How to Win Friends and Influence People

  Author:    Dale Carnegie
  ISBN:    B000FCK2BK
  Sales Rank:    101
  Published:    2008-06-21
  Publisher:    Old LandMark Publishing
  # Pages:    288
  Binding:    Kindle Edition
  Avg. Rating:    5.0 based on 613 reviews
  Used Offers:    0 from $6.39
  Amazon Price:    $6.39
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This grandfather of all people-skills books was first published in 1937. It was an overnight hit, eventually selling 15 million copies. How to Win Friends and Influence People is just as useful today as it was when it was first published, because Dale Carnegie had an understanding of human nature that will never be outdated. Financial success, Carnegie believed, is due 15 percent to professional knowledge and 85 percent to "the ability to express ideas, to assume leadership, and to arouse enthusiasm among people." He teaches these skills through underlying principles of dealing with people so that they feel important and appreciated. He also emphasizes fundamental techniques for handling people without making them feel manipulated. Carnegie says you can make someone want to do what you want them to by seeing the situation from the other person's point of view and "arousing in the other person an eager want." You learn how to make people like you, win people over to your way of thinking, and change people without causing offense or arousing resentment. For instance, "let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers," and "talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person." Carnegie illustrates his points with anecdotes of historical figures, leaders of the business world, and everyday folks. --Joan Price
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09-23-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Life Changing
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No wonder this is a classic. It is a good reminder of all the things you inherently know, but forget as a normal part of daily life. Immediately upon starting to read it, the way I was dealing with people changed - and business improved quickly! Obviously, a book that should be read over and over. One of the best!
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09-23-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Read this and make a million bucks
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This book will make you a million bucks just like it has me if you follow the very simple rules for relating to people.
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09-07-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Solid advice
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How to Win Friends and Influence PeopleA book of proven advice that has stood the test of time.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-09-30 02:05:39 EST)
09-02-08 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Well Written
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I haven't finished the book yet but it definately motivates you to better yourself and be a more positive person. I recommend this book to anyone.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-09-30 02:05:39 EST)
09-01-08 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Good influence
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i havent finished the book but it has influenced me already. nice book well written with many examples
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-09-30 02:05:39 EST)
08-14-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A Must Read...
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This is the roadmap and field book for developing and maintaining healthy and unselfish interactions with others. What does another person need to hear in the first 30-seconds to get their attention? Why should you see a situation from the other person's point of view and what will happen if you don't? This book is filled with real life vignettes that illustrate the power of having a winning attitude. A must for anyone, and those in sales will love it! You will find yourself reading it again and again and using it as a reference tool.

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08-06-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Easy read that will help you at work.
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The author used great examples to help illustrate lessons. Strongly recommend this to everyone who works in an office or with people in general.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-08-20 02:01:23 EST)
08-05-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A Life Changing Experience
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There is something magical about this book. Dale Carnegie must have been a genius in the 30's. The life lessons taught in "How to Win Friends.." are so rock solid as to change a person's life for good. It has already started to change the course of my life.

From the very first chapter, I started to feel the veil being removed from my eyes. I had been doing so much wrong in relating to people that the common sense - but often over-looked - advice by Carnegie was a huge wake up call.

Just one of the pieces of advice that really woke me up was this: Every single person wants to feel important - and you can provide this by speaking in terms of their interests - not yours. By doing this you feed them their importance and they relay their kindly demeanor and possibly friendship towards you. Simple? Perhaps. But mind-blowingly effective if you hadn't really picked up on it before.

The "yes,yes" approach was clever and effective. Get people to say yes a few times before you ask them a question, to sort of get their systems in an agreeable mood. But if they say "no" to something first, then their systems are in a state of withdrawal and will more likely get them telling you no to your question.

This is merely a tad of the great advice this book gives. If there were ever a definitive "people skills" book. This is it! I have no regrets buying and reading this book, and will in fact read this book again right away, even though I just finished it. It's worth it to really digest the information I would say.

If you or someone you know is shy or unsure of himself or herself around other people, then get this book! There will be no regrets, at least I can't see how their could be. And if you want to further enhance your life, I would recommend picking up "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey. These books prove that their is power in reading, as long as you chart the right course of literature.
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08-05-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Probably one of the greatest books ever written.
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This book can, and will change your life if you will only take the time to read it, absorb the material and put it into practice and the great thing is it's so easy! It was only once I read this book that I realized where I was going wrong both in my social and professional interactions with others, come to think of it, I'm amazed anyone liked me at all! The content of this book, even though it was written years and years ago, is just as valid now as it was then because people don't change. Everyone, no matter who they are wants to be respected, to be appreciated, to be listened to, to be accepted, to feel like they matter; these things will never change whether the year is 1936 or 2050 because human nature is what it is.

What is astounding is that so many people just have no clue when it comes to social interaction and conversing with others yet they could easily correct all this with one reading of "How To Win Friends And Influence People". I personally know a girl who is 32 years old and is stunningly beautiful yet she doesn't have a friend in the world, still lives at home with her parents and cannot find a partner no matter how hard she tries because the only person she thinks about is herself, she has no interest in anything else. Her personality, to put it bluntly, is quite frankly repulsive. It is so frustrating for me because I know her life could improve so dramatically if she would only read this book and put the principles into practice but I know that if I suggested she read it, she would be insulted. So many people say that what Carnegie has to say is "obvious". Well if that is the case, why do so few practice these simple principles?

There is a good reason that this book has been around for years and is one of the best selling books of all time- it's because it's true and it works. So many self help books have since tried to rip off Carnegie's principles and regurgitate the material to try and make a fast buck but his book is still the original and by far the best. Buy it, read it, and your life will change for the better- that's a promise.
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07-30-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Enhance your life & others in it
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My mom turned me on to this book,as well as my partner and if you use the examples in your life situations it will make you a better person and have people respond in a positive way!! It's how you say what you want! It is really amazing! I'm glad my mom found this book! We even bought another to give as a gift! Remommemded to all my friends and family!! It's a book you read over and over again and pick up more, and more. I REALLY LOVE THIS BOOK!
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07-19-08 5 1\1
(Hide Review...)  If only everyone would apply these principles.
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Why are the simple things so hard to do? As I look back at my past decisions when dealing with people I laugh because I noticed how many situations I could have approached differently. How to Win Friends & Influence People is a must read for everyone and should be taught to kids when they are young so when they get older they'll be able to deal with people in a more civilized and respectful manner.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-31 02:29:03 EST)
07-15-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  How to win friens and influence people
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I read this book decades ago and it changed my life. It's unbelievable and every human being should read it. As I was surfing Amazon looking for another book, I happen to notice it and had to write a review. I have to tell everybody how great this book is. I couldn't just not tell everyone. The author is brilliant! This book is so motivational that it truly changed my life and made me a better human being. There's a section in there about a father and a son, that I'll never forget - it really moved me. Every father should read that section.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-24 02:10:36 EST)
07-10-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Excellent, Timeless Advice
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This book is chock full of practical, common sense advice. Want people to like you? Show you like THEM, smile, be honestly happy to see them, remember their names, be interested in them, listen to them, etc. Want to influence them? Don't argue or tell them they are wrong (even if they are), but honestly emphasize where they are right, compliment them, and start with your areas of agreement. Want to be a leader? Ecourage people, praise them, listen to them, ask them questions. Of course, the examples in this book require us to apply honesty and common sense, and if so, this book is quite helpful. Sadly, too many of us fail to heed the advice in these pages. We can all do better, and this book can help us do so.
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07-08-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  One of the best books I've ever read
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Everyone should read this book. There is nothing bad that can come from it. The stories contained are interesting and the concepts are completely simple. In fact, nothing taught here was ever mind blowing or surprising. The surprising part was the self reflection it brought and the desire it created in me to want to adapt concepts from this book I previously felt needless. This is the kind of reading I wish I was forced to read growing up and not books about a bunch of stupid kids on an island that go crazy and fight each other.
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07-06-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A must-read
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How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie is a must-read for anyone who desires to put the Golden Rule into everyday use. Through numerous stories and examples, Mr. Carnegie shows how we can truly accomplish the impossible---just by putting others' interests before our own. The book bogs down a little if you try to read through it all at once, so I would recommend breaking it up and just reading a chapter or two at a time. Definitely push through to the end--it's very worth it!
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-09 00:22:22 EST)
07-05-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  Use your head to translate these ideas in this book
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The folks that reviewed this book as a "1 star" might have missed the point of this book. In order for these techniques to work, you must use a common sense approach to each situation.

For instance, one of the techinques described in the book deals with finding a common interest in someone you have just met. Unfortunately, if you use the book without using common sense translation it would go something like this:
"Hi! I like the shirt you are wearing. It's got an image of a racing car on it. I like racecars, too! Now that we have racing cars in common, will you help me with my homework?"
Without a common sense approach, this technique fails.

Another technique decribes how to speak to a shy person. If you are shy, would this approach stated below work on you? I would doubt it.
"Hi. You seem shy so I'm going to converse with you so you can overcome your shyness. So, what's up?"

The techniques in this book will require you to use your head, your common sense and your own personality to be effective.

The overall message is the Golden Rule: Treat others the way you, personally, would want to be treated".

Also, this is not an "all or nothing" way of life. If you use a few of these techniques the way you see fitting within your personality, they will work wonders for you.

I've used these techniques and have had considerable success. I believe it was a worthy investment.
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07-04-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  How to Win Friends & Influence People
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Excellent book. Lots of useful information and real life examples of how to apply the principles in the book.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-07 07:26:20 EST)
06-19-08 4 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  All Time Classic
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If you have never read this book, pick it up and give it a read. Or buy the CD and listen to it on your next road trip.
(Review Data Last Updated: 2008-07-07 07:26:20 EST)
06-19-08 5 (NA)
(Hide Review...)  A Second time for me!
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This is the kind of book that is definitely a classic and can learn something new every time you read it. The principles of relationships, showing you how to interact with people and getting that job you want reminds me also of the principles of the law of attraction and my favorite book,Living The Secret Everyday: My Secret Workbook. In this book too you learn about the law of attraction in a workbook format and improve your relationships.
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