Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know

  Author:    Meg Md Meeker
  ISBN:    0345499395
  Sales Rank:    943
  Published:    2007-08-28
  Publisher:    Ballantine Books
  # Pages:    288
  Binding:    Paperback
  Avg. Rating:    5.0 based on 119 reviews
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  Amazon Price:    $10.17
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Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know
  
In today’s increasingly complicated world, it’s often difficult for parents to connect with their daughters–and especially so for fathers. In this unique and invaluable guide, Dr. Meg Meeker, a pediatrician with more than twenty years’ experience counseling girls, reveals that a young woman’s relationship with her father is far more important than we’ve ever realized. To become a strong, confident woman, a daughter needs her father’s attention, protection, courage, and wisdom. Dr. Meeker shares the ten secrets every father needs to know in order to strengthen or rebuild bonds with his daughter and shape her life–and his own–for the better. Inside you’ll discover:

• the essential virtues of strong fathers–and how to develop them
• the cues daughters take from their dads on everything from self-respect to drugs, alcohol, and sex
• the truth about ground rules (girls do want them, despite their protests)
• the importance of becoming a hero to your daughter
• the biggest mistake a dad can make–and the ramifications
• the fact that girls actually depend on their dads’ guidance into adulthood
• steps fathers can follow to help daughters avoid disastrous decisions and mistakes
• ways in which a father’s faith–or lack thereof–will influence his daughter
• essential communication strategies for different stages of a girl’s life
• true stories of “prodigal daughters”–and how their fathers helped to bring them back

Dads, you are far more powerful than you think–and if you follow Dr. Meeker’s advice, the rewards will be unmatched.

“Reassuring and challenging . . . a helpful road map for concerned fathers [that] tackles difficult issues.”
–National Review

“A touching, illuminating book that will prove valuable to all of us who are fortunate enough to have been blessed with daughters.”
–Michael Medved, nationally syndicated radio talk-show host, author of Right Turns

“Dr. Meeker’s conclusions are timely, relevant, and often deeply moving. No one interested in what girls experience growing up in our culture today–and the impact that parents, especially fathers, have on the experience–can afford to miss reading this book.”
–Armand M. Nicholi, Jr., M.D., professor of psychiatry, Harvard Medical School
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09-05-08 1 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A mediocre attempt for justification of a very one-sided approach
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As a first-time father decided to get this book since it did look promising at first. Unfortunately should have checked out the one-star reviews. This is a terribly written book, based on questionable statistics. The "scientific evidence" that the author claims support her beliefs is questionable at best. It manipulates the facts and misleads readers into thinking that there is tons of evidence in support of her views. Just check the references -- statement after statement refers to the same book or study.
In one word -- mediocrity.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-09-06 01:51:44 EST)
09-05-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  if you're a Dad, why would you NOT read this book?
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Good message, good examples, well-written, easy-to-read.

Do I give 5 stars for everything I read? No- actually- I can think of another book on raising boys that I read that was pretty weak.

But this is written by a woman who knows what she's talking about (she is a doctor who works with kids and sees their interactions with their parents). All of her points that are opinion are supported by examples from her work. All of her points that are factual are well-referenced.

In other words, she's not just saying what she thinks and what she's observed. She spent a good bit of time researching this material.

MUST read- even if you only have boys, because inevitably, you will have a daughter-in-law, right? and then hopefully grand-daughters....
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-09-06 01:51:44 EST)
08-16-08 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Good Information to start with
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Our first is due in 3 months(our little Chloe) and I heard about the book through Dave Ramsey, I have to say it's been worthwhile. You might not agree with every chapter or suggestion but the most important thought is that we Father's get involved and be the Dad our girls need on many levels. Some of the info might scare some people but I think it's trying to wake up us newer Dad's to the important roles we play in her life and to take the reins and not opt out when it gets difficult or about something we're uncomfortable with. Good book and I will not be opting out, our daughters deserve the best.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-09-06 01:01:53 EST)
08-10-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Wonderful and Informative Guide for Fathers. Buy it!
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It This is an excellent book that really challenges fathers to be the best dad they can be. The book stresses over and over again how important a father is (opposite of the message that pop culture tells us) and that a father is the main person in a daughter's life that determines the direction their life will take. It makes clear that this is not a easy task, but clearly a worthwhile one. It also give you the permission to do what needs to be done.

A Dad needs to be on the front line and a hero for their daughter. This is the opposite message of pop culture. While this book challenges you to be the best dad, it also tells you why you can be.

This book builds you and your ego up as a father by outlining all the power you bring to the task.

Here is a paragraph that sums up the feel and mission of this book:
"You will have friends that are much more lenient with their daughter. The risks out there are real...don't relax until the battle leaves home (and not even then). This is a tall order, but I (the author) have seen enough heroic fathers to know that it's a tall order that every good man can fill if he sets himself to it. All it requires is that you be a man, a real man, which means a man of courage, perseverance, and integrity. You were made a man for a reason. You were made a man to be strong, loving husband and a father. So listen to your instincts (about protecting your daughter) and do what's right. Be a hero."

Her writing style smoothly mixes encouragement, facts, stories and references for a smooth, balanced and informative read.

Chapters include topics such as:
Teaching humility
Protect and defend her
Pragmatism and grit
You are the most important man in her life
She needs a hero
Teach her to fight
Be the man you want her to marry
Teach her who God is
Keep her connected

The author, Meg Meeker, MD has spent twenty years practicing pediatric and adolescent medicine and counseling teens and parents. Dr. Meeker is a fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics and a fellow of the National Advisory Board of the Medical Institute. She is a popular speaker on teen issues and is frequently heard on nationally syndicated radio and television programs. She lives and works in Traverse City, Michigan, where she is married and practices with her husband, Walter Meeker. They have four children.

The author basis her conclusions not only on her own experiences from twenty years in the medical field, but also an extensive usage of outside sources. She details her sources in the back of the book in her Bibliography and Notes.

This book focuses on relationships with daughters and does not mention relationships with sons.

I urge mothers to buy this book for the father of their daughters and I urge fathers to take up the challenge and go to battle for the lives of their daughters.

(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-16 01:03:48 EST)
08-06-08 3 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Good reminder, but lacking in some areas
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I would like to commend Dr. Meeker for writing a book focused on improving Fatherhood. Too often fathers forget their influence in raising a strong daughter.

This book gave me a key insight: Take a Stand for your Daughter(s). Most of Dr. Meeker's advice centers around this insight. It is crucial to believe in your daughter and stand up for her morals and virtues.

This book was a good reminder but I found it lacking in a few areas. Most notable was how to drive long-term change. The lessons are insightful but they don't drive a substantial change in a Father's way of Being. Too often we remember a lesson but don't change.

I struggled with Dr. Meeker's data on Faith and Divorce. The common misperception is to take the initial data that stronger father's are married and have faith in God. There is ample evidence to show that the key is to have parents that have strong morals, virtues and a belief in their daughter's potential. This does not require Faith in a single God or a couple that is married.

Having a strong family unit with a father and mother in the same household is important. Again, I differ with Dr. Meeker's opinion that you should stay together for the sake of the children. Your children are intuitive humans and will feel your intentions. Staying together but spiting each other and not communicating will also be detrimental. A commitment to your wife is required for a successful marriage that shows the benefits of a strong marriage.

Overall a good reminder for Fathers on their strong influence on their daughter's perception of men. Strong evidence shows this to be true, and I can attest from my experience with my daughters. My recommendation is to read this book but consider enhancing with stronger changes in your Being, for example reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle or Seven Habits by Covey.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-11 01:05:13 EST)
07-16-08 2 0\2
(Hide Review...)  Not what you expect
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i agree with one reviewer where they mentioned that

"this book is that it doesn't offer the enlightening advice I thought it might. Instead, this book is centered on the idea that traditional values and hard work are the keys to understanding your daughter's problems"... this is absolutely true. It basically states the obvious with no new advice or guidelines.

over all a disappointment.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-07 01:02:22 EST)
07-16-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Being a Good Dad Isn't Hard But It Does Take Work
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I loved the tone and message of this book which is basic to everything in life - anything worth doing is worth doing well. That doesn't mean it comes easy, in fact it may be a lot of hard, painful work, but if it is something you care about, like your daughter and your relationship with her, it is worth doing right. Unlike many parenting books, this one isn't overly 'preachy'. It also focuses on attributes men tend to have and how to use those attributes to be a good father - be strong, be firm, be supportive, be involved. I highly recommend this book to the average dads out there who want to do the best they can for their little girl. This book speaks very well to the average dad. It acknowledges our flaws and focuses on our tendencies - men are problem solvers - and points out that in some cases, this is exactly what your daughter is looking for. Meg Meeker does an excellent job of inserting anecdotes of fathers and their struggles in their role as well as some true stories about daughters that were not so fortunate. Although Meeker does delve some into religion, she doesn't overdo it. Her presentation throughout the book is very pragmatic and objective. For example, she makes a point in one chapter about religious beliefs and how it is important for fathers to be clear about their beliefs with their daughters. Even if those beliefs are not in the mainstream, she observes that what is important is to be clear and communicate that to your daughter with an awareness that those beliefs may not be accepted by all. Meeker's message is that the key is to be clear in those beliefs, honest and strong. Meeker makes a critical observation that is contrary to many popular parenting ideas today. That is don't be afraid to be strong, don't hesitate to be assertive. Often, that strength and assertiveness is the guidance and support girls are looking for, whether conciously or unconciously.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-07 01:02:22 EST)
07-08-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A must read for every dad with a daughter
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This book is really wonderful! I had a great dad growing up who did the things in this book naturally and the author clearly and simply lays out how much girls need their dads. My husband is reading it for our daughter right now. This book really made me cry and appreciate how good of a job my dad did.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-15 23:45:37 EST)
07-01-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A strong dose of perspective.
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Dr. Meeker's book provides fathers with an unflinching glimpse into the world that girls are growing up in today. She provides bleak statistics about the dangers of promiscuity, drugs, unrealistic body image and the lack of a moral compass provided by society. She follows this up with evidence of how fathers who stick to their guns can help their daughters not only survive, but thrive in the face of these various snares. She continually reminds fathers to look at the world not through their own eyes, but through the eyes of their daughters and provides various scenarios for fathers to consider.

My daughter is five and I am glad that I read this book now. I plan to re-read it again and again as she grows older. I highly recommend it.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-09 01:05:02 EST)
06-09-08 5 1\1
(Hide Review...)  Great book for fathers, daughters, and mothers.
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Great book which gives a lot of insight into the father / daughter relationship. My wife has confirmed that pretty much everything in the book is accurate, particularly the esteem in which daughters hold their fathers. Dads - you need to read this book to understand what a profound effect your actions have on your daughters' happiness and development. This book will make you realize you need to "step up to the plate" and be the best dad you can be, and be the hero your little girl needs you to be to set her reference point for everything else in her life, especially her eventual spouse.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-06-25 05:14:39 EST)
06-09-08 5 1\1
(Hide Review...)  Every father should read this
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Here are 10 secrets every father should know. These secrets are based on current evidence (in the scientific literature), as well as Dr. Meeker's personal experience as a pediatrician. While much of it seems like common sense, I was sure glad to get confirmation of what I thought. I read it while my daughter was an infant, and I'm sure that I will read it several more times again as she gets older. The only way you'll know these secrets and of their importance is to read this book (now and again and again).
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-06-25 05:14:39 EST)
05-31-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  The best daughter/dad book I've read
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This book is realistic and helpful regarding the dangers out there for our daughters (e.g. STDs) but also offers real insight into what daughter's need and want from their dad (though they won't always tell you upfront). As an M.D., mother and wife, Meg Meeker is in a great position to write about the topic and she does an awesome job. The book is factual but doesn't get bogged down because it is so intimate and intersperses real stories to make some of its points. As a dad of a 14 year old daughter I am fortunate my friend gave me this book. It is by far the best daughter/dad book I've read.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-06-10 00:56:42 EST)
05-30-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Now I know all the things that I should have known before!
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Dr. Meeker lays out in plain English just what it means to be a REAL MAN when it comes to also being the father of a daughter. I was fortunate enough to have been raised by a better-than-decent teacher in my own dad, a father who taught his four boys how to love, cherish and respect the significant females in our lives (mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, etc.), but I still found new insights into how important a father is--and should be--in the life of his little girl(s).

Despite what "new psychology" tells us, boys and girls, men and women are, indeed different--in so many ways, and it's high time we, as a society instruct this new generation in that ol'-fashioned, but time-tested, truth. Little girls (and older girls and daughters) have different needs, wants, aspirations and maturity rates that demand different approaches to child-rearing than we dads might otherwise deem appropriate for boys or young men, sons, nephews and the like.

I especially found helpful the anectdotes strewn throughout the book, and to be reminded how lasting and impressive a father's words, in particular, are to his little girl(s) development about the kind of person she's even then being shaped to be, hit home with me probably more so than any other point raised in "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters."

I thorougly enjoyed the book and have already passed it along to another father--one who, like me, is fortunate enough to have the grand experience of being a "dad-in-training" to a beautiful and wonderous adopted daughter.

EXCELLENT READ!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-06-10 00:56:42 EST)
05-14-08 5 0\1
(Hide Review...)  Don't just read it...Do it!
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This book isn't a "must read" for today's dad. It's a "must buy" so you can refer to it as the unofficial constitution and bill of rights for fathers raising daugthers. I have two so far (daughters, that is) -- only seven and four years of age now. I can see myself referring back to this engaging, inspirational call-to-arms as I attempt to successfully protect, educate, encourage, motivate and love these soon-to-be tweens, teenagers, young adults, and eventually, women.

This is the best book on parenting I've experienced. Even if you're not a reader, get the audio version (I did) or AT LEAST scan the last chapter. Your daughter(s) need you.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-05-31 00:56:33 EST)
05-06-08 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Eye-opening view on the importance of fathers to their daughters
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For anyone who wonders what Dad's role needs to be, this book really shows how important a father's influence can be in his daughter's choices in life from values and self-worth down to the kind of man she chooses to marry. If you ever felt that Dad just brings home a paycheck and does a little roughhousing, this will show you just how important it is for Dad to actively participate in making daughters into better healthier adults through insisting on discipline, taking the time to share their opinions and feelings, and just being present.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-05-17 01:40:15 EST)
05-05-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  strong fathers
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this book is very good, my hushband and i read it and it sure help us .
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-05-17 01:40:15 EST)
05-01-08 3 0\1
(Hide Review...)  A wolf in sheep's clothing!
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The title, cover and introduction are truly misleading. I eagerly began reading this marvelously decorated book as soon as it arrived in the mail. What I found after the introduction was a 180 degree turn-around from what I expected. As a modestly successful person and a progressive man, the expectation was a bit of insight on transferring the strength a little girl needs to be successful and self-valued in a world of varying morals and work ethics. What I received instead was a use of statistics and anecdotal evidence designed to scare men to raise their daughters in a fashion similar to the author's own upbringing.

Please don't mistake the tone of this review. I believe there's some valuable information being presented in the book. I certainly feel that as parents we need to have a better understanding of the STDs presenting in our society and their methods of transference so that we can better educate our children. However, I found the method presentation (a mention of HIV, HPV, and Herpes around every story-line) a bit disturbing in a book I expected to be about will and character. Working in the medical field I understand the bombardment of human illness and its mental implications that a physician can witness. It makes them jaded to a point that they don't think positive things are actually happening out there in the world, and unfortunately that's the message the author portrays to young fathers. There's a level of healthy fear and then there's paranoia. As a father, if you can't find the appropriate balance you end up locking your daughter away with a chastity belt in the basement or giving up entirely.

I do think though, that this book provides solid guidance to some fathers whose morals and idea of family align with the author's. I've known some women, brought up in this fashion, who've turned out to be marvelous and successful contributors to society. I just find for the general audience the views expressed are severely narrow-minded. There's a superb niche out there for which this book can serve as a splendid reinforcement and provider of strength to fathers. It just didn't find a home on my bookshelf.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-05-17 01:40:15 EST)
04-30-08 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A very fine book highly recommended to me by the Producer of Fiat Empire
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Very kindly suggestive book of dealing
with the old generation gap. Authorita-
tive Fathers was the origainl title.
Covers the subject(s) from A-Z.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-05-17 01:40:15 EST)
03-31-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Excellent
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A well written book. This book provides a lot of worldly research along with biblical foundation. I love this book. I will read it over and over as my daughters get older.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-05-01 01:01:58 EST)
03-31-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Great Book for any Dad
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Really informative. Some of the stats are scary but I think we need that some times instead of going through life with rose colored glasses. Being a Dad today is hard and even harder for being a Father. This book helped me focus on what is really important... My daughters
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-05-01 01:01:58 EST)
03-29-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A Must Read
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For that segment of the population that thinks men are obsolete, this book will open a few eyes. Men are crucial to the rearing of children, offering unique gifts to boys and girls, gifts that cannot be provided by a mother. Dr. Meeker focuses on the need for fathers in the raising of daughters, and she has validated my own thoughts, while offering some new ones. My daughter is almost eight... and I intend to be waiting on the porch with a shotgun for the first pimply-faced adolescent male who walks up the steps. The author tells me that I alone stand between my daughter and American pop culture. That's enough to get my adrenaline up!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-04-01 13:10:09 EST)
03-25-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Must read for fathers of girls
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This is an excellent book that will help fathers of girls. Its advice is at once conventional, common sense and yet goes against the mainstream of our toxic culture. If you didn't believe her advice already, it will hopefully convince you of its truth. If you suspected Meekers' advice was correct all along, this will validate it and give you the confidence to be the father your girl needs despite the bad advice you will get elsewhere.

It is definitely written from a conservative point of view, but with good reason - alternative ways of parenting are what have failed our daughters. This will offend radical feminists, "progressives," post modernists, and other non-traditionalists; but loving our daughters is more important than being PC.

Personally, I enjoyed Meekers' writing style. I got through the book in about 2 or 3 sittings. I have recommended it to other fathers but will not lend it out as I will be consulting it again in the future.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-03-29 13:00:27 EST)
03-20-08 1 1\3
(Hide Review...)  Nice Title, Bad Book
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This book came highly recommended, but is just full of moralizing and threats of doom, rather than helpful adivce about how to communicate with your daughter or help her grown in a strong young woman. The author has a very particular set of values that she wants you to impose on your daughter, which do not leave room for a diversity of beliefs. There are much better books out there on having a good relationship with your kids, such as Gordon's Parent Effectiveness Training.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-03-26 16:07:11 EST)
03-08-08 5 1\1
(Hide Review...)  Great book
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Great book. Any father who has a daughter should read this book. It will greatly help you and with effort, revolutionize how you think through nurturing your daughter through life.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-03-20 19:34:31 EST)
03-06-08 1 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  I have never recieved the books,
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I have never recievd the books. they were mailed to a wrong address (696 Ravensworth, Conroe, Texas 77302 which the street I live on dead ends into only 9 houses away. I cchecked with the people who occupy the former address and they never recieved the order either. I have tried to communicsate with you about the problem for several weeks and did not know how as I'm not to smart about the internet. The address they should have been sent to is 532 Raleigh Dr, Conroe, Texas 77302. Please make this change of address for my future orders. I have check with UPS and they said they did not have a record of shipping them to either address.
Please help me with this. I really want the books.

Thanks,

Tyrone Mynhier
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-03-09 01:23:22 EST)
02-29-08 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Some great information!
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'Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters' by Dr. Meeker is a great book offering some fantastic information to fathers who are raising a daughter. The book is broken down into her '10 secrets'. As with all 'help books', please keep in mind that all the information is one point of view, and this should be part of a first step in the investigation.

That being said, it was refreshing to read this book and realize that Dr. Meeker is a woman and daughter. I found a number of her points very helpfully and made me think about how I react and deal with certain situations. However, woman may see some fo Dr. Meeker's points to be antiquated, and copunter to some of today's more forward thinking women.

I feel that this book raises issues that all fathers should look at, reflect upon, and choose to (or not) react. The fact that you are, at a minimum, thinking about issues that may not appear for a few years is a great first step.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-03-07 14:32:21 EST)
02-25-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Great insight into how your daughter thinks
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A fantastic book that informed as well as challenged me as a father. I learned a tremendous amount of information about what a teen girl faces in our society today. Armed with this information, the author throws out a series of challenges to the father on how to deal with these realities of his daughters world, how to be a man and fight for her and how your actions will define your daughter's experience of how you love her. I would recommend this as a must read to any father who has young daughters.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-03-01 08:17:55 EST)
02-15-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  must read
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If you have a daughter(s) this is a must read to learn how important you are in their future. This read hits on areas I never thought of, much less know how they would impact my daughters life choices. Do yourself a favor and spend the few dollars and make a positive change in how your daughter sees you. She indeed is watching.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-02-25 16:34:02 EST)
02-10-08 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Good advice to Dad's; from a women doctor...
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This was the best book I have read regarding how to be a father to girls. I attribute this to the fact the advice comes from a women first and a psychologist second. Dr. Meeker keeps saying things like, "she may not think she wants you to, but she does"... This is now my mantra when giving boundaries to my daughters that are met with protest. I especially liked the chapter on protecting them and being affectionate toward them.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-02-15 21:03:23 EST)
01-28-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Excellent advice from an informed Pediatrician
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Excellent read. As an expectant father anxious about the myriad challenges and societal issues facing young girls growing up today I found Dr Meeker to be a sobering yet optimistic and very well informed source for advice without being overly preachy yet standing firm on her convictions.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-02-10 20:13:46 EST)
01-22-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  NEW FATHERS, GET THIS BOOK.
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I'm an expectant father of a baby girl and this book is very informative. The author comes from a perspective of a daughter and pediatrician and shares experiences from her life as well as what she see's day in and day out. I now feel much better prepared to nuture and protect my little girl in the years to come. I can't thank the author enough!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-01-29 04:36:07 EST)
01-18-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Excellent book
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I bought this book for my husband as a gift. He loves it and can't put it down. He has even recommended it to a guy he works with. I have read a few things in it myself and find it very interesting. I just might have to steal it from him and read the whole thing myself.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-01-23 16:16:30 EST)
01-07-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Exellent book for fathers (and mothers too)
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I ordered this book for my husband after he heard Dave Ramsey's rave reviews/recommendations. He has only finished half of it so far, but says that it is a very quick read, is thought provoking and has wonderful suggestions. He says it would be a good book for mothers to read, too, so I'm next up on the reading list.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-01-17 23:44:15 EST)
01-07-08 5 1\1
(Hide Review...)  My Most Valuable Christmas Gift
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This book is a must buy for Father's of daughters. I have been married 16 years and have 3 daughters; however woman remain a mystery to me. This book gave tremendous insight into how woman think and some of the differences between men and woman. I found the book encouraging, motiviating, practical, and based on fact. So much child rearing advice has been politicized. I'm tired of the usual PC drivel that passes as advice to Fathers on raising daughters. Father's buy this book!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-01-17 23:44:15 EST)
12-30-07 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A Must Read for All Fathers, Mothers & Grandparents
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This is by far the best parenting book that I've read, and I've read many good ones. It contains some eye-opening statistics that every parent, guardian, and grandparent should know and discuss frankly among themselves and directly, caringly with the girls they are raising.

This is a highly practical approach to the very difficult matter of developing healthy relationships between fathers and daughters, husbands and wives, and adults and offspring who are between the ages of 5 and 21. It requires achieving a balance between cultivating responsible behavior by fostering trust through openness, adhering to clear boundaries, and instilling life-long values.

What's especially impressive is that the book is based on the clinical experience and research of Dr. Meeker, a pediatrician who has dealt with hundreds of young girls, ranging from young children to college students. I consider this a "must read" for all dads, moms, and grandparents of girls. Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-01-08 04:04:43 EST)
12-21-07 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Excellent work
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This book is an easy read, and is incredibly engaging. The advice is very tangible and helpful. The personal stories included are very touching and make the points more salient and memorable.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-29 21:59:12 EST)
12-21-07 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  strong fathers, strong daughters
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Great book for any dad that would like to raise an independent strong daughter with good values.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-29 21:59:12 EST)
12-17-07 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  wonderful gift for any son
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What a wonderful gift to give to your sons, son-in-laws, brothers, etc. Meg gives the very best advice I have ever read - I think it is never to late for a father to BE THERE for his daughter. Mine wasn't but I was fortunate that his lack of closest didn't hinder me the way it did for many of the daughters Meg featured. A MUST read - Thank You Meg!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-21 20:58:48 EST)
12-14-07 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Also good for dad's advice to teaching sons about girls!
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This is a terrific book for just plain guys, who want to be more than just plain dads. Written by an experienced female pediatrician, wife & mother with tremendous insight into how & why daughters idolize their fathers. How to be a great dad, how to remain a super role model, especially during those trying teen years, when dads tend to back off & let moms take care of all the "girl stuff" & adolescent adjustments(often when they need us the most). It gives us guys validation-having a child is easy, raising one is the most important thing in the world. The common sense wisdom in this book is so powerful it will make you weep, & believe that even in today's climate of superficial beauty we guys can & MUST make our daughters stronger, resilient and able to resist the temptations of our increasingly perilous immoral society. After reading this book you will promise yourself that you will change yourself to be a better person, dad & role model to your daughter.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-17 23:46:18 EST)
12-02-07 3 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Good Advice, But Will It Change Minds?
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I'm of two minds about this book. Overall, I have to say that I found value in it. Dr. Meeker provides some very sound advice that is applicable to fathers with daughters of all ages. This advice is presented through a writing style that is easy to read. Thus, in general, I found Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters to be an excellent self-help book.

So, if I liked it, why am I of two minds about it? My concern lies in whether this book will influence its target audience. Now, I don't think that anyone says "I'm going to be a bad father and let my daughter grow up to be a horrible human being." But, I do think that people have different, equally valid, views from Dr. Meeker on how to be a good father and how much effort is needed to meet that goal. In order to bridge the difference between these viewpoints, Dr. Meeker needed to prominently use a lot of citations from objective sources (like scientific journals or research studies) in order to bolster the validity of her arguments. While such citations are in the book, they take a subordinate role to Dr. Meeker's anecdotes and opinions. As a result, the importance of her argument is somewhat diminished.

Like I said earlier, I enjoyed the book. And, it's pretty clear that others have enjoyed it as well. Still, I have the feeling that I and the others that enjoyed it did so because Dr. Meeker was "preaching to the choir." What I fear is that, given the relative lack of objective citations within the book, Dr. Meeker's message won't have much appeal beyond "the choir" and that an opportunity has been missed to have that message resonate with a wider audience.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-15 11:52:46 EST)
11-26-07 3 3\3
(Hide Review...)  Not Inspiration--Hard Advice
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This is a book that is very difficult for me to review for a very simple reason: I agree with just about everything Dr. Meeker has to say in her book but I found her presentation so unpleasant that I couldn't enjoy the book.

In Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, Dr. Meeker gives us "10 Secrets Every Father Should Know." Many of Dr. Meeker's "secrets" are not really secrets, of course, but are things fathers of daughters should remind themselves of from time to time: you are her first love; protect her, defend her; be the man you want her to marry, etc. And she's not afraid to put it out there (teach her humility, teach her who God is, teach her to fight) which is something for which I have great respect.

On the other hand, what could have been joyful thoughts and inspirational advice is, for the most part, horrifying statistics and anecdotes of failure. Even when she tells a story with a happy ending, you have to get through pages of anger and tears to get there. (It's a good thing I didn't read this until after my daughter was born. It might have made me reconsider having children at all, since Dr. Meeker seems to believe fathers are so apt to failure.)

Plus, she has a tendency for being quite narrow in her views on what it takes to be a successful father of a daughter. She has little sympathy for mistakes. I was also a little disappointed that her take on God was so strictly Judeo-Christian, with an emphasis on the Christian. As a Roman Catholic myself, I was sympathetic, but I believe in being more respectful of other's beliefs.

Now, I'm not squeamish and I know that it's tough out there but I am generally an optimist. I believe that the vast majority of fathers want to do right by their daughters but, like all human beings, fathers are sometimes tired and weak. Like our daughters, we occasionally need a little hope and support--a bright light at the end of the tunnel. This book doesn't give hope and a bright light; instead, it gives a dangerous, hard path that only seems to lead to happiness if you're very lucky. I don't think things are as bad as all that.

Of course, it could be that I was just looking for a happy, inspirational book and so I was not in the right frame of mind for this one. Others may find it much more powerful; particularly, if you're looking for answers rather than support. Just be aware of what you're getting with this.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-14 08:19:44 EST)
11-20-07 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters
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I have recommended this book to every father I know who has a daughter! It tells a father how important he is in the life of his daughter, and what he must do to nurture and protect his daughter. And for every bit of advice Dr. Meg Meeker offers, she sites true stories from her practice. There is such a great need for this kind of book in our society, where the role of fathers is not always clear!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-14 08:19:44 EST)
11-17-07 4 2\2
(Hide Review...)  Father of Three Daughters Says 'Read This Book'
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I'm a father of three daughters ages 1, 2 and 3. A friend recommended this book to me as a peek at 'the road ahead', and he was absolutely right. It's a scary read at points, but like a good tonic, a necessary spoonful of advice. As the book points out, our girls grow up in a toxic world that wants to pull them in directions that aren't necessarily the best for them. Fathers play a critical role in the development and continued happiness of daughters. I recommend this book to fathers of young girls.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-14 08:19:44 EST)
11-12-07 5 1\1
(Hide Review...)  Informative
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I purchased this to help my husband build a better relationship with his daughter, my step-daughter. Turned out that it helped me realize certain things about my relationship with my own father. I certainly recomend to anyone who has children.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-14 08:19:44 EST)
11-02-07 5 1\1
(Hide Review...)  This book changed our lives
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My husband picked this book up at a bookstore and told me it looked interesting. I thought, "Yeah, right. I'll get you a 'self-help' book and you'll never read it." I got it anyway (he's hard to buy for!) for Christmas last year. Our lives have not been the same since. My husband was already a stay-at-home dad and wonderful, involved father to our 2 girls, so I was surprised that he got as much out of it as he did, but it really moved him to see areas where he could improve and to feel that what he does MATTERS to how his girls turn out. Sometimes dads seem peripheral in our society and this book really motivates them to understand how absolutely vital they are to the development and future choices of their girls. I don't agree that the book lacks insight or is "conservative propaganda". I am completely independent politically and have also given the book to friends who I feel are very liberal and they were all very moved by it. It's not a political book, it's just a book that speaks to the heart of dads and wakes them up to their potential and importance.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-14 08:19:44 EST)
11-01-07 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  One of the Best Books I've Ever Read
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As a new dad with a 2 1/2 year old girl (and 7 mo. old boy), this book has really driven home what an important role a father plays in his daughter's life. The suggestions in this book are right on the money per my wife's reactions after reading it. I highly recommend this book to ANY father serious about giving his daugther the foundation she needs for a successful and fulfilled life.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-14 08:19:44 EST)
11-01-07 5 1\1
(Hide Review...)  Must read for all fathers w/daughters
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This is a great book written factualy and accurately with valuable insite from the author, who is both an MD and a daughter herself.
Our beautiful daughters can be strong and confident with the help of a loving father. Without that, the odds of them falling prey to a cruel world are dramatically increased. I found this book very encouraging as to the things I have been doing with and for my daughter and also very motivating to keep fighting for my daughter and to never let her doubt my love for her.
I was so impressed with this book, I ordered 12 more copies and have passed them on to other fathers of daughters I know.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-12-14 08:19:44 EST)
10-29-07 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Very Informative
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All parents should read this book. It is very informative for fathers and also mothers. I highly recommend it!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-11-01 14:12:07 EST)
10-25-07 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Great source
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This book is a great resource for not only fathers, but mothers as well. It's full of, what I would hope would be common sense to most, but it backs up the common sense info with true stories & scientific research. We can all use a reminder of what it takes to be a good parent, especially the role of a good father, in this day and age.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-10-30 02:42:24 EST)
10-25-07 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  a must read for fathers
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This book is mandatory reading for fathers with daughters. It is a book which doesn't preach, instead, it gives examples and studies to back up the autor's personal experiences. I know it will help me be a better father for my daughter.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2007-10-30 02:42:24 EST)
  
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