and there among the 30 days trip of "chop, chop and get in the market again". How on earth does limiting uncontrollable reactions like crying count as pain confrontation?

Once done with this master piece, I actually stopped questioning the authors' intention especially after finding that their degrees were in ADVERTISMENT.

Contrary to what the authors propose, a broken heart is not caused by losing a lover or ending a relationship, but by the shock to an established personal moral system and finding out that the truth is totally different from the personal image of our relationships and loved ones that we have constructed.

A broken heart can't be fixed unless a moral personal system is rebuilt or healed. Each injury is unique and personal and each heart has a unique healing method and timeline. That's why I propose different books for the broken hearted of all genders:

* Forgiving the unforgivable, by Beverly Flanigan: a book that is based on detailed research, by a practicing psychologist who specialized in forgiveness and heart healing for twenty years. This book doesn't lead necessarily to forgiveness but leads through self exploration and therapy to a closure.
* It's called a breakup because it's broken, by Greg and Amiira Behrendt: which is a humorous collection of stories and healing methods, written by two regular people who don't claim to be experts. The book is based on personal experience with long years of pain; it does identify the difficulty of healing and the possibility of recovery through strong will and objective thinking.

I had my doubts about the title of the book, it reminded me of other advertising clichés: how to loose 20 pounds in two weeks, how to take 10 years of your age, get a full head of hair in a month, get smarter in three simple steps.........etc. Regretfully, I was still curious about the book and wanted to give it a chance, after all every heart deserves a chance to be healed.

To be fair, 30 days is usually sufficient time to break habits, and as proposed by the authors; it's the time needed to finish most cycles in life, which led me to believe that the authors are targeting female readers (a feeling I had when I first read the title, yeah once you're done with your next period, you will be reborn again, guaranteed). Also, it's a well known psychological approach to perform an act first in order to get to the wanted associated feelings like gaining more self esteem or getting to a better relaxation level, but I wasn't sure if that would apply to healing a broken heart.

Surprisingly, the two authors identified many important points like: avoiding pain will only postpone recovery, family and friends' hurtful attitudes to the broken hearted, the painful results of a broken heart, like rapid weight loss, loss of sleep, loss of trust, low self esteem and depression.
What the reader might expect after identifying a problem is to be offered a way of dealing with it, but I was disappointed in the authors' approach of presenting the affects and solutions to a broken heart:
1- Loss of sleep is dangerous and might lead to deep depression. The solution: try to relax, here are some sleep techniques that every body knows, and some herbs and other products that will help you relax (more advertisement). Do you find in these solutions any practical solution for people, who have been loosing sleep for long months, or just the same tired solutions?
2- Loss of weight might be rapid and acute. The solution: empty words are offered here and there throughout the book. No sound solution is given to stop the weight loss and regain a healthy appetite?
3- Low self esteem exacerbated by the recent hurt. The solution: avoid low self esteem and there is a plethora of techniques to make readers feel better about them selves, including weight loss methods (advertisement directed to the broken hearted female maybe?). How does adopting an attitude of pleasing the other gender boost self esteem of a person who's already losing weight rapidly? How can confiding in total strangers make us feel better? How is touching people randomly is a healing gift? No kidding, the authors are actually suggesting that.
4- Trust issues caused by betrayal: The solution: avoid trust issues or you will return to the same bad situation. Just like other identified problems in the book, solutions are merely empty words or more advertisement, not proven self help steps. How exactly does a wounded person gain trust in others? Am I to assume that every other person in the world has read this book and that they will start acting more humane? Please open the door, I think Pollyanna has arrived.
5- Confronting the pain instead of avoiding it is a proven approach to repairing emotional injuries. The authors' view, which was the worst solution I ever heard; is to force one self to cry for one day then move on, another day for a poor me celebration then move on, a day here and there among the 30 days trip of "chop, chop and get in the market again". How on earth does limiting uncontrollable reactions like crying count as pain confrontation?

Once done with this master piece, I actually stopped questioning the authors' intention especially after finding that their degrees were in ADVERTISMENT.

Contrary to what the authors propose, a broken heart is not caused by losing a lover or ending a relationship, but by the shock to an established personal moral system and finding out that the truth is totally different from the personal image of our relationships and loved ones that we have constructed.

A broken heart can't be fixed unless a moral personal system is rebuilt or healed. Each injury is unique and personal and each heart has a unique healing method and timeline. That's why I propose different books for the broken hearted of all genders:

* Forgiving the unforgivable, by Beverly Flanigan: a book that is based on detailed research, by a practicing psychologist who specialized in forgiveness and heart healing for twenty years. This book doesn't lead necessarily to forgiveness but leads through self exploration and therapy to a closure.
* It's called a breakup because it's broken, by Greg and Amiira Behrendt: which is a humorous collection of stories and healing methods, written by two regular people who don't claim to be experts. The book is based on personal experience with long years of pain; it does identify the difficulty of healing and the possibility of recovery through strong will and objective thinking.

I thought this would be an easy read. Boy, was I wrong. Well, it *was* easy to read because it is very clearly written, and very direct and focused. It took me longer than expected to read because the SUBSTANCE of the book is so compelling. The chapters and exercises really hit home and provoke a lot of contemplation and action. I have already ordered a copy for a friend and highly recommend this book to anyone who has either recently lost a love relationship, or who hasn't really recovered from the hurts of one or more past relationships, recent or not so recent. This book basically says, YOU are in charge. YOU do the work. YOU need to recognize where you are and what you CAN do about it. This book does not permit you to wallow unnecessarily in the stages of grief but instead encourages you to recognize what IS and what ISN'T and to CHOOSE to deal with your situation constructively and actively. Spot-on!

I relied on someone else's review when I decided to purchase this book, and I'm very glad I did. The authors don't sugarcoat the whole breakup experience, but they do offer realistic ideas on how to approach each day and mark progress. They don't demonize the other party, which is helpful, and similarly, they don't idealize what led to the split. I found myself looking forward to reading each day's blurb and contemplating the associated exercises. While I am still very sad about my breakup, I know there are better days ahead, and that having spent the time following the heartache constructively analyzing myself and the circumstances will prove beneficial down the road. If you are in a similar situation of feeling overwhelmed by a recent breakup, I highly recommend this book. And good luck to you.

My sister got me this book after my girlfriend of 4 years and I broke up. Thanks, sis! I found it to be a helpful way to occupy those newfound and oftentimes unwelcome free hours that accompany the loss of a loving relationship. The book discusses various emotions associated with the loss of a relationship and offers insight on how to deal with them. For each topic discussed, there are practical suggestions on generating the healthy perspective necessary to move on and become a happy person after a break-up. It's been a few months since I got the book, and I can definitely look back and know it helped me think about a lot of difficult things. After a few months, I feel a lot better and have a much better outlook on what a healthy relationship is and how that wasn't what I had.

This book has truly become an important part in helping me in my life.

I read this book and marked it up a whole bunch and have been going back a lot, looking at specific chapters as they pertain to me. It really has been great to read and has given me a lot of new perspectives on what I have been going through.

I am recently out a relationship in which I fell head over heels in love with a girl. We started dating and to say I was on top of the world would be an understatement. We dated for a year (talked marriage and kids) and at about that point I started getting feelings that it just was not right for me. I broke up with my girlfriend and for a long time after we went back and forth with dating each other, each time me breaking up with her.

I thought I was going to be able to move forward and move on with my life and at one point we stopped talking. About a month later she informed me she was seeing someone else and my world pretty much crashed. I was in such a bad place as I went through all those feelings of "I gave up the best thing ever," to "what is wrong with me," to "I will never love again," to "how could she be with someone else," to "why could I not love her before, this pain is unbearable," etc.

To say the last few months have been hard would be an understatement. But this book has been a big part of my life and helped me get through those sleepless nights, those unending days, and I can see now that I am now on a road to recovery. It is a process and this book has helped me see how to make it through that process.

One's first true love has been so hard to get over, especially knowing I was the one who ended it every time. I could not understand why I was saying goodbye every time to the one person I loved. All I could do was try to figure out what was wrong with me, there had to be some defect within me. Then to add to the confusion even more, after all the times I said goodbye, when I found out she was with someone else, was when I really hit rock bottom. That was when I really started to question my decisions. That is when I picked up this book and started reading.

This book takes a look at things from both sides, whether you are the one breaking up or you are the one who was broken up with. I feel like in my situation I was on both sides! I have learned so much about myself and I really have started to take a turn for the better. I have setbacks, but I have to understand that I am going to have those days and the good thing is is that those days are a lot fewer and farther between than thirty days ago.

I lost my best friend, the one person that I truly opened up to and really shared my core with. It has been hard for me knowing she is out there and close to me, yet so far away in so many respects. It has been hard having the one person that I really want to talk to about all this, not there for me. It is not everyday that we lose our best friend. It is something that I have struggled with, but I have realized it is something I have to deal with. This book shows you how to work through that.

I know I have a ways to go, but I am progessing. This book has been an amazing help to me as I have truly had the hardest time of my life. I even emailed the authors and they got back to me right away, what a great feeling!

I would recommend this book highly to those who are working on mending their heart, no matter what the situation.

I read this book after my fiance broke up with me after our year-long engagement. I didn't have this book from Day 1, so I caught up by reading through it in one sitting and then referring back to the book when I was having a particularly rough day. Some of the information is pretty powerful stuff, but I had a hard time with some of it. This book assumes that the relationship you were in was unhealthy in some way. Not all relationships are unhealthy, and can end for other reasons. I realize that the point of this book is to make you look at the flaws in your ex-partner, and not put them on a pedestal. But for someone like me -- who felt loved and cherished straight through to the end -- it was hard to relate to some of the text. The overall message of the book, which is to value and love yourself, and to take care of yourself, resonates clearly, and I was therefore able to skip over the parts that didn't seem to apply to my relationship and still get some benefit from the other messages.

One of the more unique aspects of this book is how the author team has included helpful actions that you can take at the end of each chapter to further your recovery. I found that these helpful reminders, such as working out and eating right, felt as if they were being delivered by a concerned friend offering tips to make me feel better.

I tried to follow this book but I needed the read and really needed the help at the time and I don't think this book was the greatest for what I needed.. but it did have some good points in it.

I was left at the altar with nowhere to turn. Then one of the bridesmaids - or a gal who was supposed to be a bridesmaid I should say - gave me a copy of this book. Literally it changed my life. Bronson delivers from page one. The book made me want to forget old...what's his name now? My BIG MISTAKE let's call him. Anyhow, I want to thank everyone involved in How To heal A Broken Heart in 30 Days. It was, all hyperbole aside, a lifesaver.

This is great book. Every woman should read it. You will be surprised how iformative this book is!
But you must read another new besteller which I highly recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You

These books are fascinating!

First I never thought I'd buy a book like this, and second, I never thought I'd write a review. I've read 2/3 of the book, but that is enough to tell me this book is a gift to my soul.



Every single page is full of love, compassion and realistic advice. Thank you for skipping the platitudes and triteness and for getting to the heart of the matter. (no pun intended) The end of a relationship hurts whether you end it, she ends it or you mutually agree to end it. It hurts whether you are at fault or she is at fault or you both are at fault. It just hurts and this book teaches first that you must give up your pride and admit that it hurts. The pain can vary, but for me I found out something I didn't even know was there.



The relationship I thought I was hurting over was not the one causing me the most pain. It was the one before. I was married for 17 years and ended up divorced. I remarried my college girlfriend who I thought was the love of my life. That marriage lasted (legally) 2 years and 9 months. After that I dated around some and then fell for a woman who I thought was the opposite of every woman I had ever fallen for - but that turned out not to be true... she was the same in many ways.



When I ended that relationship (I ended it, and I was mean when I did it, but there was no other way to make sure the door was shut tight.) I mourned her for weeks. Then I realized that I was in mourning and lonely for weeks before I actually ended the relationship. When I read this book and really looked at myself I realized that I was mourning this relationship AND my second marriage. A double whammy.



This book has helped me uncover some ugly truths about myself and the patterns I keep repeating. There comes a time when grief is over and you move on, but if you move on too fast you don't learn and grow. If you linger too long you get stuck. This book's prescription is just right. Treat yourself well, be kind to yourself, understand and let yourself feel and then let yourself heal.



I am learning to let go of what my heart keeps saying what was, and what might have been, but probably never really was or would have been, both with the second wife and the rebound girlfriend. Now I am beginning to see that it IS POSSIBLE that the next time can be better.



Thank you Howard and Mike.

First I never thought I'd buy a book like this, and second, I never thought I'd write a review. I've read 2/3 of the book, but that is enough to tell me this book is a gift to my soul.

Every single page is full of love, compassion and realistic advice. Thank you for skipping the platitudes and triteness and for getting to the heart of the matter. (no pun intended) The end of a relationship hurts whether you end it, she ends it or you mutually agree to end it. It hurts whether you are at fault or she is at fault or you both are at fault. It just hurts and this book teaches first that you must give up your pride and admit that it hurts. The pain can vary, but for me I found out something I didn't even know was there.

The relationship I thought I was hurting over was not the one causing me the most pain. It was the one before. I was married for 17 years and ended up divorced. I remarried my college girlfriend who I thought was the love of my life. That marriage lasted (legally) 2 years and 9 months. After that I dated around some and then fell for a woman who I thought was the opposite of every woman I had ever fallen for - but that turned out not to be true... she was the same in many ways.

When I ended that relationship (I ended it, and I was mean when I did it, but there was no other way to make sure the door was shut tight.) I mourned her for weeks. Then I realized that I was in mourning and lonely for weeks before I actually ended the relationship. When I read this book and really looked at myself I realized that I was mourning this relationship AND my second marriage. A double whammy.

This book has helped me uncover some ugly truths about myself and the patterns I keep repeating. There comes a time when grief is over and you move on, but if you move on too fast you don't learn and grow. If you linger too long you get stuck. This book's prescription is just right. Treat yourself well, be kind to yourself, understand and let yourself feel and then let yourself heal.

I am learning to let go of what my heart keeps saying what was, and what might have been, but probably never really was or would have been, both with the second wife and the rebound girlfriend. Now I am beginning to see that it IS POSSIBLE that the next time can be better.

Thank you Howard and Mike.

ultimately you have to do what's right for you.

I've found it helpful to turn to from time to time, but healing a broken heart in 30 days? It is said in Sex In The City that it takes half the time of the relationship to heal fully...so far I have to agree. Don't expect miracles from this book, but take solace where you can find it.

I think this book is best suited for teenagers. The author despiritely tries to make sence of the whole concept of breaking up but failed to do so.
Not recommended !

I bought this book not that long after my ex and I broke up, and I have to say that it has helped my tremendously with the healing process. The day-by-day guide provided a lot of food-for-thought that would serve me well during my counselling sessions as my thearpist and I would talk about the different tips and insights from the book. I recommend it to anyone with a broken heart.

After the first chapter I could pretty much tell where this book's narrative was heading... straight up its own hiney. I plowed through the next few chapters and finally gave up.
There is no clear, concise, useable advice or information given in this book. What you end up reading is a muddled hodgepodge of opinions from two middle-aged men who are overly impressed with their own grasp of love and life. My dad does a better job of this when I call him on the phone.

I gave this book four out of five stars, not because it isn't a very helpful book but because a book can only do just so much. You have to create the final star yourself. I did read this book over the 30 days prescribed and followed its advisements as carefully as anyone could. I do feel much much better now because the book helped me understand why he wasn't for me, how separation experiences of the past can come into play and,I learnt how I could make more sensible choices as I stood up and learnt who 'me' is. I also learnt about so many things I could do immediately to help myself feel better both in action and general understanding of myself. I still miss the comfort of him but I suppose that's only natural. This just happened six weeks ago and now with St. Valentine's Day peaking around the corner, one day after my birthday, I might add, it's very hard and I just wish the right one would come along. Thirty days ago, I didn't think anything would help me in the slightest. Now after reading this book, I have hope and some positive feelings about myself once again. I wonder if the authors have found love in their own lives or, if they wrote simply out of their own experiences. I say this because it feels like they had to have survived hard losses to have this kind of unique wisdom. The book has an honest quality without ramming advise down your throat, like a supportive father. I never knew my own dad but I think I've discovered two brilliant surrogates here.

I gave this book four out of five stars, not because it isn't a very helpful book but because a book can only do just so much. You have to create the final star yourself. I did read this book over the 30 days prescribed and followed its advisements as carefully as anyone could. I do feel much much better now because the book helped me understand why he wasn't for me, how separation experiences of the past can come into play and,I learnt how I could make more sensible choices as I stood up and learnt who 'me' is. I also learnt about so many things I could do immediately to help myself feel better both in action and general understanding of myself. I still miss the comfort of him but I suppose that's only natural. This just happened six weeks ago and now with St. Valentine's Day peaking around the corner, one day after my birthday, I might add, it's very hard and I just wish the right one would come along. Thirty days ago, I didn't think anything would help me in the slightest. Now after reading this book, I have hope and some positive feelings about myself once again. I wonder if the authors have found love in their own lives or, if they wrote simply out of their own experiences. I say this because it feels like they had to have survived hard losses to have this kind of unique wisdom. The book has an honest quality without ramming advise down your throat, like a supportive father. I never knew my own dad but I think I've discovered two brilliant surrogates here.

I'm gonna blog a little bit so if anyone doesn't like it, too bad. It's the way it is. I found this book from their really impressive byebyelove.com website which directed me here. Out of pride, I waited two months to buy the book but when I did, I emailed them at the email address provided in the book, even before finishing the book. I never expected to hear from them and, I never expected any book to ease my very real pain. But they each replied to my situation with personal emails and different but complimentary perspectives. They are real people, Mike and Howard and they really care about their readers. So this is a 'ya also get' email. Not only is the book excellent, sympathetic and abundant with real recovery tips that work, ya also get Mikey and Howard. Just thought everyone should know that you get a lot more than just a book. My only regret is that I waited two months. Otherwise, I would've been two months farther along! If this book doesn't help you, you probably have six heads, are covered with deadly green fungus and, have a closed mind.

I'm gonna blog a little bit so if anyone doesn't like it, too bad. It's the way it is. I found this book from their really impressive byebyelove.com website which directed me here. Out of pride, I waited two months to buy the book but when I did, I emailed them at the email address provided in the book, even before finishing the book. I never expected to hear from them and, I never expected any book to ease my very real pain. But they each replied to my situation with personal emails and different but complimentary perspectives. They are real people, Mike and Howard and they really care about their readers. So this is a 'ya also get' email. Not only is the book excellent, sympathetic and abundant with real recovery tips that work, ya also get Mikey and Howard. Just thought everyone should know that you get a lot more than just a book. My only regret is that I waited two months. Otherwise, I would've been two months farther along! If this book doesn't help you, you probably have six heads, are covered with deadly green fungus and, have a closed mind.

i have to give this 1 star, because it didn't help me at all with my breakup.. i was impressed with the excerpt on this site, but not with the actual book.

I'm a pretty solid individual and very little affects me. But when my young bride left me during my honeymoon, that pretty much did me in. I was far too proud to ask for help but my sister sent me this book which at first, I thought was a topic exclusively for women. But this book allowed me to get back on track and, to do so privately. No therapists for me, thank you. In fact, after reading about half of it, I began to understand that much of my downfall was from the choices I made. What was I thinking? Actually, I don't think I was thinking. When a book changes your life for the better, you should tell people about it. I know there are men like me who feel they have no place to turn. This book is not just for woman. It has tools that help people and you know how we like tools. If this book could help me, I think it could pretty much help anyone in the same situation.

My ex boyfriend used to adapt a quote from the old movie LOVE STORY when he would joke and say 'Love means always having to say Sari' I hope this translates so you understand. Well, now he's really Sari as in sorry because he broke my heart into tiny pieces small as rice. I saw this book in Japanese several months ago and never thought I'd need it, but found it in the US also. I think the authors are american because the publisher is american so what is interesting is that their ideas to help heal a broken heart work anywhere in the world. So I write this to say Domi Arigato. Thank you so much for this helpful book.

Regards from Sari.

My ex boyfriend used to adapt a quote from the old movie LOVE STORY when he would joke and say 'Love means always having to say Sari' I hope this translates so you understand. Well, now he's really Sari as in sorry because he broke my heart into tiny pieces small as rice. I saw this book in Japanese several months ago and never thought I'd need it, but found it in the US also. I think the authors are american because the publisher is american so what is interesting is that their ideas to help heal a broken heart work anywhere in the world. So I write this to say Domi Arigato. Thank you so much for this helpful book.

Regards from Sari.

Make that six stars!!This book is so good because it really gets to the point of the issues you need to deal with. No drippy poetry, this book successfully takes you out of that pain (we all know that pain, and what his or her name is!). I didn't think I'd survive this last breakup but being an avid reader, I browsed at least half a dozen breakup books and this was the only one that really helped me. What was most helpful to me was the many tools and exercises for me to use to prove to myself that I was worthy and would be okay. Have a headache, you take aspirin, you don't have some nymph come over a wax poetic all over you. Have a heartache, this book will absolutely be your best permanent pain-reliever!

I couldn't get over my ex even after we had been broken up for a year. I felt so helpless I was willing to try anything, but this book actually helped me put things into perspective. I feel more confident and understood. Read this if your heart is broken!

This book contained some good ideas, but I like other reviewers couldn't take a lot of the advice being shoved down my throat. I think a good idea is to try the book WITHOUT believing that you will be healed in 30 days.

I always want to recommend another book that isnt on AMAZON, It's called The BreakUp Workbook and if you look for it online, you'll see what I'm talking about. It has a forum where you can talk to other women WHILE you do the book and I found that it helped a lot.

Almost 2 months into my breakup , I was stilll a sobbing heart broken mess. I had two wonderful friends that helped me as much as they could , but I could see I was getting on their last nerve. I cried and prayed and prayed and cried , Then one night while online I discovered this book. An accident, a coincidence ? I dont think so. I am currently on day 21. All I can say is Thank God for this book and for my two Angels that wrote it. I'm still hurting and probaly will be for a long time, But I can hold my head up high and know that I am getting on with my life. I would and have reccomended this book to anyone going through a broken relationship.

My ex dumped me about 23 or 24 days ago. I got this book based on someone who really liked it. For the most part I'm very happy with it. Some of the stuff repeats over and over again, but I must admit I am feeling much better, and the book has definately helped me out. I'm to the point where I mentally have forgiven my ex, and feel comfortable with not ever seeing her again. I think after 30 days I'll be strong enough to make my ex a VERY distant memory. The one thing I want to caution on, is that 30 days is just a guideline, it could take longer for people depending on the situation....

This is the only book that I can wholly endorse for both men and women. For one thing, the cover isn't pink-whoever said you can't judge a book by its cover wasn't scanning shelves for breakup books. Also, it's written by two men so it doesn't have that "you go girl!" tone that one often finds in relationship books written for women (in other words, most relationship books.) The other reason I highly recommend this book to anyone is that it's the only breakup recovery book I know of that is written for any person in the throes of heartbreak, including the person who ended the relationship. Because of this, the book is very balanced and objective, with absolutely no blame-laying or victim-playing rhetoric in any of the thirty short chapters.

Overall, I found How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days extremely pragmatic, organized, and well written. It's sympathetic without being touchy-feely and it's serious without being boring. Good work, Bronson and Riley! You go, guys!

Sample of Suggested Activities:
Clean your office, have a good laugh, have a good cry, make love to strangers (telepathically), exercise, spend a half-hour in a floatation tank, drink hot cocoa at bedtime

Best/Most Useful Line or Advice:
"Did you work too hard to maintain your recent relationship? Bend over backward, swallow your pride, play the doormat to prevent any conflicts?" Wow! How did they know? Wait a minute-did I date one of these guys?

Weirdest/Not At All Useful Line or Advice:
On day 14, Bronson and Riley recommended a two-week checkup to "acknowledge the truth." I don't think they meant that I should go for coffee with my ex, burst into tears, and hurl accusations while nosy Starbucks patrons looked at him like he was the Antichrist-but that's pretty much what I did and, let me tell you, it didn't help much. Two weeks is too soon to schedule an exit interview because the pain is still awfully fresh. I think it's much better to wait and "acknowledge the truth" when the truth is that you no longer give a damn.

This book is great for:
People who have never read a self-help book
Virgos