I was given this book by my therapist to read. I found that a few points were interesting and informative, but overall, the book was a snooze. It seems to be made for the older crowd, not so much the young twenty-something-to-be-newlywed. Chapter 10 is ESPECIALLY a crock, titled, "The 'Perfect' Wife." That was what really turned me off to the book and made me think this was totally not worth my time. There are much better books on this subject out there.

I commend this book, because unlike many other sex manuals, the authors bring God into the equation. However, there appeared to be a lack of awareness that women are just as sexual as men are. The idea that women should participate in sex just because her husband is in the mood even if she isn't, is an idea that should have died a long time ago. While I agreed that sex toys create responses artificially, I did not agree with the author's view that they should be banned from the bedroom. They talked against oral sex, which is another way for a woman to reach orgasm other than the manual stimulation the authors kept going on about. In fact, it didn't seem much encouragement was given to couples' experimenting with what works for them. The techniques presented in the book are only a few of what is available to married couples. I would recommend this book with hesitation to couples who are virgins, and steer them towards other manuals for further details. I wouldn't necessarily recommend this to any couple who already has the experience.

I got this book as part of premarriage counseling, and overall it was a good book. Good information for people of various sex knowledge levels. However, the book was comical at points and seemed a bit old fashioned/impractical. For example, a wife should have dinner on the table and look her best when her husband comes home from work. It also said that couples should not own a TV for the first year of their marriage. Already broke that rule.

The Wheat's really know what they are talking about...and it was fun to read with my new husband. I would recommend this book to everyone, not just Christians, who are about to make the jump to wedded bliss. Probably better to read a month before the wedding...otherwise that first night can be like fumbling around in the dark. Highly recommended.

This book is wonderful! I bought it just prior to my wedding. It is a bit like going back to middle school sex-ed, but it proved invaluable for the honeymoon. The authors deal expertly, honestly, and sensitively about the subject.

I didn't like this book. It's well written, but really makes some statements that can't be backed up with the Bible. Everything is cut/dry. This is this way because we think it should be this way. I would go to some other book.

The many reviews I read before purchasing this book are correct: This is a very clinical and sometimes dry book. It's also a fantastic resource. But honestly, if you are interested in learning the basics, you shouldn't have a hard time getting through it.

I really enjoyed this book and the emphasis on the clinical explanations of how things work. Ed Wheat is a doctor and that comes out in his technical explanations, which are especially helpful if you are having some problems in your sex life.

I would have given it 5-stars (it really is a great book) except I purchased another book as well, Getting your Sex Life Off to a Great start, and I found the other book a bit better in its explanation of the first sexual experience as well as its advice for the honeymoon.

If you are preparing for your first experience I recommend buying both books. Each book offers something that the other lacks. If you can only purchase one, I recommend the other, but both are really great resources. We are also reading through Love Life for Every Married Couple and it is important to work on all aspects of your relationship - not just the sexual aspect.

Ladies, (especially Christian ladies) this book is the one you've been looking for. It's very professionally done (meaning it's not crude or offensive) and it's very informative!!!! It also has an excellent section for women trying to get pregant with info O B Gyn offices and Fertility clinics won't tell you!!! Tons of info from Doctor's!!! Check it out! Brenda R

Book was great - slightly repetative but really gives you a good spiritual and medical explanaition of sex an marriage with the tools to improve both your sex and emotional relatioship with your spouse.

I am so disappointed in this book I'm going to try and return it. I purchased this book because it was written by an M.D. and I assumed that he would have sufficient knowledge to use medical terms correctly and thoroughly. I myself am in the medical field and was shocked to find there were so many medical terms that were either misused or not even mentioned that could have added another depth to this mediocre book. Not once was the term G-spot mentioned in this whole novel according to Dr. Wheat the only way to bring a woman to orgasm is from clitoral stimulation. Which is a crock many women have G-spot orgasms during intercourse, but according to Dr. Wheat intercourse is not pleasurable to the wife only to the husband and he should "manually stimulate her" after his own orgasm. Also it was stressed that exploration was desirable in marriage but yet there was no mention of oral sex either. I realize there are people that are totally turned off by the thought of that but in a marriage oral sex can be a great form of foreplay to the wife and husband as it increases the intimacy level between them. Lastly on the things that were mentioned that were not current with today's medical standards is the squeeze technique for premature ejaculation. That is being discredited in medical literature of today because of the damage/pain that it can cause the penis if done for extended periods of time or by someone who doesn't know the proper way to do it. The way it was explained in the novel is not sufficient enough for someone with no medical knowledge to perform this on her husband without sufficient risk to his reproductive health and ego. Save your money and find another novel about sex in a Christian marriage that does a better job of explaining sexuality as it pertains to orgasm of women and ways to prevent premature ejaculation.

Good book, especially for the Newlywed couple who has waited for marriage.

Good, frank, practical advice and helpful information in general for both parties.

My wife and I felt that Gaye's chapter on "the perfect wife" seemed a bit out of place, and disagreed with her sort of "do whatever you can to please your man" kind of attitude. We take it a little more mutually than her chapter seemed to imply. And it didn't seem in line with Ed's views on everything, so it was a tad confusing.

As a whole, though. I highly recommend the book, with that single disclaimer.

As an engaged man, I found this book to be lacking in many ways, particularly when compared to LaHaye's "The Act of Marriage" which is, frankly, the gold standard on the topic. I felt Wheat's book lacked the practical details and substantial insights when compared to LaHaye. Rather than focusing on the act of sex, Wheat devoted a lot of time to the psycho-social issues surrounding the lack of sexual satisfaction within Christendom vs. the practical things that can be done to increase such satisfaction. This book is also, at times, clearly focused on non-Christians or those unsure about their personal faith in Christ. If you're unsure about what God says about sex, marriage, and companionship, this might not be a bad book to read in conjuction with "The Sacred Marriage" -- the other gold standard on marraige. However, if you're secure in your faith in Christ, this book will come off a somewhat rudimentary and a little preachy.
Bottom line: as an enagaged man looking for practical insights secure in his faith/identity in Christ, this book was of little help to me -- hence my lackluster review.

if my wife would have read it or received it with an open mind.

if my wife would have read it or received it with an open mind.

My husband & I read it together. It is full of info you need to know, but no one ever tells you ( at least not in my Sunday School classes). Read it, read it again, & prepare for a more intimate and satisfying sexual relationship with your spouse.


Marina Kushner
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Provides an excellent introduction to the origins of sexual relationships for Christians. However, my wife thinks it is written primarly for men. Methods and techniques are fair but leaves out some issues in modern times.

Provides an excellent introduction to the origins of sexual relationships for Christians. However, my wife thinks it is written primarly for men. Methods and techniques are fair but leaves out some issues in modern times.

A dear friend recommended this book to us. Upon receipt I immediately turned to the section on pregnancy and birth control as I am an avid supporter of the protection of the unborn babies in our world. I was HORRIBLY dissapointed at the presentaiton of the material in this section. This is supposed to be a 'Christian' book yet they used terms like 'fertilized egg' instead of baby to explain the way that birth control pills can prevent the implantation of a baby into the womans womb. They even say that if that occured it wouldn't be an abortion of a baby. Any basic sex ed class teaches that fertilization occurs BEFORE the egg reaches the womb; actually occuring in the fallopian tubes. Needless to say I CANNOT recommend this book for any person seeking Biblical teaching on planning a family. "Children are a reward from the Lord" and "Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them" Psalms

A dear friend recommended this book to us. Upon receipt I immediately turned to the section on pregnancy and birth control as I am an avid supporter of the protection of the unborn babies in our world. I was HORRIBLY dissapointed at the presentaiton of the material in this section. This is supposed to be a 'Christian' book yet they used terms like 'fertilized egg' instead of baby to explain the way that birth control pills can prevent the implantation of a baby into the womans womb. They even say that if that occured it wouldn't be an abortion of a baby. Any basic sex ed class teaches that fertilization occurs BEFORE the egg reaches the womb; actually occuring in the fallopian tubes. Needless to say I CANNOT recommend this book for any person seeking Biblical teaching on planning a family. "Children are a reward from the Lord" and "Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them" Psalms

Holy Jesus, this book was orgasmic. I was surprised to find such sexually explicit detail packed into a book for Christians. Now I know why everyone goes to church. The fact is, Christian people know how to have great sex. I apply all of the teachings in this book about positions to my own routine.

The only thing I disagree with is the Christian law for having intercourse with only one partner, or gender. This conflicts with my current lifestyle, otherwise this books has taught me a lot. I now understand that Christian women are repressed and they want it "bible-style". Those are the authors words, not mine.

This book is very practical and useful. It addresses issues head-on in a no non-sense manner.

This book is very practical and useful. It addresses issues head-on in a no non-sense manner.

Sex is a very important part of marriage and it is very important for both people to be comfortable and to enjoy it. This book provides all the info a newly married couple needs. I really liked the section on sex tips for trying to concieve. This was very helpful and aided us in getting pregnant.

A very good book that any newly married or even been married Christian couple should have. It has some very good information on what to expect as well as possible problems a couple may encounter.

Overall the book is a great resource, but sometimes is a bit too 'basic' for the newest generation (under 30) of married people.

I see that some people were helped by this book. I would not recommend this book for someone who has not experienced sex. The advice to virgins was disgusting. The writers say that the sexual act is not natural and that people need help enjoying it. The writer also suggests techniques of preparation for the virgin the month before that most assuredly would either lead to depending on yourself for fulfillment or it would train a young lady to not be responsive. I thought the book was sick. It turns women into an object of function. It also talks about men being 100% head of the household and women being 100% submissive. The authors are a husband and wife but I can't hear a woman's voice anywhere in this book. The cover is pretty so she probably had something to do with that. I'm sure she submitted completely to him in the writing of this book and that is why it is completely clinical and even crude.

This book was for my daughter, 26, and her fiancee, 28, who are going to be married this Sept. It was recommended by the pastor who taught their 9-week premarital class at their church, Mars Hill, in Seattle. I have heard this was a good book before this time anyway. It is concise, well-written, easy to read, and I highly recommend it to young (and old) couples. My daughter is pretty innocent and this book makes it clear but not unappealing. Has parts on birth control as well. If you want a book that both presents sex well and from the Christian perspective (within marriage), this is the book for you. I also liked it that it did not have pictures, which I think make a book a little less appealing and prurient.

My fianc� and I are reading this book together before we get married. It has been very helpful to both of us, we wanted a Christian based book on God's design for sex in marriage. We also wanted input on what to expect the wedding night to be like since we're virgins, it has a wonderful chapter that talks directly to engaged/newly weds about that first night. We would highly recommend this book to other couples who want a biblical view of sex in marriage.

My fiancý and I are reading this book together before we get married. It has been very helpful to both of us, we wanted a Christian based book on God's design for sex in marriage. We also wanted input on what to expect the wedding night to be like since we're virgins, it has a wonderful chapter that talks directly to engaged/newly weds about that first night. We would highly recommend this book to other couples who want a biblical view of sex in marriage.

If you are a practicing Catholic, and are thinking of buying this book, you should know it promotes birth control, many forms of which cause aboritions. I am returning the book for this reason.

This book is very cool, easy to read, and is a life saver. Especially if you have never made love, and you are getting married, it respectfully gives you an overview and important tips to make your first ime with your spouse memorable. It respects the sanctity of marriage, and values love and respect within your marriage. And it also talks about sex not only for young people, but for older adults as well. God will bless you through this book! Buy it here cuz they have it cheaper than where I got it! ;)

I bought this book and "Intimate Issues" at the reccomendation of a female friend who said that she wished someone had told her about them before she got married.

When I recieved the books I immediately dove into this one, it's an easy read, seperated into chapters so that you can read what intrests you. Technique, STD's, dysfunction, God's purpose for sex, etc. etc. it's not like the stereotypical Christian sex book... Ed Wheat gives the reader a good idea of how exciting and fulfilling sex can be in marriage. There's also a chapter on the honeymoon night and having sex for the fisrt time.

This book is esspecially helpful for men who might feel they can't sexually satisfy their wife, there is an extensive section on a "cure" method for pre-ejaculation and also a section on teaching him the intricacies of a woman's body and how to last longer so that he can please her. Ed feels very strongly that it is a man's job to please his wife... I was happy when my finace borrowed this book from me and claimed he had read the whole thing!

Wow!!!! A Great book on giving your wife the climax of a life time (in a pure way, of course). After reading this book, we let it loose, never feel guilty about it, and we have grown a lot. And boy, is she a sexual dynamite : o Read this book and have fun, in or out of bed, like the hall way, the car, the computer desk, uh I, mnb m got to go. Thinking about this book makes me want my wife.

this book is good for couples married for 20 years or just starting the journy.

Just what we needed in our bedroom: biblical tracts! Get thee to a good sex manual or massage book...

After 15 years of marriage and many attempts to improve my marriage in many ways, I found this book to be one of the most helpful. I wished I had read it a long time ago. My husband and I have gone leaps and bounds in our relationship since. I would also recommend "Solomon on Sex".

The updates are admirable. When are the Christian Marriage/Sex experts going to stop making the main focus of sex about intercourse? Christian wives wait for the first time to make love and almost all are disappointed. The facts are that while women enjoy the closeness and bond of intercourse with their husbands, they do not have orgasms that way! The Wheats, as well as other authors, must address this to save marriages. Orgasm is a God-given pleasure to men and women.