I honestly feel that if every male practices what is written there then their relationships with their spouses will become more intimate and the
divorce rate in the world would certainly plummet down. I also recommend
other book that is about to satisfy female and male I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

Excellent book that is well written with a sense of humor. This should be required reading for all women interested in enjoying their lives. The authors are non judgemental and professional. Wit and humor cover the topics along with perspectives for partners of women included through out. Wonderful book! Buy one for everywomen you love.

Anyone who is female - or anyone who sleeps with females - needs to read this book. It's written in a clear, friendly, sometimes funny way. It provides a ton of great information and insights. I learned a lot from this book, as I think would anyone. I loved that it is also inclusive of everyone, straight or not. This would also be a great book to give to a girl before she becomes sexually active with a partner. Please do yourself a favor and read this book right now!

As a sex coach and instructor, this book helped me answer a lot of questions for my clients about female orgasm. I also have several friends who have trouble in that area. I made it part of my library along with two other books that have proven invaluable and that I have shared with all my clients and friends: (1) Five Minutes to Orgasm Every Time You Make Love: Female Orgasm Made Simple. This 3-step technique takes the mystique out of female orgasm and makes it the natural and simple act it should be. (2) Was that an earthquake? The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex. This flip over book has tons of information about fellatio on one side, then flip it over and you have just as much information about cunnilingus. A must for couples of any age, sex or experience.

I just received my order of "I <3 Female Orgasm" today, and have been engrossed ever since. The amount of information found in the approximately 300 page book is incredible, as well as incredibly well written. I love the way that when the authors sometimes refer to a certain concept, they will also tell you the page number to get more detail about that concept. They also frequently recommend other books for more information. I also enjoy the wonderful anecdotes and little quotes that are constantly interspersed within the book. I frequently laughed aloud while reading some of the stories. ^_^

This book is an all inclusive book about female sex, not just female orgasm, and is helpful on many levels. If you are the least bit interested in females and sex put together, I definitely recommend this book for you to read and enjoy.

I had heard a lot about this book (all of it good) from friends and decided to order it myself. I enjoyed it, and am now adding my praise to the rest. It's very informative, but also easy to read and humorous. There are pictures and diagrams explaining different things throughout the chapters, and it even gives insight from people other than the authors. I'll be purchasing this as a gift for the upcoming brides I know!

Absolutely great book, for anybody with an interest in human sexuality (personal or partner's). Written in straightforward (and often hilarious) language, the information provided is valuable for every woman.. and everybody who loves one.

Thank you for writing it!

Book Review

I *Heart* Female Orgasm
By Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller

Reviewed by Shannon Pringle for Venus Envy

The cover seduced me. On a simple white background were three black words and one red heart presented with such simple enthusiasm that I was smitten at first sight. The title of the book read I Love Female Orgasm and I thought to myself, "Me too!" I am sure others will agree that this 3-15 seconds of unparalleled rapture is worthy of such a bold declaration.

I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide is a fun, refreshing, demystifying and inclusive tour through the world of the female-bodied orgasm. Whether you are looking to have your first orgasm, are not sure if you have ever had an orgasm, are an orgasm connoisseur, or are a partner wanting to know more about women's orgasm, this book contains a wealth of information for you. There are a number of female orgasm books on the market, but this one captured my interest, beyond its frisky title, for its attempt to be inclusive, in its approach and use of language, of people of diverse genders and sexual orientations. There is just so much knowledge to be gained from people who experience their bodies and desires differently from what you may be accustomed to, and I Love Female Orgasm underlines the similarities in the human sexual experience rather than the differences.

There are always new things to learn, myths to deconstruct, and shame to squelch surrounding women's sexuality, and Solot and Miller take on this challenge. They have included chapters on the psychology and physiology of orgasms, masturbation, cunnilingus, intercourse, the g-spot and female ejaculation, sex toys, men and female orgasm, queer orgasms, [...] play, and safer sex and birth control. Their thoroughness has left me somewhat daunted in how to approach this review, so I am going to write about what I love and learned from I Love Female Orgasm.

I loved learning, in the chapter "The Lowdown on the Big O," that the plateau phase of the female sexual response cycle can sometimes last for what seems like an inordinately long time, but usually, if the arousing stimulation continues, an orgasm can be reached. So for those out there who feel that taking a long time to come somehow means that they are defective, well it just isn't so. Solot's and Miller's section "Eight Lies You May Have Heard About Masturbation" is a refreshing reminder about how persistent these myths are in our culture, despite the advances of sex-positive feminism. And I Love Female Orgasm contains lots of tips on how to masturbate to orgasm for those who are new to it and for those wanting to change up an old routine.

The chapter "Going Down, Down Baby: Oral Sex and Female Orgasm" is great for anyone going down on anyone with a clitoris, especially if you learned about performing oral sex by watching mainstream porn. Mainstream porn, its sexual techniques and angles, are designed to turn on the viewer, not the participants, which makes it a poor example of how to actually get off. For anyone who fears that they don't measure up to today's porn stars, I recommend the "Porn Alert" section for a reminder on what an artificially created and surgically enhanced world it is.

I also appreciated the reminder that although a person may have a sex partner they are still responsible for their own orgasm. This is Slott's and Miller's take-home point from the chapter on intercourse. It's not fair to put the burden of responsibility for your sexual pleasure on your partner, nor to blame them if you don't come. Penetrative intercourse, whether it is with a biological penis or a silicone dildo, is not physically well designed to produce female-bodied orgasms easily. Only 30 percent of female-bodied people will orgasm from intercourse alone; most will need to have some kind of clitoral stimulation to come. This fact of life does not reflect poorly on the receptive partner, the penetrative partner, nor diminish the intimacy of the act, though we have been culturally lead to believe otherwise.

I was delighted to see the two Venus Envy stores mentioned in the chapter of "Vibrators, Toys and Piercings, Oh My!" as part of a handful of North American, women-orientated, educationally based sex shops. The chapter also has some good ideas for including sex toys in partnered sex. Solot and Miller wrap up I Love Female Orgasm with some tips for being a great lover: there's a chapter titled "Let's Here It For The Boys" that is written largely for biological males who have been socialized as males and a great chapter called "Coming with Pride" which includes lesbian sex advice and information about orgasms for transgendered and intersexed folks. I was so pleased to see this last section as it is the first time I have seen this topic in a mainstream sex guide! I Love Female Orgasm was a great read, and many times it made me want to have an orgasm, give someone and orgasm, and buy the tee-shirt!

This is an enlightening and entertaining read on a subject that is near and dear to my heart. I am facinated by the female body, and especially the female orgasm. I believe this book does an excellent job of describing all there is to know about it, and how to help you or your partner have one or many. Enjoy!

Thanks.
Lynn

I actually picked up this book not because I was interested in what
it had to say (I thought the book was going to be a joke), but
because the title of the book made me laugh. I flipped through a few
pages and decided that I definitely wanted to read some more into it.
I sat down in a chair with my girlfriend and without even realizing
it, read all of the first chapter. I have to say, I learned more from
the first chapter of your book than I have from all of the books and
websites and references on sexuality that I have ever seen in my
life. I told my girlfriend that I HAD to have the book, so she bought
it for me. I read the entire book over the weekend. I made so many
footnotes, bookmarks, and had so many highlighted passages that it
looked like my college textbooks. I have since shared the books with
my family, friends, and girlfriend, all of whom have loved it. Not
only has it increased my sexual awareness by about a bazillion, it
has also brought my sex life to a whole new level.

This was a really wonderful book. Very insightful. Doesn't matter what sexual orgin you are, male or female. you should buy it. Everything from what to expect and how to get there. I didn't put it down until i was finished.

Apparently Solot and Miller are well-known for their tours on the college lecture circuit, but there's NO WAY this book is just for teens and young adults. In addition to their valuable, insightful and extensive review of sex studies and literature--which would be of interest to anyone who, um, has sex---the authors offer tons of fun sexual suggestions for anyone at any stage of experience.

And their suggestions work!!!

I completely loved this book...The fun, conversational tone, personal anecdotes from the authors (who are a real-life couple), inclusiveness to people of all tastes and persuasions, and, again, suggestions that truly work, make it a very valuable and entertaining read. It is also the exactly right size and length--not so comprehenive as to be awkward to hold or a chore to read, not so short that the fun ends too soon. I will definitely keep this book handy and refer to it again and again.

An excellent resource for both men and women! Well-written and very readable, this book is a very modern and comprehensive reference on female sexuality. It is open and nonjudgmental while providing a plethora of solid information in a very conversational, non-threatening format that also manages to not be terribly overwhelming. I've recommended it to several of my patients who have all come back with nothing but lavish praise.

I particularly recommend this book in conjunction with The Survivor's Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Child Sexual Abuse for women who are healing from childhood sexual abuse or assault.

All men and women should take a look at this book, but make sure you have lots of time to spend on it because once you pick it up you won't be able to put it down!

This is one well-researched book: Dorian and Marshall waded through tons of research, collected surveys from thousands of people, watched famous female orgasm scenes in movies, and yes, even tried out positions and techniques. (Though it's pretty peripheral to female orgasm, they even answer the question, "Does size matter?" That's dedication.)

Their tone is wonderfully sex-positive without ever downplaying challenges, and they manage to be both philosophical and splendidly specific in one quick read. Quite a feat.

I Love Female Orgasm is a must-have for college students, but there is material of value (and amusement) for the most orgasm-savvy of us in here. I wish I'd had it 15 years ago.

"I Love Female Orgasm" is a handy dandy compilation of all those things you kinda knew, heard about, read about, weren't sure about, or had forgotten about, plus a bunch of great REAL tidbits from real people -- along with a bunch of big O trivia -- all wrapped up into one cute package!