I have been using this book for over a week and I am really enjoying the exercises and journaling! I find this book to be incredibly eye opening and inspiring! I am getting alot out of this,it is worth every penny! I feel it is increasing my confidence and helping me to make better relationship choices! We all have unhealthy patterns or "types" we need to break away from and this book is helping me to put everything in clearer perspective!

I have been using this book for over a week and I am really enjoying the exercises and journaling! I find this book to be incredibly eye opening and inspiring! I am getting alot out of this,it is worth every penny! I feel it is increasing my confidence and helping me to make better relationship choices! We all have unhealthy patterns or "types" we need to break away from and this book is helping me to put everything in clearer perspective!

This book provided me with useful and practical tips for looking inside myself, evaluating my beliefs and setting new goals - not only about love but about the life I want and the type of people I should let into my life.

By reading the real case stories, you easily relate to the teachings without feeling personally involved or criticised. However, the best and most useful part of the book are the practical exercises - without doing these the book remains a nice spiritual reading but the exercises are what really make you grow, aware of issues and...in small steps...change your beliefs.

I did not find love in 7 weeks, but thanks to the book I have achieved long-lasting changes that are helping me live a happier life - regardless of my relationship status!

This is an amazing book that not only tells you of the magic of creating the love of your life, but also shows you how to manifest it as well. With concrete exercises and examples, with stories that illustrate them, and with spiritual and inspirational wisdom to help you along the way, this is book that will help make your dreams of love and partnership come true.

Michael Z, Author, The Wisdom of the Rooms A Year of Weekly Reflections

I intially picked this book up as a guide to bring love into my life but got so much more. The exercises, which are necessary for the success of the book, are enormously empowering, healing, comforting, inspiring, revealing, and fun. This is the only dating/self-discovery book that I have found that has the reader feeling like they are actually participating in changing/(bringing love) into their life and seeing/feeling immediate results. It differs from many other well written books in that although others are well written; they lack the specific tools for the reader to feel like they can actually control their lives. I could not wait to read this book every day. Life changing!

this book is fantastic. i bought it at the suggestion of the bodhi tree bookstore sale person who said it was the most popular relationship book in the store. orignially i bought it for a friend who had asked me to recommend a book about relationships. but as i paged through it at home i realize i wanted to buy it for myself, too. i am single and i do want to meet 'the one'- but i am not at the place where i'd buy a book about finding him. but this book is not really about finding the one as it is about becoming that which you seek to find. if you are looking for love you need to be love- and you need to love yourself fully and completely. if you are looking for security you need to find security in yourself first rather than look for someone who can make you feel secure. if you are looking for trust you need to trust yourself first before you can trust anyone else. it's all very basic psychological stuff- but even the most psychologically savy can learn a thing or two from this book. especially when it's your blind spots that are causing you to not be open to love. even freud couldn't see his own blind spots.

this book does take a commitment though. the 1 star reviewer who said it was too demanding and too psychologically hard to bear was right in a sense. but the point of the book is to show you that the reason you haven't met mister or miss right isn't because you just don't have any luck- it's because there are blocks in your psyche that are deep issues that need to be dealt with in order for you to be fully open to love. that is not easy work. in our fast-food/short-cut culture where people are learning speed reading so they can get through a book in 10 minutes- this book could feel like getting stuck behind grandpa driving in the fast lane. but there is a point to the intensity of the lessons and the necessity of a commitment to doing the lessons each day for 7 weeks.

it is inevitable that those who read this book are going to perceive it in their own way as a result of experiences in their own lives. so someone who hates it has their whole history backing them up for hating it. i would say check it out and see for yourself. of all the relationship books out there- this is the one that makes you take the most responsibility for yourself and requires you to truly know yourself. in my opinion that is the only way one can find 'the one' and be able to create a healthy, lasting relationship with him or her. you may meet 'the one' before you truly know yourself- but those relationships are typically the ones that don't last and end in divorce. relationships are not easy. they take work. if you want to do the work in order to reap the rewards- read this book.

(as a side note- i have recommended this book to 6 people now and they each had their own reactions to it. they all have had resistance come up in some form or another to doing the lessons or committing to the reading each day. some were not ready for the work- others were. it's all about where you are at right now in this moment. also- this book is written for women- but i would recommend it for men, too. incidentally i recommended it to my ex and he and i are doing the lessons together. the author recommends you get a friend to support you on your journey and highly recommend it as well.)

You don't just read this book - this book gives you a step by step practice to open your life to love. I think I've personally sold 30 of copies of this book just because I can't stand seeing my otherwise successful single friends over 30 languish, feeling alone and unlovable. I've seen amazing transformations - from alone to alter-bound in a couple of months after finishing this book. I've given it to my massage therapist who ended up moving in with her formerly unavailable boyfriend. My love-addicted gay friend is now happily engaged. I could go on and on... Anyone who doesn't understand why they never go out on dates, why there are "no good men/women out there," or why their relationships never work out, needs this book!

Hooray! This book is a must for anyone serious about finding true love and partnership. A sort of "Artist's Way" for love and romance, Katherine Woodward Thomas compassionately guides her readers through a journey of self-discovery and self-love. The book is deep, yet instantly accessible. It's a manual written for the heart. It took mine and cracked it wide open!

After reading just about every book on relationships in the market (with no good results), a friend of mine recommended Calling in the One. I read it and realized that this was a book that I would travel with in a journey of self love and self discovery.
This book has not only helped in my relationships with men, but most importantly has opened my heart to loving my self and letting go of the negative believes that have gotten in the way of having love in my life. I am so grateful to Katherine and to the friend that suggested that I read this book.
It changed my life ...
Monica

What an amazing book that helped me "unblock" my ability to love and be loved. It helped me answer thought-provoking questions that delved deep into areas of my past, my fears and my ridiculous notions about what I thought I was looking for. One of the best pieces of advice in the book is to let go of preconceived notions about what the package your "soulmate" will come in. After reading the book halfway through, I am pretty sure that I met the person I have been looking for. This is for real - no joke. A similar experience happened to my girlfriend who recommended the book to me. Even if my relationship does not work out, at least I have opened myself up to loving and being loved, which was a job onto itself.

I want to kiss Katherine Woodward Thomas!! XOXO

I have read my share of self help books and this is by far the best experience. Its insightful approach in an area that so many struggle with has been very helpful. I am doing this with a group of woemn as recommended in the book. We are meeting weekly. And the process has been very enlightening. I heartily recommend the book whether you use it as a solitary process or with a group. Excellently written and just enough of her story to make it interesting.

Last year, I wrote a very harsh review of Katherine Woodward Thomas's book, "Calling In The One" because I was down on relationships and the whole idea of soulmates at the time. But I later realized I was wrong to condemn Ms. Thomas and give her book a poor review. Life has taught me a few things since I read it the first time, and I can admit a mistake.

What changed my mind was that I observed this book change people's lives after reading it. Although I felt it didn't work for me (mainly because I'm one of those picky, independent, commitment-phobic type A girls), I did see its possible value for single male and female friends of mine, so I recommended the book to them. After reading it, these people changed before my eyes and became softer, more available to relationships, and more open to possibilities. Many got rid of their "lists" and stopped condemning men (and women). Two of these friends are now in committed relationships. My buddies used the techniques in Thomas's book to introspect and renovate their lives to a new possibility of love. The results speak for themselves. I therefore must amend my earlier somewhat cruel review of this work. Simply put, her techniques and suggestions work - kind of like eHarmony - granted the reader is really serious about finding and keeping genuine love. This book demands no less.

Although the wonderful chapters and intriguing case stories did not work for me personally, I can see the value in "Calling In The One", and I highly recommend this book to any single who is serious about finally escaping the drudgery and endless wheel of fruitless dating, and focusing on and finding the one who concludes all searches.

And for those who asked:

Katherine's book did not work for me because I find I have a fear of losing my independence and creative ideas to a man who will smother me, suffocate me, control me and turn me into a baby-making machine that exists to pick up his socks and make his meals. It sounds ridiculous, but yes, that's a very real fear of mine. Until I wake up and face and debunk that baseless fear, I will remain successful but alone. The two are not mutually exclusive, but a strong part of me still holds terror that they are. Thomas's book in many ways helped me to see that. How many books grow on you over time and make you completely reverse your original opinion of them?

Highly recommended.

I was sceptical when I bought the book, another self-help one, recommended by a dear friend. But I've been doing the excercises for the past two weeks now, and I honestly feel myself growing as a person. I'm understanding me better and accepting who I am.
Woodward Thomas is clear in her explanations, and she manages to draw from many different sources, giving her recommendations validity and context.
I highly recommend this to anyone who has not yet gone back to childhood to understand why we behave the way we do.

If you are in a place in your life that you feel lost and/or stuck, then get this book. You can apply it to all your realtionships and not just your love life, though this is the biggest area it can/will effect. The advice is good, sound and solid and the exercises can only help the cause of finding the one you want! I also recommend, "Man Magnet" as well as "Calling the One". Good luck and have fun!!!!

I know my review won't be popular, but I purchased "Calling In The One" and found it, simply, too demanding and too hard psychologically to bear.

Thomas asks her readers to do several years' worth of therapy in the course of seven weeks, most of it boring, mind-numbingly repetitive and unrelated to the task of finding a husband. The majority of her workbook assignments force the reader to delve deeply, and often triggeringly, into childhood devastations and long-buried agonies that, in my case, only numbed me deeper against wanting a relationship. I also wondered why it is women are the ones asked to do all this difficult psychological work in order to win "the prize" of having a man, and men are asked to do virtually nothing at all. I found myself rebelling against the book and everything it stood for by the second week of the seven the reader is obliged to undertake.

Reading the author's own personal take on how she met "the one" (an African-American man she was not even initially attracted to the first several times she met him - the author is a white female of a certain age), and being an African-American woman not at all attracted to black men, I find myself with the sinking, despairing suspicion the author "settled" with a black man to unconsciously rebel against her mother (who, in the book, warned the author explicitly NEVER to bring home a black man), and to become pregnant: which, by her new African-American husband, she easily did.

Sour grapes towards hesitant and commitmentphobic white men is all this book sounds like to me, and as a woman of color who dates white men, I could agree. However, I doubt Thomas's convinctions in this book and feel she settled. I am not attracted to black men and would not settle with one to satisfy a biological clock - which is all this book seems to lead towards as its goal. Pedantic, too-long, too-demanding, insensitive, triggering, dismissive of the man's responsibilities in a romantic relationship - shall I go on? In a phrase, I despise this book, and it is now in a box under my bed never to be read again. What a dreary thing it was.

One nice point about "Calling In The One", though; it helped me become VERY clear on what it is, I find, I DO want: I have learned by doing the grueling worktasks in Thomas's book that I actually don't believe in soulmates, don't want a man forever in my life, and would be very satisfied with a physically attractive and well-groomed, compliant, obedient, quiet male sex partner who SOMETIMES - when *I* ask it - joins me on my arm at the requisite parties and social appearances - then goes home, gets out of my face, and leaves me to my career, with which I am immensely happy and satisfied. "Settle"? Bah: the day I settle is the day I die.

Hint to Katherine: you CAN become pregnant and have a child WITHOUT A MAN, dear. You don't have to settle and sell out. You come off in this book as everything weak and dependent we women today are trying to leave behind and kick kitty litter on top of with our heels as we walk away. Get it? Just thought you might like to know.

Awful book. Hated it page 1 to end. There are no soulmates. Settle for yourself and the right one will come - ON YOUR TERMS. No surrender, ladies. Forget this book's name and do your soul some enormous good.