This is a well needed book in todays society. I being raised by older parents sure benifitted from it. I am listening to it over and over to get it into my making. And really all it is is common sense. KAren

This book helped me to see that implementing scripture pricipals into parenting makes life so much easier. It was encouranging and convicting at the same time. First got it from the library and then had to buy it so I could reference it over and over.

This is another one of those books that I borrowed and read first. It was so good that I went back and bought a copy for myself for reference. The good doctors Thompson and Cloud give a very good framework for raising useful and productive adults. If you don't want to raise large children, this is the book for you. What I found particularly useful, coming from a fairly disfunctional family, was the amount of space devoted to empathy. If you have been disciplined harshly and unfairly, it can be hard to know how to discipline with kindness. This book devotes a fair amount of space to making your discipline empathetic so that your child understands that the discipline is neccesary, but that it isn't something you are doing just to make him/her miserable. They really help you to always keep the goal in front of yourself and your child, that is: the adult you want them to become, not the child they are now.

We got this to use as a study book for a church small group. It has been very practical and helpful, but the chapters sometimes seem long. However, the methods suggested are very proactive and easy to implement in any household.

I wish someone had loved me enough to give this to me at my baby shower. This is a great book and wonderfully easy to read. OK maybe the baby shower is a bit early, but I would definitely recommend it for parents of toddlers and older. I ordered a copy for my best friend. I had always heard about respecting your kids so they'll respect you, but never the real "how to's". This book gives what you need.

For most parents, it is just anough to make it through. They are not looking at the long term and the fact that they are shaping the life of a future citizen of the world (and hopefully heaven). Many parents, even Christian ones, miss the mark in parenting because they forget that God teaches that discipline is a neccassary part for maturity. If children do not learn discipline at a young age, they will have a hard time coping with stress in the future, or dealing with people in general.

This book teaches you how to raise your child Biblically, and how to train them so that when they head out into the world they will not ultimate fail. This book tackles such subjects as attitudes of entitlement, how to teach your child to respect boundaries of others, and how to teach them how to deal with other children.

I have a read a lot of books, and few books have shed the light onto why so many people behave the way that they do today. So, if you have problems dealing with people and you want to understand the roots of it, or you have children (whether your own or ones you watch) then you should read this book. It will change the way that you view childr-rearing and will dramatically improve your results.

God Bless ~Amy

I finished reading the book in no time. There are several interesting stories in this book. However, many opinions listed in this book are just common sense to me.

This is without a doubt the best parenting book I have ever read! I am a Pastor and a Foster Parent and have greatly benefitted by putting these principles into practice. I know if these principles work with kids who are troubled and come from broken homes, they will work with any children.

I especially appreciate the way the authors emphasize how teaching children boundaries when they are young will set them up for success as adults. They focus on the value of teaching children life lessons while the cost is low so they don't have to learn them as adults when the cost is so much greater. I would recommend this book to anyone with kids regardless of their age.

This is by far the most amazing parenting book I have EVER read. I have a two year old and an infant and feel much better prepared to raise them to serve God in their lives.

I can't stop talking to my friends about how practical, simple, and easy-to-apply the principles of this book are - I'm reading the book again because it is so full of great information that I have to absorb it for a second time.

I do believe that this book has to be put into practice BEFORE a child reaches their teen years, simply because that is a time when children become adults and it could be more difficult to apply boundaries only if you have not started the boundaries when they were young. If your child is a teen already, this book might just frustrate you because it will make you wish you had started earlier...just to be honest.

As a divorced woman and single mother, I'm always looking for help in raising my kids. This book adapts the idea of "boundaries" and applies it to managing the behavior of children. Like every book by these authors, this book is helpful, clear, easy to understand and apply. I highly recommend it! If you are a single parent, raising your kids alone, I also highly recommend a brand-new parenting book that is the best I've seen for single moms and dads: Raising Great Kids on Your Own: A Guide and Companion for Every Single Parent

Barbara Sheldon, M.S.W.
Barbara's Top Pick: Raising Great Kids on Your Own: A Guide and Companion for Every Single Parent

As a divorced woman and single mother, I'm always looking for help in raising my kids. This book adapts the idea of "boundaries" and applies it to managing the behavior of children. Like every book by these authors, this book is helpful, clear, easy to understand and apply. I highly recommend it! If you are a single parent, raising your kids alone, I also highly recommend a brand-new parenting book that is the best I've seen for single moms and dads: Raising Great Kids on Your Own: A Guide and Companion for Every Single Parent

Barbara Sheldon, M.S.W.
Barbara's Top Pick: Raising Great Kids on Your Own: A Guide and Companion for Every Single Parent

As a divorced woman and single mother, I'm always looking for help in raising my kids. This book adapts the idea of "boundaries" and applies it to managing the behavior of children. Like every book by these authors, this book is helpful, clear, easy to understand and apply. I highly recommend it! If you are a single parent, raising your kids alone, I also highly recommend a brand-new book that is the best I've seen for single moms and dads: Raising Great Kids on Your Own: A Guide and Companion for Every Single Parent

Excellent practical advise. Similar philosophy to Love and Logic parenting books which I also love. I highly recommend this book for parents wanting to improve or wanting reinforcement that they are doing well.

Excellent practical advise. Similar philosophy to Love and Logic parenting books which I also love. I highly recommend this book for parents wanting to improve or wanting reinforcement that they are doing well.

I read this book before I had my son, and I loved it. I am a child counselor, and I would put this on my recommended reading list for parents because it is very comprehensive. Now that I am actually a parent, I appreciate it even more. I think it is a wonderful, Biblical perspective on parenting. I especially appreciate its views on power and control - so helpful with a two year old! I've reminded myself hundreds of times "don't engage in the protest," and it helps keep everyone much calmer and situations get worked through more quickly. Definitely a "must read!"

Great book with excellent advice. Boundaries - how very simple but so lacking these days. It does have biblical verses all throughout, so if you're Bible shy, these may annoy you.

The advice given in the book was good, and a lot of good points were made, but I found the constant references to the Bible very annoying. I am not a religious person, and wouldn't have minded a few references, but it was a little too much for my liking. It read more like a sermon, and I didn't realize that when I had purchased it.

I have read the book several times to help me understand that the way my parents raised me is not the way I should raise mine or interface with any child. This book helped me realize there is no one way to deal with any child. People and children have different personalities which means there are billions of ways to deal with a child. The one solid thing this book taught me was to deal with each situation, evaluate the situation and use this book as a set of guidlines and rules to deal with children. Every child requires dealing with differently but consistant rules and guidelines in their life helps them sort and deal with thier problems as they grow. Allowing them to only take on what they are required to at certain ages. This allows good growth, stability, responiblity and many aspects of their life to become very solid as they grow into teenagers and young adults. It also resolved for me my failures in life in my relationships not only with children my exwife, in business, and all other relationships. Bounderies with kids shows us how to build our childrens character, other childrens character and to also build our character where we are lacking due to many reasons. Over all I would give this book a top rating for improving relationships with any person you deal with. When we have a rule and guideline based character life children will find us safe and know where they stand with us and are able to be more open and real with us about there everyday stuggles and triumphs, which creates a safe and secure home for them mutual trust and respect. I cannot type enough about these books and authors I am reading and collecting all of them and give extra copies I buy to friends, business contacts, anyone and family as gifts. They didn't come with an instruction book but there are after market books and these are the ones. My final note: I am intellegent and successful at many things but I was a failure at dealing with my family and children. I was to proud to read a book to save my marriage and also to proud to read a book to save my childrens dysfucntional ways that we passed on to them and struggled with. I have been greatly humbled by these books. I read everything I can get my hands on about excelling in buisness and have for years. Now I also read everything I can about raising my children to be successful at life and relationships which creates sucess and leadership in them and other.

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GREAT!!!!! I only wish that I had read this book when my children were toddlers. If children came with a book, this would be the one. As parents, our ultimate goal should be to raise responsibile independent adults. This book gives a whole new perspective on parenting. Highly recommended.

I suffered from terrible verbal abuse as a child, and now as a mother have had a very difficult time seeing our daughter in any pain. This book has helped me to understand more clearly that true, Christ-like love gives us the strength to help our children to live assertively, and that while we work to protect them from harm, to try to protect them from every day life and consequences hurts them significantly more in the long run. It did a great job of teaching how to parent with high though realistic expectations of your children, while always giving them the unconditional love and encouragement that they need to have happy, successful lives.

I have to say that this book is absolutely my favorite parenting book thus far (and I have read many!) As a Christian parent attempting to do the best I can with the 3 beautiful kids that God has entrusted to me-this book has been the most helpful in giving practical insights and advise with how to deal with the day-to-day challenges of raising great kids. I love the understanding that is imparted as to healthy child developement and the encouragement and inspiration this book infuses to its readers. Parenting for Teens is also an amazing book - My oldest child is an 11 yr old girl and this book is chalk full of great advise to learn and implement as your kids are approaching their teen years-not just applicable if your kids are older!

This book has been very useful for me in parenting my 3 children. I have reread it several times to refresh my memory and find it to be useful for parents of young children.

This book is great with young kids. I have a toddler and an infant and tried some of the suggestions in the book and it has helped me better deal with my daughter. I can't say how it would work on teenagers, but I have found Cloud's/Townsend's books on marriage, mom's, and boundaries in general to be very good.

If you have children, this book along with the Boundaries book are excellent books to assist in raising children with healthy self-esteems. These books help you set appropriate boundaries in your relationships, which empowers rather than enables. I love the examples they give about the various types of boundaries we need to have. It reinforces what they are talking about.

Their suggestions are very practical and realistic.

I never experienced boudaries in my home growing up so this book has been an eye-opener for me. I have been looking for a book to change the dysfunction my family has passed down for generations. This book is exactly what I have been looking for in regards to practical suggestions that are based on love, the Bible, and raising a happy, emotionally healthy child. I highly recommend!

Having read the Boundaries book, I was excited to read this book directed at parents. I was not disappointed. With the same common-sense approach that I found in the original, the authors give encouragement and direction for floundering parents. Since I was already aware of the principles of the book, the greatest benefit to me was the encouragement - the affirmation that my focus and energy were well aimed. I would highly recommend this book to any parent who is not certain that he or she IS the parent - the leader - in his or her home...or any parent who has become confused in light of well-intentioned, but not accurate or Biblical, pop-psychology that encourages a hands-off approach to parenting. This book reminds us that we ALL appreciate boundaries - and children might appreciate them even more than adults do.

This is the book you wish your parents had! But you can start today, with your own children. The authors first Boundaries book is my "best" book. It helped me tremenoudly with my own life. And from quality people, here is another book to help you help your kids set the best boundaries for their own life. We can't to it for them, they will make their own mistakes. But we can show them what good decision-making does and allow them to have consequences for their decisions. I can't say enough about this book. I wish I had found it years ago when my oldest two sons were children. You will really equip yourself with this book to be a loving, effective parent.

I'm able to find something I heartily disagree with in every childcare or child discipline book I read. Even in my favorites. But I thought my head was going to fall off I nodded so hard while reading this book. I used to hedge daily on discipline worrying I was "hurting" my kids too much when I had to enforce loss of privileges. This book made me see that all consequences are painful...they are supposed to be. But painful and harmful are not the same thing. Just because my child is temporarily unhappy, that doesn't mean she is permanently scarred. All growth is painful. The flip side to the advice is you should balance your enforcement of consequences with empathy, affection, and support. You are neither your child's enemy nor his friend. You are his parent.

I was able to immediately put the good advice to use right away and my family is so much more peaceful! Boundaries really are good for building character, increasing empathy, and as converse as it may sound, strengthening the relationship between you and your children. The authors are both psychotherapists and devout Christians. I thought the Christian bent might annoy me but the scriptures quoted were used sparingly and only enhanced the eloquence and relevance of the text.

I wholeheartedly recommend this book to friends and relatives, Christian and secular. Buy this book and you will walk around thinking "I know which boundaries HIS/HER parents didn't enforce as a child." What an enlightening book!

This book has been an answer to my prayers. If you want to be a good parent and do what's best for your children, you need to learn how. Boundaries with Kids teaches you how and ties the how to biblical scripture. Most parents want to do things for their kids in hopes that they will like them. That doesn't equate to buying lots of things or giving in to their every desire. Raising children is not a congeniality contest, it is an awesome responsibility. If you truly care for your children and want to do what's best for them you need to raise them to become independent. To teach them moral values and the difference between right and wrong. If your struggling with raising your child but want to do what's best for him or her. Get started by buying this book, its a winner.