How to talk to anyone is written in a straight forward way, giving you tips on how to carry good conversations. It highlights things that, when you think about it, is very very true, especially when you think of people you DONT like speaking with, but dont really see why not.

nice short chapters that lets you pick up a few things every time you pick up the book.

How to talk to anyone is written in a straight forward way, giving you tips on how to carry good conversations. It highlights things that, when you think about it, is very very true, especially when you think of people you DONT like speaking with, but dont really see why not.

nice short chapters that lets you pick up a few things every time you pick up the book.

This is a great book that will help you put your best foot forward when dealing with people.

For those of you who are looking to improve the quality of your communication and relationships this is one of the books for you. However I'd recommend starting with How To Win Friends and Influence People by: Dale Carnegie. As Lowndes states in the intro of her book, her book isn't a replacement to Carnegie's classic but essentially an expansion. Carnegie goes into the concepts behind Lowndes techniques while Lowndes' book goes into the nitty-gritty specifics of how to accomplish it. Long story short, Carnegie for principles, Lowndes for tools.

This book is a wonderful collection of social tips. I would recommend it to everyone who seeks greater insight regarding interactions. This book or a similar book should be on everyone's shelf.

If you don't know how to talk to anyone, you still won't know after read this book. There are some tips and little tricks might be helpful, but that's it.

I borrowed this book from a friend. I was both impressed and turned off by it on many different levels. I have no interest in navigating the shark filled waters of corporate America or the yacht club and this book seems to be geared for those seeking entrée into that world. Of the 92 tips, the majority focused on working parties like a politician, making people think you like them when you secretly find them to be bores and pandering to native human egocentricity. Basically, it's a how-to guide for people who want to learn how to be charming and fake, without seeming to be fake. All very useful for ambitious corporate folks, entrepreneurs seeking financial backing, and even musicians looking to get a record deal, no doubt, but not very useful for average people looking to improve their social skills among friends.

For instance, the publisher's blurb on this site brags that the book shows you "7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone". What they don't specify is that the author only shows you tricks to SIMULATE rapport with that person. This book is mostly about creating a complex, flexible illusion.

Although the author had many useful tips (I made myself a list of the 19 excellent tips I want to remember and incorporate into my own life) and her writing was very entertaining, I found myself thinking - "I'm glad she's not my friend. She may be a cool cat and a charmer, but she's also plastic."

So I'm giving the book a mixed review. Be aware of why you are buying it. If you want tips on how to network (a necessity for many people to succeed in their field), this book is probably nothing short of brilliant. She's keenly observant and gifted with the ability to analyze behavior and articulate it in an easy to understand manner. This book may very well be a life saver if you are trying to survive in a world that essentially runs by the rules of politicians and bureaucrats, where the ability to play the game is what counts. When you are surrounded by fakes, sometimes your best option is to learn how to put on your game face. The author does deliver the goods on this, in fine style.

If you want to improve your relationships with family, friends and romantic partners, where the creation of a facade is of no real value, this book does have something to offer you, but it will be limited. You'll find yourself trudging through entire chapters on how to sell people widgets by handing them pictures of your dog, or how to get a dead bore to tell his favorite "I'm so cool" story to your friends at a party so you can sneak off for better company without him realizing you've ditched him.

Received very quickly. Condition was better than listed. Would buy from seller again w/o reservation.

This book would be more aptly named "How to talk to anyone: some gimmicks to make you think your improving your social skills." While there were a few (about ten)tips that would be considered useful, most could make someone seem creepy. If you want a book on tuning into people and communicating better, I recommendThe Art of Speed Reading People: How to Size People Up and Speak Their Language
Don't be this book, 92 tricks is just a trick.

The advice in this book can be used instantly and it is written in a format that makes each tip easily and quickly digestible. I had a lot of big 'aha' moments reading this book from beginning to end. I plan on reading this multiple times.

I read this book once and I continually review and am rereading it with a highlighter. I am in the military and trying to meet people and get ahead and these methods have significantly improved my communication skills for schmoozing.

This book should be used in schools and businesses. Simple skills we all can grasp and make our own. I've used these tips over the holidays at parties and had successfully engaged many in conversation. Bravo!

Noticed more-or-less immediate results after following recommendations in this book. As a result, general quality of life has gradually improved.

Unlike some similar books that explain the best way to interact with people, this book delivers the same content with one important difference - The author explains WHY she thinks that's the best way in plain English, and cites real life examples. This helped me a lot.

These "92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships" are tricks, all right, and they won't earn you big success, except with other phonies who are also trying to win your favor with similar tactics.

Some of the concepts are obvious, such as not slouching, actually paying attention to what someone is saying by maintaining reasonable eye contact, and not making jokes at your host's expense; but overall, the techniques described by Lowndes strike me as transparently cloying behavior. Furthermore, Lowndes' writing style is abominable -- it's not a narrative so much as a book of one-line pointers, making it virtually unreadable over the course of 345 pages.

This book is tailor-made for shallow individuals who don't read much, aren't really interested in others, and aren't really sophisticated but want to merely appear so. If you're truly interested in what someone has to say, and if you really are capable of leadership, then those qualities will come across in your body language, your vocabulary and your ability to forumulate coherent questions and persuasive arguments. Learning how to feign interest better than the next person and how to make a good impression will only make you look like a big phony.

To summarize: The impression one leaves when "trying to make a good impression" is that one has a desperate need to "make a good impression!" I teach others that the best way to leave a good impression (not make one) is by dressing nicely, maintaining one's personal hygiene, being honest, forthright, humble and kind, and by responding favorably toward others who do the same and tactfully toward those who don't. I prefer to make a real impression and be respected for the quality of my work, rather than to be seen as someone who really gives a hoot what others think of me. That's the way to earn lasting respect.

Now I just know that a future reviewer will ask, "Why did I buy the book if I wasn't interested in its premise?" The answer is, I bought it for someone who had heard it recommended, but who also ultimately found it equally shallow and annoying.

I love this book. I devoured it. It really gives some great insight into the human mind and how we communicate. The chapters are short, which I like. For the most part, the lessons learned are pretty straightforward. Once you're read through it once, you can go back and quickly find and remember what the gist of each lesson is. Memorize this book and you will be a bigger success in life.

It was a quick read and it is a good book but eventually you will remember only parts of it and not every relationship works this way.

I listened to the audio book and for some reason her voice is very annoying, is it because she is tone deaf? or just the way she talks?

I have to say that this is very good book on building general social skills. Some of the stuff I already knew, but there was tons of stuff that I had never known about! Now I find myself making more friends than I can handle lol. A definite must-have for the clueless introvert.

This books is very well written. Not only are the points dead on and have had immediate results for me, but it is also organized into very small readable chapters. The reader is able to easily grasp the info in a summary box and then also read the chapter itself to get the bigger picture and good examples. A must read for anyone into self-help.

If you only read one book on communication, make this the one. It's easy, concise, accurate, gives the "why" behind the tricks. Great examples, but not so many that you want her to get on with it. We're busy people and this is a great book that only takes 2 days-1 week to read. So concise!!!

9 Sections: each helps you master a different type of communication.
A gray box at the end of each "tip" with a 2-3 sentence summary with a catchy phrase for the tip to help you remember it (great if you just want the tips and don't care to read the whole book).

The author's witty, pleasant, and brilliant. High-brow tips that take no time at all to learn with her book!!! Just invest less than a week to read this and it will change all of your relationships (and maybe will help you score better financial deals, get you that job, etc.)!

It's worth noting the information and seeing that in using her suggestions, you will break the habit of isolation.

Another new bestseller which I highly recommend - The Exclusive Layguide: When Dating and Having Sex with Incredibly Hot Women is No Longer Mirage Even If You Don't Look Like a Model or Don't Make a Fortune

A very easy book to read. I found the beginning half very insightful, fun, and useful and will be the portion that I take notes on the most. Some points made me realize I've been doing that already and now I can continue that with purpose. I've caught others doing certain points to me recently as well, in retrospect, as I was reading the book, the sticky/epoxy eyes in particular.

The latter half of the book felt too "business" like to me, speaking of how Politicians work the room etc, is something that I really can't relate too, but the points of what to do are good. A lot of examples and stories are centred around business and sales stuff, which from time to time was a turn off for me, and schmoozing with big wigs at elite parties which really isn't my thing either. One just has to apply their own scenarios when visualizing the techniques in your world.

The book ended well despite my ever slight disappointment through the half way mark. It's my first self help book and I'm glad to have read it.

I may have given it 4 stars, but unfortunately I'm in the 4th chapter of an eye opening book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways, and with that I would have to give this book, How to Talk to Anyone, a solid 3.

Wonderful read. this book really details how to converse and mingle. I am a self proclaimed shy guy and this has done wonders. keep it Mrs. lowndes

Not just how to talk, but how to pick up on clues to say something interesting to a person you just met!

Good stuff. ;-)

I am really glad I picked up this booked. It is laid out in easy to understand tips and outlines many things that we use daily without being conscious of. The tips are easy to implement in your day to day actions and things that you feel comfortable incorporating. It creates a self awareness of interactions.

Great book to read like a reference book, a few chapters when you have a few moments.

This has been a very helpful book for me. Some of these ideas I've never heard, and they work wonderfully with most people. I can say these ideas work wonderfully with women, but not very well with men. I think she needs to rethink all of these for communicating with men. Men don't like eye contact, many of these dont' work with men at all. But I've found these have helped me immensely when communicating with women. I wasn't aware that my eye contact with women wasn't that good, until I read this book. I thought the book was very helpful.

I don' really like the author's attitude and I think she really lacks compassion for others who have endured a much harder life than she has. I think the author is insensitive at times. But that said, It's still worth the money and it's a valuable resource. I've applied many of these tricks to my normal daily interactions and they've made a difference. I'd suggest this book to anyone.

not all these tricks work, but enough of them do to make this well worth the money

After spending most of my adult life being somewhat shy and reserved, this book has really helped, and I haven't even gotten half way through it. Needless to say, all the basics have to be there, you have to have some level of self confidence and ability to talk to others, but these tips help you make the most of what you already have. Rome wasn't built in a day, though, and it will take some time to take full advantage of all the tricks Lowndes has to offer. After every conversation, I now evaluate how things went and what I forgot to do or what I could have done differently. Thanks Leil!

"Language most shews a man: Speak, that I may see thee." The great English dramatist and poet Ben Jonson wrote these words in the seventeenth century. They are as true today as they were then. People evaluate you by the words you use and the way you use them. Of course, people also make judgments based on your body language, dress style, attitude, facial expressions and similar criteria that immediately register at a subconscious level. This outstanding book will put you well on your way to becoming a more attractive personality as it reveals the secrets that drama and speech coaches, sales trainers, communication consultants, psychologists and other behavioral experts employ to help their clients become more charismatic, dynamic and appealing. The famous journalist and social critic H.L. Mencken once wrote, "Before a man speaks, it is always safe to assume that he is a fool. After he speaks, it is seldom necessary to assume it." This cynical maxim may be true for many - but certainly not for those who study this book. It is chock-full of wonderful insights and proven techniques - a whopping 92 in all - that you can use to become the type of person that others admire. We recommend putting its valuable lessons to use.

Here is an open letter of appreciation to the author:

Dear Ms. Lowndes:

Thank you for writing a classic in personal and business relationships. Over the last month it has been my daily study guide. To live most of if not all of ninety-two most effective relationship success tips (tools) you provided, I restarted reading your book again today.

A week after reading "Echo the EMO" ( #82), I had to give a persuasive presentation to an audience of over three hundred and as you may guess, I felt the EMO, I conveyed the EMO and the presentation was a dynamo.

Your anecdotes and flow of language is quite charming. Reading "lumbering along I spotted a Nordic skier swiftly striding toward me," or "the essence of YOU has already axed its way into their brains" I am mesmerized by your picturesque language - something that I would love to emulate more.

Since I live in metro-NYC, I am looking forward to hearing you live one of these days.

May you continue to bless many with your writings!

Warm Regards,

KC

This is such a valuable book for men because it shows pretty much all the stock techniques women use to get a man who has the money and other external qualities they want. By reading this book you will learn to counter them and show them up. For instance when they tell you to tell a story to others so they can meet a richer guy you say while directly eying the others and ignoring her completely I'm sorry I think she is trying to ditch me so she can meet someone exciting and important so she can have the big life and experiences she wants without taking the usually required steps first. An essential education into the bathroom type talk that the white women never share with the white men at least in urban America. What they directly and indirectly tell each other. Great reference book so you don't get screwed. And if you are on the end trying to get what you need for a women either get the one who is looking and can't find anyone, staying at home and can't find anyone and not picky or make the money as implied you need throughout this book. Then you can work on playing the woman's game- the stock tricks of the trade as described in this book. But rest assured when she says anyone can use these tricks and be successful if you use them right in white American at least she means women with at least a certain amount of attractiveness. The white men need the externals and/or ability to make good enough grades, recruiters, external networks or a rich women who will take them first. Incidently I don't know what they teach them but whatever Librarians are learning in school about how to talk to others tops this book- they are the best conversationilists I have yet met even when I suspect that under it all they are really shy.

I bought this book over two years ago and before I got to assorting and throwing away half my self-help books, I figured what the hell, let's give this another read.

As I write this review, I'm definitely glad I did. I'm not a business major or someone that's looking to spruce up on their formal/dinner party communications. However, the first third of the book deals with basic and general communication that can be used anytime, anywhere. Most of it's common sense, but it's common sense that I never bothered applying to even se ethe difference that it makes. Techniques such as "sticky eyes" (maintaining consistent eye contact for 5-10 seconds at a time), "epoxy eyes", "word detective", and "parroting" were extremely useful to me. I've been putting all of these into effect the past few days and the eye contact is definitely helping me, at the very least, to show that I care about what a particular person is saying to me instead of looking away every 2 seconds like I used to.

My only gripe is that a majority of the book is for the business world and how to become an "insider" at many business dinners, parties, social events. However, the portion that applied to me alone was worth a 5 star rating and the portion that I would give a 3 star (only because it doesn't apply to the average college sophomore at this moment) I'm sure I'll use later.

Like any book, it takes time to formulate some of the techniques and make them a consistent daily habit. Is most of the advice common sense? As with most of my reviews of my self-help book stack lately, yes. However, it's the common sense that I've skipped over half of my life up until this point. Even so, there are new techniques and ideas that I had never thought of, but with the majority being most of those that the "idea" bulb went off about 10 years later on. What bothers me is I didn't start applying common sense advice such as Lowdnes sooner.

This is such a valuable book for men because it shows pretty much all the stock techniques women use to get a man who has the money and other external qualities they want. By reading this book you will learn to counter them and show them up. For instance when they tell you to tell a story to others so they can meet a richer guy you say while directly eying the others and ignoring her completely I'm sorry I think she is trying to ditch me so she can meet someone exciting and important so she can have the big life and experiences she wants without taking the usually required steps first. An essential education into the bathroom type talk that the white women never share with the white men at least in urban America. What they directly and indirectly tell each other. Great reference book so you don't get screwed. And if you are on the end trying to get what you need for a women either get the one who is looking and can't find anyone, staying at home and can't find anyone and not picky or make the money as implied you need throughout this book. Then you can work on playing the woman's game- the stock tricks of the trade as described in this book. But rest assured when she says anyone can use these tricks and be successful if you use them right in white American at least she means women with at least a certain amount of attractiveness. The white men need the externals and/or ability to make good enough grades, recruiters, external networks or a rich women who will take them first. Incidently I don't know what they teach them but whatever Librarians are learning in school about how to talk to others tops this book- they are the best conversationilists I have yet met even when I suspect that under it all they are really shy.

I bought this book over two years ago and before I got to assorting and throwing away half my self-help books, I figured what the hell, let's give this another read.

As I write this review, I'm definitely glad I did. I'm not a business major or someone that's looking to spruce up on their formal/dinner party communications. However, the first third of the book deals with basic and general communication that can be used anytime, anywhere. Most of it's common sense, but it's common sense that I never bothered applying to even se ethe difference that it makes. Techniques such as "sticky eyes" (maintaining consistent eye contact for 5-10 seconds at a time), "epoxy eyes", "word detective", and "parroting" were extremely useful to me. I've been putting all of these into effect the past few days and the eye contact is definitely helping me, at the very least, to show that I care about what a particular person is saying to me instead of looking away every 2 seconds like I used to.

My only gripe is that a majority of the book is for the business world and how to become an "insider" at many business dinners, parties, social events. However, the portion that applied to me alone was worth a 5 star rating and the portion that I would give a 3 star (only because it doesn't apply to the average college sophomore at this moment) I'm sure I'll use later.

Like any book, it takes time to formulate some of the techniques and make them a consistent daily habit. Is most of the advice common sense? As with most of my reviews of my self-help book stack lately, yes. However, it's the common sense that I've skipped over half of my life up until this point. Even so, there are new techniques and ideas that I had never thought of, but with the majority being most of those that the "idea" bulb went off about 10 years later on. What bothers me is I didn't start applying common sense advice such as Lowdnes sooner.

I have always known that good communicating is the key to professional and personal success. I have read a lot on the subject. And I can honestly say THIS IS THE BEST BOOK I EVER READ ON COMMUNICATING. From "Hello" to "Good-bye" it covers every aspect of interpersonal communicating. Whether your goals are getting new business, making more friends, or getting someone to fall in love with you, the author's tips are unique and priceless. Even ones you might think you've seen like "smile at people," are presented in a new and powerful way. She gives directions on how to give "The Slow Flooding Smile" so it comes across as more genuine to people.

I am a big Leil Lowndes fan and I think this is her best book yet.

She starts with how to make a dynamic and unforgettable first impression in ways I've never read elsewhere. She gives a few unbelievable technique so conversation never dies (if you don't want it to.) She then tells how to "work a party like a politician works a room." She even covers how to be sensational on the phone.

From there the book starts getting into highly sophisticated techniques to turn people into friends, clients or lovers. Or tangle with tigers in the business world.

But why listen to me about the content? I highly suggest reading the table of contents so you can preview the magic this book holds. I can't reccomend it highly enough.

I feel like she takes a bunch of advice from forefathers and puts them in one book and claims it as her own. There is some good advice here but for reading purposes, I would recommend Dale Carnegie's material over hers. She needs MORE EXAMPLES. Yes, she covers many topics briefly but I don't feel like this is a page turner. A lot of the tips she gives have been dealt with already but she feels the need to put down DC along with "Mystery" and others who published their material before Lowndes. I am trying to like her but she comes off as very arrogant. I had to plow through this book which took several days due to its textbook/school- like writing. Basic, but lots of material.

Unfortunately, she does not do a good job of making you like her. The stories are unengaging and she comes off as very cocky. She "name drops" quite often but not with the same savvy that DC does. I would still recommend this book for its loads of material, but keep in mind it's not HER material nor is it very interesting.

This author has consistently hit the bulls eye when it comes to making connections with people. I just sent one of her earlier books to a friend of mine, who loved it as much as I did. This new one continues her savvy take on how to overcome our people-averse society. I wish I knew how she knows as much as she knows, but happily she shares it with us here.

This masterpiece has been like a drug I have been addicted to for the last three days. This book has inspired me. It makes me laugh now to think how absorbed I was that my imagination brought me to a place where it felt like we (Leil and I) were talking, that I wasn't just reading anymore. She has done a great job putting this atlas to the world of communicating together. I look forward to reading more of her work.

If you've found yourself lacking in the communication department, this book will most definitely help with that. It's filled with great ideas about how to be a better communicatior, most importantely, how to show a person you've just met that you might be interested in something more with them. This author is a fantastic coach in this regard and this book should be read by anyone who wants to be better at relationship building. This is a good book that can help with dating, too. Also, I've found the books by Romy Miller also help with this and would recommend this, too, along with other books by this author.

Great little nugget-size tips for being a better communicator and connecting more effectively with others.
Leil's ideas are easy to remember and implement.
CD format is great - easy to listen to while driving

Right away in the introduction the author states that people - actually, "Little Leaguers" - who complain of an "old boy" network or "glass ceiling" or other discrimination are actually just babies who don't have the skills as the Big Boys have to get them to the top. So I guess only white men have the gift of gab! Who would have thunkit! After reading that introduction alone I'm leery of reading the rest of the book; she sounds either terribly ignorant or is one of those motivational authors who honestly believe that we create everything in our realities and only a few magic mantras will do the trick. Possibly both.

I haven't finished it yet but I love it already! The techniques are easy to understand and are the types of tips which are usable every day. Its just a matter or practice and learning to remember the tips because there are so many! I find it an easy and enjoyable read. Definately recommended!

I loved this book!! It was one that I couldn't put down! It is a book on communication skills that is both informative and funny. Leil Lowndes has a fantastic way of teaching what not to say/do and what to say/do in all different situations. This book is a definate must read for all age groups, from teenagers up. Also excellent is her book How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You.

Marina Kushner
Author
The Truth About Caffeine: How Companies That Promote It Deceive Us and What We Can Do about It

I loved this book!! It was one that I couldn't put down! It is a book on communication skills that is both informative and funny. Leil Lowndes has a fantastic way of teaching what not to say/do and what to say/do in all different situations. This book is a definate must read for all age groups, from teenagers up. Also excellent is her book How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You.

I listened to my doctor's suggestion about reducing caffeine intake. He recommended a book called "The Truth About Caffeine" by Kushner. Well, it's now past the three week mark and I'm really pleased at my progress. The first week was the toughest - it was so hard to get going without my ritual cup of coffee. I missed drinking coke and realized I also had to give up tea.
But I stopped craving almost right away. And once the pattern - the habit - was broken, I didn't even think about it. And now, my skin is clearer, I have more energy, I'm sleeping better - and I've saved heaps of money. Most of the cash I spent during the week was related to coffee - I'd have to take out a $20 so I had cash, then I'd buy something to go with it, then I'd buy random things because I had money in my wallet. Another cycle broken!
This goal was only intended to be a three week detox challenge kind of thing, but I can see it lasting much longer. So - at least for now - I'm really pleased to have caffeine out of my life.

I really liked this book, I must say, as it does have these niffty little "tricks" that can really enhance your chances of being able to speak up when you need to. In effect, it's about geting over the embarrasment when you first meet someone and being able to hold your own in conversation.

If you want success in dating/relationships, then I would suggest that you get this book. I'd also suggest "Man Magnet" for dating/relationships as well.

I'm not the kind of person that raves about a book, but this one is great. It's very easy to understand and just as the title suggests it is full of little things you can do while speaking. If you buy one book on conversation, BUY THIS ONE!

I love this book, I keep it handy as a reference guide to all my encounters with strangers. It is basically a how-to on being an entertaining host and/or guest. I recomend it to anyone who gets nervous around new people, or has struggled to make conversation with strangers.

The book has a few good pointers, a few other points that one know and probably just don't practice. Overall, one can definitely pick a few points/tricks to try on.

After reading just the first chapter of 'How to Talk to Anyone,' I was astounded!! I have been researching this field (I am 24 years old, and a developmental trainer) for almost 7 years and I have never seen, heard or read such stuff. Leil's technique about the 'Flooding Smile' is in itself worth the price of the whole book, many times over. I feel a sense of excitement on having discovered her material that I felt when I first read about NLP - which was a life-changing experience for me. Really, Leil's book is AWESOME!! and if I could, I would shout it out and jump up and down and tell everyone about it in the voice of a kid who just found out where his favorite toy was all this while, after all! I can't wait to start living these techniques and scream these techniques out in my training sessions.
Overall, it's a great feel-good type of book. Just like my other book called "The Truth About Caffeine: How Companies That Promote it Deceive Us and What We Can Do About It. It's made me quit drinking caffeineated beverages when I realized all my health problems were stemming from it. Buy it now. It may save your life!

Reviewers fall into two camps. The first camp gives high marks, 4/5 or 5/5. The second camp gives low marks, 2/5 or 1/5. The reviews of the second camp are marked by ridicule of the book's simple minded ideas, stupid suggestions, etc. etc. You don't ridicule ideas unless you have better ones. So why were they looking for books in the 'art of conversation' category since they already have better ideas? Hard headed people never learn.

I am an entreprenuer who often has to meet and impress strangers. This book has proved so helpful that I am rereading it. I can't thank the author enough. I highly recommernd it to others.