I think the authors have some really great ideas and it certainly drives the point home. But, from a Christen point of view, it denies an essential part of the emotion. For those Christen readers, read it for content not specifics.

This book is probably the worst book on the subject of sexual temptation and addiction out there. They copy a lot of material from other authors (Carnes) but change it into something sanitized and useless. If you want to deal with anything beyond the symptoms of temptation or addiction then look elsewhere. Pat Carnes or Mark Laaser are the better choices.

I really hope people read this from a womans viewpoint. The thing that gets me heated about this is that this is NOT HOW WOMAN THINK! I wish women would get real with their feelings. This is no shock! If you think women don't have battles exactly like this then you would be wrong. Men get sexual gratification through their eyes. Women get sexual gratification from touch and the pursuit of them. Women know what they are doing when they dress a certain way. Im a married woman and when I see a goodlooking guy I honestly think and wonder how he is in bed. I to tell myself not to go to far with the way I think about that guy. The danger for women is that they want to be touched and they want EVERY man to want them. Its just how we are wired. We are all human so if you think this is just a man's problem then u r wrong! Women who are in touch with their bodies struggle also. So the fact that women are shocked by this makes me think they need to truely evaluate themselves. Sorry if this offends anyone but its the truth!!

very into the whole born again thing.....but it still applys to any modern day man

Very helpful in many ways. I wish I had this one 25 years ago.

As an unmarried woman, I love this book because it gives me hope that there are some men out there who are trying to raise the bar to God's standards for sexual purity. I think more women should read this book to be more aware of how serious this issue is for men and to encourage/hold accountable those men in their lives. I pray that God will use this book to change your heart for eternity, set apart, drawing you closer to Him.

This book just touches the surface about a walk with the Lord. That is all we really need is to enjoy the Lord and let him work in us. A book that I thought was more help full was "Our Human Spirit" by Witness Lee. Available at www.lsm.org

Wow. I felt like these authors were looking into MY soul as they were writing. At times, it frightened me. It was amazing how well I could relate to what the authors were writing.

This book, which is written to Christian males, is all about winning the war on sexual temptation. It gives great advice on how a man can win this battle in as little as 6 weeks. It explored the natural tendencies of men and how our very maleness can lead us down the road of sexual impurity. The authors then turn the focus toward recognizing theses male tendencies and being "on guard" against them so that sexual purity can be obtained.

Some men have been quoted as saying, "It's natural for a male to look [at an attractive woman]." Is this [looking] stealing something that doesn't belong to you? The book answers this question. Also, if you want to be more captivated by your wife (and you may not think it's possible because you are already enamored by her), then I strongly encourage you to read this book.

I believe this book will enable you to win the battle on sexual temptation as well as strengthen your marriage (if you're married).

I rate this book 5 out of 5 stars. I plan to read it multiple times.

This book gives men an accurate perspective of lust. It provides reasons why lust is wrong by quoting scripture. It provides stories by the authors' personal lives to show that lust attacks all men and in a variety of ways. The book provides real ways to stop lusting. Finally, it provides expectations of the struggle.

We're living in an age of unbridled sensuality and desire, when almost nothing is taboo, and ideas such as morality, purity, sanctity, and respect are considered highly subjective concepts. Though temptations of the flesh have always been with us - and always will be with us as long as we have the old sin nature inside - it has never before been harder for men and women alike to control their thoughts, minds, and dare I say it ....hormones.

The battle for purity of mind, thought, deed, and heart has escalated to a fever pitch, and countless of men and women alike have hurt others and been hurt by others in the areas of sexual purity. Television ads, billboards, magazine inserts - even in the once harmless Ladies Home Journal - promote life-styles and standards of living that open even the best person to thoughts and desires that, if left unchecked, can run roughshod over good intentions and the way we'd like to live.

Men, in particular, have suffered greatly in this area; and though it's not entirely their fault, the rising numbers of divorce and extramarital affairs inside the church - even among those who have served long and faithfully in the ministry - speak very loudly and clearly that something is wrong.

"Every Man's Battle", by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, is one of the best devotionals targeting men and the battle for purity that I've come across in quite some time. It's practical, down-to-earth, and both authors "roll up their sleeves" and get right to the nitty-gritty details. It has a two-pronged approach: though it affirms men struggling with purity that they're not monsters, mentally ill, cursed, or alone in their fight; it also pulls no punches when it comes to their admonition to clean up their thought lives and behavior patterns.

"Every Man's Battle" also goes into great depth analyzing the male perspective and thought process - even going into biological detail as to why it's so hard for many men to keep pure - without succumbing to the age-old excuse, "boys will be boys". Much of what they discuss makes a tremendous amount of sense on a simple every day level, but at the same time they back everything with Scripture from God's Word.

It's very practical, and it doesn't just talk about the struggle for sexual purity and give enthusiastic exhortations and admonitions, it lays out and devises easy-to-implement action steps for any men to clean up their lives and obtain purity. In the battle for sexual purity, this isn't just a "Recon & Intel" report, it's a battle strategy aimed at one goal: to win, under the power and strength of God.

Finally, the best part about this book is the fact it's been written by two Christian men who have fought long and hard against the very beast troubling so many men. Other devotionals and books I've read about sexual purity and temptation have been on the ball and scripturally accurate, but they always read a little flat because you got the idea that though they were well researched and written, none of the authors really spent "time in the trenches". These guys have, and they aren't only recommending "good practices they've researched", but battle plans that saved their purity and marriages.

We're living in an age of unbridled sensuality and desire, when almost nothing is taboo, and ideas such as morality, purity, sanctity, and respect are considered highly subjective concepts. Though temptations of the flesh have always been with us - and always will be with us as long as we have the old sin nature inside - it has never before been harder for men and women alike to control their thoughts, minds, and dare I say it ....hormones.

The battle for purity of mind, thought, deed, and heart has escalated to a fever pitch, and countless of men and women alike have hurt others and been hurt by others in the areas of sexual purity. Television ads, billboards, magazine inserts - even in the once harmless Ladies Home Journal - promote life-styles and standards of living that open even the best person to thoughts and desires that, if left unchecked, can run roughshod over good intentions and the way we'd like to live.

Men, in particular, have suffered greatly in this area; and though it's not entirely their fault, the rising numbers of divorce and extramarital affairs inside the church - even among those who have served long and faithfully in the ministry - speak very loudly and clearly that something is wrong.

"Every Man's Battle", by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, is one of the best devotionals targeting men and the battle for purity that I've come across in quite some time. It's practical, down-to-earth, and both authors "roll up their sleeves" and get right to the nitty-gritty details. It has a two-pronged approach: though it affirms men struggling with purity that they're not monsters, mentally ill, cursed, or alone in their fight; it also pulls no punches when it comes to their admonition to clean up their thought lives and behavior patterns.

"Every Man's Battle" also goes into great depth analyzing the male perspective and thought process - even going into biological detail as to why it's so hard for many men to keep pure - without succumbing to the age-old excuse, "boys will be boys". Much of what they discuss makes a tremendous amount of sense on a simple every day level, but at the same time they back everything with Scripture from God's Word.

It's very practical, and it doesn't just talk about the struggle for sexual purity and give enthusiastic exhortations and admonitions, it lays out and devises easy-to-implement action steps for any men to clean up their lives and obtain purity. In the battle for sexual purity, this isn't just a "Recon & Intel" report, it's a battle strategy aimed at one goal: to win, under the power and strength of God.

Finally, the best part about this book is the fact it's been written by two Christian men who have fought long and hard against the very beast troubling so many men. Other devotionals and books I've read about sexual purity and temptation have been on the ball and scripturally accurate, but they always read a little flat because you got the idea that though they were well researched and written, none of the authors really spent "time in the trenches". These guys have, and they aren't only recommending "good practices they've researched", but battle plans that saved their purity and marriages.

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I just finished reading this book and found it very informative and enlightening. It is biblically based and a fun read. I believe it will help me both in my walk with Christ and in my relationships with my wife and family.

It's a MUST READ for any man who wants to grow spiritually with God. And when you finish, ask your wife to read it as well.

I have often wondered how other men thought in regards to a man's sexual desires. This book makes it clear that virtually all men have extremely active sexual desires for the opposite sex. A man's sex drive begins when testosterone kicks in at about 13 years old. Thereafter, a man's thinking process is strongly influenced by a man's continual lust and strong desire to have sex. I define it as "sex" because that is what it is. It has nothing to do with love, feelings of tenderness, or concern for the female species. A man's instinct compels him to have have sex, and any female is considered. It may be his girlfriend, his wife, his neighbor's wife, his secretary, his sister's friends, his friend's daughter (or wife), his female co-workers, a woman on a billboard, a playboy playmate, the nightly news female anchor, the mail lady - any female who appears attractive to the man's eyes. Unchecked, man's sexual desire can lead to all sorts of untoward consequences. Empires have fallen due to men's sexual lust, businesses devastated, church ministries destroyed, marriages damaged or decimated, relationships damaged beyond repair. Men's sexual desire is a powerful force that can lead to personal destruction if not controlled. "Everyman's Battle" makes it clear that sexual desire must be corralled according to Biblical principles for a man to live a life of integrity and honor. Masturbation is often the means for a man to culminate his sexual desire.

This book describes how masturbation is an actaul act of worship to an idol that a man holds in his mind. The idol may be the centerfold image, or his next door neighbor, or a woman in a movie scene. The idol is worshipped or venerated through the act of masturbation. Thus, while many "experts" in society tell men that it is ok to fulfill their desires thorugh masturbation, this book clearly states that masturbation is wrong and is a symptom of the problem of unbridled sexual lust.

The first 100 pages of the book describe the problem of man's sexual desire. It explains how sexual desire is taken in through the eyes, processed in our brains, and then acted upon. The second half of the book lays out an action plan based on Bilical principles to corral the powerful forces of sexual lust and temptation. Since sexual desires affect every man, this is truly every man's battle.

The book will only make sense to those men who recognize that a man's sexual desire needs to be controlled and tamed. To those men who give full expression to their sexual desire, and do not see their sexual desires as harmful, this book will be meaningless (even laughable), as they will see no need to suppress their sexual lust. In order to correct a problem, one has to recognize that he has a problem. Christian men will especially find this book a valuable resource for living a Godly life where sexual lust will no longer be a dominating destructive force. Christian men know and recognize that lust is a universal problem for all men, but especially for those men who desire to live a life that is pleasing to their Lord. The Bible states that Christian men should not have even a hint of sexual sin in their life. The standard the Bible sets for sexual purity and the reality of man's lustful desires are miles apart. Christian men recognize this gulf, realize they are not fulfilling their Christian duty to their Lord, their wives or girl friends, and want help in dealing with their problem. This book is for these men who realize the problem that sexual desire can cause, and has caused in their lives.

This book makes it crystal clear that it is through a man's eyes that sexual information is gathered and processed into desire. Thus, the central focus is on conrolling one's eyes, or making a Godly covenant with one's eyes. Once the eyes (the portal to the soul) are disciplined, then the mind can be disciplined as well. The book explains how this is done. Finally, a conplete "battle plan" is explained for how a man can control his sexual desires and bring them into control, thus allowing a man to have freedom from sexual sin in Christ. According to the authors, the process takes about 6 weeks of forming new habits. Once these habits take hold, the battle for sexual purity eases and victory over lust is possible. The book explains how a man's life can be transformed for the better in so many areas of life once sexual desires have been controlled.

Since every single man has a problem with sexual desire(s), I highly recommend this book as a tool to bring those desires under control. If a man wants to please God with his life, sexual desire must be brought under control. It starts with a man making a Godly covenant with his eyes and his Lord, and then deciding that the line in the sand must be drawn and the battle engaged. It is a battle that can be won, but each man must decide that he desires to please his Lord more than he wants to please his own desires. Much like the alcoholic or drug addict who finally recognizes his depravity and need to overcome his addiction, the same applies to men and their sexual addiction to fulfill their own sexual desires. This book will give men the "ammunition" and the "battle plan" they need to bring victory in this area of life.

Jim "Konedog" Koenig

I read this book a couple of months ago prompted by my desire to gain insight regarding men generally and the man whom I am going to marry (in a week and a half now) specifically. I originally bought it for my fiancee but asked if I could read it first. I did read it and have since asked him to read it so he could tell me whether or not he had anything in common with the author's accounts of their own sexual desires and experiences. I thought, 'Hey if this is the reality, I want to know', especially and most importantly in the context of a walk with the Lord.



After I read the book, yes I was fairly disgusted at some of the author's stories about their own thoughts/ compulsions and behavior especially as married men however I was trying to look past my disgust in an attempt to have a better understanding of men in this area. As I read though, I couldn't help but feel the authors' arrogance and what seemed like validation of behavior and even excusing responsibility due to their 'maleness'. The writing style is roughly at a 3rd grade level and when they refer to their wives I sense significant condescending. Also, as another reviewer pointed out, the authors almost encourage men to be self-obsessed with these issues to the point of being just as selfish as the sexual predators who make women of the world filled with fear to walk down the street.



Finally I stopped trying to be so 'open minded' about this book. If I am honest about my reaction to this book, it makes me not want to be anywhere near any man. According to this book, they are all so insanely obsessed with getting off that it's reasonable to say the grocery store clerk will have already thought about raping me several times before he's done ringing me up for my cat food. As well, this book would have me believe that my fiancee is constantly thinking about having sex with other women and the best I can do is just accept it and proceed to have sex with him as much as possible when we're married so that maybe...just MAYBE he'll think about having sex with other women slightly less. For the sake of my sanity I am going to have to dismiss the 'facts' of this book at least in part. Call me naive.



Yes, it's a good idea for men to exercise control over their sexual sin. Yes, it's a good idea to not be naive in regard to feeding a dangerous behavior or relationship. But men, what about your role as protector? It goes beyond your own wanker and into the hearts and lives of the gender whom God designed to be gentle and nurturing...women. I think God would be far more pleased if men used their strength to go out of their way to protect us from harm instead of cause us harm which is frequently the case. I'm not just talking about violent rapes either, when you think about having sex with other women, it pulls you away emotionally and spiritually from your current or future wife and I personally am not cool with that. When I think of a fatherly man with grey hair looking at me like he's picturing me with no clothes on it basically makes me want to die. Anger wells up inside of me to an extent that I can hardly explain. Maybe that grey-haired man picturing me naked when he sees me on the street is the primary author of this book, Stephen Arterburn who apparently ditched his wife and subsequently married a woman young enough to be his child after the release of this book (this is according to another reviewer, source unverified, however believable).



I don't profess to have the answer to this problem of depravity among men, however my gut tells me to suggest to stop acting like you have a good excuse (maleness) to behave in ways that are totally unacceptable to God. Sure every aspect of culture/ society/ media/ school/ supposed experts...(the list goes on) says it's okay, but remember that compared to God's heaven we live in an ugly ugly world. I can only pray that men ask God to fill them with the holy spirit and allow strength beyond what our feeble human minds can deal with, to turn them into what pleases God and never harms a woman.

I couldn't stop reading this book! This book has changed my life and my marriage! I was constantly looking at other women and even contemplated having a 'secret girlfriend' but after reading this book, everything changed for me.
Solid bible texts to back up their teachings and personal stories to give encouragement.
The authors present their own personal battles with temptation and lust and their wives comment at the end of each chapter. I somewhat agree with one reader's comments that the women seemed harsh on men but after putting myself in their shoes, I can't blame them for some of the straight up, blunt comments. I know if my wife cheated on me, I'd leave her too but these women at least gave their husbands a second chances and forgiveness.
Read this book with an open mind and with a strong desire to make your current relationship right and you can't go wrong.
Thank you Mr. Arterburn for writing a great book and for changing my life. May the Great Lord bless you and best wishes to you and your family.

Someone told me recently that every man should read this book. I thought to myself, "How often have I heard that?" But I decided to read it despite the skepticism. I'm here to tell you, if you are a man you need to read this book.

I give EVB 2 stars for desire. These men clearly care about helping other men. There are many useful ideas as well.
As for the overall content, EMB addresses the issue of our sexuality at a very shallow depth. The authors never examined the depth and beauty of what it means to be created male in God's image. In fact EMB claims that 'Your maleness looms as your own worst enemy. You got into this mess by being male;' (p.71) On the contrary, our maleness given to us as a gift from God reveals to us the very meaning of our existence. Our maleness, rightly understood and the lived out in the power of Christ's redemption is our freedom to love as God loves. We got into the mess by our sinfulness.
EMB also did not address at length the God given dignity of the body and sexual intercourse. Although I don't beleive the authors intended this, one reviewer mentioned EMB made sex and the desire for it seem dirty. The problem is not that sex is dirty, but that the value of the body and sexuality are not sufficiently appreciated.
Lastly, although the 'battle plan' is a good way to help fight temptations along the way, I wouldn't say that it will help you 'win the war'. What we need as the first step is understanding of our creation in the image of God. A transformation of heart by the renewing of the mind in Christ. 'Jesus Christ fully reveals man to himself and makes his supreme calling clear.' -JPII
If you want to know what it means to be created as a male in the image of God, if you want to know what lust really is, if you want to know what it means to truly love, if you want to know your God given dignity as human person, please give 'Theology of the Body for Beginners' by Christopher West a try. You will not be dissappointed. Gauranteed.
Are you a man dominated by lust, or a man redeemed by Christ! -JPII

I give EVB 2 stars for desire. These men clearly care about helping other men. There are many useful ideas as well.
As for the overall content, EMB addresses the issue of our sexuality at a very shallow depth. The authors never examined the depth and beauty of what it means to be created male in God's image. In fact EMB claims that 'Your maleness looms as your own worst enemy. You got into this mess by being male;' (p.71) On the contrary, our maleness given to us as a gift from God reveals to us the very meaning of our existence. Our maleness, rightly understood and the lived out in the power of Christ's redemption is our freedom to love as God loves. We got into the mess by our sinfulness.
EMB also did not address at length the God given dignity of the body and sexual intercourse. Although I don't beleive the authors intended this, one reviewer mentioned EMB made sex and the desire for it seem dirty. The problem is not that sex is dirty, but that the value of the body and sexuality are not sufficiently appreciated.
Lastly, although the 'battle plan' is a good way to help fight temptations along the way, I wouldn't say that it will help you 'win the war'. What we need as the first step is understanding of our creation in the image of God. A transformation of heart by the renewing of the mind in Christ. Christ fully reveals man to himself and makes his supreme calling clear.
If you want to know what it means to be created as a male in the image of God, if you want to know what lust really is, if you want to know what it means to truly love, if you want to know your God given dignity as human person, please give 'Theology of the Body for Beginners' by Christopher West a try. You will not be dissappointed. Gauranteed.
Are you a man dominated by lust, or a man redeemed by Christ! -JPII

THIS BOOK WAS EXTREAMLY HELPFUL FOR MY HUSBAND AND I. IT HAS BIBLICAL ADVICE
THAT EQUIPS YOU WITH THE POWER TO OVER COME SEXUAL TEMPTAIONS. ITS PRACTICAL AND EASY TO READ. I RECOMMEND THAT EVERY MAN SHOULD READ THIS BOOK, WEITHER THEY HAVE HAD ISSUES IN THE PAST OR NOT.

THIS BOOK WAS EXTREAMLY HELPFUL FOR MY HUSBAND AND I. IT HAS BIBLICAL ADVICE
THAT EQUIPS YOU WITH THE POWER TO OVER COME SEXUAL TEMPTAIONS. ITS PRACTICAL AND EASY TO READ. I RECOMMEND THAT EVERY MAN SHOULD READ THIS BOOK, WEITHER THEY HAVE HAD ISSUES IN THE PAST OR NOT.

I debated on whether to give this book one star or two, but finally decided on one since it addresses the issue of sin in the worst possible way. We could say that it specifically deals with sexual sin, but it is sin nevertheless, and there is a more excellent way to deal with the temptation to sin.

After reading this book, I felt dirty - like I had done something wrong, when in fact I had not. There is something very wrong with focusing on a problem to the extent that one becomes overly conscious of it. This book constantly focuses on sexual sin to such a degree that one is hard pressed to find a real solution to it. The solution is not to tell a trusted friend that you masturbated. The solution, as is the solution with any sin, is to acknowledge that Christ was made to be sin for us and has taken away our sins such that we should no longer be in bondage to sin. Its really that simple.

The Bible tells us that Jesus was tempted in all points like as we are, yet he was without sin. This was true because he was born of God, and had the nature of God in him. When Satan tempted him in the desert, his response was "It is written..." Because Christians have also been born of God, with the nature of God within us, and have been made the righteousness of God in Christ, we also have the power to resist sin. And if we confess our sins (to him and not our buddy) he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

If you are seriouse about living a victorious life in Christ, and being the overcomer God has re-created you to be, don't read this book!

This book is full of testimonies that help to clarify the insidiousness of sin, and its drive to control its victims through porn. Super read if you want to move away from false securities and intimacy. Every Christian, Catholic, Jew, Muslim, or anyone from any other faith should read this book...... There is an out.

This book is full of testimonies that help to clarify the insidiousness of sin, and its drive to control its victims through porn. Super read if you want to move away from false securities and intimacy. Every Christian, Catholic, Jew, Muslim, or anyone from any other faith should read this book...... There is an out.

The book is a pretty easy read but it gave direct and complete answers to many questions i had about sexual temptation. Most importantly it provides practical tools for any man to use to get out of the rut and regain sexual purity. This is a must read.

The book is a pretty easy read but it gave direct and complete answers to many questions i had about sexual temptation. Most importantly it provides practical tools for any man to use to get out of the rut and regain sexual purity. This is a must read.

I would unhesitatingly recommend this book as a resource for married men who struggle to cherish their wives over the constant background noise of sensuality that the world has to offer. Arterburn and Stoeker discuss their history of turning their sexual addictions into faithful focus on their spouses. They make a solid and convincing case that even the most innocuous of behaviors can mushroom into full-fledged infidelity of the heart, if not the body.

But...

As a single man, this book was, for me, at times, insulting. Arterburn and Stoeker, supposedly Christians (and apparently active in Christian ministry), were already married before they began to take control of their misbehavior. They spent many of their pre-marriage years in unabashed debauchery. So what advice do they have to offer the single person? "Those who can't do, teach", I suppose. They casually toss off one-liners about how singles are no different, then go back crowing about how everyone can go to their wives to meet their needs. In this regard, they have no credibility (yet had no compunction about writing an entirely separate book for singles, and another for teens -- is this about purity or profit?).

I have a friend who remained a virgin until his wedding night -- and he married in his mid-30s. I would expect to learn much more from his struggles to remain pure than hearing the "been there, done that, got a wife now" attitude that Arterburn and Stoeker profess. They should have stayed in their lane and, as repentant sinners, offered tried and true advice to those married people struggling with sexual sin. Instead, they branched out into areas where they themselves had never battled -- and as a result, their war stories ring hollow.

I would unhesitatingly recommend this book as a resource for married men who struggle to cherish their wives over the constant background noise of sensuality that the world has to offer. Arterburn and Stoeker discuss their history of turning their sexual addictions into faithful focus on their spouses. They make a solid and convincing case that even the most innocuous of behaviors can mushroom into full-fledged infidelity of the heart, if not the body.

But...

As a single man, this book was, for me, at times, insulting. Arterburn and Stoeker, supposedly Christians (and apparently active in Christian ministry), were already married before they began to take control of their misbehavior. They spent many of their pre-marriage years in unabashed debauchery. So what advice do they have to offer the single person? "Those who can't do, teach", I suppose. They casually toss off one-liners about how singles are no different, then go back crowing about how everyone can go to their wives to meet their needs. In this regard, they have no credibility (yet had no compunction about writing an entirely separate book for singles, and another for teens -- is this about purity or profit?).

I have a friend who remained a virgin until his wedding night -- and he married in his mid-30s. I would expect to learn much more from his struggles to remain pure than hearing the "been there, done that, got a wife now" attitude that Arterburn and Stoeker profess. They should have stayed in their lane and, as repentant sinners, offered tried and true advice to those married people struggling with sexual sin. Instead, they branched out into areas where they themselves had never battled -- and as a result, their war stories ring hollow.

I could never really pin down what the authors mean by "lust." And whatever they mean by lust, seems to be a universal case for men. This reviewer does not have all the trials the authors had.

This was a great book and provided great help for me and my marriage.

This book offers some very practical suggestions for the ongoing battle for purity in our over-sexualized culture. There are several ideas that I have made a part of my daily life as well as some very freeing thoughts on the winnability of the battle for purity. I always just assumed that as a man, I was simply wired to be a lust machine; the authors have made a good case that we can have higher expectations and have given some motivation and techniques for acheiving those changes. I am very excited about the ideas presented in this book and highly recommend to every man. It sort of peters out in the last half, though, where a lot of the material is more of the same -- the real impact is in the first half of the book. And it is definitely geared for married men, so if you're a young single man or just unmarried for whatever reason, you might want to check out the other books that are written specifically for you.

This was a great book and provided great help for me and my marriage.

First of all, let's get a little scuttlebut out of the way. It's apparently true that Stephen Arterburn apparently (for whatever reason) divorced his wife of twenty years (after the printing of this book!) and then married an attractive blonde like twenty years his younger (whom he had met at one of his 'seminars' on sexual purity). Another reviewer first pointed that out; it's a fair objection to make to this particular book in light of the subject matter.

I once heard a pastor preach "If your faith doesn't work in your own home, don't export it." Consequently that pastor and his wife still head that ministry, though infidelity had occured in that marriage that split the church and caused alot of damage.

But, let's not throw the preverbial baby out with the bathwater; though the author(s) of this book have made bad decisions even after this work, this book helps one to realize why.

One of impacting scriptures that this book points to is that we as Christian men are not even to show a hint of sexual immorality. We fall woefully short, of course, but this book helps us to see why and how we can conquer our sexual sin. Making a "corral" (in which only your mate enters into)is good advice. Making a covenant with our eyes (like Job) is appicable, too.

The reality is that no matter how many tricks I use, it is the love of God and the love of my feminine counterpart that will produce sexual integrity; the psychological ploys only go so far for me personally. If we feed a relationship it will grow; if not, it will die. We should, of course, focus our sexual energies towards our marriage partner, not anybody else.

The observations in the book are valid enough; pointing out that our society has been inundated with sex and relativism concerning sexual sin. It's hard to blast pastors or authors (who write books like this one) concerning sexual sin. It's truly a never-ending battle that only Jesus Christ can help us overcome.

First of all, realize that Stephen Arterburn apparently (for whatever reason) divorces his wife of twenty years (after the printing of this book!) and then married an attractive blonde like twenty years his younger (whom he had met at one of his 'seminars' on sexual purity).

I once heard a pastor preach "If your faith doesn't work in your own home, don't export it." Consequently that pastor and his wife still head that ministry, though infidelity had occured in that marriage that split the church and cause alot of damage.

But, let's not throw the preverbial baby out with the bathwater; though the author(s) of this book have made bad decisions even after this work, this book helps one to realize why.

One of impacting scriptures that this book points to is that we as Christian men are not even to show a hint of sexual immorality. We fall woefully short, of course, but this book helps us to see why and how we can conquer our sexual sin. Making a "corral" in which only your mate enters in is good advice. Making a covenant with our eyes (like Job) is good.

The reality is that no matter how many tricks I use, it is the love of God and the love of my feminine counterpart that will produce sexual integrity; the psychological ploys only go so far for me personally.

The observations in the book are valid enough; pointing out that our society has been inundated with sex and relativism concerning sexual sin. It's hard to blast pastors or authors (who write books like this one) concerning sexual sin. It's truly a never-ending battle that only Jesus Christ can help us overcome.

Ok, why the heck am I doing a review on a book concerning sexual purity? Was this really something I needed? Is it really any of YOUR business? Not really, but here I am. And after all the bumps and bruises, I say that this was indeed worth the time invested in reading this. My pastor deserves a huge thank you in letting me borrow this book. So, are you kind of uncomfortable talking about a subject such as this? Would the first few pages, let alone some of the stories get on your nerves? It did me a little, but it also cracked me up when I sat there thinking, "Hey! Come on!" Oh yeah... I'm guilty of some impure thoughts. Better yet, I'm guilty of lusting with my eyes! And now is the time to start taking captive of crap like that. So if YOU have the thought after reading this that it just might be too simplistic because of the world we live in, REALITY CHECK!!! You as a man are probably guilty somewhere along the line.

Hey, come on. Remember the first time you looked at a Playboy, you told your friend, and he said, "Ah, Playboy is NOTHING compared to Hustler!" So you took your first look at a Hustler magazine, (wow!) and then he hit you with, something like, "Check out this porno flick!" You were like WHOA!! And as much as you hate to admit it, you couldn't WAIT to do what THAT guy was doing with THAT woman. Then if you ever got to the point where you lost your virginity before marriage, you realized that, "Ah, yeah this is good. But it could've waited until marriage." But by then, you could care less! Here's the kicker, and there's really no way of getting around it... GOD CARES!! And there's also some good news... God is there to guide you, every step of the way. But we as men have to want to make that choice to quit acting like... THAT, amen? You think God's gonna take away your hormones? Keep dreaming, pal! See, we need to realize that God was and STILL IS the creator of sex, not the Playboy and Hustler magazine publishers! He didn't create it to be nasty. And he created your wife, or your soon to be wife, depends on your status. The bottom line is simple: we are to cherish our wives, and we are to cherish the covenant that we made with our wives.

We also need to realize that God made men and women in His image. He didn't create a woman with the idea, "That slut, that whore", ok? When Jesus met the woman at the well, He didn't push her in the dirt and say, "Ok, slut, quit screwing around or you're screwed!" He told her of her sin, and he simply said, "Go and sin no more." So even though we might see something out there with a skimpy outfit, just remember that God loves them too. But He called men to be faithful, not to make excuses to go out and screw around when things aren't going right. We need to love our wives as Christ loved the church.

You might feel that this pounds a few things into the ground. You may wonder why certain things are repeated, such as where Jesus says that looking at a woman lustfully is the same as committing adultery in your own heart. Things like that NEED to be pounded into the ground! It was said by Jesus, and recorded in The Bible for our instruction! Some of us need pounded over the head with a few things. If it hits us just right, then we just might learn a few things about how we few our wives, as well as other women. We darn well better!! Praise God for this book! Well done!!!

I found this to be the right book at the right time. I plan on trying out some of the techniques discussed in this book, but I know this will be a very, VERY hard thing for me to pull off. I enjoy looking at beautiful women so much that I don't even give it a second thought. Sometimes a little too much. It is, as the author states, a habit that I must get out of or it could threaten the very foundation of my marriage (for when I finally DO get married). I guess I need to try to re-train myself on not looking at them in "that way". I read this book because looking at beautiful women (to me, all women are beautiful) in "that way" is one of my worst vices that I felt like I needed to work on because it was starting to get a little out of hand. This is a very necessary thing to do if you want to become a better Christian and become more "Christ-like". Not something a secular type would understand. My only gripe about this book was that about half of it was written for the married man in mind and since I'm still single, I wasn't able to identify with the rest of the book. Maybe I'll have a look at the companion book that is aimed at younger single men.

I found this to be the right book at the right time. I plan on trying out some of the techniques discussed in this book, but I know this will be a very, VERY hard thing for me to pull off. I enjoy looking at beautiful women so much that I don't even give it a second thought. Sometimes lustfully so. It is, as the author states, a habit that I must get out of or it could threaten the very foundation of my marriage (for when I finally DO get married). I guess I need to try to re-train myself on not looking at them in "that way". I read this book because looking at beautiful women in "that way" is one of my greatest vices that I felt like I needed to work on. This is a very necessary thing to do if you want to become a better Christian and become more "Christ-like". Not something a secular type would understand. This will be a tough one!

I found this to be the right book at the right time. I plan on trying out some of the techniques discussed in this book, but I know this will be a very, VERY hard thing for me to pull off. I enjoy looking at beautiful women so much that I don't even give it a second thought. Sometimes lustfully so. It is, as the author states, a habit that I must get out of or it could threaten the very foundation of my marriage (for when I finally DO get married). I guess I need to try to re-train myself on not looking at them in "that way". I read this book because looking at beautiful women in "that way" is one of my greatest vices that I felt like I needed to work on. This is a very necessary thing to do if you want to become a better Christian and become more "Christ-like". Not something a secular type would understand. But God help me, I love looking at women! This will be a tough one!

We live in a man's world. Women are raped, abused, beaten and generally regarded as objects for male gratification. This is an epidemic problem, and Christian men are just as great of offenders as the general population.

So here comes another book on male sexuality, for Christian men. The idea is good: rein in the beast. But the major defect, which sinks the book, is the self-centered nature of the remedy.

Christian men are given a toolkit to not look at booty. What we are not given is a concrete understanding of compassion. It's all self-centered. Who cares if the world is just as dangerous for our wives, daughters, and loved ones? At least I'm "sexually pure."

Surely sexual purity includes overthrowing the sexual aggression in society at large? This is a life and death situation. We will be successful according to the goals we set. It is not enough for men to stop lusting. We need to fundamentally change the sexual ethics of our society - ethics that aren't greatly concerned with women's well-being.

If you're only concerned with your own thoughts, this book could be useful. But what about the sense of security for the women in our society, who have to live with sexual aggression, cat-calls and "hey-baby"s? This book sets shamefully low standards for the church's role in reshaping society, even as it sets admirably high standards for individual men's thought-lives.

Everyman's Battle was suggested to me from a friend of a friend. I knew I needed to read it and have been so very glad that I did. God calls us to be without any sexual impurity and the authors explain step by step how to reach that goal. From someone who thought that I could only ever hope to minimize my struggle I have learned that I have the power through God to run from pornography on the internet, change my habits when I'm around women, and most importantly cherish my wife so that my eyes are for her only.

Guys, if you're unsure about this book let me make it as clear as possible. Buy the book, read it completely, practice what the authors have done themselves and it will make a difference in your life.

The best compliment I could give the authors is that I DID NOT WANT THIS BOOK TO END!!! I owned this book for a while and didn't pick it up right away. Then, I started reading it and didn't get very far before I put it down again. Finally, I picked it up and committed to reading it and it only got better and better! I never wanted it to end! The intimate stories, the incredible Godly advice, the answers to so many questions that men never dare to ask - it is all right here! This is a MUST READ for every man! Christian men, in particular, will find it refreshing, liberating and invigorating! You will find that you are not alone in your thoughts and encouraged in the ways we know we should follow in our hearts! Simply awesome, I can not say enough about it! May God continue to bless these authors and make a way for them to share more of the same!

The best compliment I could give the authors is that I DID NOT WANT THIS BOOK TO END!!! I owned this book for a while and didn't pick it up right away. Then, I started reading it and didn't get very far before I put it down again. Finally, I picked it up and committed to reading it and it only got better and better! I never wanted it to end! The intimate stories, the incredible Godly advice, the answers to so many questions that men never dare to ask - it is all right here! This is a MUST READ for every man! Christian men, in particular, will find it refreshing, liberating and invigorating! You will find that you are not alone in your thoughts and encouraged in the ways we know we should follow in our hearts! Simply awesome, I can not say enough about it! May God continue to bless these authors and make a way for them to share more of the same!

This book helps men fight sexual temptation mainly through avoidance of it ("starving" the eyes, looking away, avoiding flirting and friendship). If one's business or job involves working with female customers and co-workers, I would say only about 15-20% of sexual stimuli can be avoided. It is not good business for one to avoid looking at his customers or coworkers.

Other sources on sexual addiction suggest that it lies in factors such as low self-esteem, hurts or abuse from the past, and perhaps dysfunctional family situations. This is what needs to be addressed, even for the mildly sexually addicted which includes a large percentage of men. Getting to the roots of the problem, truly discovering who we are in Christ, sons of God, is essential for self esteem. I don't think Every Man's Battle addresses this adequately.

This book really didn't help me very much. However, as the owner of a Christian bookstore, I have heard reports from a number of men that it was helpful to them. Therefore, I must conclude that it may be for some men but not for others.

This book helps men fight sexual temptation mainly through avoidance of it ("starving" the eyes, looking away, avoiding flirting and friendship). If one's business or job involves working with female customers and co-workers, I would say only about 15-20% of sexual stimuli can be avoided. It is not good business for one to avoid looking at his customers or coworkers.

Other sources on sexual addiction suggest that it lies in factors such as low self-esteem, hurts or abuse from the past, and perhaps dysfunctional family situations. This is what needs to be addressed, even for the mildly sexually addicted which includes a large percentage of men. Getting to the roots of the problem, truly discovering who we are in Christ, sons of God, is essential for self esteem. I don't think Every Man's Battle addresses this adequately.

This book really didn't help me very much. However, as the owner of a Christian bookstore, I have heard reports from a number of men that it was helpful to them. Therefore, I must conclude that it may be for some men but not for others.

This book offers unique insight into male struggles with sexual temptaton on various fronts. It also explains how the male body and psyche is designed, and how one can curb sexual images and messages, in addition to addictive habits that confront men on a daily basis. Lasty, the authors are aware that their audience consists of both married and single men, and remain sensitive to the additional struggle that single men often encounter.
-It's a good read, and one that will definitely benefit the reader, whether male or female.

I have struggled with the issue of lust for over ten years. I have tried all kinds of prayers and paths that preachers have thrown out, but none have helped even a little. This book gave me the tools to dig myself out of the pit.

This book is based on scriptural references and I have a developed a wonderful new perspective on them. This book is the tool I needed, but it is founded on God's wisdom, not man's

If you're a male, then I strongly encourage you to consider this book. Break the bonds of lust and a mediocre spiritual live. Revive your relationship with God by eliminating the most common sin among men.

Great eye opening book about the real purpose of sex and how it can truly destroy people's lives if partaking in the counterfeit version of what God intended. I have struggled with images and lust since I was a teen. I have had good attempts at quitting and not so good attempts. It is WRONG to look at another woman with lustful eyes not only according to this book, but according to the Bible as well. Jesus' own words, in fact.

For those who wish to open their eyes to the fact that they have been duped by their culture and by the philosophy of this age, this book will be very revealing and convicting (one of the great workings of the Holy Spirit). Those who wish not to see will remain blind and entrenched in this culture. Just because we don't think we can win, doesn't mean that God can't.

Sorry folks but I would rather get advice from someone who has not been divorced twice. Not that I am condemning any Christian who, for whatever reason finds him/herself in divorce, but it is telling when this author is giving us advice on purity in a book he wrote right before he divorced his second wife.

Sorry folks but I would rather get advice from someone who has not been divorced twice. Not that I am condemning any Christian who, for whatever reason finds him/herself in divorce, but it is telling when this author is giving us advice on purity in a book he wrote right before he divorced his second wife.

Exceptional book. Addresses the most important battleground over which Christian men will either rise or fall. As Achan's secret sin caused Israel's defeat so will the the failure of Christian men to gain victory in this area effect the church and community at large. We will not secure victory without until we gain it within. A book for all men whether married, single, old and young.