The authors rely on little more than personal anecdotal experience. Their personal stories take too much space and cut out room for practical advice. They rely little on what mainstream sexology has to say becuase of their unquestioned committment to the sinfulness of "even a hint" of lust after a woman--based largely on an uncritical, literal reading of Matthew 5:28. Their reasoning embodies a perfect example of slippery-slope reasoning that I will use in the future when I teach critical thinking classes: 'if it goes that far, it'll end up going quite a bit farther.' The fact that there is no index helps the case for saying that this book is more like a novel about the consequences of sexual repression on one's emotional well-being and self-control, and a documentary of the bad advice that comes from it, than a helpful guide for young men trying to understand how to handle their bodily needs.

I really recomend this book...i have found it very relavent and challenging giving practical advice i recommend this to any guy (unmarried - otherwise get every Mans battle)to any guy struggling with lust

Excellent book for every dad wanting to instruct and lead his son in how to be a real man!

I ordered Every Young Mans Battle for my 16 year old grandson. It came promptly and in a-1 condition. He is still in the process of reading it and finds it very helpful.

I finally bought this book after reading it through twice after I borrowed if from a friend. This book really gets to the heart of the problem and offers techniques and solutions for beating this up hill battle. I can't wait to finish it so I can read it again. It's nice to know that there are other people with the same problem. I hope that you buy this book, even if your not a 'young man' anymore.

This book is everything that has been left out in churches for years. Teenagers hear continuously that they shouldn't lust and shouldn't have premarital sex, etc. Rarely does anyone tell them how to avoid those things. This book does that. I would highly recommend this book and invite any questions or comments about it.

I've read the "Every Woman's Battle" book and have checked out all the various books by this author. They are equally impressive and excellent.

I still have not received this book, I have contacted the seller who stated that it should arrive by 23 Oct. The seller is very good when it comes to responding to my e-mails and usually takes 24 hrs or less.

I recommend this book to any young man who may be struggling with sexual purity.

I think this book has a lot of wise advice that in my experience only very few young men don't badly need to hear. The thing that I thought was lacking was an explanation of how the rules set forth in the book must be followed in a response to ones relationship with Christ. Many young men could misunderstand the importance of this and only focus on the rules proposed in the book. This might cause them to focus on doing works alone and become very law/works oriented, striving to fulfill the "laws" in their power. Hopefully we all know the danger of that. The law kills... Also parents thinking of getting this book for younger young men, should know that sexual examples are made in the book that might put thoughts in a young mans mind. If you don't want your son being exposed to sexual examples that are given in this book eg. oral sex, "getting under a bras", (used as instructive tools in the book) then you will have to censor it.

As a 24-year-old single man, I debated between getting this book and getting the other one ("Every Man's Battle"). I went with this one because it is geared more toward young single (non-married) men. This book discusses the temptations that every young man battles every day. The authors pull out all the stops to let young men know that there are temptations out there and they give detailed, thoughtful, biblical instruction on how to minimize their impact. This book was difficult to set down, with biblical quotations and stories from the authors' lives. Their candor and non-judgemental views can help any young man who is fighting sexual temptation.

The world is conning young people into believing that indulging all sexual desires will bring the ultimate happiness. This author is an expert in dealing with the 'cost' of sexual addiction and it's victims. (See his book EVERY MAN'S BATTLE).
In this "young man's version" of the book he is able to take his expertise and put it in a language and format that is easily understood by young people. I feel this book is a great piece of armor for my son. He is first affirmed that he is "normal" in this struggle and then given some practical suggestions for dealing with it in a healthy manner. The book addresses healthy and appropriate attitudes towards girls and women. It is a major tool in helping him to have a wonderfully fullfilling sexual life later in it's God given context: marriage. The language is frank, but not crude. The book is based on healthy biblical principles without being too "preachy".

Because our children are being bombarded with unhealthy sexual messages on a daily basis I think it is critical that this type of book be given to a young man early in puberty. The book provides a great foundation for parents to build upon and an opportunity for future conversations.

I purchased this book for my grandson who is 14 - I reviewed the book before I gave it to him. I hope it will help him understand alot about sex and will give him respect and honor for girls. We will only be able to tell what effects this book will have as he grows older. This book is very explicit about manhood.

This book is absolutely the best one I've ever read regarding sexual sin and its effects on Christian men. It's written for young men, and the author has a similar book for older men, but to be honest, this one is the best. All Christian men, regardless of their age, need to read this book.

I am currently leading a small group of high school guys in the revolution of "not even a hint of lust". This book has been very thorough as the author has been through what seems to be the worst of the worst. Being transparent in his youthful days and thoughout college into marriage, the author points out all of the pitfalls that trap young men into a lifetime of LUST. As a leader when I started leading this group I felt as if I had conquered the big ticket items when it comes to the battle with lust, then halfway through the Author takes a turn that even pointed fingers at myself that their might even be a Hint of Lust in my life that must be dealt with. This book and the workbook together is probably the BEST tool you will find to bring young men to the truth and help them to be honest with themselves. My two step daughters are currently going through 'evern young womans battle' and the same incredible results. Two thumbs up and we are only half way through. georgewiegand4@earthlink.net

While containing helpful strategies and ideas, unfortunately the writers drag your mind through the gutter as they graphically discuss accounts of sexual discovery. One teenager I disciple recently told me this book actually caused him to stumble more, since it put new ideas in his mind! Parents and youth leaders should carefully screen this book because it can do more do more harm than good for certain teens.

A healthy alternative that contains an even stronger biblical basis, that avoids the graphic descriptions, and that is much shorter (making it much more likely for teens to read it) is Joshua Harris' "Not Even A Hint: Guarding Your Heart Against Lust." This book is based on the truth of Ephesians 5:3. It has also been re-released as "Sex is Not the Problem, Lust Is." I have led several teenage guys in studies of it and all have found it very beneficial in honoring the Lord in the area of their sexuality.

This book is more than a self-help guide, a "for dummies", a book for better living, but a book towards better life, through God. It doesn't sugar coat or beat around the bush, it gives practical advice on what it means to be a man, and how our daughters, or lady friends, our girlfriends, should be treated. What is purity? How do you define purity, the world today, constantly changing and defining human behaviour, what line do you draw as a standard? This book lets you discover what it means to be a man and how to act purely through God. I strongly recommend it to any young man. It will change your life.

Best Wishes!

Jayse, 18
Alberta, Canada
Christian-Alliance

A good friend of mine gave me this book in order to destroy my inner demons, namely, lust. I was a willing candidate, being part of the church circle, bible studies, and accountability groups; I wanted to eliminate this evil within me before I was sentenced... to hell! This book offered many examples of how to train your mind away from thinking about sex, all of which fail miserably. Luckily, I have come to my senses at least partially on life, lust, and sex, the human condition, and the futility of fighting with human nature. This book is concerned with abstention, not understanding, and understanding is what you really need. Let me give you an even better strategy, and know that these sparse lines offer you more aid than this entire book:

Understand your lust, and understand your guilt. Just understand and change will occur one way or another.

I understand the authors have very good intentions, though I would not recommend this to anybody. Read "Summerhill" by A.S. Neill for a peek into the human condition on "Sex Attitudes" for some interesting and enlightening reading.

Very good book to help young men avoid the temptation of lust for women.

Just looking at the front cover should tell us girls something: What Andy Roony said about women's jeans was true. So when is someone going to write a really good book about modesty for today's young women? It could make living a pure life just that much easier for our brothers in the Lord.

This book will not solve your problems, but will help any young man who is trying to be pure and honor the Lord in his fight against sexual temptation. The book comes up with an awesome game plan, learning how to "bounce your eyes", and "starve the sumo", which is the euphemism for a sex drive.

I think this book is less about arguing about where desires come from, but about how serious God is about purity, how we all deal with it, and what it takes to prevail. Ignore some of the other negative reviews, I don't know where they got what they got.

I would recommend this book for all parents going through the "change" with their teenage boy. However, before you just set him loose I would recommend that you read this book and workbook. There are some things I had to explain to my son before reading with him. God Bless!

My clinical experience leads me to agree more with "Avid Reader" than with "Concerned Youth Pastor".

Kids don't need "spin", & they don't need information filtered through an ideological lens (conservative vs liberal) - leave that to the politicians. They need the truth.

But the sad fact is that this book is part of a growing movement to politicize sex, sexuality, and body parts. And it's also part of an old tradition of reinforcing shame and embarrassment.

My clinical opinion (backed by years of research) is that when one attempts to infuse politics & theology into a subject, it results in confusion for the children.

A good recent example: a Johns Hopkins study of 400 teenagers broke the group into 3 classes according to their beliefs about sex - extremely conservative, moderate, and broad-minded. The first group received very little "actual" information about contraception, etc., from their religious leaders. The second group relied on information from public schools, TV, etc. The relied on very frank discussions with parents, Planned Parenthood, etc., for straight facts (without theological spin, without the embarrassment & politics of the schools).

After tracking these groups for 18 months, it was discovered the extremely conservative group had 200% more unwanted pregnancies, 500% more STDs, and 700% more abortions than the broad minded group.

It seems that Mr. Arterburn's approach brings about the exact oppossite of his intended consequences. In my professional experience - I have *never* met a child from a Fundamentalist church who hasn't been physically or sexually abused &/or witnessed a physical/sexual assault.

Repression leads to obsession and addiction. In every measurable way, the lessons taught by these kinds of book are destructive to our kids. Leave your ideology out of it. If you want our kids to be safe and healthy, give them facts - not spin.

This book is a phenomenal resource for any youth ministry. As a youth pastor I have become aware of the overwhelming problem of sexual impurity in our society. The faliure of parents to discuss these issues has placed the burden on churches to make sure that today's youth are made aware of the Christian perspective to sexuality.

There seems to be two schools of thought when it comes to criticizing this book. The first is the conservative Christian who thinks the book is too graphic and conversational for a teenager. One thing I've found as a youth pastor is that there is little that shocks kids. The issues that are addressed in this book are things that the average teen is already heavily immersed in, such as masturbation, pornography and sex. Aren't we doing ourselves a disservice by allowing a secular society to dictate the way these issues are address. The other side of the argument is the side is the more liberal argument, stating that sexual frivolity is part of our culture and nature and squelching it hinders the development process. Those who feel diferently are legalistic fundamentalists. This is simply ridiculous. These issues create not only moral concerns, but social problems. Sexual impurity leads some to more serious issues. That is why sexual abuse, std's, and sex crimes are rampant. To say they are just a natural part of development is ignorant. Read this book if you want a real, honest portrayal of the battle that every young man faces.

I was horrified to go through this workbook after a friend (a youth pastor) used it for a weekend retreat.

The first section teaches that all males "receive sexual gratification through three personal gates: the mind, the eyes, and the body"...and that "Satan works constantly to tempt us to yield to our lower nature by seeking such gratification through these gates."

So all sex and sexual thoughts are evil, and intimacy is linked to sex. So, it follows that men cannot be intimate except through sex, which is evil, so save it for your wife. Then this woman/relationship will magically fulfill every emotional and intimacy need you've ever had. Hmmm - doesn't this put a lot of stress on this relationship? And what do we do if/when this doesn't work? Blame her? Act out? Find someone else?

It goes on to explain how all males are inherently perverts, sex addicts, and these things were put into our bodies & minds by Satan. So not only are we born rapists, we have Satan living in our souls and there's nothing we can do about it.

What a sick, sick thing to tell a teenage boy. This is beyond F*cked up. How about doing something radical instead, maybe telling them the TRUTH? That this is learned behavior & part of social conditioning. That we are inundated with these messages from media, Hollywood, advertising...and that cultures who are not inundated with these messages have much fewer rapists and sex addicts.

The book is full of other B.S. like this. And another sexologist I read said that the authors, Aterburn and Stoeker, are sex addicts themselves. After reading the book it makes sense - they tend to define the world in terms of sex, sexuality, sexual orientation, sex objects, bodies & body parts, etc. So, if you want your kids to turn out as sex addicts, it would make sense to give them a book written by sex addicts.

Or, if you're interested in accurate information about adolescence and sexuality, try:

-Reviving Ophelia, by Dr. Mary Pipher
-Escape from Intimacy, by Dr. Anne Wilson Schaef
-When Society Becomes an Addict, by Dr. Anne Wilson Schaef

I hear people complaining that this has bad stuff in it, giving kids ideas, and stuff but usually this is the stuff us teens are going through. It gives us a sense of connection, that they know how we feel.

This book is good for any guy to read and I highly suggest it, because I am sure that 90% of guys go through this daily and it will let you know that your not alone. It could change your life. Telling you why masterbation and other things are wrong. Good Read!

This book handles all the issues about sexual purity for every young man.

Great.

Are they victims? One of the girls says, "I was so wanting to wait for my wedding night, but

I also wanted to make him happy, so I let it go too far."

So its all his fault?

He was wrong for pressuring her but she is wrong for letting it happen. She said he herself.

"...but I also wanted to make him happy."

Forget about his happiness. She said she wanted to wait for her wedding night. So she should

have. So stop acting like its all the guys fault.



Another girl stated that she really like this guy and he tried some things that made her

uncomfortable. She said she asked him to stop but he persisted. "Finally he just wore me

down and I eventually gave in. He had weakend my defenses."

What! Ok, again. Guys should stop pressuring these girls like this.
But it makes me mad that she settled for that. Oh woe is her.
For goodness sake stand up and tell the guy no, and if he tries anything again. He's out of here.



Another girl said she hated making her boyfriend feel bad and having the blame pushed back on her. So she gave in.

So here is another victim. How come these girl couldn't stand up and say that she is not going to do it no matter how much he tries? And if he tries it again. She out of there.

I'm sick of this blame being pushed on guys. I know we try. But these girls make it seem like that if we do try they are not powerful enough to resist. Is that true ladies?
If it is, no wonder the guys are persistent.

I have seen some very strong girls in my time and maybe somebody should teach these girls to be also.

I remember a time when I was kissing this girl, which was her idea by the way, but when I tried to see if could have sex with her. She became furious. She grab my hand, pointed her hand in my face and said. "If I EVER did that again I'm gone." I was taken back. I held my hands in the air and said. "OK OK!" I never tried that again.



At least one girl was honest and didn't act like a victim.


Lets make one thing clear. I'm not excusing guys. Because we should become more like gentlemen.
Its just makes me mad that society makes it seems like we guys are solely the reason for all this sexual misbehavoir and that all women are victims like this book portrays.

But nevertheless, this is a book for men so they should talk about not pressuring girls.

But in this big world we live in complete innocence is not present in the woman's camp as well.

I highly recommend this book if your young and struggling. I'm a 24 year old male training to be a youth pastor, and struggling with lust is very fraustrating to me. I've tried many times to clean it up on my own...but to no avail.
Reading "Every Young Man's Battle" was very helpful in helping me understand my struggles, and gave practical specific steps on how to guard against temptation and lust. The book was CLEARLY written by someone who's "been there" before us. It's straight-shooting, blunt, and real. And when your dealing with something as spiritually disabling as lust - you want advice that's gonna get results fast. God has done a great thing through these authors - I highly recommend this book!

This book is ideal for younger teenagers, under the age of 15, as it provides a ton of information on the consequences of things often begun at that age: pornography, masturbation, lust, etc. It is very likely that a kid who has only begun to do these things or hasn't begun to will be profoundly and succesfully effected by the in-depth discussions of this book on the results of sexual impurity. If the seed of impurity has only been newly planted, "Every Young Man's Battle" will unearth it before the roots of its lustful evils can grow deeper.
The book provides many citations from the Bible that deal with sexual impurity. Although people will complain that it contains explicit themes, what do you expect? This is a book that explores the harm and damage of sexual impurity: it is to be expected that such themes will need to be brought up. In fact, the attitude that this book shouldnt be read because it talks about masturbation, etc reflects the problem of parents mentioned in the book who didnt address these issues to the people who tell their stories of becoming sexually impure. It is something that must be addressed.
The authors share many experiences of others in their struggles and shows readers that they are not alone in their sexual impurity. Some of the stories, if ending in success of becoming chaste or maritally chaste, are inspiring. Overall the book is quite helpful.
However, as with most books, it is lacking some things. The book is written from a fundamentalist Christian perspective. If you don't want to hear about people being "saved" and "accepting Jesus" you will probably be annoyed in reading it. It will be helpful to have a faith in God when you read the book, but it is not needed because the authors claim that it is not God, but you, who will have to do the work of becoming pure. The book actually says that prayers are not very effective. I would suggest that the authors consider that prayers can be effective if they are said right: instead of people praying for God to come and wipe away their problems, pray for smaller things. The authors should have suggested concentrating on the smaller things of each day when it comes to prayers: praying that God will inspire you to stop, praying each day that he will help you for just that day (and doing this again and again every day), praying that God will reveal to you your mistakes (something few people do but which is very effective), praying that God will help you to view all women as being not objects for desire but important creations of God; etc, to that effect. It is rather disheartening that they suggest that prayer is not going to be as helpful as people think it will because they are wrong to say that!
There is a lot of information describing the problem, how it starts, how it progresses, the attitudes involved, what to think and not to think, etc. But not enough is suggested in stopping the problem. Thus, whereas the book is good for "Young men" it is not going to be 100% helpful to guys already habitually addicted to masturbation or porn. The book lacks a bibliography and supportive citations for information on such things as the chemical impact of masturbation, addiction to sex, oxytocin, etc. Rarely does the book even provide references to medical things. Sexual addiction carries with it chemical complications which make it very hard to just stop masturbation: like use of a drug, if masturbation is cut the person will have withdrawal effects biologically and the book doesnt really explore these issues.
Otherwise, the book is all in all still very helpful! I would STRONGLY SUGGEST to all readers of this book to also read "If you really loved me: 101 questions on sexual purity" by Jason Evert and "Real Love" by Mary Beth Bonacci. In addition to these book all of the information provided in them is an arsenol to strengthen anyone in the battle for sexual purity.

I bought this book for my 13 years old son in order to initiate an open discussion with him about sexuality, lust and purity. He was at first a little bit embarrased about the quiet graphic chapters dealing with masturbation, but some talking and further reading of this marvelous book with my son permitted us to pray together and find some practical solutions in order to allow him to live purely his christian teen life.

The book covers all major aspects of male sexuality and is one of the few books I know that gives some realy great and useful advice to help any teen to fight his sinful sexual urges.

A fantastic book for any parent (mom or dad) that want to help his teen to live a pure life.

If you are a youth minister than this is a good book for relating with the struggles that your teenagers are going through. Now, if you are looking for a book to give to your youth, you may want to check out "Not even a hint" from Joshua Harris. That book isn't as graphic and I don't think that you will be in danger of being pulled aside by someone's parent for giving their teenager a book on sexual temptation. Both books deal with the Godly way to address the situation but EYMB tends to send your thoughts through the gutter.

If you believe in the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, you will find this book to be a wakeup call. It challenges you to become a Christian man, rather than the biological male that current secular materialism and Naturalism encourges.

If you do not believe in God, and believe we are merely biological entities with no spiritual half, then you will find this book provides you a good chance to make fun of those silly Christians.

So. It's your choice. Live as an animal, or as a Christian. To help me, that is my sword and shield when dealing with this issue. I ask myself, "Are you a biological male, or a Christian man?" To which of these 2 would you entrust the hand of your daughter or sister?

A poor, poor choice for young men trying to find solid advice on building healthy relationships with the opposite sex. This book attempts to replace Victorian standards of gender relationships with the words of the Bible, to create what the authors deem "modern day Christian values." The authors utter lack of knowledge about the Bible leads to their pitiful interpretation of Biblical principles concerning sex and sexual conduct. This lack of knowledge is the foundation of the problems with the book's premise. (For example, the authors hack on avoiding "sexual immorality." To a first-century Jew of the Bible like Paul, the phrase "sexual immorality" would include any physical contact with a woman not a man's wife, including shaking hands, and any contact whatsoever with a woman who was menstruating, even if it was his wife.)
The badly done interpretation is only part of the failings of this book, however. While preaching total purity in regards to pornography of all kinds, the authors present some unconscious raciness of their own: when describing his "decadent past" one of the authors lovingly relates in graphic detail the Playboy centerfolds he once sinfully perused ("I can still see the nude Playboy model cloaked in a clear plastic raincoat as the shower cascaded over her...every detail, right down to the curvature of her spreading thighs are imprinted on my brain"). Imprinted indeed- perhaps a little too much. It's almost as if the author's intent is to titillate their young audience.
The recommendation that a man should ask a father's permission before proposing to his daughter is equally inane, and reflects the author's true attitudes about women echoed through the entire work: that they are property to be owned and controlled by men.
One is unlikely to find anything helpful in this book, unless the intention is to shame a young reader into the belief that his normal sexual thoughts and desires are God's little trick to send us all to hell.

This book is the authors' extensive revision of their earlier work "Every Man's Battle." The initial book was not very helpful or accurate for older, married men. This book however, is right on target for the needs and situation of young, single men in today's sexually-charged society.

The theme of this work is obviously maintaining sexual purity. The authors define authentic manhood from a biblical perspective, and then offer strategies for young men to achieve it. Substantial attention is given to the practice of self-satisfaction and sexual release, with a commendable mixture of promoting absolute abstinence while at the same time offering empathetic encouragement.

The authors then present several techniques to channel visual activity and mental thought processes in a godly direction. Perhaps the best parts of this book, unique to this version, are the two final sections. The first section addresses sexual honor, giving a young man the perspective of a young woman's father. It also provides insight as to what young Christian women really seek in a man, which is far different than what most young Christian men would think. It then closes with a challenge to live a life that is sexually pure. The second section briefly addresses young men struggling with homosexual desires, encouraging them to use the same principles to achieve biblical, heterosexual purity.

I recommend this book highly to Christian fathers with teenage sons, youth pastors, and young single men. If you or a young man close to you is struggling, then this volume will undoubtedly be a great help. This small investment is sure to yield huge dividends!

This book includes simple, yet extremely practical and powerful techniques to guard your heart and mind from sexual temptation. The most helpful tips I found were the two key scripture verses the authors recommend to be your "sword" and "shield" when your eyes begin to roam. I have begun applying the techniques for the past few days and believe me...they work!

This book is great for single guys, no matter what their age. Even though the language seems to be directed toward teen singles, it is great for us guys in midlife too! I found the book much more helpful for us singles than "Every Man's Battle".

This is THE BEST book on the subject I have found! Get it...now!