A Dr. Phil program tipped me off to this amazingly well written and thoroughly researched book. We ladies are not the only one's with beguiling natures! Watch out! Learn. Become educated so you can protect yourself from these men who(God bless 'em)can lead you down a blind path using your heart strings for reins. Check out her other books. Everything I've received related to this author has been invaluable! Learn the difference between real and "Memorex" (pathological) charm that even he might not understand but has likely used all of his life!

This is a great book but not as good as i expected it to be. I would recommend it for younger women and teenagers. I am 21 but I felt like there was very little that I've learned from it. I guess I already was aware of how to spot one, and most of the red flags or signs that are explained in the book I already was aware of. Women should never stop trusting their instincts.

This is a great book but not as good as i expected it to be. I would recommend it for younger women and teenagers. I am 21 but I felt like there was very little that I've learned from it. I guess I already was aware of how to spot one, and most of the red flags or signs that are explained in the book I already was aware of. Women should never stop trusting their instincts.

A seemingly little known phenomenon is that perpetrators of domestic violence (DV) can pick a former DV victim out of a crowd in seconds. They then court and woe their target, who is often totally unaware of the subtle nonverbal cues she has been groomed to give off. All too often, a woman escapes an abuser, only to discover she is involved with another on the opposite end of the spectrum. The information in this book empowers women to avoid this trap and others by teaching them what to look for, early on in a relationship, to determine whether it is healthy or not and break the cycle of dangerous relationships in their own lives. Many thanks to Ms. Brown for calling women to be accountable for their choices and giving them the insight & tools to do so effectively.

When I first heard that some broad named Sandra Brown had written a book warning women about men like me, I freaked out. Who did she think she was, trying to take the wind out of my sails? One day when I was at Barnes and Noble, I flipped through a copy just to see how well she had me nailed down. It's lucky that I did! I ended up reading cover to cover. I cannot overstate how much of a help this book was in putting me two steps ahead again. I'd write more, but I have a date in like 20 minutes.

This book was recommended by my therapist because I tend to fall for the same type of dangerous man... It will be helpful to spot some of the danger signs before getting into a relationship. My now EX boyfriend was chapter 3 to a T. Very good read for those getting back on the dating scene not wanting to fall for the same thing over and over again. Good luck ladies!

I have been in counseling and 12 step programs but still didn't listen to my red flags or maybe I heard a whisper to buy this book. It helped me through my confusion over a man I was dating. The book explains red flags and having healthy boundries. It gives examples of 8 types of dangerous men. The book was full of a lot of new information for me and saved me a lot of grief. This is a reccomended read for anyone.

Knowledge is Power.It gives you the power to protect your heart,assets and many nights of wondering what went so wrong with this relationship that started out so wonderful.After you read this book you will know and guess what-It was him not you. Of course you didn't know what was really going on.Know your red flags and what they mean.They always warn you-don't be in denial!
Read the facts . Find out all the tricks they use.Protect yourself!
If I had this book 30 years ago I would have saved myself $100,000 my self esteem and youth.
Dr. Laura read and recommend this book .
It applies to both sexes but mostly to men.
Life is great.But not if you are entangled with a person who is out to suck your blood and assets.

This book spells it out in plain language - just how to see the behavioral cues that indicate trouble! Really this book is applicable not just in spotting dangerous men, but dangerous people in general. The strategies given are very helpful and clearly show how to avoid falling into the traps set by predators. Case studies are also useful in showing how these strategies work in real life. Well written, this book provides people with the tools they need to protect themselves. Highly recommended for just about anybody, but in particular young women will benefit from reading this.

Thank you all for the reviews. This is definitely a good book. I have only read excerpts so far, but it is really worth reading it. I love the author's blog, too. ( http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/ ) I think she really knows what she is talking about. And this information is essential in our everyday lives. How many people have "dangerous men/women" in their own households and do not even notice it, or, if they do, do not know how to protect themselves from them? It's a pity that just a very few people realize the importance of learning about humans who love being psychic vampires...

This book provides a wealth of information about psychopathic men and the strategies needed to survive them. It is not just a must-read for women but for men as well. As well, it is definitely a book I would give to young women that are beginning the dating scene.

Every responsible parent should be providing this book to their child, whether male or female. This is the street smarts they should have that society so carefully educates out of them. Discuss it with them. Provide your own experiences. It may be the best gift you ever give them. I would also recommend reading Barbara Hort's Unholy Hungers: Encountering the Psychic Vampire in Ourselves & Others along with it. It gives a more complete psychological picture of a "dangerous person" and what drives them.

I think men would benefit from this book as well as women. It defiantly should be read by teenagers. It could save a lot of people from disastrous relationships.

Sandra Brown's How to Spot a Dangerous Man is an excellent book for parents of teenage girls. I recently purchased this book along with the workbook for my daughter who is interested in dating. I read through the material quickly and was very impressed with the information and helpful hints Brown offers. Having personally experienced several of the dangerous male types depicted in the book, I kept wishing this book was written a decade ago. Brown gives a no nonsense clear cut vision of what she considers symptoms of dangerous male types, each chapter specifically lays out characteristics of deviant male behavior and how to spot the warning signs. She also reminds women that they have an internal Red Flag system that warns them when they encounter such deviant behavior, but because of familial, and social programming women don't pay attention to these red alerts. Presented in the book is sound advice about tuning into a women's innate warning system and listening carefully to what you body is telling you. I agree with Brown's stance that, "Dating or marrying dangerous or pathological men is an assurance of misery. It's banking on a future that will pay dividends of dysfunction, unhappiness and pain. (Pg.230)
I have recommended this book to several women who are currently going through divorce and they all share the response, "I wish I had this book when I began dating!"
Again I highly recommend this book for mothers and fathers who have young girls interested in dating, you may save your children years of pain and suffering!

"How to Spot a Dangerous Man" should be read by every woman on the planet.

And it doesn't only pertain to woman, men could do well to read it, for there also are dangerous women out there.

This book shows the basic type of dangerous men, and how to spot them from the beginning, if you are paying attention. It also shows the reader examples from women who have dated or married dangerous men and how it affected their lives.

I simply cannot convey in words just how important this book is to women the world over at a time when 'dangerous men' seem to rule the planet.

A very important book, indeed!

This book should be required reading for understanding how psychological deviants and individuals who are broken and injured by a society that is at many times completely insensitive to human development and care can have a completely negative affect on an individual in a relationships.

Although it is written for women to spot dangerous men, a man can find information that is invaluable toward understanding the world and the individuals that are in it. Also, the book can give you a reflection of what traits you may have picked up and don't realize can be negatively affecting a relationship you are in. With this in mind, I think a person that is honestly working on forming a caring relationship has a lot to learn from the character traits explained in the book.

Thank you Sandra Brown!

Because of my past relationships, I bought and read this book. After seeing myself as well as my past in many of the pages, I decided this book was a must read for my daughter.

And I do agree with others who have posted that this book should be a 'must read' for all teenagers, both male and female. You need to learn early on what is not acceptable behavior and there's no where it is presented more clearly than in this book.

And, if you're not presently in a relationship, you should get this book and read it before someone else enter's your life.

'How to spot a dangerous person.' If you take a truthful look into the past you might see a feminine presence there that acted just like the characters described in this book. You could also get a glimpse of your own manipulative, maladaptive traits. Great! Get to Work! The only way to clean the machine is to examine the hardware and repair what is broken. Sandra Brown explains the details and gives examples on how to get started.

Highly recommended for those walking wounded who continue to stagger through the minefield in search of answers. Get into a relationship with yourself first. Be honest and see what happens!

Contrary to the title's implication - this book is a great read for men and women. Written from the female perspective, it helps women identify dangerous men, however when consciously flipped it's tips can also be used to protect men from dangerous women. A lot of the psychology discussed is more prevalent in males, however it does have manifestations within females as well.

The examples are very enlightening, and give a basis as to why one might want to take heed the advice presented. It's also a great source of "red flags" or warning signs that one should be on the lookout for so one can avoid future dating disasters.

Her style is also very straight-forward and easy to understand, no complicated psycho-babble here, it's all in lay-mans terms and broken down into bits that are easily digestible.

Overall, highly reccomended!

Wish this book was out years ago! Very good regarding subtle signs (as well as obvious) early in the relationship. Love the Red Alert Checklists.
This is NOT a "man bashing" book, the author invites us to look at ourselves as well. Describes some behaviors that women may have that attract a dangerous man.

This book showed me what I was doing wrong, and it enabled to to avoid other dangerous men - it greatly changed my life. Thanks!

Sometimes we avoid stress by keeping ourself in the dark....however learn that it takes more energy to move around in the dark than the light. The more we know, the brighter the light...the brighter the light the easier it is not to trip on the trash on the floor. The men have issues...we may as gentle women learn to forgive them spiritually, however their behavior is "Trash" and they are acting as if they do not understand the word "Respect"...they don't. The sad part is...the absolute saddest part is...they don't get it....and you cannot teach a person to have a conscious...reading this book helps the light become bright and your life to be easier rather than more stressful. Once you read this you can identify it is "them" with the problem...and your only problem was "Believing in them" and taking their lies for truth. This book does uncover hurtful truths...however a truth is a truth and is there whether you want to believe it or not.

If you've ever wondered if you're the "crazy one," or why you seem to attract losers, this is a very insightful book.

This book opened my eyes to what a bad situation I was in, and just how bad it could end up. I always suspected that some of the guys I've dated had mental problems but would talk myself out of it. Now I see how important it is to trust these initial red flags and uneasy feelings. Even if your guy is not pathological, if you've got red flags and discomfort, this book wisely advises you to get out fast and why. The unfortunate thing about these dangerous men is that they are so charming, affectionate, intelligent, and desirable at first, that you are long-since hooked before the creep in them emerges. This book gives practical advice for how to recognize potential issues before you're hooked and his personality has changed.

For anyone who's skeptical, no, I did not think this was a male-bashing book or "any guy could fit into those categories." Not so. It even gives a list of traits to look for when analyzing whether yours is a healthy or unhealthy relationship.

It's a quick read and well worth it.

How to Spot a Dangerous Man is a compelling, forthright, no non-sense book which will help the open-minded reader face her relationship/insecurity (among other things) demons. Ms. Brown not only discusses the how's, the why's, but offers insight on how to stop the madness. I just purchased four additional copies to pass on to my daughters and the workbook for myself.

The fact that professional women, older women, previously hurt women are continually falling for dangerous men is eye-opening. The facts are not to be ignored; IF, you want to do something different.

I highly recommend this book for ALL women; young and old.

I bought the book for my daughter who was researching batterer intervention programs, and needed something more current. I passed up other options on the shelf because this one really hits the nail on the head. Her insights hit home and I learned some new things, despite years of reading and research. I believe it should be required reading for teenage girls and women - after I gave it to my daughter after reading it, I bought one to keep on my shelf. I believe most women will identify with this approach and find themselves (and their dangerous men!)somewhere within these pages.

I bought the book for my daughter who was researching batterer intervention programs, and needed something more current. I passed up other options on the shelf because this one really hits the nail on the head. Her insights hit home and I learned some new things, despite years of reading and research. I believe it should be required reading for teenage girls and women - after I gave it to my daughter after reading it, I bought one to keep on my shelf. I believe most women will identify with this approach and find themselves (and their dangerous men!)somewhere within these pages.

The very best thing about this book is that is makes women who repeatedly choose dangerous men/situations look at their reasons for doing so. It does so in a non-judgemental but straight-forward way.
I think the book is a great primer for the identification of men with serious issues.
I also recommend The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout and The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker.

Susan Brown, I wish you had talked to me and read my other books before you posted your unwarranted comments. Please notice I also wrote From Shyness to Social Butterfly, in 2001. The suggestions I gave then are the same suggestions I gave in The Manipulative Man. My book, The Ultimate Book of Personality Tests, was published in 2005. If you read it you will see that I use many of the same tests and make some of the same observations.

I have never seen your book. The quote I used from your book came from a Google search. In the academic tradition, I quote many authors (both books and articles).

I did not choose the format or the focus of the content for the Manipulative Man. It was written in the tradition of another book (read the back cover of The Manipulative Man) at the request of the Publisher.

It appears that your book deals with "Dangerous" men. Fortunately, most men are not dangerous; therefore much of my book is devoted to "annoying" men. A couple of the "types" (i.e., psychopaths) I address use varying degrees of intimidation to reach their goals. Sadly, the potential for violence is a pervasive, ominous shadow in their relationships.


I wrote my first book, a workbook, in 2001 on stress management. It is now a police related workbook called Losing Our Officers to Anger, Stress and Suicide: A Wellness Solution. I have presented on it at three international conferences. It also follows my philosophy for wellness: eat nutritious foods, get plenty of rest, exercise regularly, stay connected to people, know what you can control (and what you cannot), be aware of your cognitions and how they affect your emotions, cherish your sense of humor, value the unique person you are, use cooperation and conflict resolution in relationships, believe behaviors rather than words, be able to recognize unhealthy (and often incongruent) behaviors and don't needlessly upset yourself.

Susan, please read my other books, then we will talk. No doubt, you made an honest mistake. I wish you continued success with your books.

I've only been seriously involved with 2 men, both which ended up being considered "dangerous". One I was married to and the other I dated for a couple years. The one I was married to was emotionally abusive and had a drinking problem among other things...the chapter that described him the most, not 100%, is The Abusive or Violent Man. The one I dated was almost 100% different than my ex-husband so I didn't realize he was "dangerous" until after I read the book. There's a chapter, The Permanent Clinger, that decribed him almost to a T. After reading the chapter I realized that things needed to end immediately. It took 2 years for me to come to this conclusion because I couldn't tell if I was the problem, due to my marriage and now being slow and cautious, or if he was the problem. When I read the book I realized that I was not the problem and now I have a reference for the future when dating again so that I don't waste too much time finding the right person for me.

This book could be a life-saver for many women who have been dating dangerous men half their lives. Sure, there are so any categories of dysfunctional men that it begs the question: are there any normal single guys left? However, I think it is better to at least know what you're in for with each personality type.

I was unimpressed. Poorly written and superficial. Who edited this thing? I would suggest any works by Ellen Snortland or Gavin DeBecker

This was a sparse guide that could have been ripped from any magazine article. It is fairly obvious Ms. Brown was a psychologist and not a writer. For more effective books on weeding the crazies out of your life, try pretty much any of the books on the 'Also Purchased' list. They will give you a far more informative and practical assessment to aid you in spotting men who are just a little bit off.

I thought this would be a book about abusive and psychopathic men, but she also refers to neurotic and passive men, and/or those dignosed with depression, as "dangerous." The information in the book is good, but I don't think it's appropriate to put a neurotic like Frasier in the same category as a psychopath like Uday Hussein. For a better book on the subject, I recommend "Dangerous Relationships" by Noelle Nelson.