Always Talk To Strangers is an excellend dating advice book which has great long term value. The 18 pages flows with valuable street smart insight on how to attract a mate.

A big part of David Wygant's approach is image. What may seem superficial in a first glnce, is relly quite sensible and important. One can vary a style a little bit but truthfully its always good to have at least one or two good suits even in todays business causal world. The mix and match apporach is very sensible. Same with a good pair of jeans.

Another good chapter is the about responding to personal ads. David gives us several written examples that emphasize being specific and being passionate with your words. The more inquisitive you are the better you will appeal to someone else. Furthermore, one can read back in these examples nd apply them directly to ones specific situation.

I could give away more eamples, but all you single readers out there need to get this book into your library. Its very valuable without being excessive.

It always baffles me as to the complaints about dating books. Did anyone really think there was that one book that would open up the clouds with profound dating revelations? Yes, this is coming from someone that "surprisingly" isn't the author of the book or a planted review.

At any rate, Wygant's book isn't ground-breaking and that's the prime reason for the four star rating. However, for the remaining stars left, Wygant's book packs as much useful dating advice than most books out there. Always Talk to Strangers provides much common sense such as dressing well, smiling, and not being afraid to talk to people. However, it's the way Wygant goes about all of this that's helpful since many of us weren't born with common sense or taught half of these truths in junior high.

For me, the personal grooming/hygiene sections are extremely self-explanatory and for me useless. Sadly enough, I have more than a few friends that could take a solid look at this section.

Among the most helpful sections are where to meet women, props to use in conversation, and varying techniques to "close the deal" after you've been talking to a woman for a while. In addition, Wygant poses several different questions that you should ask yourself whenever approaching a woman that you fear rejection from. Furthermore, there are great sections on both internet dating and blind dating that are definitely useful.

Is a majority of this common sense? The first few sections on hygiene, grooming , physical/mental makeover, and dating myths are. However, the rest of the book had a lot of stuff I'd given little thought to or never thought of altogether. If you call that common sense, then so be it. However, most of Wygant's advice has definitely helped improve my perspective on dating/picking up women. For the price of $3-4 on Amazon Marketplace, what have you really got to lose?

-Travis.



update (8-3-08):

I read this book again just a couple of days ago on vacation and my comments remain largely the same. I disagree slightly on the internet portion of it though. I'm no stranger to the online dating game and the fact that David acts like gorgeous women are online in every city is simply not true. It's not true in Houston (one of the BIGGEST cities in the world), anyway. Maybe I'm not in the right age range for online dating yet, but hell I'm 22. How long does one have to wait? At any rate, most of what David says is very spot on in other areas, just don't get too psyched up about his Internet Boot Camp dating ideas.

It always baffles me as to the complaints about dating books. Did anyone really think there was that one book that would open up the clouds with profound dating revelations? Yes, this is coming from someone that "surprisingly" isn't the author of the book or a planted review.

At any rate, Wygant's book isn't ground-breaking and that's the prime reason for the four star rating. However, for the remaining stars left, Wygant's book packs as much useful dating advice than most books out there. Always Talk to Strangers provides much common sense such as dressing well, smiling, and not being afraid to talk to people. However, it's the way Wygant goes about all of this that's helpful since many of us weren't born with common sense or taught half of these truths in junior high.

For me, the personal grooming/hygiene sections are extremely self-explanatory and for me useless. Sadly enough, I have more than a few friends that could take a solid look at this section.

Among the most helpful sections are where to meet women, props to use in conversation, and varying techniques to "close the deal" after you've been talking to a woman for a while. In addition, Wygant poses several different questions that you should ask yourself whenever approaching a woman that you fear rejection from. Furthermore, there are great sections on both internet dating and blind dating that are definitely useful.

Is a majority of this common sense? The first few sections on hygiene, grooming , physical/mental makeover, and dating myths are. However, the rest of the book had a lot of stuff I'd given little thought to or never thought of altogether. If you call that common sense, then so be it. However, most of Wygant's advice has definitely helped improve my perspective on dating/picking up women. For the price of $3-4 on Amazon Marketplace, what have you really got to lose?

-Travis.

I run a singles organization, and am constantly in search of good reference materials. I happened to get an ebook online from a man called David Deangelo who sells and markets a whole line of materials of this same genre. Part of his program consists of audio CDs with dating gurus, one of which was David Wygant. I kept this CD in my car for over a month literally laughing at that great material. In the interview David came across as confident, relaxed, and inventive. I only wish this book was as good as his interview, but it does highlight all the basics of his philosophy in meeting a partner. He covers all aspects, atttitude(sometimes called inner game), attire(what to wear), presentation(the importance of good hygiene), and more. I feel alot of people can benefit from his audacity, and mantra. However this book falls short in it's own merit from it's approach, I only wish whoever was his writting coach(since David himself is not a writer), would have brought out more of his humor thoughout the book with lots of examples or fun stories. Overall this is a good book, which will give most people the necessities they need to find their perfect someone.

If you're looking for a book with "gems" that you didn't know, I'd suggest buying another book. Much of the book is giving examples of clients the author has worked with who found a date in a grocery store or coffee shop, mainly just because they went up and talked to them. Examples are given of hypothetical conversations that are basically short and idealized. The whole book is basically about one simple point (as given by the title): don't be afraid to go talk to someone if you are attracted to them. Book gave much more advice about what to do than how to do it.

I would say that most people know the stuff in this book: eye contact is important; people like hearing their own name; confidence is key; dress well; groom yourself; and believe it or not, that looking for a wedding ring is a good way to tell if someone is single. Again, not many "gems". Honestly I am surprised this book has as high of a rating as it does.

Maybe I'm a little bitter after being crapped on in the American dating game, but I'll try and be as fair as I can in my review.

Advice wise this book is more for people who need a little boost for their confidence or social skills and people who need a new introduction to today's mess of a dating scene (which is a very noble and understandable cause).

A lot of the advice is basic common sense and while it is good natured at heart I honestly feel our country has gotten too PC for it to work. For example - Wygant recommends you simply approach a woman (who is a stranger), compliment her beauty, and say your name. I don't know about the rest of you but in the upper crust city I live in this will get you nothing more than a sneer and a restraining order. The bottom line: Mores, social values and relationships are all a mess in our country and no book, no dumb tacky "men's magazine," or dating coach is gonna save you from this.

The fashion advice in this book is ridiculous. Wygant basically wants you to become the standard, metro-sexual clone who spends too much money on clothes and go WAY out of your budget to run into women. Sorry but most people in this country don't have that kind of money or resources. How many dock-workers and mechanics have you seen getting pedicures lately? Thus this book is intended for a specific audience.

Wygant recommends looking at all the fashion magazines and emulating the way they dress. Why? Isn't part of meeting someone being yourself? Besides do you really want to look like all these spoiled babies wearing their tacky overprices garbage?

He even goes as far to dog a lot of things like baggy pants and other elements of the hip-hop fashion such as sagging. I don't know where Wygant is really coming from on this but in a lot of areas of America this is the way people dress. It's urban areas and it's simply what is in, regardless of your race and creed.

I don't understand a lot of the female criticisms of this book. On this subject Wygant's pretty on point. He simply states that women have now become part of mainstream America and asks why are they still imitated by asking men out? Ladies you can hate on this if you want: But it's the truth. Asking a man out on a date is not unclassy or cheap AT ALL, it actually shows A LOT of maturity and class. Come on people this is the modern world.

In conclusion this book might be an aid to the clueless but in the end I didn't feel very enlightened in anyway. If you're lost and lonely my best advice is just to keep working on your confidence and just be yourself, which is basically what this book says more or less but it is another product in today's dating market.

I'm sure Wygant's a decent cat but he's out to make a buck like everyone else. Therefore I recommend picking this up at your library first if your curious. Best wishes on the hunt.

Maybe I'm a little bitter after being crapped on in the american dating game, but I'll try and be as fair as I can in my review.

Advice wise this book is more for people who need a little boost for their confidence or social skills and people who need a new introduction to today's mess of a dating scene.

A lot of the advice is basic common sense and while it is good natured at heart I honestly feel our country has gotten too PC for it to work. For example - Wygant recommends you simply approach a woman (who is a stranger), compliment her beauty, and say your name. I don't know about the rest of you but in the uppercrust city I live in this will get you nothing more than a snear and a restraining order. The bottom line: mores and relationships are a mess in our country and no book, no dumb tacky "men's magazine," or dating coach is gonna save you from this.

The fashion advice in this book is ridiculous. Wygant basically wants you to become the standard, metro-sexual clone who spends too much money on clothes and go WAY out of your budget to run into women. Sorry but most people in this country don't have that kind of money or resources. How many dock-workers and mechanics have you seen getting pedicures lately? Thus this book is intended for a specific audience.

Wygant recommends looking at all the fashion magazines and emulating the way they dress. Why? Isn't part of meeting someone being yourself? Besides do you really want to look like all these spoiled babies and their tacky overprices garbage?

He even goes as far to dog a lot of things like baggy pants and other elements of the hip-hop fashion such as sagging. I don't know where Wygant is really coming from on this but in a lot of areas of America this is the way people dress in urban areas and it's simply what is in, regardless of your race or creed.

I don't understand a lot of the female criticisms of this book. On this subject Wygant's pretty on point. He simply states that women have now beomce part of mainstream America, so why are they still imitated by asking men out? Ladies you can hate on this if you want: But it's the truth. Asking a man out on a date is not unclassy or cheap AT ALL, it actually shows A LOT of maturity and class. Come on people this is the modern world.

In conclusion this book might be an aid to the clueless but in the end I didn't feel very enlightened in anyway. If you're lost and lonely my best advice is just to keep working at your confidence and just be yourself, which is basically what this book says more or less but it is another product in today's dating market.

I'm sure Wygant's a decent cat but he's out to make a buck like everyone else. I recommend picking this up at your library first if your curious.

Men, cut that mullet or trim that ponytail! (p. 42) Women, teased hair is out! (p. 41) (Just in case anyone has been asleep since the B-52s debuted or models her hair style from Gary Larson cartoons.) And not only does dating coach David Wygant tell daters to put a Q-tip in your ear, he gives you step-by-step instructions on p. 44. And, men and women, for goodness sake, trim that nose hair! (p. 49.)

Get the feeling the advice in this book is rather basic, common sense stuff? You're right. Granted, it's not all about grooming, although most of those tips are common sense as well. Advice includes how to: fill out internet profiles, start conversations with anyone (and gain the courage to do so), ask for phone numbers, and tell if someone's single. Hint - that wedding ring is a BIG clue (p. 158). But Wygant goes beyond the wedding ring to less obvious clues.

I have mixed feelings about the book. It's virtually all good advice, although I know happily married guys with ponytails. And there's none of the silly dating "play hard to get" Rules type of advice. I would think a lot of people will already know most of this stuff (although I've been on some dates from hell with guys who didn't). Anyway, here it is in one place to possibly serve as a motivator or refresher to someone who is just entering the dating scene or who has been out of it a while. It's a particularly good book for folks who are shy or who have difficulty starting conversations with the opposite sex. I suggest checking it out of the library first, lest you purchase this book only to find you knew about 98% of this stuff.

Mr. Greenstein wasn't being accurate earlier with regard to the section, "The Entitlement Myth." Although we respect his opinion, we beleive he has taken our work out of context. Here are the first few paragraphs of that section for future potential readers.

"I can't tell you how many clients have come to me and said, "David, you're my last resort. I've done the right things. I've been a good person. Yet, nothing ever happens to me. I never get asked out. I'm alone and I'm tired of being alone. Aren't I entitled to a little happiness?" My response to them is a resounding, "No."

People aren't entitled to happiness. People have to work for happiness just as they have to work for a successful career, and in the very same way they have to work and save for a house, a car, a stereo, retirement, or even to maintain friendships.

When you believe you're entitled to something, you won't go after it. You passively wait around hoping whatever you feel entitled to will be handed to you on a silver platter. When no one serves it up to you, you become angry, upset, and frustrated. "Damn it," you proclaim. "I'm a good person. I do the right things. I'm entitled to this." You become reactive, instead of proactive."

You be the judge.

Men, cut that mullet or trim that ponytail! (p. 42) Women, teased hair is out! (p. 41) (Just in case anyone has been asleep since the B-52s debuted or models her hair style from Gary Larson cartoons.) And not only does dating coach David Wygant tell daters to put a Q-tip in your ear, he gives you step-by-step instructions on p. 44. And, men and women, for goodness sake, trim that nose hair! (p. 49.)

Get the feeling the advice in this book is rather basic, common sense stuff? You're right. Granted, it's not all about grooming, although most of those tips are common sense as well. Advice includes how to: fill out internet profiles, start conversations with anyone (and gain the courage to do so), ask for phone numbers, and tell if someone's single. Hint - that wedding ring is a BIG clue (p. 158). But Wygant goes beyond the wedding ring to less obvious clues.

I have mixed feelings about the book. It's virtually all good advice, although I know happily married guys with ponytails. And there's none of the silly dating "play hard to get" Rules type of advice. I would think a lot of people will already know most of this stuff (although I've been on some dates from hell with guys who didn't). Anyway, here it is in one place to possibly serve as a motivator or refresher to someone who is just entering the dating scene or who has been out of it a while. It's a particularly good book for folks who are shy or who have difficulty starting conversations with the opposite sex. I suggest checking it out of the library first, lest you purchase this book only to find you knew about 98% of this stuff.

Mr. Greenstein wasn't being accurate earlier with regard to the section, "The Entitlement Myth." Although we respect his opinion, we beleive he has taken our work out of context. Here are the first few paragraphs of that section for future potential readers.

"I can't tell you how many clients have come to me and said, "David, you're my last resort. I've done the right things. I've been a good person. Yet, nothing ever happens to me. I never get asked out. I'm alone and I'm tired of being alone. Aren't I entitled to a little happiness?" My response to them is a resounding, "No."

People aren't entitled to happiness. People have to work for happiness just as they have to work for a successful career, and in the very same way they have to work and save for a house, a car, a stereo, retirement, or even to maintain friendships.

When you believe you're entitled to something, you won't go after it. You passively wait around hoping whatever you feel entitled to will be handed to you on a silver platter. When no one serves it up to you, you become angry, upset, and frustrated. "Damn it," you proclaim. "I'm a good person. I do the right things. I'm entitled to this." You become reactive, instead of proactive."

You be the judge.

I bought this along with a few other self-help books, and this one was probably the most realistic. The overall tone is sincere but firm, which I think is a good thing especially with a sometimes delicate subject like dating and love. I think the title may be a little misleading, and perhaps a more fitting one would be along the lines of "Dating Advice for Nice People," but I guess I can't critique that since titles are supposed to catch your attention and well, I own the book now.

Like I mentioned, this is a good book for nice folks -- those of us who aren't exactly the flirtatious type. It really appeals to people like myself who have always thought "Well, it will happen when it happens" and are now in the mind frame of "I want to make it happen, now." While I can't say from first-hand experience that the advice and tips actually work, I can honestly say that they seem reasonable. I like how realistic he is about dating, and this book really put into perspective what it might be like to be "proactive" and ask a person out.

One thing I love about this book is that it warns against going to bars to find a date. For those of us who aren't that impressed with alcohol and don't see a get-together primarily based on the presence of booze appealing, this is a relief to read. He shows that it's possible to meet people in everyday places like the coffee shop, the movie theater and even the university library.

It's easy to read because the sections are divided to help you read what you want and pass over what you don't want to see. For example, I have no interest in online dating and getting set up on blind dates. It was easy to skip those parts because I just moved on to the chapter for meeting people on my own.

It's a good book. I actually read the whole book cover-to-cover (minus the two sections stated above) in one sitting and felt satisfied with what I had learned.

"Always Talk to Strangers" has some excellent insight in that it really gets to the root of why so many people--men and women alike--have trouble finding someone to settle down with. I think the problem lies in the fact that it's hard to overcome shyness and get someone's attention. There are many places in which to find someone, we just have to start looking and, more importantely, noticing.

In the end, it is really all about overcoming fear of rejection. Once we can do that--and the author, Mr. Wygant, offers some helpful advice, we can then start to really come into our own and find someone else who we can not only have fun with but also try and build some sort of relationship with.

"Always Talk to Strangers" is one of the better dating/relationship books I've read. It ranks up there with the best and really shouldn't be overlooked. I would also recommend "Man Manget" and "Why Men Love..." Great reading and excellent insight into the mystery that is modern love.

Being single doesn't have to be a drag, and this book shows how to totally take advatage of what's already there--many people that are also looking for dates/love/relationships. The problem seems to be that no one is willing to take a step and DO something on their own, thusly leaving it up to the other person to do it.

Mr. Wygants book takes this cause on and tells us how to find quality people to bring into our lives. He doesn't say it's going to be easy, as it never is, but he does say you can do it if you're willing to try.

The best thing about this book is the fact that it outlines places where to meet other singles. It never loses sight of the main objective of the book, either. It's about getting out there and finding love.

It's a book that I would most definitely recommend to anyone who wants to date or date more than they are. I would also recommend "Man Magnet" to go along with it.

In the end, it's what you do that counts. So, if you're willing to do the work, you might just get to the reward. Great book!!

From his new book, "Always Talk to Strangers: 3 Simple Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life"


The entitlement myth
I can't tell you how many clients have come to me and said, "David, you're my last resort. I've done the right things. I've been a good person. Yet, nothing ever happens to me. I never get asked out. I'm alone and I'm tired of being alone. Aren't I entitled to a little happiness?" My response to them is a resounding, "No."

sounds like he sells Prozac or cemetery plots. how many people might do either one(God help Mr. Wygant if anyone chooses the latter after reading his advice; he can be prosecuted for it, no? i sure hope so.)
i don't think this review is spiteful in any way; i believe it is in keeping with Amazon's guidelines. my review is severe because it seems that way.

From his new book, "Always Talk to Strangers: 3 Simple Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life"


The entitlement myth
I can't tell you how many clients have come to me and said, "David, you're my last resort. I've done the right things. I've been a good person. Yet, nothing ever happens to me. I never get asked out. I'm alone and I'm tired of being alone. Aren't I entitled to a little happiness?" My response to them is a resounding, "No."

sounds like he sells Prozac or cemetery plots. how many people might do either one(God help Mr. Wygant if anyone chooses the latter after reading his advice; he can be prosecuted for it, no? i sure hope so.)
i don't think this review is spiteful in any way; i believe it is in keeping with Amazon's guidelines. my review is severe because it seems that way.

I enjoyed this book greatly for it really inspired me on how to improve my social life. My advice to women out there: don't use this as a dating book because the main idea here - asking men out, won't work if a happy relationship is what you want! Sure the guy would go out, why not? But he would take it for granted even if he's a great guy. That's just human nature. I've seen women asking men out, and these women always end up doing all the work in their relationships. This book is a great read if you want to expand your social life - always talk to strangers for friendships. But LADIES, for romance, be smart about applying the techniques here.

This is a very good book on making that initial interaction with people of the opposite sex. The mental makeover portion of this book is its strongest area. Pretty much everyone has some hiccups or anxiety about approaching someone you find very attractive - maybe you assume they must be unavailable because they're so hot, or that they are out of your league. Well, the author doesn't teach you how to hook up with supermodels, but he does teach you how to get over your often baseless concerns and at least give yourself a CHANCE!

Oh, the best part about the book is the part where he breaks down various myths that many of us grew up with. You know, how there's that ONE special someone out there for everyone and how you're destined to meet that someone even if you sit at home all night and never approach anyone.

The only minor gripe I have about the book is the physical makeover portion. Everyone who reads it really have to customize what he suggests to fit your own style. I'm not saying that it's useless like some other reviewers but I think in this case the author is really targetting a select demographic. He suggests that you should get several suits and it will ONLY cost as little as $3,500. Well, don't get me wrong, I can afford that now but I certainly know people that can't quite afford that (or prefer not to spend it on that). I know plenty of friends who have met many women without having a wardrobe the author recommends.

Don't let that deter you from getting this book if you are interested in becoming more skilled and confident at making that first move. This is a great book that I highly recommend.

I'm a poster-child for Geeks-R-Us, and this book is exactly what I needed.

This book isn't just for people looking for dates, pick-ups, or true romance. This is for anyone (at a beginner or intermediate level) who needs to build people skills. If you're already a Dale Carnegie graduate, or a smooth operator, then this book is not for you.

The book covers three areas: 1) physical preparation (dress/grooming), 2) mental preparation, and 3) step-by-step how-to and where-to in the field.

A side benefit is that the contacting skills/methods outlined in this book are also good for missionary work. If you're a Jehovah's Witness, or a future Mormon Missionary, or parent of a future Mormon Missionary, or do Christian outreach, GET THIS BOOK!

This book hit the nail on the head. Human relationships are so vital to success and fulfillment in life. The basic component in this area is simply conversation. So many times we are bombarded by thousands of messages by the media and advertising that we loose track of the essence of human bonding. This book will get you back on track and on your way to boosting your social skills. It is full of practical strategies and steps to get you talking to strangers and starting meaningful relationships. After reading this book I became aware of all the opportunities to meet people that are around me. It is a great, informative, and easy read. Buy this book and thrive socially.

The things I liked about this book:

Mostly encouraging, didn't lay heavy guilt on you for not being the next Brad Pitt, also many "attainable" anecdotes that got me thinking in a more social manner than I have in a while. Had some practical ideas, as well as just the overall good advice, delivered time and again in many different ways, to talk to people. I'm in Information Technology, not known for our social skills, and while I'd like to think once people get to know me they are charmed by my wit and winsome ways (I said I'd like to think it- I didn't say it was true), they never know me as more than that guy that walks around looking a little hacked off all the time unless there is some verbal interaction. It really was good at driving that point home, and also in getting one in the mindset to take risks and meet people. Time will tell, but I felt it more than worth my time and money. You can read it in a few hours, but it still has enough ideas to cover what it sets out to cover. It's not Dostoesvski, but it gets the job done.

There are very few books I can say have actually changed my life, but this is definitely one of them. Wygant and Swerling have done a great service for all single guys who, like me, are less than completely extroverted and confident in their ability to approach women and ask them out. (There is much useful information for women as well, but to be fair I'd have to say on the whole the book is more helpful for men.)

I'm a moderately outgoing guy; I talk to women I meet here and there, but I've had a hard time converting that into "digits" -- i.e. getting phone numbers and actually going out on dates. Well, this book changed all that, or rather it gave me a roadmap to how to change it. I was on a several-year dating slump before I read this book, but since reading it I've been meeting a lot more women than ever before, and getting phone numbers and going out with them as well!

Have you ever had a friend who, when you were out with him, seemed to always run into women he knew, and was always striking up conversations with new women and sometimes going out with them? I had a buddy like that once, but I could never figure out what his secret was. Well, David Wygant is just like that guy, only he has laid it all out for us in simple terms, and then he kicks our collective butt to go DO IT! That is the real value of this book, I think. I've read other self-help/dating books that say you've got to be more outgoing, get out and do things you like (tennis, music, photography, whatever) and you'll meet people, etc. But this kind of vague advice never helped me much, because I never had a script in my head of exactly how to tell if someone was single and possibly interested, how to sense if the conversation was going well or, especially, how to "go for the close." This book gives you examples of what to say and how and when to say it, and this advice is incredibly useful to fall back on when you're there talking to someone of the opposite sex but can't think of what to say to get their phone number or ask them out. Yes, the lines may seem a little contrived or corny, but remember--communication is 75% nonverbal anyway. So just say SOMETHING -- even something corny. If you say it confidently and sincerely, even if you laugh at yourself for saying it, it's better than saying nothing and will probably net you a phone number. Wygant compels us to act -- just start talking to that attractive person of the opposite sex, before your brain's "monkey chatter," as he aptly puts it, can start giving you reasons not to talk.

You can find minor faults in any book, and this is no exception; for example, the fashion guide section is more geared toward your Manhattan bistro than a Tulsa C&W bar; some of the advice is more useful for men than women. But so what? When you read it, you take these things in context. Some other reviewers feel this book doesn't tell you anything that common sense or your Mom didn't already tell you. Well, that may be true. But then why are you still single? :-) Seriously, many times while reading the book I thought to myself, "of course that makes sense, I knew that"; but more often, it would be "of course that makes sense, how come I never thought of that before?!" Even though a lot of this is common sense and staring you right in the face, you can still ignore it or not act on it, and that's where this book is so helpful, in motivating you to actually go out and do what you need to do to meet more people and go on more dates.

Badger & Wendel's negative review were way off in my opinion. The book gives fairly detailed steps to take in Internet dating and, to a lesser extent, blind dating. The physical makeover advice isn't intended to make us all look the same; but you have to meet a certain set of minimum requirements in order for your appearance to be palatable to the opposite sex. I don't think Mr. Wygant even needed to dignify these reviews with a response, but in doing so he has contributed some more good advice to the single population out here. It isn't too often you find someone who wrote a book with the primary purpose not of selling books but of actually helping people. But I think Mr. Wygant has done just that, so for that he deserves thanks as well as 5 stars.

Don't waste your money on this book. Most of the information are not practical at all and the other information is stuff you already know. If you are "beginner" to the dating scene or just plain clueless about the meeting people, it might be little helpful; but, I highly not recommend this bok.

From the perspective of another industry insider this book is superb. I've had the pleasure of working with David Wygant and I was anticipating this book for quite some time.

David Wygant is a dating genius. He can help just about anyone, male or female, so to follow up his real life experience with a book isn't a small or easy task.

David properly and effectively conveys the empirical forumla for dating success. The sections on self-image and self-improvement are vital components that most overlook in their quest for love. He brings light to the fact that people are more often critical of others than they are of themselves. This creates a paradox in the world of dating. A paradox that has people hide behind a false persona whether dating online or off.

The concepts are concise and too the point.

Absolutely a 5 star book if you're looking for concrete, effective advice before your next venture into the world of dating.

I agree with R. Ryan. This book does give some very helpful advice, like paying attention to the people around you, and needing a mental makeover for relationship, etc. BUT, the author gives the same advice to both men and women, when these two groups are totally different (that's why we have books like "Men are Mars and women are from Venus"). This is an anti-Rules book, but went too extreme to the other end.

This book is awesome. It's like having your own personal dating coach in your hands. It used to be that I never wanted to go out because I didn't feel like I was attractive enough to meet people. I also put a lot of pressure on myself that every date had to be "the one" that I was always so uncomfortable and ended up sabotaging the date. After having read only a few chapters of this book I was immediately inspired to go out and meet people. I took the advice from the book that not every date has to be something so meaningful. But that going out and getting experience in going out and meeting people can be an exercise. So if it's just practice, then there's no real pressure. I felt so relaxed that I ended up having a lot of fun, even though I knew nothing was going to become of my date.
It's been many many months since I read this book and I still think about its advice almost on a daily basis.

Normally, I would not dignify the so-called reviews of my book by BcWendel or Dave Badger by posting a response. However, when one spends two years of his life writing a book that two people wrote about, but obviously didn't read I have no choice but to set the record straight. Starting with Mr. Bc Wendell who says that my tips for a physical makeover sucked and were lame. The tips on the physical makeover section of the book are not meant to make everyone look the same. They are however a common sense guide to what is and what is not in style at the moment. I wonder exactly which style and hygiene tips Mr. Wendal takes issue with. Was it that we encourage people to clean their nails, remove long strands of hair from their ears and nose, discourage flashy diamonds and gaudy gold jewelry, or was it our disparaging remarks about the mullet.

Moving on-Mr. Wendel states that the parts about meeting people are "dumb." First, Mr. Wendel states that he has never known anyone to have gone on a blind date. According to New York Magazine over 43% of the people they've polled have been on blind dates as a single person. That's almost 1 in 2 people Mr. Wendel. As for online dating being a "horrible scam." Over 10 million single people a year use the internet now to meet new people to date. Personally, I know many couples who have met and married through internet dating sites. Internet dating is not a scam and is a healthy modern way for busy adults to meet other adults.

As for the dialogue for meeting people on the streets seeming fake-again, I wonder what Mr. Wendel takes issue with. Is it a mature adult man being able to walk up to a mature woman and say, "Hello. My name is BC Wendel. I saw you, thought you looked interesting and wanted to introduce myself?" If someone is too shy to make such a direct approach, we have provided alternatives such as the indirect approach whereby a person can ease into conversation by using their surroundings and environment. For instance, a man shopping in a supermarket can look at a woman holding a bag of coffee and say, "I tried that brand. It's good. However, if you haven't tried this brand, you should. It's great." By using the coffee as a prop, the man can easily segue into a conversation with the woman, and for those shy people out there, it is a good icebreaker.

Moving on to Mr. Dave Badger. Again, he goes to the Physical Makeover chapter where he states: "basically it says to find someone with good fashion sense to advise." The book's Physical Makeover section runs from page 37 to page 75 and is divided up into sections regarding Grooming, Personal Hygiene, and Fashion. Then, under each section, there are numerous subsections which go into a tremendous amount of detail about how to care for yourself and how to dress in way that never goes out of style. Although I respect Mr. Badger's opinion, I think he must have missed something. The Blind Dating section which Badger says simply says we say, "go on Blind dates" is also a fabrication. The Blind dating section begins on Page 81 and ends on page 95 and gives very detailed examples of how to initiate blind dates complete with dialogued scenarios. I don't know what book Mr. Badger was reading, but it sure wasn't mine. Badger goes on to say that "I expected more detail on starting a conversation with a stranger, but the best he can come up with is a few paragraphs with gems such as "Hi, you're beautiful" or "Say, that's a nice bracelet."" Page 95 to roughly 215 is filled with one example after another about how to meet new people to date. Numerous scenarios are given that people can use. They are there to jog the reader's creativity and can be used in similar situations. Tell a woman you see that she has a nice bracelet on her arm is a way to start a conversation with a stranger. It is a segue into other areas of conversation such as what is it made out of, where did she get it, does she like jewelry, where can I get one for my sisters birthday, does she like Italian jewelry or French jewelry, has she ever traveled to Italy or France, if so where has she stayed and what restaurants has she eaten in, if not would she like to go and what places has she traveled to. Asking a woman about her bracelet or complimenting her bracelet is just a way into a conversation-the rest is up to you. As for being no more insightful than your mom. He's right. Moms are filled with common sense. That is basically what I preach in this book-common sense. Unfortunately, in our modern world, common sense has been lost. Mr. Badger would like you to read "The System" by Roy Valentine. How sad that when it comes to meeting new people for love and passion people shun common sense and instead fall for deception and manipulation in books like The System or The Rules. Should words like system and love even be in the same sentence?

I think there is a lot of useful advice in this book but Wygant thinks he is going to de-program human biology simply by telling women to ask men out on dates, and asking men to accept dates from women who ask them out.

On top of that he asks men not to be intimidated by women who earn more bucks and who are a lot more successful and ambitious than they are. That's like asking a zebra to lose its stripes or a bee to put away its stinger! It's not going to happen.

My experience is that men like to be admired and respected and have a woman be wowed by their actions. A woman pursuing a man doesn't really allow any of that to happen.

You can't change biology. Sorry!

But hey, other than that, the book is great.

Wygant paints a promising picture for those of us navigating the landscape that is singledom. Wygant proferrs three fundamentals for overhauling your dating life: Preparation, When & Where to Meet People, and Making Contact. Wygant has little confidence in the possibility of meeting potential love interests in bars and clubs and instead advocates trying to meet people during your daily routine. Good advice! The section on "Making Contact" is, really, the crux of the book and probably the most revealing and helpful among the three fundamentals. Wygant presents the material well and liberally adds anecdotes to emphasize or illustrate points. Although some of what Wygant presents is common sense (he indicates as much in a few parts of the book), his advice is worth heeding and -- I suspect -- will yield success not only in singledom but also in other areas of your life.